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In this episode we begin a two part podcast with our friend Fr. Mark-Mary of the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal (CFR)! In part 1, Fr. Mark-Mary shares his journey from growing up in a wealthy family to joining the CFR's and taking a vow of radical poverty. He talks about his love for the sacrament of confession and shares how spiritual poverty makes room for God to be a Father to us and show us His love and providence. We often spend so much energy hiding our weakness, but freedom is to be found when we allow God and others to love us in our littleness.

Fr. Mark Mary's one thing - Be mindful of the poor - Galatians 2:10

Sister Miriam's one thing - Today If You Hear Him - Taylor Leonhardt

Michelle's one thing - The Saint Story Cards of Mother Teresa, St. John Paul II, St. Therese of Lisieux, and St. Francis of Assisi created by Greenhouse Collective, The Franciscan Friars of the Renewal and Our Sunday Visitor

Heather's one thing - The Dumpster Fire and the Garden - Brad Montague

Heather's other one thing - Blessed Carlo Acutis

Discussion questions:

1. What struck you from this week's episode?
2. What is one specific moment in your life that you have experienced God's providence by being open to receive?
3. Where is God inviting you to make space in your life in order to make room for Him to Father you and show His providence?
4. Share a time when you have been loved in your weakness? How did that impact you?

Journal Questions:

1. How have you made your poverty about you, rather than about God's providence?
2. How is God inviting you to accept spiritual poverty and seek material simplicity? How would you be more free if you said this yes?

Quote to Ponder - "A saint is someone who, fascinated by the beauty of God, gives up everything, even himself, and enters into the great movement of return to the Father that was initiated by Christ. We are all called to it." - Cardinal Sarah

Scripture for Lectio Divina - Matthew 6: 25-33 "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink, or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds in the sky; they do not sow or reap, they gather nothing into barns, yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are not you more important than they? Can any of you by worrying add a single moment to your life-span? Why are you anxious about clothes? Learn from the way the wildflowers grow. They do not work or spin. But I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was clothed like one of them. If God so clothes the grass of the field, which grows today and is thrown into the oven tomorrow, will he not much more provide for you, O you of little faith? So do not worry and say, 'What are we to eat?' or 'What are we to drink?' or 'What are we to wear?' All these things the pagans seek. Your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given you besides."

In this episode we talk about the importance of growing in self awareness and understanding our temperament and personality traits. We chat about how understanding the temperament God has given to us can help us see our tendencies, areas we need to grow, and how to embrace those who are different from us. We also talk about the pitfalls in personality tests that turn into excuses for bad behavior or labels that don't allow for grace and the power of God to change us and restore our brokenness.

Sister Miriam's one thing - Sister Miriam's Green Drink: Combine any quantity of kale, spinach, celery, cucumber, carrots, sliced apple or pear and ice in a blender. Add 1 scoop chia seeds and/or superfood powder if you want. Blend until smooth and enjoy!

Michelle's one thing - Take the World by JOHNNYSWIM

Heather's one thing - Heather's Greek Pasta Salad Recipe

Books Mentioned:

The Temperament God Gave You by Art Bennett, Laraine Bennett

The Temperament God Gave your Kids by Art Bennett

The Temperament God gave your Spouse by Loraine Bennett

Basic Temperament Definitions: Discover your temperament with this online test.

Choleric: You are a natural leader and energetic go-getter, the classic "type A" personality. You are usually extraverted, which means that your energy is focused externally, actively, and socially. You are a "can do" person, energetic, determined and confident.

Phlegmatic: You are calm, easy-going, and good-natured. To the ancient Greeks, phlegmatic were like water: calm, cool, going with the flow. You are dependable, polite, and even-tempered. You feel more comfortable in a small group of friends or even spending a quiet evening relaxing at home.

Melancholic: Yours is a thoughtful, sensitive, artistic temperament, with noble aspirations. You are very likely artistic, romantic, and attentive to detail. Quiet and introverted (except with very close friends and family) you will need to recharge your batteries by spending time alone.

Sanguine: You are friendly, fun-loving, and optimistic--always up for something new and exciting. You love a spur-of-the-moment adventure and being spontaneous.Sanguines are the most extraverted of all the temperaments: active, inquisitive, and energized by being with people.

Discussion questions:

1. What struck you from this week's episode?
2. After reading the basic definitions, which temperament resonates most with you? How can you see your own temperament as a gift and a blessing?
3. In the podcast we talked about how we can't use our temperament/personality as an excuse for poor behavior. What is one way that you need the grace of God to overcome a negative tendency you have?
4. After reading the basic definitions, which temperament would describe your spouse, roommate or child? How can you see their temperament as a gift and a blessing?
5. How can we better honor those who are different than us?

Journal Questions:

1. What would you like to thank God for when it comes to how he made you and your temperament?
2. Who has God given you that is different and complementary to you? Think of the blessing of your children, coworkers, roommates, and friends. How can you honor the differences these individuals bring to your life?
3. Are there any patterns of behavior or thought in your life that you have been told are part of your temperament, but may be a result of woundedness? Ask the Lord to help reveal these places and then surrender them to Jesus.

Quote to Ponder - "Self-knowledge is so important that, even if you were raised right up to the heavens, I should like you never to relax your cultivation of it." - St Teresa of Avila

Scripture for Lectio Divina - Luke 6:43-45 "No good tree bears bad fruit, nor again does a bad tree bear good fruit; for each tree is known by its own fruit. Figs are not gathered from thorns, nor are grapes picked from a bramble bush. The good person out of the good treasure of the heart produces good, and the evil person out of evil treasure produces evil; for it is out of the abundance of the heart that the mouth speaks."

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In this episode we move beyond the idea of personal holiness and discuss the practicals of how to grow in holiness. Holiness is a unique path of surrender to God and He has provided all that we need to be holy right where we are. We chat about the importance of the will, surrender, fasting, prayer, and being sober and alert. Starting today, we are invited to make the pursuit of holiness - growing towards intimate union with God - a priority.

Sister Miriam's one thing - The sculpture A Quiet Moment by Timothy P. Schmalz

Michelle's one thing - Praying the Rosary for Inner Healing by Fr. Dwight Longenecker

Michelle's other one thing - Praying the Rosary for Spiritual Warfare by Fr. Dwight Longenecker

Michelle's other other one thing - Mighty is Her Call - A Mother's Rosary Guide

Heather's one thing - Abide in Me - Chris August

Discussion questions:

1. What struck you from this week's episode?
2. Holiness is more about being than doing. Who is someone you would describe as "holy" and why?
3. Michelle spoke about our attachment to our phones, especially at the start and end of the day. How does this affect you and what is a practical change you can make to give your "first fruits" to the Lord?
4. After listening to this week's episode, how have you been challenged to pursue holiness by pursuing union and intimacy with God?

Journal Questions:

1. Sr Miriam described holiness as the fullness of Christ being made present through us. What is one specific thing that is blocking Jesus from being present in and through you?
2. Heather shared about the importance of fasting and strengthening the "will muscle." What is one tangible way you could do to choose something difficult to strengthen your will?
3. What is the Lord inviting you to root out of your life - gossip, resentment, bitterness, grudges, judgment, self-righteousness, self-pity, selfishness - in order to cultivate the fruits of the Holy Spirit and grow in holiness?
4. Spend some time in prayer today to recommit to pursuing holiness and union with Jesus.

Quote to Ponder - "Holiness is the most attractive face of the Church" - Pope Francis

Scripture for Lectio Divina - 1 Peter 1:15-16 "Instead, as He who called you is holy, be holy yourselves in all your conduct; for it is written, 'You shall be holy, for I am holy.'"

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In this episode we talk about how we are finding the Lord and clinging to Him in a time that is uncertain and wrought with suffering and isolation. We discuss how these times of difficulty expose how strong our root systems are and the difference between isolation vs solitude . We also chat about the importance of learning to lament and offer our sorrow to God instead of shutting it down or wallowing in self pity. The invitation is for us to build our foundation on our unshakeable God.

Sister Miriam's one thing - Heather's new backyard pool!

Michelle's one thing - Mary's Mantle Consecration by Christine Watkins

Michelle's other one thing - Marian Consecration for Families with Young Children by Colleen Pressprich and illustrated by Rebecca Gorzynska

Heather's one thing - I Surrender - Hillsong and Lauren Daigle

Discussion questions:

1. What struck you from the podcast?
2. What are you lamenting right now? And if you're not lamenting, is it something you feel free to do? Why or why not?
3. We are the church. What do you wish you saw or experienced in the Church right now and how can you be, do, and make real those attributes?
4. Pope Benedict says "the one who hopes, lives differently." How do our lives look different because of our knowing hope?

Journal Questions:

1. Where have you placed your hope in something other than Jesus?
2. Heather spoke of those watching you and modeling their responses after you - how would you allow a loved one to lament hard things and can you allow yourself the same grace to lament?
3. What is bringing you the greatest hope in this season?

Quote to Ponder - "The cross means there is no shipwreck without hope; there is no dark without dawn; nor storm without haven." Pope John Paul II

Scripture for Lectio Divina - Psalm 62:1-2 "My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will never be shaken."

Welcome to season 8! In this episode we talk about what the Lord has been teaching us over the summer and how we are invited to find our peace by fixing our eyes on Jesus and resting in the gaze of God. If we can look higher to find a kingdom perspective, we can find security in His Sovereignty. We talk about the deep realization that in all that has happened and has been taken away in 2020, there is no other answer, no other way forward, than Jesus Christ himself.

Sister Miriam's one thing - Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus - Lauren Daigle

Michelle's one thing - The Life of Elise Angelette: watch her Funeral Mass (homily starts around minute 46) or read more about her life

Heather's one thing - The One Minute Pause App

Book mentioned: Get Your Life Back - by John Eldridge

Discussion questions:

1. What struck you from the podcast?
2. What does it mean to "fix your eyes on God" every day? What areas have you done this in the last three months and what are areas you have found yourself searching for peace elsewhere?
3. Sr. Miriam described our spiritual poverty as the places where we are vulnerable and dependent on the Lord. Where have you experienced this kind of poverty in the last three months?

Journal Questions:

1. What has been your prayer to the Lord the last three months? What has been the Lord's message to you in the last three months?
2. What areas is the Lord inviting you to pray "Lord, do for me what I can't do for myself." ? Make a small act of surrender. Pray "Jesus, I surrender … please do for me what I cannot do for myself."

Quote to Ponder - "Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin." – Mother Teresa

Scripture for Lectio Divina - 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 "Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."

Unity and Charity

In this last episode of Season 7, we look back at our favorite moments and highlight important conversations from the season. We also talk about unity, using social media wisely, taking a holy pause before we speak, and the invitation to be peacemakers. We must begin with ourselves if we want to be a person of peace and unity. We also check in about how we are doing with our word of the year. Our new season will begin September 14.

Sister Miriam's one thing - Our benefactors and Patreon supporters

Michelle's one thing - Our Abiding Together "village," and everyone who makes our Facebook group such a refuge of graciousness and kindness!

Heather's one thing - Also our Patreon supporters, and the Abiding Together team.

Discussion questions:

1. What struck you from the podcast?
2. What is one area in your life that you need to work on so that you can be a person of unity and peace?
3. How are you doing with your word of the year?
4. What will you do this summer to continue on the journey and stay close to Christ?

Journal Questions:

1. Reflect and journal about this scripture: Matthew 5:9. What does it speak to you personally?
2. What theme from this season is the Lord inviting you to dive deeper into?
3. In what way might the Holy Spirit be nudging you to invite him into you, not just a situation?
4. Where are you sowing seeds of peace and where are you sowing seeds of discord?

Quote to Ponder - Jesus can demand a great deal from us. It is precisely in those instances when He demands a great deal from us that we should give Him a beautiful smile." St. Mother Teresa

Scripture for Lectio Divina - Matthew 5:9 - "Blessed are the peacemakers"

Spiritual Fatherhood (with Fr. Dave Pivonka)

In this episode we interview our dear friend Fr. Dave Pivonka, creator of the Wild Goose Series and President of Franciscan University of Steubenville. We discuss the importance of spiritual fathers, our need for restoration of the image and experience of fatherhood, and a deepening in our understanding of God as Father. We also discuss the characteristics of a good spiritual father.

Sister Miriam's one thing - Black bean and roasted vegetable salad

You can add:

Quinoa

Fresh lime juice instead of the suggested lemon juice dressing

Cumin/Chili power or taco seasoning

Fresh diced jalapeño

All yummy things!

Enjoy!

Michelle's one thing - My front porch!

Heather's one thing - Zach and Abby Vestnys on Instagram and Youtube, and an app with deliverance prayers from the St. Michael Center for Spiritual Renewal (Apple) (Google)

Father Dave's one thing - Baseball. Bring baseball back!!

Discussion questions:

1. What struck you from the podcast?
2. What does the word "Father" mean to you?
3. Who are some of the faces in the mosaic of fatherhood in your life?
4. Share a time that your dad, a priest, or another figure in your life fathered you well!

Journal Questions:

1. Reflect and journal about this scripture: Galatians 4:6-7. What does it speak to you personally?
2. How has the face of God been disfigured for you by earthly fathers? How is the Lord trying to restore your image of him?
3. How comfortable are you with opening up to the Fatherhood of God?
4. How can you grow in becoming a son or daughter of the Father?

Quote to Ponder - "God chooses ordinary men for fatherhood to accomplish His extraordinary plan." - G.K. Chesterton

"The language of faith thus draws on the human experience of parents, who are in a way the first representatives of God for man. But this experience also tells us that human parents are fallible and can disfigure the face of fatherhood and motherhood. We ought therefore to recall that God transcends the human distinction between the sexes. He is neither man nor woman: he is God. He also transcends human fatherhood and motherhood, although he is their origin and standard: no one is father as God is Father." - CCC 239

Scripture for Lectio Divina - Galatians 4:6-7 And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, "Abba! Father!" So through God you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son then an heir."

In this last episode of Season 7, we look back at our favorite moments and highlight important conversations from the season. We also talk about unity, using social media wisely, taking a holy pause before we speak, and the invitation to be peacemakers. We must begin with ourselves if we want to be a person of peace and unity. We also check in about how we are doing with our word of the year. Our new season will begin September 14.

In the School of the Holy Spirit Part 3: Chapter Three and Conclusion

In this episode we wrap up Part 3 of our book study on Fr. Jacques Philippe's book In the School of the Holy Spirit. We discuss how to discern between the voice of the Lord and our own voice or the enemy's voice. We also talk about practical tools for wielding the sword of truth as well as discernment in vocation, ministry, and life.

Sister Miriam's one thing - The new Bible study from Ascension on the book of Hebrews (Available now for preorder!)

Michelle's one thing - Men's podcasts for Father's Day (see below!)

Heather's one thing - The Archdiocese of Vancouver's new website, Behold.

Additional Resources

Prayer by Cardinal Mercier -

Holy Spirit, soul of my soul, I adore Thee.Enlighten me, guide me,strengthen and comfort me.Tell me what I ought to doand order me to do it.I promise to submitto anything you requirest of me,and to accept everythingthat Thou allowest to happen to me.Just show me what Thy will is.

Kapaun's Men is dedicated to building up men as bands of brothers to help us fight the spiritual battle that rages around us. Their model is the heroic Catholic Priest and Army Chaplain, Servant of God Emil Kapaun, who spent himself tirelessly on the battlefields and in the prison camps of North Korea until his death at the hands of his captors. They offer 4 original video series inspired by the life of Father Kapaun and our fellow men and women around us, which can be found on Formed.org or can be ordered directly from us. They also recently started a weekly podcast called "The Foxhole with Father Kapaun" to help give a boost of encouragement to everyone out there fighting the good fight, whether it be in the family, in the workplace, or in the community at large.

Chris Stefanick's Awesome 5 minute Father Kapaun video

A few other podcasts to recommend to the men in your life.

Poco a Poco Podcast - The Franciscan Friars of the Renewal

Restore the Glory Podcast -Dr. Bob Schuchts, Ph.D and Jake Khym, MA

The Paul George Show - Paul George (also his book Rethink Happiness)

Ask Father Josh - Father Josh Johnson

Discussion questions:

1. What struck you from the podcast?
2. What are the telltale signs in your own life that the voice you're listening to is the Lord?
3. What is one time that you've followed the inspirations of the Holy Spirit, and you're glad you did?
4. Where are you struggling to discern the voice of the Lord? How can you put into practice Fr. Jacques' advice for greater discernment?

Journal Questions:

1. Reflect and journal about this scripture: John 10:4-5. What does it speak to you personally?
2. Do you feel that God is elusive or "never speaks to me"? How do you feel about what Heather said about how God is in fact trying to speak to you?
3. How can you equip yourself better with "the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God"? (Ephesians 6:17)
4. Where are you feeling a sense of haste? Do you need to take a "holy pause" and discern what God is saying to you?

Quote to Ponder - "A tree is known by its fruit." An inspiration from God, if we follow it, will produce sound fruit: the fruits of peace, joy, charity, communion, and humility. - Fr. Jacques Philippe Scripture for Lectio Divina - John 10:4-5 - When he has brought out all his own, he goes before them, and the sheep follow him, for they know his voice. A stranger they will not follow, but they will flee from him, for they do not know the voice of strangers.

In the School of the Holy Spirit Part 2: Chapter Two

In this episode we continue the 2nd part of our book study on Fr. Jacques Philippe's In the School of the Holy Spirit. We discuss the practical elements of fostering an environment where the Holy Spirit can inspire and direct us. We also talk about inviting the Holy Spirit to speak the truth into false narratives we believe and to baptize our thought processes.

Sister Miriam's one thing - The podcast Poco a Poco from the CFRs. Thai Green Curry recipe. Meat and quinoa can be added rather than rice or just vegetarian. Super Yummy!

Michelle's one thing - The CFRs' new podcast, Poco a Poco with Fr. Mark-Mary, Fr. Innocent, and Fr. Angelus

Heather's one thing - The CFR's podcast Poco a Poco! And the album Peace by Bethel

And collectively... we love you, Fr. Jacques Philippe!

Book Study

Join this Summer Book Study! We're spending the next few weeks with In the School of the Holy Spirit by Fr. Jacques Philippe.

This book is going to help you to be more attentive to the movements of the Holy Spirit in your life as you learn to value the third person of the Trinity as the Sanctifier of your soul. Fr. Jacques explains the rewards of being attentive to the Holy Spirit and provides simple and concrete ways to grow in this inner sensitivity. In his clear and simple style, he illustrates his points with many examples from modern life. In the School of the Holy Spirit is a valuable aid in your own spiritual journey.

We began June 1 and will go till June 15, but you can do this at any time that suits your schedule; maybe in the middle of the summer or in the future works best for you.

We will have questions available for you on our website as well as hearty discussions in our private facebook group, which you are welcome to join.

We hope you will grab your copy of In the School of the Holy Spirit and join us. You can buy a hard copy or kindle version on Amazon (Amazon US) (Amazon Canada) (Amazon UK), or check your local Catholic book store.

(As an Amazon Associate, Abiding Together earns from qualifying Amazon purchases: Amazon US, Amazon Canada, Amazon UK. If you are not in one of those three countries, you can always purchase the book through your ordinary Amazon channel.)

Get your copy today and follow along with us.

Reading Schedule:June 1st - Introduction & Chapter OneJune 8th - Chapter TwoJune 15th - Chapter Three, Conclusion, and Appendices

Discussion questions:

1. What struck you from the podcast?
2. Sr. Miriam used the analogy of cultivating the right environment for a garden to grow and that the principles are the same in the spiritual life. What does this mean to you?
3. How do you usually hear the Lord speak to you?
4. Which one of Fr. Jacques' suggestions stuck out to you? Which one will you choose to dive into this week?
5. What comes to mind when you honestly ask yourself the question "Is God enough for me?" Where do you doubt that He will satisfy you?

Journal Questions:

1. Reflect and journal about this scripture: Romans 15:13. What does it speak to you personally?
2. What is the narrative you're believing about your life right now? Is that the voice of the Lord?
3. Where are you struggling to trust God's goodness?
4. Take a few moments to place everything in your heart before God, the good and bad. Invite God to speak and bring His fire to purify your desires.

Quote to Ponder - The Spirit of God is a spirit of peace, and he speaks and acts in peace and gentleness, never in tumult and agitation - Fr. Jacques Philippe Scripture for Lectio Divina - Romans 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.