Order of Man

ADAM LANE SMITH | Are You Anxious, Avoidant, or Secure?

01.02.2024 - By Ryan MichlerPlay

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I’ve spent a lot of time over the past 18 months looking into the various attachment styles of men – anxious, avoidant, and secure. I think we all intuitively know that “secure” is the best place to be, but the question is, “How do we get there?” It’s especially difficult considering our engrained attachment style drives so much of our decision-making process – much of which is subconscious. My guest today is licensed psychotherapist and attachment specialist, Adam Lane Smith. Today, Adam and I discuss building secure, sustainable relationships, why responsibility breeds security and why we subconsciously avoid it, how the chemicals, Oxytocin and Vasopressin, drive our emotional and problem-solving connections, and why every man needs to work on building his “male solution network.”   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Building secure and sustainable relationships Why responsibility breeds security, and why we subconsciously avoid it How the chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin drive our emotional and problem solving connections Why ever man needs to work on building his male solution network The different attachment styles seen in men Modern day dating The 5 clusters that are relied on to create healthy and secure attachment Modern femininity versus masculinity Building emotional intimacy   JOIN the Iron Council brotherhood.   Subscribe to the Order of Man YouTube Channel   Battle Planners are back in stock. Pick yours up today!   Get your signed copy of Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto   Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

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