ADHD energy management, abundance mindset, spoon theory reframe, self-compassion, practical strategies, and thriving with ADHD.

In this episode, we dive into what it means to approach our energy with an abundance mindset. 💫 Instead of living in constant fear of “running out of spoons,” we explore how reframing our relationship with energy can bring us more ease, self-trust, and joy. We share personal stories about burnout, guilt, and overcommitment—and how we’re learning to see energy as something we can nurture and grow, not just spend.

We also unpack how to work with our ADHD brains, rather than against them, by noticing the rhythms of our energy and finding practical ways to honor our limits without feeling defeated. If you’ve ever felt like your energy defines your worth, this conversation is your invitation to see yourself with more compassion and hope. 🌞

✨ Key Discussion Points:

• Spoon Theory, Reframed: We talk about why traditional spoon theory can feel limiting—and how to shift toward a mindset of abundance without ignoring our real needs.
  

• Noticing Energy Rhythms: How tracking your natural highs and lows can lead to a more balanced and guilt-free life.
  

• ADHD & Burnout Patterns: We share personal experiences of burnout and the patterns we’ve spotted in how ADHD brains push themselves too far.
  

• Practical Energy Boosters: Small, actionable steps we’re using to gently increase our energy reserves over time.
  

• Self-Compassion as a Tool: The emotional weight of fatigue is real. We discuss why self-kindness isn’t just “nice to have”—it’s essential.
  

Whether you’re feeling completely drained or just curious about how to better care for your energy, this episode will help you rethink what’s possible and feel more at home in your own body and brain. 💛

Helpful Links:

• ADHD: Women Exploring the Neuroverse on Instagram
  

• Learn more about Spoon Theory
  

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understanding yourself with ADHD, energy depletion, integrating new self-understanding, personal growth, ADHD and self-discovery, neurodivergent self-awareness, ADHD burnout recovery, mental exhaustion and ADHD, emotional burnout ADHD. 

Ever wondered if there’s a connection between being “bendy” and living with ADHD? In this episode, I open up about my own experience with hypermobility and how it overlaps with ADHD in ways that often go unseen. From brain fog and fatigue to those “is it me or my body?” questions—we’re diving into the real, lived experience behind the research.

🌱 What you’ll hear in this episode:

• The surprising overlap between ADHD and hypermobility

• How both conditions can affect energy, focus, and daily life

• Why validation and self-compassion matter more than “fixing” yourself

• Small, practical ways to listen to your body and protect your energy
  

This is not about labels or limitations—it’s about understanding ourselves better. For me, learning about the ADHD + hypermobility connection has been empowering. It gave language to things I thought were “just me being bad at life” and turned them into something I could meet with compassion and strategies that actually work.

💛 If you’ve ever felt exhausted, clumsy, or misunderstood in your body—while also navigating ADHD—this episode is for you. You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. Our bendy brains and bodies just work a little differently.

🎧 Helpful links

• Move Your DNA podcast⁠ by Katy Bowman – Ep. 177 Hypermobility, Proprioception, and Building Up a Bendy Body⁠⁠

👉 Join the conversation on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for support and community, or reach out if you’d like to share your ADHD journey! 📬 Interested in being a guest or working with us? Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ruth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rachael⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ directly—we’d love to hear from you!

Topics: Understanding yourself with ADHD, energy depletion, integrating new self-understanding, personal growth, ADHD and self-discovery, neurodivergent self-awareness, ADHD burnout recovery, mental exhaustion and ADHD, emotional burnout ADHD. 

In this episode, Ruth and I get real about what happens when your old ways of coping no longer work—whether it’s because of ADHD fatigue, big life changes, or just the need to build new foundations. We talk vulnerability, honest communication, and the power of showing up as your true self.

✨ What You’ll Hear:

• Shifting dynamics through vulnerability: I share how opening up about my anxiety changed the way a coworker saw me—and how that kind of honest communication can transform relationships.

• Finding your own rhythm: We explore how tuning into your internal signals (interoception) and your connection with others (exteroception) helps you adjust and thrive.

• Power hours and productivity: I admit my power hour didn’t go as planned—but journaling and carving out gentle routines feel like the next right steps.

• Nourishing your nervous system: Ruth talks about the soothing power of human voices and how simple things—like the resonance of a viola or the right audiobook—can support your wellbeing.

• Fatigue, nutrition, and small moves: We discuss hypermobility’s role in fatigue, the value of rainbow-colored plates, and why tiny, consistent habits add up to big shifts.

• Movement that fits your life: From stretching during work to playful PE moments, we celebrate movement that feels good without pressure or overwhelm.

• Designing your life: Ruth invites us to think like designers, consciously creating systems that fit our values and evolving them with kindness and flexibility.

• Intuitive learning and knitting: We share how going at your own pace—and embracing intuitive learning—can be a game changer, whether you’re knitting, learning languages, or managing ADHD.
  

💬 I hope this conversation encourages you to embrace your unique path, create new structures when old ones fade, and find joy in small, authentic moments.

✨ Helpful links:

We will return next week with a new full episode, and we should be back on track. Thanks for hanging in there with us!!

✨ Helpful Links:

• ⁠ADHD: Women Exploring the Neuroverse Blog⁠

• ⁠5 Minute Guided Breathing Meditation⁠
• ⁠Blueberry Noise Frequency⁠

👉 Join the conversation on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for support and community, or reach out if you’d like to share your ADHD journey! 📬 Interested in being a guest or working with us? Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ruth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rachael⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ directly—we’d love to hear from you!

📚 Do you feel like you're floundering? Ruth helps women move from ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Functioning to Flourishing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Focus on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Getting Sh*t Done⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Rachael.

Topics: ADHD and emotional burnout, task paralysis, life changes overwhelm, decision fatigue, workplace sensory overload, guilt and shame, prioritizing self care

In this episode, we explore the challenges of navigating major life changes while living with ADHD—and how these moments can intensify symptoms like task paralysis, overwhelm, decision fatigue, and energy crashes.

Whether it's a move, a job shift, family transitions, or starting something new… ADHD brains can struggle to keep up with the demands, the emotions, and the sheer unpredictability of it all.

✨Key Discussion Points

🐝ADHD Brain Overload

We explore what happens when we feel like everything is too much, and our brain just says, “nope.” You know that moment when even the smallest task (like replying to an email or unpacking a box) feels monumental? 

🐝Executive Functioning + Energy Rhythm

Rachael shares how her executive functioning recently ground to a halt mid-transition, and what helped her start again… slowly. 🐌 Ruth brings in a beautiful lens on honouring energy rhythms, embracing the pause, and recognising when your nervous system needs some loving care—not more to-dos.

🐝ADHD-related Fatigue

We talk about how task paralysis is not laziness, and how ADHD-related fatigue can sneak up on us—especially when we’re trying to hold it all together. There’s a little bit of neuroscience, a lot of honesty, and our usual dose of gentle humour.

🐝Navigating Major Life Changes with ADHD

This episode is especially for anyone navigating transitions, feeling exhausted, or wondering why “simple” things suddenly feel impossible. We reflect on the internal and external chaos that often comes with transitions—moving house, shifting jobs, health changes, emotional upheaval—and how ADHD brains can find these moments extra intense and hard to manage. 

💡Whether you’re moving, shifting jobs, family transitions, or starting something new, this episode is a reminder that you’re not alone. We understand ADHD brains can struggle to keep up with the demands, the emotions, and the sheer unpredictability of it all—but these experiences are part of your ADHD journey.

As always, we’re here bumbling along beside you in the Neuroverse 🐝💛

✨ Helpful Links:

• ADHD: Women Exploring the Neuroverse Blog
• Move Your DNA Podcast-Ep 177: Hypermobility, Proprioception And Building Up A Bendy Body
• 5 Minute Guided Breathing Meditation
• Blueberry Noise Frequency

👉 Join the conversation on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for support and community, or reach out if you’d like to share your ADHD journey! 📬 Interested in being a guest or working with us? Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ruth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rachael⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ directly—we’d love to hear from you!

📚 Do you feel like you're floundering? Ruth helps women move from ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Functioning to Flourishing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Focus on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Getting Sh*t Done⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Rachael.

Topics: ADHD burnout, guilt and shame cycles, navigating life transitions, mental health overwhelm, audio perfectionism, ADHD pivoting, self-compassion, emotional regulation, and tiny acts of self-care.

We’re back!! 🎉 After a big pause, Ruth and I sat down to talk honestly about what’s been going on behind the scenes and why Season 3 took a little longer to launch. This episode is a heart-to-heart about what it’s like trying to show up for your creative projects, relationships, and responsibilities when your ADHD brain is in full-blown survival mode.

We talk about how our lives took some unexpected turns (hi, life chaos 🙃), how we both got stuck in shame spirals about “not doing enough,” and the wild ride of trying to keep your commitments when your capacity is at rock bottom.

✨ Key Discussion Points:

Big ADHD Emotions + Bigger Life Shifts: We both open up about how ADHD and major life transitions (like moving, job changes, family stuff, etc.) have collided to create overwhelm and inertia—and how common it is to feel like we’re “failing” even when we’re doing our best.

Audio Guilt + Perfection Paralysis: I share the real reason we paused the pod: we had incredible interviews recorded, but poor sound quality sent me spiraling. We talk about the pressure to “do it right,” how hard it can be to delegate, and why we’re finally getting support to move forward.

The ADHD Pivot in Action: Let’s be real—neurodivergent folks are professional pivoters. We talk about what it means to change plans, redefine success, and give ourselves permission to do things differently… especially when we’ve hit a wall.

Tiny Joys + Dopamine Reboots: Even when life feels heavy, those little moments of pleasure and care can keep us going. I share my love for the “blueberry frequency” (don’t knock it till you try it 😄) and how one-minute resets have helped me start climbing out of the fog.

Emotional Growth + ADHD Anger Responses: I open up about how my emotional regulation has evolved—especially around anger—and how I’m learning to pause, reflect, and choose compassion (for myself and others). It’s messy, but it’s worth it.

🎙 Whether you're navigating your own ADHD-related pause, in the middle of a life upheaval, or just feeling overwhelmed by what you “should” be doing… this episode is your reminder that you’re not alone. We’re still here, still figuring it out, and still showing up—one messy, honest moment at a time.

👉 Join the conversation on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for support and community, or reach out if you’d like to share your ADHD journey! 📬 Interested in being a guest or working with us? Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ruth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rachael⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ directly—we’d love to hear from you!

📚 Do you feel like you're floundering? Ruth helps women move from ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Functioning to Flourishing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Focus on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Getting Sh*t Done⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Rachael.

We are still here!

We have new episodes coming. Live just took over for a bit. Thanks for sticking with us.

Topics: ADHD and holiday stress, people-pleasing, perfectionism, energy management, realistic planning, self-love, and enjoying the moment.

The holidays can be a magical time, but for those of us with ADHD, they can also be overwhelming, stressful, and full of unrealistic expectations. 🎄

✨ Ruth and Rachael get real about surviving the holidays with ADHD and how to actually enjoy them. From tackling people-pleasing tendencies to managing perfectionism and energy levels, we dive deep into creating a season that feels joyful and manageable.

✨ Key Discussion Points:

ADHD and Holiday Stress: We kick things off by discussing the unique ways ADHD brains struggle during the holidays, from sensory overload to overcommitting.

The Three Ps – People-Pleasing, Protestant Work Ethic, and Perfectionism: Ruth shares her "three Ps" that tend to sabotage her holiday experience, and we explore how these deeply ingrained habits affect us during this time of year.

Energy Management and Realistic Planning: We unpack the trap of planning elaborate holiday events and how often we forget to account for the actual energy required to pull them off. Spoiler: scaling back is self-care!

Learning to Love Yourself: One of the biggest takeaways in this episode is the reminder that we are worthy of love, even if the house isn’t perfect or every plan doesn’t go as expected. We talk about why self-love is the foundation for surviving the holidays (and life in general).

Reframing Holiday Expectations: Instead of aiming for the “perfect” holiday, we chat about prioritizing what truly matters—connection, joy, and being present in the moment.

👉 Join the conversation on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for support and community, or reach out if you’d like to share your ADHD journey! 📬 Interested in being a guest or working with us? Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ruth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rachael⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ directly—we’d love to hear from you!

📚 Do you feel like you're floundering? Ruth helps women move from ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Functioning to Flourishing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Focus on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Getting Sh*t Done⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Rachael.

Topics: ADHD online tests, self-evaluation challenges, personal insights, quiz comparisons, understanding ADHD symptoms, and the complexity of self-diagnosis.

Rachael and Ruth take a deep dive into the world of online ADHD tests! 🧠✨ We share our personal experiences tackling two popular ADHD quizzes and reflect on the many ways self-evaluation can be confusing, imperfect, and oh-so-relatable. Whether you’re curious about ADHD or just want a laugh at how messy these tests can get, this episode has something for everyone.

Key Discussion Points:

Helpful Links:

📚 Do you feel like you're floundering? Ruth helps women move from ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Functioning to Flourishing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Focus on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Getting Sh*t Done⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Rachael.

Topics: ADHD support systems, self-compassion, community connections, balancing energy, leaning into strengths

In this episode, we welcome the wonderful Katy Gooblar! 🎉 Katy opens up about her ADHD journey and the unique way she’s embraced it without an official diagnosis. We talk about the challenges and triumphs of navigating life with ADHD, especially when it comes to building a strong support system. Katy shares insights on how she balances her high-energy lifestyle, her career, and the constant demands of parenting—all while learning to listen to her needs and lean on her support network when things get tough.

Key Discussion Points:

1. The Power of a Support System: Katy shares the importance of surrounding herself with people who can step in when ADHD challenges crop up. From work buddies to family, she highlights how leaning on others isn’t a weakness—it’s an incredible strength. 🌟

2. Learning Self-Compassion: Rachael and Katy dive into self-compassion, discussing why it’s essential for ADHD-ers to cut themselves some slack. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, but learning to show ourselves grace is part of the journey.

3. Energy Management: With her hands in so many projects, Katy has mastered some pretty cool ways to keep her energy balanced. She reveals her favorite "bookend" routine and how she uses little pauses to recharge during the day.

4. Leaning Into Strengths: Rather than focusing on fixing her weaknesses, Katy talks about harnessing her natural strengths and embracing what she does best. It’s all about recognizing what makes you shine—and letting that guide you! 🌈

5. Creating Connection: We touch on how essential community and understanding connections are for people with ADHD, especially women who may feel misunderstood. Katy opens up about how she found her community and why she thinks every ADHD-er deserves that same support.

Connect with Katy Gooblar:

LinkedIn

Helpful Links:

ADHD for Smart Ass Women Podcast⁠

Julie Legg's The Missing Piece⁠

⁠ADHD: Women Exploring the Neuroverse Blog⁠

👉 Join the conversation on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ for support and community, or reach out if you’d like to share your ADHD journey! 📬 Interested in being a guest or working with us? Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ruth⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rachael⁠⁠⁠⁠ directly—we’d love to hear from you!

📚 Do you feel like you're floundering? Ruth helps women move from ⁠⁠⁠⁠Functioning to Flourishing⁠⁠⁠⁠. Focus on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Getting Sh*t Done⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Rachael.