Advice Not Given

There is so much to consider when you have to relocate. We share some practical steps to free up your physical and mental bandwidth by being mindful in your planning and solutions to this major life change.

Mentions:

• Episode 25 Settling Your Space with Tara Bremer
• Kellie’s day job (MILLIE)
• Already--But Not Yet (Claire’s personal blog post about moving)
• Recovery From Relocation
• Jordan Jean blog (Air Force spouse selling fully furnished house)
• PCSing With Kids
• PCS Brain
• The Organized Mom

Actual Advice Guest: Christa Curtis 

Web: Permanent Change of Storing 

IG: @permanentchangeofstoring

FB: facebook.com/PermanentChangeofStoring

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Have you ever connected intimacy disconnects to how connected you are to your body? Join us for a grown up “sex talk” as we tackle common intimacy blocks and why we think we sometimes can’t quite get there… And be sure to stick around for Actual Advice from Dr. Laurel Proulx, PT, DPT, OCS. She's here to talk all things from the "nipples to the knees."  

Mentions:

• Grace and Frankie on Netflix
• The goop lab with Gwyneth Paltrow on Netflix (NSFW)
• Great thought piece on Purity Culture and shame
• Advice from Corie Weathers from Episode 27 on eye gazing
• PsychArmor resource: Online courses on intimacy issues
• 10 Practical Intimacy Tips for Couples Experiencing Deployment

Actual Advice Guest:
Laurel Proulx is a Doctor of Physical Therapy and an Orthopedic Certified Specialist who has advanced training and experience in Women’s Health and Pelvic Health Physical Therapy care. Her professional experience has taken her from working with high level athletes, helping moms get back to feeling like themselves, amputee rehabilitation and leads research with the department of defense to improve diagnosis and treatment of pelvic pain within the active duty population.

She also has a vested interest in improving overall awareness and health literacy of women’s issues for her patients, other physical therapists, and all health professionals.

https://femunfolding.com/

https://www.instagram.com/fem.unfolding

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Do you know your Enneagram number? If so, now what? Listen in to see how knowing your Hornevian and Harmonic Grouping can help you get your needs met in relationships with others as well as serve you in conflict resolution. And stick around for our conversation with Sarajane Case of Enneagram and Coffee for her input on the importance of knowing your enneagram type in relationships.

Mentions:

• Why the Enneagram? (ANG Episode 4)
• Milspo Gurus Becoming Your Own Guru eCourse
• Enneagram Hornevian Groups (Compliant 1-2-6; Assertive 3-7-8; Withdrawn 4-5-9)
• Enneagram Harmonic Groups (Positive Outlook 7-9-2; Competency 1-3-5; Reactive 4-6-8)
• The Enneagram Institute RHETI (paid test)
• Milspo Gurus website
• Milspo Gurus download of BYOG course workbook 
• Milspo Gurus Military Spouse Enneagram Snapshots
• Enneagram Recommended Reading List
• Enneagram Summer of Virtues: Want to help. Contact us here.
• “The Memeification of the Enneagram”
• Sarajane’s book, The Honest Enneagram 
• Enneagram Summit Information

Actual Advice Guest:
Sarahjane Case of Enneagram and Coffee

Sarajane Case is a speaker, author and podcaster working with the enneagram as a tool for self-compassion and creative expression. She runs the Instagram account and podcast - Enneagram and Coffee. Her book, The Honest Enneagram is available for life-order now wherever books are sold. Instagram: @enneagramandcoffee and @sarajanecase

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Dealing with and loving extended family members and parenting can be challenging. Give yourself the same grace and benefit of the doubt you’d give your best friend. 

Mentions:

• Parent or Friend?
• Play the long game
• Tristen Watson
• Emoji your people in your phone
• Sacred Spaces (Corie’s book) 
• Corie’s podcast interview with Kim Weathers (her mother in law)
• InDependent Wellness Summit 2020

Actual Advice Guest:

Corie Weathers, LPC
2015 AFI Military Spouse of the Year, & Author.
Website: corieweathers.com
All social media: @CorieLPC.
Schedule your next session with Corie: https://lifegiver.as.me

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In honor of their SIX Oscar nominations, and take home win for Best Costume Design, we're releasing our bonus (patron only) episode of No Advice, Just Opinions for our chat about Little Women. Enjoy!

We're jumping in QUICK with this month's Patron only podcast episode so buckle up and let's get to all the things we're watching, reading, and listening to (and our takes on all)! We’re also breaking down our takeaways from the movie, Little Women by Greta Gerwig. Links below to ease your Googling.

Reading

Claire: 

Furious Hours: Murder, Fraud, and the Last Trial of Harper Lee by Casey Cep

Claire is committing to read more fiction this year! Yay, brain break.

Kellie: 

Everything I Never Told You by Celeste Ng 

Random: Kellie’s leading a virtual book club on The Road Back to You! 

Listening To

Kellie: 

The Spouse Angle Podcast by Natalie Gross

Don’t forget to leave reviews for the shows you enjoy! It means the world… 

Claire: 

Office Ladies Podcast by Jenna Fischer and Angela Kinsey

Dave Ramsey Podcast, Monday, December 30: Hour Two “Are you a Viking or a Victim?” 

Watching

Kellie: 

The Witcher (swoon) on Netflix

The Politician also on Netflix

Claire: 

Friends binge on Netflix - Hubby had never seen them

The Crown, Season 3 on Netflix

Derry Girls & Schitt's Creek (earmuff shows) on Netflix

And Kellie’s Rose Apothecary Shirt

I couldn’t find a clean clip of my FAVORITE scene, but here’s a quick little transcript for your enjoyment. Infer ALL the sarcasm you can muster. :) 

Patrick: Here’s an easy one, “Brief description of the business.” 

David: It’s a general store, but it’s also a very specific store. And it’s also not just a store, it’s also a place where people can come and get coffee, or drinks, but it’s not a coffee shop nor is it a bar.

Patrick: Ok, so we’re pretty clear on what it’s not. 

David: Yeah, it’s an environment. And yes, we will be selling things, but it’s more like a branded immersive experience. 

Patrick: Right, I love the buzzwords, David, but I do need to put something down here. 

David: You can use anything I just said. 

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What does a successful marriage look like? Listen in as we discuss trust, integrity, communication, and commitment.

Mentions:

• Email sign-up for our monthly Guru Greetings Newsletter
• 20 for 2020 Patreon Campaign
• Julie Benson (Handmade Quilts)
• Richard Rohr Universal Christ 
• The Five Love Languages
• Leaving and Cleaving

Actual Advice Guest: 

Ryan Wood - Nice Try! He's a ghost online so you'll have to just contact Claire. :)

VISIT The Full Episode Page

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How do you feel about all of your belongings and how do you manage or arrange them in your space? Do you find a correlation between peace, calm, and order or do you find your creativity with just a little chaos? 

Mentions: 

• Outer Order, Inner Calm
• Marie Kondo
• A Perfect Mess
• “Stressed Out” Washington Post article
• 11 Benefits of an Organized Home

Actual Advice Guest: Tara Bremer (29:00) House Peace, @house.peace

Tara’s Mentions: 

• “Just in Case” The Minimalists + The 20/20 Rule
• Bed, Bath, & Beyond
• Dyno Letra Tag Label Maker
• Remodelista: The Organized Home
• Tara’s Online Consults 

For the full show notes and more info about our guest, please visit the EPISODE PAGE. 

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Are you an early bird, a night owl, or something in between? Science tells us that there may be reasons why your productivity surges and wanes throughout the day based on your answer. 

Mentions: 

• When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing (Daniel H. Pink)
• iPhone Bedtime Feature
• Headspace
• Don’t Make Important Decisions Late in the Afternoon
• Be Focused App
• Pomodo Technique
• Nappuccios
• Goals + Resolutions (Episode 23)
• Know Your Value-- Paychecks (Episode 7)
• Surviving Sarah Podcast
• Get to Work Book

Actual Advice Guests:

• Amy Harvey (31:00)
• Amy Bushatz (47:00) Military.com, Humans Outside, AmyBushatz.com

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Do You Make and Keep New Year’s Resolutions?

Do you make New Years Resolutions? If you do, what is your motivation for doing so? If not, why not? Kellie is Team No and Claire is definitely Camp Yes and has the vision board to prove it. 
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In Episode 23 we tackle the science behind why people make and break resolutions, share some of why we do or don’t do them, and look at how self-awareness impacts the process.

Complete Show Notes

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• Quick recap of our December series: Move More, Eat Better, Drink Less
• Quick recap of our own Christmas celebrations and mini check-ins from Claire about her "baggage" she didn't take home; Kellie's plan of going home backfired--but it ended up being a great break

What lessons or reflections from 2019 are we taking with us into the new year? 

• Claire learned that being an elementary teacher is not her jam--she can still be a teacher but it doesn't have to be in a full-time traditional classroom for her to feel fulfilled; she is leaning in to her creativity on how teaching can look in 2020
• Kellie looks back at our podcast launch and all of our other endeavors (website, course, launch camp, etc.) and feels really proud that we did it! We have a podcast!
• Claire wants to reiterate that dueling opinions, viewpoints, and values CAN co-exist--you can still be respectful, inquisitive, and engaged without being hurtful--don't alienate others but be a bridge builder

What are we looking ahead to for 2020?

• A NEW PODCAST SEASON!
• Great bonus content on our Patreon
• Monthly themes and topics
• Added segments of "Actual Advice" where we will be featuring real subject matter experts who can speak about our themes/topics
• Themes: Fresh Starts (January), Relationships (February), Mindfulness (March), Values (April), Mentorship (May), Summer of Self-Awareness/Enneagram Virtues (July + July)
• Want to be featured on a future episode? Contact us here. 

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