Advice Not Given

What do you do when your present reality doesn’t necessarily align with where you imagined that your youthful hopes and dreams would take you? Did your college or vocational training set you up for what you are doing today? Have you gotten fixated on an ideal or expectation for what your life might look like or are you still looking for it? Do you ever find yourself more invested in the end goal or an achievement than you do the process or pursuit of it? Join Kellie and Claire as they discuss the dangers of over identifying with your roles and titles and offer suggestions for finding contentment in where you are both geographically and metaphorically. 

Advice Not Given: 

• Consider crafting a family mission statement.
• Don’t “JUST” anything in your life.
• Identify with your competencies and passions, not your title.
• Don’t let discontentment and “always” and “never” absolute statements become your inner monologue.
• Invest yourself more so in the process and reasons for doing something, rather than the results.
• Don’t be in the past or the future--be in the “IS” of today. Be present.
• Identify three physical (external, geographical) features of where you live. Focus on them and create a mini-mantra to repeat when you need to feel grounded in your outer world in order to remove the focus off of your inner turmoil. 

MENTIONS:

Creative On Purpose

Writing a Family Mission Statement

Estimated Stay at Home Mom Salary

Staying in the Present

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How in the world did we get here? How do you reconcile your identity with your various roles? How do you regain a sense of control when life feels like it is spinning? Do you recognize your coping mechanisms and patterns? Which ones are healthy? And which ones, not so much? Join Kellie and Claire as they hash out their thoughts and feelings about midlife and how to pursue your overall well-being and relationships with purpose and intentionality. 

Advice Not Given: 

• Be observant of yourself.
• Find someone you can confide in.
• Seek out therapy or find an objective person with whom you can share your struggles.
• Identify five people who help you grow. Put an emoji beside their name in your phone and when they text or call you, respond. These are your lifelines. 
• Use voice memos, Marco Polo, or other technology to BE the friend to check in and connect. Isolation is desperation. CHECK IN with your people. 
• Be open and aware of when you are not coping well. Observe it, recognize it, and find an alternate reaction. 

MENTIONS:

Brene’ Brown’s Suggestion for Naming Your People

https://blog.ted.com/5-insights-from-brene-browns-new-book-daring-greatly-out-today/https://blog.ted.com/5-insights-from-brene-browns-new-book-daring-greatly-out-today/

The Empathy Effect

https://news.streetroots.org/2019/02/15/how-technology-harming-our-ability-feel-empathy

Reasons You Should Use Emojis

https://buffer.com/resources/7-reasons-use-emoticons-writing-social-media-according-science

^First Episode Jitters/ Kellie + Claire “Like” Love to Say Like^

https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/education/grammar/why-do-people-say-like-so-much

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