Aging Flipped with Debi Talbert

Can you imagine loving yourself just as you are? Loving how you look in the mirror.

Loving every inch of your body.

Loving how much money you have.

Loving how much money you make.

Loving every part of your life—as is, without change.

When you love like this, you create new results in your life.

When you’re hard on yourself and beat yourself up, you spend your time resisting and fighting reality.

You lose when you fight reality. 

Form many, the fight is what brings them over drinking. Turning to their friend alcohol to help numb away the pain of their reality and the fight. 

I can show you how to stop beating yourself up so you can stop over drinking and love your life. 

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The most difficult and complicated part of exiting the drinking life is the decision to start. 

During my 7 year struggle to drink less my thoughts about the process were all about relentless, unwavering willpower and deprivation.  Basically, a horrible, turbulent trip of resist, deny, resist, deny, cave, resist, deny, resist day after day, week after week and never feeling  happy about alcohol's role in my life. 

It wasn't until I began to decided to go against the grain and explore how I was attempting to drink less did I make alcohol irrelevant in my life. 

Understanding the way the brain is designed by default is key. 

Discussed in today's episode:

The brain's natural programing to:

• Seeking pleasure
• Avoiding pain
• Proving ourself right
• Connecting with people 

The skills to work around the brain's natural programing:

• Delay gratification
• Lean into discomfort
• Be OK with trying new things
• Be OK with going against the grain

You can find out how to work directly with me, Debi, at https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/ExitTribe

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Life appeared, to the outside world, to be going really well for me.

I traveled the world as a flight attendant. With expenses paid, I enjoyed dinners with my military child stationed overseas and sipped wine in France, Germany, Spain and Italy.

I drank with coworkers on my layovers. At home, I enjoyed cocktails with friends and family. Weekends included brunch and mimosas. I attended networking events with free flowing alcohol. Date nights with my husband involved dinner and drinks. And of course, when I hosted family events, I proudly served a wide variety of alcoholic beverages.

Every event or gathering involved drinking. In my world this was “normal”.

I wasn’t the only one drinking this way; everyone I knew drank the same way. It was just part of life. I enjoyed this lifestyle for years, never wondering why I was always the one to finish the wine bottle or if other people went home from a party and helped themselves to another drink. On our flights back across the Atlantic, our crew laughed together as we tried to piece together the night.

We had a great time filling in the blanks for each other.

I didn’t learn until years later that my style of drinking is called Gray Area Drinking (GAD).

In this episode I share what GAD is and what to do if you discover you are in the messy middle.

Debi Talbert, Life & Wellness Coach For The 50+ Woman - Certified by The Life Coach School and This Naked Mind Institute. She coaches the 50 plus individual who is tired of trying to figure out how to end their dysfunctional relationship with alcohol. She helps people who in the Gray Area (messy middle) stop over drinking without labels, shame or judgment.

Find information about programs and resources at  jumpseatcoaching.com

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In today episode you'll learn:

• How to work with the mind instead of against it
• One of the Brains primary functions
• What failure is really
• About and Armless Archer - Yes and armless archer

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Listen in as Laura and I chat all about making space for sober and first class experiences for all. 

Links to items referenced in the show:

• The Club Soda Guide - https://www.clubsodaguide.com
• Club Soda Events - https://mindfuldrinkingfestival.com
  • use #mindfuldrinkingfest 
• The Mocktail Project on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/themocktailproject

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Yes, me too. Listen in to this episode to discover how missing  the rest of the story will affect the outcomes of your life. 

This is a quick, easy to digest, yet powerful episode. Do tell me how the rest of the story goes for you over at Debi at Jumpseat Coaching dot com. 

In case you missed it the discount code is ETDL for help with discovering the rest of your story, click here.

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Listen in to todays episode as I help you explore how asking yourself this simple question "The Story I'm Telling Myself Is?" will help you make small subtle shifts so you can begin to exit the drinking life my drinking less alcohol. 

A few of the things I hear from my clients (and I told myself) are:

• It (meaning alcohol) provides relief.
• It's Relaxing.
• It's sophisticated.
• Normal people who are in control can drink. 
• It's fun.
• Its celebratory.
• It relieves stress.
• It turns off my brain.

The stories I hear (and told) about life without alcohol: 

• It's boring not to drink
• It'll be dull
• It's unsophisticated.
• What am I going to order? 
• It's not as fun
• It's hard
• It's not fair that I don't get to drink
• It must mean that I have a problem.
• It must mean that I'm an alcoholic
• It's a struggle that requires willpower, and I just don't have the energy for that. 
• It's awkward, tedious, annoying, and embarrassing not to drink.
• Without it, I'll fee deprived.
• I'll be stigmatized and have to justify why I'm not drinking.
• I'll always feel like I want it, and I'll always have to fight against that desire. 

The stories we tell ourselves affect how we feel. Our feelings/emotions cause us to act/react and not act. From those actions/reactions or lack of action is where the results of our lives come from. 

In this episode you'll learn how a little talked about method to help you question those stores and turn them around into ones to help you exit the drinking life. 

You can find out all about FLY - First Love Yourself Coaching Membership Program by clicking here. 

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I loved my time with Florence. So many things she shares about sugar pertains to our journey of exiting the drinking life. Yes, I did this interview while the Podcast was named "The Sober Curious". I feel this information is too valuable to leave archived.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• What goes on in the brain with sugar.
• There is loads of sugar in alcohol.
• How to apply Florence’s ninja mind trick to alcohol

This knowledge along with applying the observation cycle will help you drink less alcohol. Awareness, clarity and turning around our beliefs are key to regain control over alcohol.

Many of you will experience difficulty allowing the urge to just be. However, the more you practice allowing the urge, observing your thoughts and experiencing your feelings, the more you’ll reduce your desire for alcohol. Over time you will find yourself drinking less and less as you reduce your desire to drink.

To get help practicing allowing the urges so you can reduce the desire to drink, visit https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/

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Plus stay tuned to the end because several of them have a shared a personal message with you. One which they hope will help you make the brave step to begin this transformation journey.   

While attending This Naked Mind Live this year in Denver, I interviewed and chatted with loads of amazing people who have successfully let go of alcohol.  This people have been able to find freedom around alcohol. 

Struggling to exit the drinking life on your own? I can help you. Find out how over at JumpSeatCoaching.com 

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It's also the question I did not really want to know the answer to. Everytime I searched, I held my breathed and secretly begged God to save me from myself. 

In this episode I answer this question. You are going to be surprised by the answer.  You can get the resource referenced in this episode at JumpseatCoaching.com

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