Aging Flipped with Debi Talbert

There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so ~ William Shakespeare.

We have neurons that are firing and wiring in our brains. When they’re firing and wiring they send off chemical reactions and we just call those things feelings. Our feelings are what drive our actions. Our feelings come from our thoughts. 

How would life be different if we stopping thinking of our feelings as good or bad or right or wrong?  Would this shift allow us to end the over drinking habit? 

Listen is as I show my insight. 

WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER in today Episode:

• The 2 things going on if you’re not where you want to be
• Why removing blame and shame is the only way to exit the cycle
• How allowing yourself to be present with your emotions can be life-changing

Mentioned in the show:
EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership

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In today’s episode, I invite you to challenge the idea that actions are “good” “bad” "right" or "wrong".  How would your life be different if you let go of assigning a good or bad right or wrong meaning to actions? 

What you'll discover in today's episode:

• Why there is so much power is letting go of assigning good, bad, right, or wrong to action.
• How continuing to believe this lie fuels your drinking habit
• A better way to think of your action

Mentioned in today show:
Exit and Beyond Life Coaching Membership

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The journey of living a life free from the influence of outside substances like alcohol is one that goes outside the norm. What is considered “normal behavior.” Because of this, you can sometimes feel isolated and alone. Especially when you are new at navigating this world.

Terri Hug decided to create something to help with getting to know yourself again and connecting with others who’ve also made the choice to live an alcohol-free lifestyle.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• The true meaning of the word sober
• How tiny steps make a big impact
• Bit more about Debi
• Why Terri created The Sober Box
• How The Sober Box can help you exiting the drinking life

Referenced in the show:

EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership

The Sober Box

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What I wanted was to change my desire…..I just wished I could desire less of it. I remember so desperately wanting to not want alcohol.

I was unhappy, exhausted, and uncomfortable with the direction my life was headed and my drinking was getting in the way of me making the changes I

I kept finding myself going to get that drink again, and again knowing how it was going to turn out.

I was frightened about so many things. Would I sleep at night, what would I do with my time, how would I keep friends, how would I relieve stress, how would I celebrate something amazing, who would console me when I was down. 

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

• The most dangerous weapon we use against ourselves on our journey to exit the drinking life
• How to use your past failures as a tool.
• Why you have a choice in whether having a drink is a tool or a weapon.
• How taking action from a place of frustration or obligation makes it more painful than it needs to be.
• Why planning can be one of your most valuable tools.

Once we are down, we keep right on beating ourselves up when we are down. Then we drink even more.

Tools to help you EXIT 

Examine your beliefs about alcohol & what life without it will be

X-out the ones holding you back

Ignite curiosity

Trust yourself to figure this out

If you want to take what you are learning in the podcast further, then I’d love to be your Life and Alcohol Freedom Coach. Come apply to join by going to JumpseatCoaching.com/membership

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Yes, it's considered "normal" to drink alcohol. However, when we begin to appreciate that it’s interfering with how we want to show up in life, our brain starts to offer us up all kinds of stories pointing us away from changing. 

This everyday childs play tool just might give you the shift you need to embrace the journey so you can change what you drink without judgment. 

Small changes are much more realistic to incorporate into your life but they make a big impact. 

These small change will make a big impact: 

Examine your beliefs
X-out the ones holding you back
Ignite curiosity
Trust yourself to figure this out

Referenced in this episode:

• Grey's Anatomy  clip
• Harvard Study
• Exit & Beyond Membership

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I get questions like these a lot...."What is wrong with me? Why can't I figure this over drinking thing out?" "Why can I just cut back and stop thinking about alcohol?" 

My short answer to all of these questions is BELIEF. 

Today, I'm inviting you to listen in as I share what beliefs are. How belief affects our actions. Plus what you can do to start uncovering your beliefs. 

As long as a belief exists for you that alcohol is benefiting you in some way, you won’t be able to take the actions to change your relationship with alcohol. 

Listen in this week as I share some of the most common excuses and reasons people give me for why their situation is different or unique, and why your brain will always try to prove that to you. 

I’m highlighting some of the lessons I teach here that are key to changing your relationship with alcohol, and from there, you’ll be able to start uncovering your own personal beliefs so you can see for yourself what's truly been holding you back. 

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:
When you’re ready to exit the drinking life and take what you’re learning on the podcast to the next level, come check out my Exit & Beyond Membership Program. 

Come hang out with me on YouTube - I've just begun a brand new channel

Visit JumpseatCoaching.com to find out how to claim your free Desire Dampener Program.  

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We can accept the pain that will inevitably come along in life and be more alive for it.

We don’t need to suffer.

When we argue with our pain or think that we shouldn’t be feeling it, we suffer.

We find all sorts of ways to create unnecessary emotional suffering.

But when we’re suffering, we’re not showing up fully for life.

We’re robbing ourselves of the life we could have.

In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into emotional suffering and why we create pain around our pain. 

In our modern lives, we’re called on to evolve in this new way. We don’t need to just survive; we need to thrive. And learning to stop suffering is a huge part of that.

Leave a review and enter to win....click here to see detail in Episode 25....

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Because we've used alcohol for so long to avoid feeling our feelings, we may not not how to actually allow ourselves to feel them.

This is the audio portion of a video training I did teaching a 7 step process for feeling your feelings. 

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In this episode, we'll dive deep into the idea of necessary darkness and crossing the river of misery. We're going to be uncomfortable on this journey of life and transforming our relationship with alcohol, no matter what we do.

We get to choose whether we want the discomfort of staying the same, or the discomfort of transformation.

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

• The one skill that we need to exit the drinking life. 
• Why drinking less is simple, but not easy.
• How our thinking about the process gets us into trouble when things get difficult.
• What the river of misery is and what's on the other side of it.
• Why we need to choose between the misery of now and the misery of growth.

The poem referenced in the Episode 

To love ourselves long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the person we used to be. The person we are too exhausted to be any longer. The person we don’t recognize inside ourselves anymore. The person we grew out of. The person we never ended up growing into. We so badly want ourselves to get our spark back when it burns out, to become speedily found when we are lost. But it is not our job to hold ourselves accountable to the person we used to be. It’s our job to travel between each version and to honor what emerges along the way. Sometimes it will be an even more luminescent flame. Sometimes it will be a flicker that disappears and temporarily floods the room with a perfect and necessary darkness.

To celebrate (the 25th Episode and beyond), I’m giving away a few things I can’t live without to some lucky listeners: $50 Amazon gift cards, and a brand-new pair of AirPods.

Here’s what you want to do right now to sign up for your weekly, bite-sized coaching from Exit The Drinking Life:

Step 1 
To subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Click here to visit the Exit The Drinking Life Apple Podcast Webpage  - it will open in a new tab so these instructions will be accessible to you on the other tab. 

Then click on the “Listen on Apple Podcasts” button. This will launch Apple Podcasts on your computer and bring up the podcast.

Step 2

Click on the “Subscribe” button and you’re all set!

You can also listen to the podcast via Spotify, Stitcher Radio, or wherever you get your podcasts.

I’ll be giving away $50 Amazon gift card and a pair of Apple AirPods to a couple of lucky listeners who review the podcast in Apple Podcasts.

How to Enter: Once you’ve listened to an episode or two, click on the “Ratings and Reviews” link on the Exit The Drinking Life in Apple Podcasts to leave a review.

Any review qualifies you to win: I want you to be honest, tell me what you think, and how I can help you better. 

Unfortunately, Apple Podcasts doesn’t release contact information for reviewers so please email me at [email protected] with the title of your review for your official entry. 

You can also screen shot your review and email it to me to qualify. 
 

Thanks for listening! 

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• Worry is always about something that might happen in the future.
• It’s not about what’s happening in the present.
• We can always handle the present moment.
• In the present we have real circumstances so even if it’s dangerous we can problem solve, think critically and begin finding solutions.
• The present is do-able.
• It’s just our thoughts about the future that are intolerable because the future is unknown.
• We can’t strategize and begin solving a problem that doesn’t even exist yet because we don’t know the parameters of the problem so the brain runs wild trying to solve for all possible scenarios.
• Which is, of course, impossible.
• Even in the middle of a challenge or trial, sometimes you can’t see the solution past today, and that’s ok.
• Sometimes you can’t even see the solution past the next 5 mintues, and you don’t need to.
• Worry is always your imagination running wild about a future moment.
• It’s a misuse of your imagination.
• Use your imagination to dream up beautiful amazing scenarios.
• Save the problem solving for present moment challenges when needed.

Many of you are struggle right now with all the change in our world, I can help you navigate the change without over-drinking, overeating, overspending and overshopping. Reach out to me at JumpsteadCoaching.com

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