Why do the relationships that once felt electric start to feel exhausting as you grow? This conversation was sparked by watching Wuthering Heights and realizing just how differently we define love, chemistry, and passion now compared to earlier versions of ourselves.

In this episode, we talk about why intensity can stop feeling like chemistry, how peace starts to feel way more appealing, and what it looks like to outgrow old relationship patterns without shaming who you used to be. A real, honest convo about how your love life evolves as you do.

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Vulnerability sounds simple, but in real life it’s layered, tender, and requires more than just one person being willing to open up. In this episode, we explore what actually creates the conditions for people to feel safe enough to be seen and why trust is something that’s built in small, quiet moments, not forced breakthroughs.

We talk about the ways defensiveness, ego, and lack of presence can get in the way, and what it really looks like to hold space for someone you love. A grounded, honest conversation about the courage it takes to soften and the safety that makes connection possible.

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This episode is a rapid-fire Q&A sharing an honest snapshot of where we’re at right now, both individually and in our relationship. We talk about what’s been activating us, patterns we’re noticing, beliefs we’re outgrowing, and what feels tender, easier, or still requires intention in this season.

We also keep it light with some fun questions: the habits we’re low-key judging, things we definitely overthought, simple joys bringing unexpected happiness, and yes…even ways that we annoy each other. It’s not about having it all figured out, just being honest about what feels true right now.

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Our limiting beliefs and insecurities don’t come out of nowhere—they’re learned, often in moments where we were trying to protect ourselves.

In this episode, Dave and Shiv explore how these patterns form and why they can feel so hard to break. Dave shares how his beliefs around working out kept him from going to the gym for years, while Shiv opens up about how past trauma led her to suppress her feelings and avoid vulnerability.

We talk about how these thoughts once helped us feel safe, but can quietly limit our relationships, growth, and self-trust as adults. This conversation is about understanding your patterns with compassion—and learning how to move beyond them without shame.

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In this episode, Dave and Shiv share why making peace with your past is foundational to healing, emotional safety, and healthy relationships. They explore how unresolved experiences quietly shape the way we show up, love, and protect ourselves. Shiv vulnerably shares some of the hardest parts of her own past to make peace with, and what that process has actually looked like in real life. This conversation is an invitation to soften toward your story, release what no longer needs to define you, and begin relating from a place that feels more grounded, honest, and free.

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This episode explores what people usually mean when they say a relationship feels toxic and how to tell when something is no longer just difficult, but unhealthy. The conversation looks at the difference between conflict that leads to repair and patterns that repeat without real change.

It also touches on what happens when emotional safety is missing, including walking on eggshells, editing yourself, and slowly disconnecting from your own needs. An honest, grounded conversation meant to bring clarity and language to experiences that can be hard to name.

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Holding space is one of the most powerful and misunderstood relationship skills. In this episode, Shiv and Dave break down what emotional validation really is, why it’s what every partner wants when they are upset, and what makes it so hard to offer in the moment.

They explore the blocks to holding space, from personalizing and ego stories to emotional immaturity and share real examples from their own relationship around home, family, and navigating hard conversations without defensiveness. You’ll also learn practical tools for doing this well, like checking for capacity, getting clear on your own feelings first, and learning how to ask to be seen instead of fixed.

If you want deeper connection, more emotional safety, and fewer reactive cycles in your relationship, this episode is for you. 

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Family estrangement is one of the most painful and complex relationship experiences a person can walk through, and this episode approaches it with honesty, compassion, and deep care.

Dave shares his personal journey with family estrangement, what it has cost him, what it has taught him, and how he’s been able to create healthier relationships on the other side. Shiv and Dave explore estrangement from the perspectives of the parent, adult child, and sibling, and the emotional dynamics that often shape these ruptures.

The conversation unpacks why someone may choose distance, the grief that follows for everyone involved, and the critical importance of validating the hurt of the person who comes to you — because that validation can be the difference between preserving a relationship or losing it.

A grounded, tender episode about boundaries, repair, and the courage it takes to do family differently.

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The New Year tends to arrive with a lot of pressure — to change faster, do more, fix everything, and somehow become a brand-new version of yourself overnight. In this episode, we slow the whole thing down and offer a different perspective on what this season is actually for.

We talk about why this time of year is better suited for rest, reflection, and intention than rigid goal-setting, and how many of the resolutions we’re taught to make are rooted in shame, comparison, and fear of being behind. When goals are chosen from self-criticism instead of self-connection, motivation becomes exhausting, failure feels personal, and trust in yourself slowly erodes.

Instead, we explore a more sustainable way of approaching growth — one that honors who you’ve been, gets honest about who you’re becoming, and allows your goals to come from alignment rather than pressure. If you’ve ever felt discouraged by resolutions, stuck in the same cycle year after year, or unsure what you even want next, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale.

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The holidays are often framed as the happiest time of the year… but for many, they can also be the hardest. In this episode, Dave and Shiv talk honestly about why the holiday season can feel so heavy, from unmet expectations and family dynamics to grief, loneliness, and the invisible mental load—especially for women. Shiv shares why she used to dread the holidays, and together they explore what it’s like to navigate this season when you’re already on emotional thin ice. A real, compassionate conversation for anyone trying to hold space for what this time of year actually brings.

Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us:

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