Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week’s episode, Liz and Mike look at all the reasons why it is so hard to wake up your kid. They break down how to look at the most important questions to ask about why it might be so hard for your youth in the mornings. Liz and Mike discuss the importance of an evening and morning routine along with the importance of positive praise when things are going right. Lastly, they give 8 great tips on how to structure the mornings for a great wake up.

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Episode 41 - How to Get Your Kid to Comply Without Consequences - YouTube

Always Evolving Video: Help! My Kid Won’t Sleep!

Article: How To Wake A Sleep Teenager

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Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week’s episode, Liz and Mike dig into the reasons why your teen doesn’t want to spend time with you the way that they used to. And yes, your teen probably still loves you. Liz and Mike review that it is developmentally appropriate for your teen to focus more on their peers than their parents. Liz and Mike also give ways to examine if your relationship with your teen is strong enough for them to want to spend time with you. Lastly, Liz and Mike give 5 practical tips that any parent can use to help increase their quality time with their teen.

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Article: How To Connect With A Teen That Doesn’t Want To Talk

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Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week’s episode, Liz and Mike talk about ways to support your child with anxiety. They go through the obvious not so obvious signs of anxiety that your child may show. Liz and Mike also review the importance of co-regulation with your child as well as the ways to help your child co-regulate. They also give some great take-away’s for how to avoid shaming your child for their anxiety.

Article: Helping Your Anxious Child or Teen

Article: Strategies To Support Anxious Children

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Divorce is a really difficult and confusing time for both parents and kids. Transitioning to new living environments, the financial burden, and the emotional toll can all be really overwhelming. On top of that, trying to remain calm and present for your kids can feel almost impossible. In this episode, Mike and Liz discuss ways to help both you and your child navigate through the divorce process. They provide ideas on ways meet your child’s social-emotional needs during this time, while also ensuring that you are taking care of yourself.

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Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week’s episode, Liz and Mike talk about the best ways to help “scaffold” and support your child so that they can succeed at school. Liz and Mike take a controversial stance on whether parents should focus on grades as well as the importance of praising your child. They go through the importance of a daily routine and having a dedicated homework space.

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Parents are often looking for the most effective discipline techniques, when in fact, getting your kid to comply prior to using discipline is actually the most effective approach for increasing compliance and is also the best method for maintaining the quality of the parent-child relationship. Mike and Liz explore through various methods to help you to get your kid to listen and comply without the need for consequences.

Resources:

Beyond Time-Out: From Chaos to Calm: Grosshans Ph.D., Beth A., Burton L.C.S.W., Janet H.: 9781402777646: Amazon.com: Books

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Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week’s episode, Liz and Mike talk about the tips and tricks to be a patient parent, even when it’s really difficult. Kids can do a great job at pushing our buttons and getting us angry. Elizabeth and Michael go over their 4 steps for success so that you can remain calm. Tune in to find out the ways to stay cool even when your child is heating up.

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Elizabeth and Michael detail how to stop always having to play the “bad cop” when parenting.  They get into how to break up the patterns and present a united front..  Elizabeth and Michael review the ways you can build upon where you agree and how to dole out consequences together.  They finish up with emphasizing the importance of giving lots of praise and not just focusing on consequences  

Areas to address:

-Why it’s a problem:

            -Makes one parent ineffective in dealing with discipline

            -Breeds anger and resentment toward the Bad Cop

-It’s important to present a united front 

-Need to have some tough conversations with your parenting partner

-Identify the areas of parenting/discipline where you differ and are similar (You can build off of where you agree and why you agree on those)

-Make plans when you are calm about how to deal with areas where you differ:-what each of you will do and say

-If you disagree about something, commit to do so in private

-Deal with giving out consequences together, good cop be the one to say what they are

-Make sure you are giving lots of positive labeled praise 

Take aways: 

-Be aware of where you disagree and make a plan

-Disagree in private

-Give lots of praise, don’t just focus on consequences

5 Steps Toward a Healthier Parenting Dynamic: 5 Steps Toward a Healthier Parenting Dynamic | Psychology Today

A Mother is Tired of Being The Bad Cop: Mother is tired of being the bad cop (irishtimes.com)

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Michael and Elizabeth discuss the fourth and final attachment style, secure attachment. They discuss how this attachment style develops in childhood, as well as how it can be achieved later in life if it was not the primary attachment style developed for an individual. They provide insights regarding how a secure attachment style impact all types of relationships and the benefits of working to achieve this attachment style.

Resources:

-Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child's Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore by Hoffman, Cooper, & Powell 

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Michael and Elizabeth dig deep into the disorganized attachment style.   They discuss what causes this attachment style and the ways that it will show up in the lives of those who are attached this way. They discuss common triggers for this attachment style and how a person with disorganized attachment can react to those triggers. Michael and Elizabeth discuss ways to more towards a more secure attachment style for individuals who identify with a disorganized attachment style.  Finally, they review ways to support the people in your life who have this attachment.  

Resources: 

Attachment Style Assessment: Attachment Styles Test: Attachment Styles Test: Attachment Style Quiz from Dr. Diane Poole Heller

Nurturing Resilience by Kathy Kain and Stephen Terrell  Nurturing Resilience: Helping Clients Move Forward from Developmental Trauma-An Integrative Somatic Approach by Kathy L. Kain (goodreads.com)

Causes and Symptoms of Disorganized Attachment https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/disorganized-attachment/

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