One of the most important things in relationship is to act with intention rather than reactivity, but if we're so busy and distracted all the time, it's really hard to slow down enough to do anything but react when we're upset. Libby invites you to ask yourself this question, "Are you checking out or checking in?" 
Show Links: 
Your Smartphone is Making you Stupid: https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2017/08/a-sitting-phone-gathers-brain-dross/535476/ 
Proactive vs. Reactive: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/307309 
Smartphone addiction: https://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2018/dopamine-smartphones-battle-time/
Tara Brach and RAIN: https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/

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Are you Checking Out or Checking In?

Grounded in reality and untamed honesty, Libby Sinback tackles the hard questions about how to create and maintain authentic, loving and healthy nonmonogamous relationships.

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Libby is joined by Genevieve King of Chill Polyamory to discuss individualism, community care, and ways you can shift your mindset to ecological thinking within polyamorous (or not!) relationship structures.
Genevieve's Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/chillpolyamory 
Genevieve on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3PUizxdp_vj2A5fUdBgzgw 
Genevieve's website: https://www.chillpolyamory.com/

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Community Care with Genevieve of Chill Polyamory

Libby invites Courtney Brame of Something Positive for Positive People to discuss herpes, stigma, and sexual health.

Something Positive for Positive People: https://www.spfpp.org/ 
SPFPP Podcast: https://www.spfpp.org/podcast Herpes Stigma Virtual Conference in May: https://www.spfpp.org/offerings/p/conferences 
Courtney's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtneybrame_/

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Sexual Health When You're Positive with Courtney Brame

Libby discusses the distinction between offers and requests in relating and how important it can be to make sure you're saying what you actually mean.


Kai Cheng Thom's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaichengthom/?hl=en Spectrum of Consent: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1kvYW4eSVKRuwUt5Mc-DnCyNVzvA036f8/view?usp=sharing 
Marcia Baczynski on Desire Smuggling: https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/desire-smuggler/ 
27 Alternatives to "Is this Okay?": https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/27-alternatives-to-asking-is-this-okay/

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Offer or Request?

Libby talks with AASECT-certified sexuality educator Aubri Lancaster about asexuality and aromanticism. 
Aubri's website: https://acesexeducation.com/ 
Aubri's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/acesexeducation/ 

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Navigating Asexuality with Aubri Lancaster

Libby shares her thoughts about debate about whether hierarchy is bad or wrong in polyamory.
Additional reading: Lola Phoenix - the Hierarchy Polyamorous People Don't Talk Enough About: https://www.nonmonogamyhelp.com/the-hierarchy-polyamorous-people-dont-talk-enough-about/ 
Ready for Polyamory - Is there a Problem with Hierarchy https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/guest-post-is-there-a-problem-with-hierarchy 
Poly.Land - Sneakiarchy: https://poly.land/2018/11/01/sneakiarchy-secret-hierarchy-dishonest-egalitarianism/ 
Joreth Retracts Descriptive vs Prescriptive Hierarchy: https://joreth.dreamwidth.org/408917.html 
Podcast episodes referenced in the episode: Veto Happens: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/veto-happens 
Where is this Going?: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/where-is-this-going 

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