We’re back with another juicy instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many of these episodes began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly re-recorded, updated, and expanded just for you.

In this episode, we dive into the letter O — and yes, we save the biggest O for last 😉

O is for Open Relating, Orgasms, Oral, and Other Ohs…

We explore a wide range of O topics while providing thoughtful insights into each one, with a strong emphasis on consent, communication, and understanding. Along the way, we share personal experiences and offer practical, real-world advice to help you deepen intimacy, navigate complexity, and enhance pleasure in your relationships in ways that feel aligned and sustainable.

This episode covers:

• Open Relating – what it really means in practice
• Orgies – including consent in group settings
• Out & Outed – navigating visibility, disclosure, and choice
• Obligations – exploring both external expectations and self-imposed pressure
• Oral & Outercourse – expanding pleasure beyond penetration and performance

And finally, our perfectly timed CLIMAX: ORGASMS ✨

We talk about what orgasms actually are, different types of orgasms, what happens in the body when we orgasm, facts and myths, faking it, common challenges, and what you can do to increase pleasure — with or without orgasm as the goal.

Equal parts educational, playful, and grounding, this episode supports listeners who are exploring relationship dynamics, strengthening intimacy, or simply wanting better conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection.

📖 Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

02:22 Open Relating Definition

03:10 Orgies & Consent

04:48 Being Out and Outed

09:08 Understanding Obligations in Relationships

09:55 Oral Sex

12:37 Outer Course 

14:46 Understanding Orgasms & The Types of Orgasms

20:56 What Happens to Your Brain & Body During Orgasm

24:23 Studies and Facts about Orgasms

30:22 Faking It

34:00 Techniques for Enhancing Pleasure

37:58 Sensate Focus and Intimacy 

39:45 The Importance Self-Exploration & Masterbation

42:08 Conclusion and Call to Action

Show Resources:

• Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
• Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ 
• Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠

• C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4QjdNH6LdaYqOgFaaFMqja?si=FBh6ICbDQB-Fgo9SUd6jhA 
• How We Love:  What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me? https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wQiiMrHCFltYorI7bdEGs?si=2rVxqTliScODBUqIJ4TuMA 
• What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me Free Worksheet - https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyle 
• Why Enthusiastic Consent is So Important - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=C87tjthIRY2Ro8KANTnE_w 
• A is for Anorgasmia Episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/1oBt1yFEfFsnCUGzTRmF8p?si=Nyjkx7KeRc6YZns0wxdjKQ 
• How to Talk to Family About Being Polyamorous - Tara & Andre preparing for Tara’s coming out to parents - https://youtu.be/UxYecGOZ3WY?si=VzvgfmS8SSuuufqB 
• 3 Minute Game - https://www.schoolofconsent.org/blog/3-minute-game 
• Sensate Focus Article - https://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work 

We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series! Many earlier episodes were originally delivered as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community. This one is a freshly re-recorded instalment — updated, expanded, and shaped by listener requests. 

In this episode we are diving into the letter N with The Nine N Words You Need to Know!

We explore key “N” words that often come up in non-monogamous relationships. We talk about non-negotiables, the meaning and impact of names and titles, necrophilia, and neediness in relationships—when it can be a call for support and when it might negatively impact the connection. 

We also cover nesting partners, the importance of the word no and recognizing both verbal and body-language cues, and what it looks like to normalize non-monogamy in everyday life. 

Plus, we touch on numbers (a.k.a. body count of sexual partners) and nudism, and why these conversations matter.

This is a fun, thoughtful, and wide-ranging episode we know you’ll enjoy!

Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452. 

📖 Episode Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction 

01:38 - Exploring Non-Negotiables in Relationships

03:56-  Names and Titles in Non-Monogamous Relationships

05:46 - Understanding Necrophilia 

10:30 - Navigating Neediness 

12:11 - Nesting & Nesting Partners

13:08  - Nipples and Nipple Play

15:45 - No when shared verbally or through body language

17:53 Normalization of Non-Monogamy

21:21 Nudism and Naturism

24:25 Discussing Numbers in Relationships

Show Resources:

• Join the waitlist and be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out with all the HOT words from A-Z! ⁠⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠
• Necrophilia image and article - https://www.vice.com/en/article/yvxem5/the-little-death-living-and-loving-as-a-necrophiliac-51
• Relationship Burnout: How to Make LRE Feel Like NRE Again podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Ujeot4xkUKWwZCPClzVDt?si=T0BytQblSUGqLyiqj7494Q
• Consent is Sexy: Why Enthusiastic Consent is So Important podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=cg7CPN_yTXSkmTlsRchq0w 

• Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyam
• Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series!

These episodes were originally delivered as live trainings on Mondays inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and over the last few months we’ve been uploading them to all major podcast platforms.

Today’s episode is all about the letter M — and it’s a good one.
We’re diving into: M is for the 5 Ways to Make Sure Your COMMUNICATION Isn’t MISCOMMUNICATION.

In this episode, we explore:

• The core components of successful communication.
• How to break old or unhelpful communication habits and replace them with patterns that actually work.
• Why getting “heated” or “upset” is valuable information — uncomfortable, yes, but often pointing us toward something meaningful to unpack after the moment passes.
• Active listening: how to become better listeners and how to recognize when we aren’t.
• Communication models we love, including the Interactional Model.
• Practical, real-life examples of how to become a clearer, more effective communicator.
• How to approach more challenging conversations and invite true dialogue.
• The importance of being clear, honest, and direct.
• What happens when we hold things in instead of expressing them.
• How trust and rapport are built through communication.
• How your beliefs, interpretations, and assumptions shape the way you show up in conversation.
• Progressive Communication: what it is, and how to use it to move conversations forward instead of repeating the same loops.
• What to do when someone comes into a conversation already feeling defensive.
• And how to use “breaks” effectively.

We also share an analogy that highlights the difference between genuine communication and miscommunication, plus a personal example of a moment between us where emotions were high and things got a little “heated” — and what we learned from it.

Want to hear T&A live?Join us on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Learn more about the Mermaid Lounge at mermaidlounge.ca. Grab tickets at thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452

Show Resources:

• Feeld Dating Site - https://feeld.co/ 
• Dr. Amy Corey - Evolution of Human Communication - From Theory to Practice - article - https://www.scribd.com/document/535619793/Communication-By-Dr-Amy-M-Corey
• Looking for support working through your communication patterns or other issues?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

Consent isn’t just about saying yes or no, it is much more complex than that.

 In this episode, Tara and André discuss and explore the nuances of consent in intimate interactions, emphasizing that consent is not a one-time agreement but an active, ongoing conversation that involves both people every step of the way.

They unpack what enthusiastic consent really means, how it plays out in different settings like dates, parties, and clubs, and why the idea of “ongoing consent” or “ask once” don’t apply. 

Instead, consent is a living, dynamic process — one that deepens trust, connection, and genuine desire. And each person plays an active role and responsibility  in ensuring mutual comfort.

You’ll also hear about some of the most common frameworks used to understand consent — from FRIES (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific, developed by Planned Parenthood) and CRISP (Considered, Reversible, Informed Specific, Participant) to frameworks used in the kink community such as  SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) and RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink). As well as the Yes, No, Maybe List. Each of these helps shape awareness, yet none replace real-time communication.

Tara and André share examples of what consent can sound like in the moment even in non-sexual environments - for example a recent example where Tara asked someone - Would you be open to me giving you a compliment?”, why asking builds connection rather than killing the mood, and how saying — or hearing — a clear no can be just as sexy as an enthusiastic yes.

And finally they talk about consent and law.

This conversation reminds us that consent is the heartbeat of healthy intimacy — an evolving, mutual agreement that requires awareness, communication, and care.

Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452. 

📖 Episode Chapters:

3:07 Understanding Consent

6:07 Ongoing Consent: Myths & Realities

12:21 Consent Frameworks

23:14 The Nuances of Consent

34:25 Navigating Compliments & Consent

40:20 Consent in Different Scenarios

55:50 The Legal Landscape of Consent

Show Resources:

• K is for Kink, Kitchen Table Polyamory, Kissing + Other K Words Episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/7FOrTjvfhxOB2Il9BLoNwc?si=ihdSbNg2RSaxlE24TjOPgA 
• Cup of Team Consent Video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8 

• Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠
• Looking for therapy or coaching?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

Ever wondered what it’s really like to go to a sex or lifestyle club for the first time — and what to do to prepare? Or maybe you’ve been before and the experience wasn’t what you hoped?

In this special episode Tara is live on location at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto, Ontario, joined by Event Host Amy,!

Together, they explore what to expect when visiting a lifestyle space — from atmosphere and etiquette to safety, consent, and connection.

You’ll get an insider tour of the newly renovated Mermaid Lounge and adjoining X-Club and hear practical guidance for what to do before, during, and after your visit to spaces like these so the experience feels positive, secure, and aligned with your personal values and boundaries.

Included in this discussion is how to plan before the event with a partner — including what scenarios you’re open to exploring and how you’ll check-in throughout the visit and communicate if one of you feels uncomfortable or needs support once you’re there. Even with the best planning, emotions can arise, so having a shared plan for navigating them helps everyone feel safe and connected.

Whether you’re curious, nervous, or simply exploring new sides of your sexuality, this episode will help you feel prepared and confident.

🎧 Tune in for:

• A guided tour of the Mermaid Lounge

• Tips for your first (or next) lifestyle club experience

• Consent, communication, and aftercare insights

• How to plan ahead, check in, and debrief after attending

• Details on T&A’s live talk on December 10: The 7-Step Securely Non-Monogamous Framework

  
  

Show Resources:

• Mermaid Lounge hours, facilities, tickets and info available at: https://mermaidlounge.ca/

• Join us for our LIVE Talk December 10 for Reconnect Wednesday - info & Tickets at: -https://www.thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452

• Podcast Episode: H is for Sexual Health & Hair: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7nOEQfbBcH8EXx1XItHdKF?si=wAnUraOnQAKffvD8kkXCKw
• Podcast Episode: STI Testing and Acceptable Risk - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2qjpsoc3tY2Ea1lE4yaLVE?si=JqmlxdQ4QLW2eZVvSbNRWw

• Add clubs you've visited to T&A's Sex Clubs and Destinations Around the World List - https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1t8DzYsOJSQ0g1cboAuBl_ibFYQGwpHoiEO-JdriKUjA/edit?usp=sharing

In Part 2 we continue our deep dive into the complex world of sex, relationships, and the taboos that shape them.

We explore what makes certain topics so charged, how our personal experiences influence what we consider “off-limits,” and why breaking taboos can lead to more honest and connected relationships.

💬 In this episode:

• What Are the Biggest Taboos Around Sex & Relationships? We examine the issues people still hesitate to talk about — and how these silences affect connection and trust.

• Personal Perspectives on Breaking Taboos - we share our own stories on what it means to confront stigma, challenge assumptions, and choose openness over secrecy.

• Community Reflections - Drawing from listener and community feedback, we discuss the taboos that continue perpetuate — and why some conversations still feel risky to have, even in open-minded circles.

• Why is Breaking Taboos Important ? Finally we explore why taboos should be broken and whether some taboos might serve a purpose — creating mystery, excitement, or deeper meaning — and how to balance curiosity with respect, consent, and intention.

It’s a thoughtful, candid conversation about where our edges come from, how they evolve, and why it’s worth questioning them in pursuit of deeper authenticity and connection.

✨ Catch us live!We will be at Booth 322 at the Toronto Taboo Show, October 17–19, 2025. We will be giving seminars Friday at 6:30 PM and Saturday at 8:30 PM on Non-Monogamy Essentials: Making it Secure, Satisfying, and Sexy!

📖 Episode Chapters:

00:00 — Breaking Taboos in Sex and Relationships

05:20 — Exploring Non-Monogamy and Its Misunderstandings

10:48 — Personal Experiences with Sexuality and Openness

16:37 — Addressing Common Taboos and Myths in Non-Monogamy

25:08 — Navigating Relationship Taboos

29:14 — The Complexity of Secret Partners

31:55 — Reprioritizing Partners in Non-Monogamy

36:21 — Challenging Myths About Polyamory

38:58 — Sexual Health and Multiple Partners

40:40 — Consent and Altered States

41:43 — The Pressure of “Best” Sex

44:11 — The Importance of Breaking Taboos

Show Resources:

• Taboo Show - https://tabooshow.com/ 

• Me B4 We Intimacy Coaching - https://linktr.ee/meb4we

• Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
• Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Tara sits down with Darryl Rosengreen, VP of Marketing and Promotion—and one of the owners—of The Taboo Show, to explore breaking taboos in sex and relationships.

Together, they talk about how events like The Taboo Show create safe, inclusive spaces for people to learn, explore, and get curious about sexuality, kink, and relationships. Tara and Darryl share how these environments can inspire conversations you may not have had before—or didn’t know how to start—and help normalize talking about sex, sexuality, and intimacy in fun and educational ways.

💬 In this episode:

• Why breaking taboos helps create healthier, more open relationships
• How exploring sexuality can spark new conversations and self-discovery
• What to expect at The Taboo Show (and why it’s a safe, educational, and fun space)
• The importance of normalizing conversations about sex and relationships

✨ Catch us live at Taboo!T&A will be at Booth 322 at the Toronto Taboo Show, October 17–19, 2025.

We'll also be speaking on Friday at 6:30 PM and Saturday at 8:30 PM on Non-Monogamy Essentials: Making it Secure, Satisfying, and Sexy!

🎟️ We’re also doing a draw for free tickets to the show! Enter at https://events.letstalkpolyamory.com/taboo2025draw  before October 12 for your chance to win.

📖 Episode Chapters:00:00 — Introduction to Taboo Topics in Relationships03:46 — Exploring Taboos in Sex and Relationships07:56 — The Taboo Show Experience13:51 — Breaking Down Taboos Around Sex 16:46 — Advice for First-Time Attendees

Show Resources:

• Taboo Show - https://tabooshow.com/ 
• Enter to WIN free tickets to the Toronto show -  https://events.letstalkpolyamory.com/taboo2025draw 
• Me B4 We Intimacy Coaching - https://linktr.ee/meb4we

• Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
• Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation
• Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠

We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series—where we explore the big topics around non-monogamy, relationships, and sex, one letter at a time. These episodes were originally live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group, and over the past year we’ve been releasing them onto podcast platforms.

At the very start of Season 1, we shared L is for 5 Steps From Limitations to Liberation. Now, we’re circling back with a brand-new episode—because “L” deserves way more LOVE. 

In this episode, we dive into a lineup of L’s: Lube, Libido, Latex, Lingerie, Love, Lies, Lust vs. Longing, Layering, Lifestyle, Leather, and Labia.

We take a playful and practical approach to breaking these down, sharing our own personal stories and examples from our work.

You’ll hear why lube is a game-changer (at any age), what lingerie really means (and if men have it too), and how destructive communication like layering sneaks into relationships.

We also dive deeper into libido and desire — what spontaneous vs. responsive desire actually looks like, how libido shifts over time, and what to do when there’s a mismatch in your relationship. Spoiler: it’s not all about “fixing” it — it’s about planning ahead, knowing mismatches are inevitable at some point, and building the communication skills to talk about it openly when it happens.

Join us for a mix of humour, honesty, and depth in exploring love, sex, and polyamory!

Show Resources:

• Episode 2: 5 Steps from Limitations to Liberation - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4f4lr2PWdpdVxfZmXGzcT2?si=JOYl2LeTSNmsCIhSIjaoLQ 

• Taboo Show Toronto - Enter our draw to win a free pass - https://events.letstalkpolyamory.com/taboo2025draw - and find our more about the show at https://tabooshow.com/toronto 

• Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

We’re back with our T&A Alphabet Series! These episodes were originally live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group. Over the last few months, we’ve been uploading them onto podcast platforms, but this time we’re bringing you a brand new episode.

Today’s episode is all about the letter K! We bring you: K is for Kink, Kitchen Table Polyamory & Kissing + Other K Words

Here’s what we cover in this episode:

• Kink – what it is, common myths about it, how it differs from a fetish, where BDSM fits in, types of kink, and the importance of communication, consent and safety
• Kitchen Table Polyamory and why it isn’t the ideal or only way to do polyamory
• Kissing – including André’s story of being taught to “kiss like you’re eating a peach,” and how some relationships have rules around kissing and how to tell someone if you don’t like how someone kisses.
• Knights – not the armor-wearing kind, but staying the night or going on a vacation with another partner and how some specify where some people might have rules around where these overnights can happen.
• Kites & Strings – as a dynamic between two people (which we did a whole podcast on)
• Kuddling – when why & cuddling matters plus cuddle parties
• Kidversations – talking to kids about sex, identity, relationships and non-monogamy in a way that’s open but also age-appropriate so that they can be safe and consent.
• Kama Sutra - the art of living and loving well, and not just a sexual gymnastics manual

And a few others! We also slide in some other topics like vetos, consent, communication,  poly-saturated, metamours and more!

What did we miss? Let us know in the comments!

✨ Bonus: We’re also linking our original K is for Kink talk in the show notes, where we go much deeper into all things kink, including how to get started if you’re curious.

Want more? Sign up to be the first to know when our Little Book of Poly Love is released—a pocket-sized guide to the words and wisdom that make relationships work. https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠⁠

Show Resources:

• K is for Kink YouTube Talk with Patric - https://www.youtube.com/live/2_v8nPMRa5c?si=AB1633gUoKiWtMW_
• BDSM Checklist - Do not complete this form! This is an example only - https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfGEjHQBWLCqFQB2oAJZuzkjIlBuXyUX2xf-TVIAWQZOU5juQ/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=103121892334923731334 
• BDSM Test - https://bdsmtest.org/select-lang 
• Episode 28: Kites and Strings: Relationship Roles and Dynamics in Non-Monogamy - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4rDUwXR9jkwxUDMDBXusF7?si=xSvL6lh4Qfi4hqgT44o1xg
• Episode 33: What to Say? How to Talk to Kids About Non-Monogamy, Sex, Kink and Other Stuff with Ms. Ashley Robertson -  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mNuk3UkfqUJGWV79BnA4S?si=g8oCKb5rS6KdIqzdQXWVJw 
• FetLife Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community - https://fetlife.com/
• Oasis Aqualounge Sex Club Toronto - https://oasisaqualounge.com/
• Taboo: Everything to Do About Sex Show Toronto - https://tabooshow.com/toronto 
• Complete this form to be added to our mailing list - https://www.taraandandre.com/#section-udHUURtgCy 
• Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer

• Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

Do labels in non-monogamy give you clarity—or do they feel like a box you don’t want to fit into?

Labels in non-monogamy—love them or hate them, they’re everywhere. For some people, labels bring clarity and a sense of belonging. For others, they feel restrictive or unnecessary. The truth? Whether labels are important is a personal choice.

In this short but powerful episode from our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook group archives (saved before Facebook removed all group livestreams), we explore the role of labels in consensual non-monogamy and ask: What’s right for me?

We start with the basics:✅ What do labels actually mean, and why do some people use them?✅ Introducing GSERD—Gender, Sexual, Erotic, Relational Diversity—as one way of identifying yourself.✅ A high-level overview of Jessica Fern’s Styles of Non-Monogamy diagram, which maps different relationship styles onto quadrants of high-to-low sexual and emotional exclusivity—and how you can use it to explore what feels right for you. (For a deeper dive into these styles, check out S1, Episode 7: How We Love: What Style of Non-Monogamy is Right for Me? episode.)

From there, we talk about:✅ Deciding what labels (if any) align with your values and relationships✅ What you’d like your partners to call you—whether that’s boyfriend, girlfriend, boo, FWB, or something entirely your own

✨ If you haven’t already, download our free worksheet—What Style of Consensual Non-Monogamy is Right for Me?—which includes Jessica Fern’s diagram and reflection prompts to help you map out your own place on the spectrum. Get it here: https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyle

Other Show Resources:

• All our 🔥 hot links: https://linktr.ee/Letstalkpolyamory 

• Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and arrange a complimentary therapy consultation at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠
• Want to have wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for the Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
• Want more direct support from T&A, join us in Polyamory Mastery - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery 

• Poly Secure by Jessica Fern - https://www.jessicafern.com/books 
• Let’s Talk Polyamory TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@letstalkpolyamory 
• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/taraandandre/ 
• And in case you don’t know this famous comedian - here’s some info on Groucho Marx - https://www.biography.com/actors/groucho-marx