Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast

Thank you for an amazing first season of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast! 

We will be back with Season 2 and brand new episodes starting in late September 2024. 

In Season 2 we are inviting some very special guests to join us to take a deeper dive into how you can successfully navigate consensual non-monogamy making it secure, adventurous and even more sexy!

In the meantime you can catch up on this season’s episodes where we talked about:

And More! 

If you want a secure foundation for your open or polyamorous relationship so you can have a lifetime of pleasure and satisfaction, join us for our next cohort of Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery which begins in October. Sign up now and get access right away to all the training modules and content! It will give you extra time to get started before we jump into the live coaching calls in October!

Learn More and sign up at: https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery

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It's said that in successful relationships, there's always a KITE and a STRING. Which are you?

You may have heard of this metaphor which is often used to describe dynamics in monogamous couples, however in this episode: Kites & Strings: Relationship Roles and Dynamics in Non-Monogamy, we take a polyamory spin on it and talk about how it may apply to the world of non-monogamous relationships as well!

We explore what it means to be a kite or a string, how these roles may shift when we interact with other kites and strings either in a dating or lifestyle/swinging situation, and the dynamics of pairing with different types of partners. 

We also discuss how someone might yearn to step into a different role than they usually occupy—like someone with kids and family responsibilities who gets to feel the exhilarating freedom of being the kite when with another partner and how they might secretly want their other partner to offer them this opportunity as well!

We give specific examples of how you can be a “switch” and bring excitement into your relationships and how this might offset resentments around always having to be one thing! 

And it wouldn’t be a podcast without some playful fun and teasing about our own tendencies to be the kite and string in our relationship!

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While we all know that open and honest communication is the key to relationships success, a recent University of California study found that there’s plenty of people would rather not know certain details about what their partner is up to!

This is one of the big questions that people often struggle with, and are often at odds with, in non-monogamous relationships. 

Some prefer the DADT - don’t ask, don’t tell - model where everything is unsaid. It’s a … I’d rather not know because what I don’t know won’t hurt me? However, as we said to a coaching client recently and talk about in this episode, when we avoid hearing from our partners about their experiences completely, our brains “fill in the blanks” and that story is often much worse than knowing the truth.

There's others that LOVE to share all the details about their encounters with others and those that want to hear everything, but there's the matter of privacy of others to consider.

And some people are ok with some details but want certain things left out. 

We cover all these things and more in this exciting episode - How Much Do I Want To Know: From DADT to ALL the Juicy Details!

And if you're newly navigating non-monogamy or facing some bumpy territory, we've got you! Our Poly Newbies Digital Course https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer - has a proven system that will provide you with a foundation for success! AND is now at a special price for our followers and our online community!

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Personal boundaries… they’re the imaginary lines we can draw around ourselves to maintain balance and protect our bodies, minds, emotions, and time for ourselves and from the behaviour or demands of others. 

Our boundaries are most effective when we are first clear about them ourselves and then when we communicate them to others.

If you find it hard to share your boundaries, you are not alone. 

Even  when someone crosses our boundaries (intentionally or unintentionally), common worries are that we are asking for too much, being too difficult or if we say something, they might not like us.

In this episode you’ll learn:

✅ What personal boundaries are vs. agreements or rules we might have with our partner(s);

✅ Why boundaries are important (hint: it’s about you)

✅ How to set your boundaries;

✅ How to communicate them; and

✅ Why people want to know your boundaries

Download our Building and Communicating My Personal Boundaries FREE WORKSHEET which will guide you in setting your boundaries and having them stick!

If you'd like it to feel EASIER to communicate your boundaries and feel SECURE in your open or polyamorous relationship, we can help! Book a complimentary call where we can speak confidentially about your personal circumstances and how we can work together OR jump right into our Poly Newbies Digital Course or Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery coaching program which have proven systems that will provide you with a foundation for success!

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Note this previously aired live in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group where viewers shared comments which we read during this episode.

You’ve probably seen the various “rules” out there that attempt to cleverly use numbers to describe what you should or shouldn’t do in a relationship or when dating.

Having rules and guidelines to follow to lead you to a desired outcome can be helpful and even comforting.

Like the 2-2-2 one that suggests that couples should go on a date once every two weeks, spend a weekend away every two months and take a week-long vacation every two years.

Others are just plain awful.

There's the 6-6-6-6 rule that women with "high standards" should only look for men who are 6 feet tall, with a 6 inch 🍆, six figure salary and a six-pack!

In this episode we take an informative and humorous look at these relationship rules, debunk the myths and as always provide expert solid advice on what things you might want to consider to have secure, successful and sexy polyamorous relationships!

There's even some food talk in there to keep you entertained with references to yams, sausages and oysters!

We would love to hear your take on these numerical rules, what your favorites were and any that we missed (good advice or otherwise). If you’re listening on Spotify you can now add comments to each episode!

We want to continue to keep this podcast free and reach as many people as possible so it would help us a lot of you hit the like button, subscribe, share with your friends and write a review!

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Have you heard the term ACCIDENTAL POLYAMORY?

This is what some call those unexpected journeys that lead individuals and couples into exploring polyamory dynamics either as a willing participant or with some fear or resistance.

In this episode, Accidental Polyamory: Now What? we cover 3 different unexpected scenarios one can find themselves in.

Imagine you're in a monogamous relationship, and suddenly, one partner expresses a desire to explore consensual non-monogamy or open the relationship. How do you navigate those conversations and potential changes? 

Or, picture this: you're single and enjoying the dating scene when you meet someone amazing, only to find out they are polyamorous. How do you handle being with someone with multiple partners, and determine if this is a relationship style that suits you?

Maybe you’re already non-monogamous - like a swinger or in an open relationship - and then you or your partner start developing deeper emotional connections and want to shift to a more polyamorous model. How do you handle this significant change?

We share other definitions and terms you might come across in these situations like cowboy/cowgirl and poly-bombing.

Join us as we share real stories, expert insights, and practical advice for anyone finding themselves unexpectedly on the path to polyamory. 

Whether you’re curious about polyamory, already practicing some form of non-monogamy or simply interested in the diverse ways people love and connect, this episode is for you!

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Thinking about opening your relationship or diving into polyamory? It sounds thrilling and 🔥hot, right? Imagine the excitement of meeting new people and having the freedom to explore both emotional and sexual connections with them.

For us, it's been an incredible and fulfilling journey, surpassing our wildest dreams.

But, there are some unexpected risks and challenges that can threaten the security of any relationship.

In this episode, we share our personal experiences and cover the things you'll want to be ready for including:

✨ Feeling different than you might imagine.

We share specific examples for each point and provide insights on how to better prepare yourself for the unexpected as you navigate your personal journey!

Resources referenced in this episode:

- Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse⁠

- S1E8 podcast episode: How is My Attachment Style Impacting My Relationships  - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3KUuTKZQKRNHBISBeynIvq?si=R2jyYOCDT1ueCM4BgIzatQ 

- Attachment Quiz - https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/ 

- S1E5 podcast episode: Sex Parties 101: A Guide to Being the Best Host and Great Guest - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3cOwAFpV7tpRgR56tzRtvf?si=ZRUMtrsaSp-VBd83LUyM2g 

* all podcast episodes also available on Apple and YouTube podcasts, Amazon Music and iHeart Radio

At some point in your journey towards non-monogamy someone you know has likely said to you "I could never do that. I'm too jealous!"

Maybe you've even wondered this about yourself or have been afraid that you aren't cut out for non-monogamy given some of the strong feelings you've felt.

While jealousy is one of the main things that people are challenged with when opening a relationship or experiencing polyamory for the first time, and it can be intense and feel all consuming, there are ways of understanding your jealousy and finding of ways to work through these feelings so that you can shift to being neutral or even experiencing compersion! 💖 Pinky swear!

And... a little myth busting... the reality is that most non-monogamous people experience jealousy or insecurity under certain circumstances from time to time. The key is to learn how to be less impacted by it.

In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast we dive into this topic and share with you the 6 things you can do starting now to feel more secure in your relationships!

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Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources on our website at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠

New Relationship Energy, or NRE, sometimes gets a bad rap in polyamory as while one person may be experiencing the highs of being with someone new, others that they are in relationships may feel left behind, or jealous or find it threatening to the security of that connection... hence the "awful"

But it’s not all about putting out forest fires. 

There’s nothing wrong with new relationship energy in itself, and in fact it can be an "awesome" experience for all involved. 

One of the amazing things about polyamory is that it allows people to experience all the magic of new love without destroying long-term, stable relationships in the process - and may even breathe new energy and pleasure into them!

There are always considerations or things to navigate whether you’re the person experiencing the NRE with someone new, the new person or the people they are in relationships with.

We talk about all of these things and more in this podcast episode!

We want to encourage and support spreading the word of polyamory and normalize it as a valid relational identity - one which can be secure and long-lasting!

To help you and others to learn more, we’ve decided to reduce our profit on our 7-Module Poly Newbies Digital Course so that more people can access this valuable resource. You can find this special offer at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer

You can book a Pay What You Can Coaching Session with Tara at ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession⁠ 

Want to know more about us, find out about our other coaching and therapy services or book us for your event or podcast? 👉 ⁠https://taraandandre.com/⁠

In this episode of the Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast we are open up our polyamory dictionary and cover a ton of common definitions and terms you may come across as you navigate consensual non-monogamy:

We cover common myths you might hear (like that you MUST get to know and like your metamours) and how terms and labels such as these are useful to help identify yourself and why you still need to ask someone what their definitions are so you are on the same page in understanding.

And of course it wouldn't be our podcast if we didn't share some of our personal stories including how our relationship fits into multiple "styles" and how being with others who are different than each other doesn’t take away from our relationship, but instead is one of the things that enhances our relationship and why polyamory is such a great fit for us!

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