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We’re back with another playful, passionate, and slightly provocative instalment of our much-loved T&A Alphabet Series!
These episodes originally began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly updated and pleasantly packed just for you.
In this episode, we dive playfully into the letter P — and as the title suggests, it’s not just about polyamory.
Oh no. It’s a plentiful, punchy, and sometimes polarizing collection of P words that show up in conversations about relationships, sex, and non-monogamy.
Here’s a taste of what we cover:
And if you patiently persevere to the end… the sexiest P words make an appearance too 🔥
Think PIV, promiscuity, period sex, and more.
Preparing for this episode was pure pleasure given the practically limitless P words we could have covered. Not all of them made it into the podcast — so yes, this episode is “just the tip.” 😏
Many of the words we explore here (and throughout our T&A Alphabet Series) are also part of our upcoming project, The Little Book of Poly Love 💖 Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s published and pops into the world:
https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist
📖 Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Polyamory and P Words
01:30 Understanding Polyamory and Its Types
03:18 Exploring Polyfidelity and Polycules
06:02 Defining Poly Intimates and Polysaturation
08:06 Polyamory Under Duress
09:52 Primary Partners and Power Dynamics
13:50 Pansexuality and Paraphilia Explained
15:54 Passive Aggressive and Direct
16:46 Sexual Terms: PIV, PIA, and PIM
17:41 Promiscuity: Gender Perspectives and Cultural Views
20:14 Play and Period Sex: Breaking Taboos
23:36 The P-Spot and Male Pleasure
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Welcome to Season 3! We’re so excited to be back with a brand new season filled with all the conversations you love — and more.
This season, we’ll be continuing our T&A Alphabet Series with episodes dropping throughout the year, and we’ll also be welcoming new guests to the podcast. If you’d like to be a guest, or know someone who would be a great fit, we’d love to hear from you.
The idea for this episode emerged while we were in Mexico over the holidays, where we found ourselves revisiting a question we return to often: Can someone still be polyamorous — an identity we both hold — even when they’re not actively “practicing” it?
In this episode, we explore the evolving nature of polyamory as both an identity and a practice. We reflect on our recent experiences with dating and not dating, what has shifted in our personal and professional lives, and how our priorities continue to change over time.
André also shares about a recent connection with someone who does not identify as non-monogamous, including what it was like to navigate that experience (spoiler alert: it's been very positive), how it felt to share it with Tara, and the real-time conversations that followed. Tara reflects on her own experience of learning that André was feeling new relationship energy (NRE), and what that brought up for her.
Along the way, we dive into the importance of communication when navigating new connections, explore NRE in long-term relationships, and discuss the values that underpin polyamory / non-monogamy as a relational identity.
We also share listener reflections around identity, values, and how these ideas show up in different seasons of life.
This conversation emphasizes that identifying as polyamorous can remain true even during phases of less active dating, and invites listeners to reflect on their own relational identities, values, and intentions for the future.
Chapters
00:00: Welcome to Season Three
01:31: Reflections on Identity and Polyamory
04:47: Exploring Relational Identity
07:24: Navigating New Relationships
10:08: The Dynamics of Non-Monogamy
12:53: Understanding New Relationship Energy
15:32: Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth
18:07: Navigating Non-Monogamy: Embracing Other Connections
21:38: Defining Polyamory: Identity vs. Practice
25:15:The Emotional Landscape of Polyamory
28:08: Polyamory as an Evolving Identity
31:51: Listener suggested reflections
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We’re back with another juicy instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many of these episodes began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly re-recorded, updated, and expanded just for you.
In this episode, we dive into the letter O — and yes, we save the biggest O for last 😉
O is for Open Relating, Orgasms, Oral, and Other Ohs…
We explore a wide range of O topics while providing thoughtful insights into each one, with a strong emphasis on consent, communication, and understanding. Along the way, we share personal experiences and offer practical, real-world advice to help you deepen intimacy, navigate complexity, and enhance pleasure in your relationships in ways that feel aligned and sustainable.
This episode covers:
And finally, our perfectly timed CLIMAX: ORGASMS ✨
We talk about what orgasms actually are, different types of orgasms, what happens in the body when we orgasm, facts and myths, faking it, common challenges, and what you can do to increase pleasure — with or without orgasm as the goal.
Equal parts educational, playful, and grounding, this episode supports listeners who are exploring relationship dynamics, strengthening intimacy, or simply wanting better conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection.
📖 Episode Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
02:22 Open Relating Definition
03:10 Orgies & Consent
04:48 Being Out and Outed
09:08 Understanding Obligations in Relationships
09:55 Oral Sex
12:37 Outer Course
14:46 Understanding Orgasms & The Types of Orgasms
20:56 What Happens to Your Brain & Body During Orgasm
24:23 Studies and Facts about Orgasms
30:22 Faking It
34:00 Techniques for Enhancing Pleasure
37:58 Sensate Focus and Intimacy
39:45 The Importance Self-Exploration & Masterbation
42:08 Conclusion and Call to Action
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We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series! Many earlier episodes were originally delivered as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community. This one is a freshly re-recorded instalment — updated, expanded, and shaped by listener requests.
In this episode we are diving into the letter N with The Nine N Words You Need to Know!
We explore key “N” words that often come up in non-monogamous relationships. We talk about non-negotiables, the meaning and impact of names and titles, necrophilia, and neediness in relationships—when it can be a call for support and when it might negatively impact the connection.
We also cover nesting partners, the importance of the word no and recognizing both verbal and body-language cues, and what it looks like to normalize non-monogamy in everyday life.
Plus, we touch on numbers (a.k.a. body count of sexual partners) and nudism, and why these conversations matter.
This is a fun, thoughtful, and wide-ranging episode we know you’ll enjoy!
Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452.
📖 Episode Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction
01:38 - Exploring Non-Negotiables in Relationships
03:56- Names and Titles in Non-Monogamous Relationships
05:46 - Understanding Necrophilia
10:30 - Navigating Neediness
12:11 - Nesting & Nesting Partners
13:08 - Nipples and Nipple Play
15:45 - No when shared verbally or through body language
17:53 Normalization of Non-Monogamy
21:21 Nudism and Naturism
24:25 Discussing Numbers in Relationships
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We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series!
These episodes were originally delivered as live trainings on Mondays inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and over the last few months we’ve been uploading them to all major podcast platforms.
Today’s episode is all about the letter M — and it’s a good one.
We’re diving into: M is for the 5 Ways to Make Sure Your COMMUNICATION Isn’t MISCOMMUNICATION.
In this episode, we explore:
We also share an analogy that highlights the difference between genuine communication and miscommunication, plus a personal example of a moment between us where emotions were high and things got a little “heated” — and what we learned from it.
Want to hear T&A live?Join us on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Learn more about the Mermaid Lounge at mermaidlounge.ca. Grab tickets at thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452
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Consent isn’t just about saying yes or no, it is much more complex than that.
In this episode, Tara and André discuss and explore the nuances of consent in intimate interactions, emphasizing that consent is not a one-time agreement but an active, ongoing conversation that involves both people every step of the way.
They unpack what enthusiastic consent really means, how it plays out in different settings like dates, parties, and clubs, and why the idea of “ongoing consent” or “ask once” don’t apply.
Instead, consent is a living, dynamic process — one that deepens trust, connection, and genuine desire. And each person plays an active role and responsibility in ensuring mutual comfort.
You’ll also hear about some of the most common frameworks used to understand consent — from FRIES (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific, developed by Planned Parenthood) and CRISP (Considered, Reversible, Informed Specific, Participant) to frameworks used in the kink community such as SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) and RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink). As well as the Yes, No, Maybe List. Each of these helps shape awareness, yet none replace real-time communication.
Tara and André share examples of what consent can sound like in the moment even in non-sexual environments - for example a recent example where Tara asked someone - Would you be open to me giving you a compliment?”, why asking builds connection rather than killing the mood, and how saying — or hearing — a clear no can be just as sexy as an enthusiastic yes.
And finally they talk about consent and law.
This conversation reminds us that consent is the heartbeat of healthy intimacy — an evolving, mutual agreement that requires awareness, communication, and care.
Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452.
📖 Episode Chapters:
3:07 Understanding Consent
6:07 Ongoing Consent: Myths & Realities
12:21 Consent Frameworks
23:14 The Nuances of Consent
34:25 Navigating Compliments & Consent
40:20 Consent in Different Scenarios
55:50 The Legal Landscape of Consent
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Ever wondered what it’s really like to go to a sex or lifestyle club for the first time — and what to do to prepare? Or maybe you’ve been before and the experience wasn’t what you hoped?
In this special episode Tara is live on location at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto, Ontario, joined by Event Host Amy,!
Together, they explore what to expect when visiting a lifestyle space — from atmosphere and etiquette to safety, consent, and connection.
You’ll get an insider tour of the newly renovated Mermaid Lounge and adjoining X-Club and hear practical guidance for what to do before, during, and after your visit to spaces like these so the experience feels positive, secure, and aligned with your personal values and boundaries.
Included in this discussion is how to plan before the event with a partner — including what scenarios you’re open to exploring and how you’ll check-in throughout the visit and communicate if one of you feels uncomfortable or needs support once you’re there. Even with the best planning, emotions can arise, so having a shared plan for navigating them helps everyone feel safe and connected.
Whether you’re curious, nervous, or simply exploring new sides of your sexuality, this episode will help you feel prepared and confident.
🎧 Tune in for:
A guided tour of the Mermaid Lounge
Tips for your first (or next) lifestyle club experience
Consent, communication, and aftercare insights
How to plan ahead, check in, and debrief after attending
Details on T&A’s live talk on December 10: The 7-Step Securely Non-Monogamous Framework
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Mermaid Lounge hours, facilities, tickets and info available at: https://mermaidlounge.ca/
In Part 2 we continue our deep dive into the complex world of sex, relationships, and the taboos that shape them.
We explore what makes certain topics so charged, how our personal experiences influence what we consider “off-limits,” and why breaking taboos can lead to more honest and connected relationships.
💬 In this episode:
What Are the Biggest Taboos Around Sex & Relationships? We examine the issues people still hesitate to talk about — and how these silences affect connection and trust.
Personal Perspectives on Breaking Taboos - we share our own stories on what it means to confront stigma, challenge assumptions, and choose openness over secrecy.
Community Reflections - Drawing from listener and community feedback, we discuss the taboos that continue perpetuate — and why some conversations still feel risky to have, even in open-minded circles.
Why is Breaking Taboos Important ? Finally we explore why taboos should be broken and whether some taboos might serve a purpose — creating mystery, excitement, or deeper meaning — and how to balance curiosity with respect, consent, and intention.
It’s a thoughtful, candid conversation about where our edges come from, how they evolve, and why it’s worth questioning them in pursuit of deeper authenticity and connection.
✨ Catch us live!We will be at Booth 322 at the Toronto Taboo Show, October 17–19, 2025. We will be giving seminars Friday at 6:30 PM and Saturday at 8:30 PM on Non-Monogamy Essentials: Making it Secure, Satisfying, and Sexy!
📖 Episode Chapters:
00:00 — Breaking Taboos in Sex and Relationships
05:20 — Exploring Non-Monogamy and Its Misunderstandings
10:48 — Personal Experiences with Sexuality and Openness
16:37 — Addressing Common Taboos and Myths in Non-Monogamy
25:08 — Navigating Relationship Taboos
29:14 — The Complexity of Secret Partners
31:55 — Reprioritizing Partners in Non-Monogamy
36:21 — Challenging Myths About Polyamory
38:58 — Sexual Health and Multiple Partners
40:40 — Consent and Altered States
41:43 — The Pressure of “Best” Sex
44:11 — The Importance of Breaking Taboos
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In this episode, Tara sits down with Darryl Rosengreen, VP of Marketing and Promotion—and one of the owners—of The Taboo Show, to explore breaking taboos in sex and relationships.
Together, they talk about how events like The Taboo Show create safe, inclusive spaces for people to learn, explore, and get curious about sexuality, kink, and relationships. Tara and Darryl share how these environments can inspire conversations you may not have had before—or didn’t know how to start—and help normalize talking about sex, sexuality, and intimacy in fun and educational ways.
💬 In this episode:
✨ Catch us live at Taboo!T&A will be at Booth 322 at the Toronto Taboo Show, October 17–19, 2025.
We'll also be speaking on Friday at 6:30 PM and Saturday at 8:30 PM on Non-Monogamy Essentials: Making it Secure, Satisfying, and Sexy!
🎟️ We’re also doing a draw for free tickets to the show! Enter at https://events.letstalkpolyamory.com/taboo2025draw before October 12 for your chance to win.
📖 Episode Chapters:00:00 — Introduction to Taboo Topics in Relationships03:46 — Exploring Taboos in Sex and Relationships07:56 — The Taboo Show Experience13:51 — Breaking Down Taboos Around Sex 16:46 — Advice for First-Time Attendees
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We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series—where we explore the big topics around non-monogamy, relationships, and sex, one letter at a time. These episodes were originally live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group, and over the past year we’ve been releasing them onto podcast platforms.
At the very start of Season 1, we shared L is for 5 Steps From Limitations to Liberation. Now, we’re circling back with a brand-new episode—because “L” deserves way more LOVE.
In this episode, we dive into a lineup of L’s: Lube, Libido, Latex, Lingerie, Love, Lies, Lust vs. Longing, Layering, Lifestyle, Leather, and Labia.
We take a playful and practical approach to breaking these down, sharing our own personal stories and examples from our work.
You’ll hear why lube is a game-changer (at any age), what lingerie really means (and if men have it too), and how destructive communication like layering sneaks into relationships.
We also dive deeper into libido and desire — what spontaneous vs. responsive desire actually looks like, how libido shifts over time, and what to do when there’s a mismatch in your relationship. Spoiler: it’s not all about “fixing” it — it’s about planning ahead, knowing mismatches are inevitable at some point, and building the communication skills to talk about it openly when it happens.
Join us for a mix of humour, honesty, and depth in exploring love, sex, and polyamory!
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