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Have you ever wondered why you still haven’t found the right person to marry? Why your relationships end in inevitable incompatibility, and your partner’s inability to truly understand you? Do you often suffer FOMO that a better person is just round the corner, a swipe away?

You may know intuitively that there is no such thing as a Perfect 10. But, your prospecting and perfectionism may be killing your love life in ways you didn’t even realize.

This week on the pod, we’re examining why there is no such thing as a perfect partner – via philosopher Alain de Botton’s essay 'Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person'. I’m sharing some anecdotes from the early days of my own marriage (oh boy!) and I’m also giving you gents five realistic ways to create space for your future partner – in your head and in your home.

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Excessive attention dedicated to one thing – whether that’s our screens or our sex lives – can bring about negative home habits and dull our other senses. Some studies have found that an excessive use of porn can even reduce the amount of dopamine receptors and transporters in adolescents.

Last week on the pod (Ep28), I introduced the concept of leaning in to a celibacy practice during this period of quarantine (and why a break from all sexual stimulation might be a good thing right now).

This week, I’m bringing you five alternative, sensual habits to replace and re-invigorate all five senses: touch, sight, sound, smell, and taste; to awaken more mindful living, and to keep your celibacy practice on track.

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We’re still locked up in coronavirus quarantine. Show of hands, gents: Who’s bored? Who’s lonely? Who’s horny? Who’s frustrated that they can’t go out and get laid?! Who’s bored and lonely and horny and frustrated – and procrastinating with a whole lotta porn right now?

Yep! I just went there. I’m asking the personal questions this week, guys, cause let’s face it – the most intimate parts of our lives are expressed within our homes, behind closed doors. 

If you’re bored and lonely, you may also be procrastinating and escaping the confines of reality with, like, a lot more porn use. In fact, PornHub reported an 11.6% spike in traffic in March (shocker, I know).

So, while these “uncertain times” are throwing a monkey wrench into your erm, ‘action plans’ at the moment, now might actually be the best time to lean into celibacy, if you've ever thought about giving up the ghost for a while.  I want to help keep you guys on track with your productivity, personal and relationship goals while, especially while you’re stuck at home and can’t reach out and touch someone.

So, this week and next on the show, I’m diving deeper here with you guys on how to alleviate one of the toughest aspects of loneliness to grapple with: that being the loss of sexual and sensual intimacy right now.

This week we’re gonna chat celibacy, because you’re already practicing it, to at least some degree, due to this outbreak. What it is, what it entails, and why you might choose to really lean into it – to welcome it – instead of perhaps begrudgingly deal with it. And, how to get real with yourself if you’re using porn as a distractionary crutch that's taking you off your A-game.

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I think we can all agree – there’s some crazy shit going down with our headspace right now, ammiright? We’d probably never admit it prior, but I think we’re all feeling a little bit lonely at the moment.

Loneliness is a cringey concept, though, isn’t it? In any other version of reality than these twisted quarantimes – has any guy on the face of the western planet ever actually admitted (in any semblance of sobriety, at least) that he’s lonely?

Acute feelings of depression and loneliness contribute to suicide – the current leading cause of death of British men, ages 20-49. In the US, suicide rates among young people have risen 35% since 2007. Putting this into current context, that’s more than cancer, road accidents, heart disease, and coronavirus – combined.

So how can you alleviate feelings of loneliness, when you can’t even leave your home?  Today on the show, I’m offering up five ways to reconnect, right now.  We may be in physical isolation, but we needn’t succumb to emotional isolation – to loneliness.

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It might sound like a crazy idea to start a business right now – but as my guest on the show today will prove, there is NEVER a perfect time to jump the corporate ship for the entrepreneurial bandwagon.  So, whether you’ve recently been furloughed, laid off, or you just want a change of professional pace – this is your episode, gents!

I’ve brought Zac Daunt, founding Director of  human-focused digital strategy consultancy, Tenasu, on the show this week to help you start thinking about your pivot.  Zac left his role at the helm of marketing for one of the biggest entertainment companies in Brisbane to set up his shingle with Tenasu in 2018.

In our chat, Zac offers up his strategies on how to maximize productivity when working from home; the three skills every new business owner needs; and how to bring insane value to your existing organization – even if you’ve been furloughed.

While Zac is based in Brisbane, he works with clients across twenty-three industries, seven major cities in Australia, and seven countries globally  – from the comfort of his own home.

Reach out to Zac on Linkedin at linkedin.com/in/zacdaunt or tenasu.com

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One of the biggest questions I get asked by clients when I work with them on The Hustler Consult is how they can store and organize their shoes.

So, to help you guys craft your own shoe organization system, I’ve brought my client, super sneakerhead, Portland-based Cyrus Coleman onto the show this week.  Cyrus landed his dream job designing in-house for Nike Basketball Apparel, and is tasked with creating the Nike-licensed uniforms for the NBA, NCAA, and WNBA teams.

You’re going to hear, step-by-step, Cyrus’ journey to Nike – and just how he landed that dream role with a bit of help and accountability from his friends. 

We’re also showing you how Cyrus and I tackled his new shoe organization display – which called upon his love of retail experience design – to keep his shoes not only  functional and organized but beautifully centerstage in his one-bedroom space.

Find Cyrus on Instagram at @cyruscoleman or at calmcoolcreative.com

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When shopping for furniture, have you ever stopped to think about who designed that piece you're about to put in your home?  Do you ever wonder about their inspiration, their creative process, or even their personal story?

My guest on the show this week, Caleb Zipperer, is the creative force behind so many of my favorite pieces offered up by CB2 (more on my love affair with the elegantly refined furniture retailer inside the episode).  When I found this out, I knew I had to have him on the show. 

I anticipated we'd chat about Caleb's creative process, and educate listeners on the furniture design process (which, of course we did!).  But I didn't expect to hear from Caleb such an impactful – and eerily timely – story of his personal struggle to achieve his professional success, in the face of adversity largely beyond his control.

I'm humbled and honored to help Caleb share and celebrate his story – and I hope this episode brings enduring strength and resilience to everyone dealing with the coronavirus pandemic. 

Caleb Zipperer is NYC-based industrial designer who has designed and engineered furniture for Alexandra Champalimaud, CB2, West Elm, and Pottery Barn.  His pieces have been exhibited at the Salon Art and Design show in NYC, and the International Contemporary Furniture Fair, amongst others. His work has been featured in Architectural Digest, Dezeen, The Robb Report, Dwell,  Surface, New York Magazine, and Apartment Therapy. He founded Zipperer Studio in 2010 to prototype his designs for manufacture.

Find Caleb at zippererstudio.com, on Instagram at @calebzipperer.

For full shownotes and a curated selection of Bethany's favorites pieces Caleb has designed for CB2, head to atelierwrede.com/24.

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Quarantined at home and missing your favorite cocktail bar? Confused on how to date or dress like a gentleman while social distancing?

To help to keep you guys in good spirits in these ‘quarantimes’, I’ve brought Georgette Moger-Petraske on the the show.

Georgette is a style, travel and spirits writer whose work has appeared in Wine Enthusiast, Departures, Imbibe and Edible magazines. Her best-selling book, the liquid memoir, 'Regarding Cocktails' (Phaidon), is a recipe guide and celebration of her late husband, visionary bartender Sasha Petraske's legacy in spirits and cocktails.

In our chat, Georgette recounts her love story with Sasha, and her inspiration for finishing the book where Sasha left off.  We reflect on Sasha’s rules of gentlemen’s decorum and Georgette offers up some clever tips and hacks for how to stock your home bar, how to live well, and show up for your dates – even while marooned at home.

'Regarding Cocktails' is available now from Phaidon Press or your favorite bookseller. Find Georgette at georgettemoger.com or on Instagram @georgettelillianmp

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