There is no greater miracle than the process of pregnancy and birth! It is possible the most transformative rite of passage a person can go through, and so of course it can bring with it myriad challenges.  

We hear and read a lot about the mother's experience through this amazing transformative time, and rightly so, yet we don't hear a great deal about the father's experience. Of course he has a very different experience which is not always an easy one.  

In this episode I share a little about my own experience as I have been navigating the pregnancy journey with my partner Stephanie, and bring light to many of the complex challenges that many men would face at this time. Of course everyone's experience is their own but hopefully I offer a voice here that may be accurate for many men, and informative for their women.  

I would so love to read some of your own experiences and answer any questions you may have.   

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Co-dependency gets a bad rap and is often sold to us as being something "wrong", which I don't think is helpful.  

I like to see co-dependency as a natural phase on the evolutionary journey of relationship.  

In this episode I share my view on the evolutionary trajectory we can take on our journey as a relational being.  

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Our modern relational and family paradigm has created a very harmful epidemic of isolation around the western world and this doesn't have to be the case.  

In this episode I talk about why it is so very important for us to relieve our partner from the pressure of being everything for us. We are communal beings and so we need to branch out beyond our picket fences to create more of a community of support as individuals, couples and families.  

If this is useful to you I'd love to read your comments, questions and feedback so please leave them below.  

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Break ups really suck, of course they do, but sometimes they're really really necessary. But how do we know when it's time to call it a day?  

In this episode I delve into the considerations we need to be tussling with to make sure we're making the right decision at the right time, and in so doing, trying our best to minimise the damage, to ourselves and those around us.  

Ending a relationship is never an easy thing to do but staying in a bad one to avoid the difficulty is never going to yield a good outcome for anyone involved.  

I hope this is useful for some of you and that it helps to ease some avoidable pain.  

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We all have the experience, either in a new relationship or in one we've been in for a while, when the sex is just a bit below par, but what do we do about it?  

Sex is a crucially important part of life and of a good healthy relationship and Nobody should be enduring BAD SEX! But it's not always easy to confront the matter when it arises.  

In this episode I share my thoughts on what to do when we're just not getting the satisfaction we want and deserve from the sex we're having.  

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When is it ok to say those three very small but very significant words?  

These very simple words can have us all tied up in a tizz and wondering if its ok to say them, or if they're not said or reciprocated, we can get into an even bigger tizz about that.  

When is the right time to share an expression of our love for someone, and what does that even mean anyway? These are some big questions.  

In this episode I talk about what these words mean to me and I also share some things that I feel are a good idea for us to look out for in our desire or aversion to sharing these three little words.  

I hope this is useful to you. If you like what I have to share please go ahead and click the like button, share it with your friends and loved ones, please leave your comments and questions, and of course click that good ol' subscribe button.  

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I'm pretty sure we've all had the experience of being in a new relationship and becoming "head over heals" about this new person and losing all sight of everyday reality in the process.  

Infatuation is when we get totally inebriated on the new object of our love and desire and lose all sense of self, and whats important to us, and we generally begin to act a bit crazy.   

New love is of course a beautiful experience and we do get drunk on the yummy feelings that happen at this time, but we don't have to lose ourself.  In this episode I help us understand the signs that we may have fallen into the infatuation trap and what we can then to do about it. 

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I think we've all got a little kinky side to us that sometimes gets locked away in the dark corners of our private fantasies, but for some people getting kinky is a very important part of their life and individual sexual expression.  

Kink and BDSM has definitely become much more mainstream in recent years thanks to a certain series of books and films. While I think thats a great thing it is super important to dispel any of the myths and misinterpretations that can come from the media, so our experiences are safe, consensual and of course, deliciously fun!  

In this episode I dive into the dark or not so dark world of kink to bring you some foundational understanding that can help you to explore some of the edges of your sexual expression, and maybe bring a little more spice to your bedroom, or dungeon.  

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If you'd like to get in touch with me directly to discuss how I can support you on your journey then please contact me through the website http://www.nictovey.com/

I'm sure we've all had the experience of coming across traits, behaviours, values or beliefs in a person we're in relationship with that just don't feel good to us, and sometimes these can be enough to make or break a relationship. But sometimes these "red flags" can be hard to spot, or easy to dismiss, to our own detriment.  

Of course we're all different and we value different things, and thats a good thing, except when it isn't! We can save ourselves a whole lot of pain and hardship by recognising the red flags early and then doing what we need to do to address them and take care of our needs.  

In this episode I discuss the common red flags, how to recognise them and what we can then do with them.  

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Part 2 on this conversation on Trauma in relationships.  

To continue the very BIG conversation on trauma in relationships, in this episode I dive deeper into Attachment Theory.  

Attachment Theory is all the rage these days, and for good reason - Its a very important and useful model that helps us understand our relationship dynamics, and how our early childhood experiences helped shape the people we are in relationship, for good and bad.  

There's so much more you can learn about Attachment Theory in books and online but here I give you the basics which will be enough to start understanding yourself and your partner a little more.  

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