Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching

By Aubree Henderson

Professional calm-in-the-chaos Aubree Henderson answers listener-submitted questions about relationships, self-love, boundaries, body image, communication, sexuality, and just being a person in a fuck... more

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The podcast currently has 109 episodes available.

Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching episodes:

June 29, 2020 38: The three big reasons we self-sabotage.
A listener writes about her struggles with self-sabotage as she works toward her personal health goals, and we dive in to three big reasons WHY we self-sabotage and how to better understand how these might be showing up for you.

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30min
June 22, 2020 37: Healthy conflict is a catalyst for intimacy.
We are socialized to believe that conflict is mean, impolite, and leads to disconnection (hello, white supremacy culture). But the reality is that, when approached in a healthy way, conflict doesn’t drive us apart - it actually creates deeper intimacy and more meaningful connection.
THE CHARACTERISTICS OF WHITE SUPREMACY CULTURE - From Dismantling Racism: A Workbook for Social Change Groups, by Kenneth Jones and Tema Okun, ChangeWork, 2001 https://www.showingupforracialjustice.org/white-supremacy-culture-characteristics.html
Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld.com
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28min
June 15, 2020 36: Guided Meditation: Creating Warm Space for Difficult Emotions.
A guided meditation to cultivate relaxation, calm, and safety to acknowledge your emotions and experiences. Featuring an excerpt from "Principles" by the poet Danez Smith.

Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld.com

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June 08, 2020 35: Why guilt alone is not productive.
Guilt is adaptive - we feel bad when we screw up or when we realize that our actions have harmed others. But unless we do something with it, staying in our guilt isn’t useful - and is actually really selfish.
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22min
June 01, 202034: Anti-racism isn't a self-help exercise for white folks.
To my fellow white folks in this community: making ourselves feel better by looking away from Black people's pain and pretending that we haven't perpetuated it is not self-care. Anti-racism is a lifelong, at times deeply challenging and uncomfortable, ongoing commitment - not a one-time personal development course or a self-help book we can put down and check off the list. Come on in - we need to talk.
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The below is obviously not an exhaustive list of resources, but some that I have been sharing on an individual basis. There are many many more resources offered within each of these as well. Let's get to work.
COACHING & COURSES
Book a session with Wanda Swan, Anti-Oppression Coach by emailing [email protected] - Wanda Swan is nationally-recognized and awarded anti-violence advocate with a nearly 15-year career in supporting survivors of violence within collegiate and nonprofit communities. She leads from an anti-oppression lens and teaches that in order to end violence we must first unravel oppression. She offers individual and group sessions for those seeking to examine the ways that they have consciously or unconsciously contributed to the harm of others and/or the sustainability of anti-Blackness.

Rachel Ricketts' Spiritual Activism 101 Course - "If you want to dive deep into how to commit to anti-racist efforts and get comfortable with your discomfort around discussing and addressing race and racism." https://www.rachelricketts.com/online-courses

ONLINE RESOURCES:
Racial Equity Tools resources on Whiteness & White Privilege https://www.racialequitytools.org/fundamentals/core-concepts/whiteness-and-white-privilege
Anti-Racism Resources for White People: http://bit.ly/ANTIRACISMRESOURCES

BOOKS:
Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad (NOTE: I am currently reading and working through this book in a larger group as of 6/1/20 and would love to discuss it with you, either 1:1 or in a group discussion setting, to offer accountability and support. Reach out to me at [email protected] if you want to discuss further.)
How To Be An Antiracist by Dr. Ibram X. Kendi
Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson
So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander

INSTAGRAM:
@mspackyetti
@rachel.cargle
@iamrachelricketts
@ibramxk
@theconsciouskid
@ckyourprivilege
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32min
May 18, 2020 33: What you’re actually afraid of when you think you’re “too much”.
Ever felt like you’re “too much”? SO MANY of us carry around a fear of being “too much” of something - and whatever it is for you, I’m so glad you’re listening to this episode, because I think it’s important for us to really dig deeper into this fear that we carry around and identify where it’s REALLY coming from.
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26min
May 11, 2020 32: Your healing will never be complete.
A listener asks: I'm discovering that I'm a people pleaser and am working closely with my therapist to work on some of that. I am also in the process of becoming of foster parent and I'm a little nervous about moving forward in the process because of my people pleasing tendencies. Do you have an episode that touches more on this? I think my biggest fear is that by accepting a child with trauma into my life and home without being 100% healed and operating on all cylinders I might be doing them a disservice if that makes sense. READY TO DIVE IN? Learn more about 1:1 coaching with Aubree and sign up for your FREE 30-minute consult and sample coaching session: http://www.aubreehenderson.com
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27min
May 04, 2020 31: Walking the tightrope of “too much” and “not enough” (listener question & guided meditation)
A listener asks how to get better at balancing the pressure to avoid being “too much” while also worrying about not being enough.
Also, a guided meditation on worthiness & rootedness.
QUESTION: “I saw your most recent instagram post about feeling simultaneously like i’m too much and at the same time like I’m not enough. it hit me like a freight train. I reread it twice.
I have felt this way for my whole life. the constant push and pull - don’t be too affectionate, but be warm enough that people want to keep you around. don’t let people know you need them, but make sure they come to need you. etc etc
here’s the thing - you seem to have overcome this. but I don’t know how to be in relationships and NOT do this. (I do the too much not enough thing in general in my life, but I notice it most and it hurts most in my relationships) I am afraid of losing people by being overbearing or needy or burdening them with my feelings, and I am also terrified of boring them or not giving them a reason to want to stick around. where this leaves me is in this strange intermediary state of paralysis.
what are some tangible steps I can take to start to overcome this? how do I get better at this? I don’t want to be stuck in this limbo forever.”
29:36 GUIDED MEDITATION
Poem: How Surely Gravity’s Law by Rainer Maria Rilke
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April 27, 2020 30: It’s okay to to be hungry for love.
People need other people, babe. Now more than ever. So let’s talk about how our people-pleasing beliefs hold us back from real connection - even when we’re in the process of unlearning and healing from them. Also, a guided meditation to accompany this reflection.
Excerpt from @yumisakugawa on Instagram.
Poem - “The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer.
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33min
April 20, 2020 29: Why you should befriend your inner critic.
Most of us have an inner critic - with familiar refrains of “you’ll never be good enough” or “you’re a failure”, these internal voices can be a nuisance at best and deeply painful at worst. I‘ve been asked how to get rid of one’s inner critic - and I don’t believe you can (or should). In fact, I think you should make friends with it.⁣
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Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on instagram! You can also submit your question as a VOICE MEMO at anchor.fm/aubreehenderson ⁣
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Love what you hear on the podcast and want some individualized accountability and support? Hire me as your coach! I'm a certified life coach specializing in cultivating self-worth for women and queer folks. Through a weekly video call along with text & email support throughout the week, we’ll work together to identify your goals and create a plan to clear out the stuff that’s getting in your way. I have a few slots open for coaching clients in the new year (clients can be located anywhere in the world - my services are mostly virtual!) - and I offer a totally FREE consultation including a sample coaching session! If you’re interested (or even if you’re just curious) you can learn more and sign up for a free sample session at www.aubreehenderson.com
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FAQs about Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching:

How many episodes does Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching have?

The podcast currently has 109 episodes available.