This episode is the second half of our Q&A treat with Yahoo Finance's Top Female Sales Coach of 2020, Jessica Marx. This podcast was recorded from her recent life call, where I was a guest speaker. If you haven't listened to the first half of the episode, don't worry. You'll be fine. You won't get lost or anything, but it's still is worth checking—I promise you it's a good one, lots of good stuff and great info.

Join me in this episode of the Balanced and Free Mom Boss for part two, the Q&A special where Jessica and I answer questions from participants and give great coaching and pieces of advice that'll hopefully resonate with you.

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This episode is a treat for you. Yahoo Finance's Top Female Sales Coach of 2020 and my wonderful friend, Jessica Marx, has recently invited me as a guest speaker on her live calls. As the awesome woman she is, she sent me a copy of the Q&A portion to share with you guys.

Join me in this episode of the Balanced and Free Mom Boss for part one of this special Q&A for the participants where Jessica and I communicate, share tips, answer questions, and provide coaching advice to women entrepreneurs.

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In this episode, I will talk about holiday stress and being overwhelmed during these times. Since the holidays are fast approaching and it's kind of my jam, I wanted my experience on how to alleviate stress and prevent getting overwhelmed during these times.  

Join me in this episode of the Balanced and Free Mom Boss as I share tips on how to make the holidays more enjoyable and meaningful without stressing over it.

Key Points:

Manage your mind and expectations. Pay attention to what you're thinking when you begin to feel overwhelmed, anxious, or stressed about things. Make an effort to let go of the things that you can’t control and focus more on the things you can.

Know what is important to you. Be aware of what's important and manage priorities. If you know what's important it will be easier to plan ahead, set your priorities in order, and say ‘no’ to less important things.

Let go of people-pleasing, it's one of the biggest reasons why we're doing things in the holidays that we're not keen on doing. It’s okay to politely decline an invitation if you really don’t want to go. People-pleasing on the holidays will not do us any favor.

Allow people to have their holiday experience and allow yourself to have yours. Bake goodies, share gifts, give service, because you want to do it. It's all about being intentional and liking what you do. Do it because that is how you want to enjoy your holiday. 

Decide ahead of time. This will significantly cut back on mental and emotional stress. Having a plan on what to do or not do, who to see or not see, which events to participate in will help alleviate all that holiday stress. The less you spend thinking about stuff like these the more it'll make the holidays meaningful and enjoyable.

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In this episode, I will talk about anxiousness and the things that drive it. Have you always felt that feeling of always wanting to do more? That your efforts aren’t enough? While it is not always a welcome feeling, anxiousness is completely normal, and when managed correctly it can help us focus in the right direction. Although the things I’ve discussed in this episode can help get you through these conditions, please do not mistake the feeling of anxiousness for anxiety. While the initial feelings of anxiety and anxiousness can be the same, those who struggle with anxiety disorders will tend to be anxious constantly. It’s always best to seek professional help if you’re constantly experiencing anxiety episodes.

Join me in this episode of the Balanced and Free Mom Boss for a meaningful discussion about anxiety and the feeling of needing to do more. Having that constant feeling of anxiousness is completely normal. 

Key Points:

It’s absolutely normal to be anxious and have thoughts that we’re not enough, that we need to do more. We are not at the mercy of your circumstances. We have the capacity to control which thoughts to entertain or not so we can focus on the things that really matter to us.

Anxiousness is basically our primitive brain kicking in. It is just our brain trying to solve a problem that isn't a problem. Be open to the possibility that it is being driven by fears that aren’t really a problem to be fearful of.

We are not our thoughts. It doesn’t define us. They don't make us good or bad. We just need to pay attention, be aware, and not indulge in thoughts that are not serving us on who we want to be. 

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In this episode, I will talk about perfectionism and why it is not always necessarily a good thing. Essentially perfectionism is a sign that we’re afraid to mess up or be rejected. Without awareness, perfectionism could impact our ability to create and maintain balance. Paying too much attention to getting things right often gives us tunnel vision. We focus too much on getting things done the way we wanted that we tend to shut ourselves out from the people and things that are around us. Perfectionists tend to over-plan, doubt, and worry about things that are not even created yet. This can throw our mental and emotional balance off. That said, wanting good results and the desire to be good at something is perfectly normal. We just need a conscious effort to keep our perfectionist tendencies in check.

Join me in this episode of the Balanced and Free Mom Boss for an insightful chat about perfectionism and failure and how it can affect our mental and emotional balance.

Key Points:

Perfection is not a realistic standard.  And, forcing that standard on ourselves can take a toll on our mental and emotional balance.

Perfectionism is essentially a fear of failure and rejection. Sometimes we just have to let go and roll with the punches and allow ourselves to be human.

Failure and rejection are only opinions. It can only hurt us if we frame it into something hurtful. Think about famous inventors, they look at failure as data or feedback on getting closer to their goals.

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In this episode, I will talk about people-pleasing and how it can upset our balance. That’s not to say that we shouldn’t do nice things and please people. This simply means that we just have to be sincere in our intentions and we should be aware of the reasons and beliefs on why we do what we do. We help someone because that is who we truly are. We give out compliments because we wanted to brighten someone’s day. We should avoid doing good deeds as a pre-emptive action into getting something that we want in return.

Join me in this episode for a discussion on how people-pleasing, when misused can be detrimental to our balance. And, when done with the insincere intentions, can conceal our true selves and create a cycle of misunderstanding, confusion, and frustration. 

Key Points:

If you're trying to please everyone, you're pleasing no one. To put it simply, people-pleasing is just emotional manipulation with the best of intentions. 

Saying "no" isn't always a bad thing. You can be a kind and thoughtful person and still say "no". Just have to be honest when saying "yes" or "no". Sincerely saying "no" is a sign of maturity in your relationship.

When saying "no" you don’t owe someone an explanation. Self-honesty is key in knowing who to say yes or no to. In the long run, authenticity will make you happier and benefit you more than trying to please everyone.

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In this episode, I will talk about when things go wrong. 2020 has been a crazy year, we have had gone through fires, floods, political unrests, riots, recession, pandemic, and a lot more. It’s has been a challenging year for most of us. I wanted to be clear that it’s perfectly normal to have negative emotions during these strange times. We’re all doing the best we can with what we have. We are all in this together. This is what this episode is for.

Join me in this episode of the Balanced and Free Mom Boss as we talk about patience, resilience, and self-control as we try and get through these rough times and how to minimize its effect on us and the people around us.

Key points:

Most of the time the negative outbursts come from unintentionally resisting our current reality and the negative emotions that we’re having. Awareness and acceptance can help minimize this.
Life will always have it’s negative and positive. To get more consistent, controlled results. The goal is to balance things a bit more. 

Taking responsibility for your emotions and allow and process on the thoughts surrounding them is the very first step in being in control of your actions and results.

Realize that every mistake, challenge, or trial we’re in, it’s always an opportunity to grow.

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In this episode, I will talk about the lies that we are told in society, or belief, or maybe just misconceptions about what balance truly is when it comes to motherhood, our businesses, or even self-care. I will also explain how to take responsibility for the stability of our minds and emotions.

Join me in this episode of the Balanced and Free Mom Boss and realize that balance isn’t about the time, it's the value that we are giving in the time that we are using. The balance is in the weight, not the time or the number of items.

Key Points:
True balance doesn't even actually come from trying to manage our time in perfect balance
It comes first from balancing our thoughts and managing our thoughts and emotions
Perfection is not the absence of negative emotion
Balance is being able to manage your thoughts and your emotions which then helps you manage your actions and your results regardless of what those circumstances are If our actions and results come from our emotions, then that is a lot to be giving up
Eliminating what's not necessary so that your scales aren't unbalanced in weight
Our experience of balance is in our ability to balance our minds and our emotions first, the rest just follows suit from there

5 Lies:

• Lie #1 - Balance means equal time for everything
• Lie #2 - If you are balanced, you will never feel negative emotion
• Lie #3 - Circumstances will always be ideal
• Lie #4 - Balance means you have to do it all, all of the time
• Lie #5 - It's not possible

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In this episode, I will talk about an easy framework to create a successful system, strategy, business plan, home plan, etc. I will also tell you about my online course where you will learn to take back your time and mind so that you will no longer keep on spinning your wheels.

Join me on this episode of the Balanced and Free Mom Boss as I explain the difference between a Success Sandwich and a Success Salad. You will also know how I help my clients through my online course that will launch on October 1st.

Key Points:
Clarity is the foundation, it is the mindset and knowing where we are now, identifying the problems versus where we want to be
Strategy -- we're building them on top of Clarity
Consistency is the thing that holds your structure together -- mindset tools and management, things that build habits and break down mind blocks that keep us stuck
Build success sandwiches
Clarity, strategy, and consistency

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In this episode, I will talk about how to make sure that we have a clear objective and a clear desired result. I will also talk about why we create systems and routines before we even know what the real problem is or will be. Also, I will explain why schedules and routines are wonderful things, they are not the cause of your emotions, they are simply a tool to make tasks and goals easier to achieve.

Join me in this episode of the Balanced and Free Mom Boss and learn how to use our primitive brain to our advantage instead of allowing it to derail us.

Key Points:
If you're feeling uncertain or anxious, let loose in order to feel better and avoid the negative feeling
We give up control over what happened on inside of us, which is all of our thoughts and emotions to try and control something outside of us
Anxiety and uncertainty is from the brain creating problems that aren't actually problems yet or maybe never will be
Old beliefs and thoughts are still there still creating the emotions that we are trying to fix
Add your primitive brain to your list of children that you take care of
Figure out how to get uninterrupted time instead of focusing on how to multitask
Pay attention to the thoughts that you are thinking when you are tempted to quit or not honor your plan
There is nothing wrong with making a task more fun
Got to take control over what we actually have control
Pay attention to what we are thinking and feeling when we're not wanting to follow through on the things that we set up for ourselves

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