Come join me in my free Facebook group ❤️🩹WIVES CHANGING LIVES❤️🩹, because the Get Cozy by Valentine’s Day Challenge has been going HARD. It’s really a crash course in transformation with 7 key points so far.
On Day 1 we talked about having a vision for your life that guides your actions.
Just listen to this amazing advice from David Cameron Gikandi:
"Before you do anything, always ask yourself: 'Is this who I Am? Is this how I wish to define myself into a higher next?'"
On Day 2, we talked about the three marriage advantages that come from taking bold actions which arise out of your driving sense of mission and purpose.
On Day 3, we went through 17 questions to ask when tackling relationship obstacles to really broaden your perspective. The PDF worksheet with all the questions is posted in the group, and you’ll have access to it when you join.
One challenge participant commented that the experience took a lot out of her emotionally.
It is definitely enlightening, if exhausting, to consider an obstacle from so many angles.
On Day 4, We talked about why it can be so hard to apologize, and why it’s so important to do it anyway. The worksheet came with a plug and play apology template which I dared everyone to fill out and send to their husbands.
On Day 5, we talked about shifting our focus. What if your focus is only on the things that are supporting what you’ve decided about your husband because there is safety and predictability in being right, and justified, even if it means you’re unhappy?
On Day 6, we talked about the number one, most important principle of communication.
On day 7, we talked about rewriting your relationship history.
On the worksheet we listed examples of the bitter view, stories like “I was drunk and immature when we met and I never learned who he really was,” and the better view, which might sound like, “This all happened for a reason and I’m going to learn what this has to teach me.”
And we went over three vital steps in detail to changing your tragic backstory to your favorite romcom- or at least something you can be ok with.
And that’s where we left off. Kind of a firehose in the face if I’m honest. Sorry about that, but I hope you’ll join the group if you haven’t because you can get all those valuable worksheets and all the videos to go with them, and you can work through them on your own timetable. Watching and focusing on one per week would be ideal. Valentine’s Day was our focal point, but that really doesn’t matter.
We just used it as a symbol for leveling up your marriage to a more loving place.
Jump in this weekend, cause we still have three more lives, Monday we’ll talk about intimacy, Tuesday, V Day, we’ll talk about celebrating your love, and Wednesday we’ll announce the prize winners, talk about how you can wrap your head around everything and next steps you can take.
I really hope to see you in the group.
