At 25 years old, I thought my world was ending.  I thought I’d lost my last chance at happiness, because I had married someone who wasn’t loving me the way I thought I should be loved.  I felt rejected.  I felt hopeless.  I railed on myself for being so utterly foolish and for being too weak to step away earlier.   I felt powerless, weighed down with resentment and blame, unconscious of the fact that I needed to take the lead in being good to myself.  I cried.  I defended myself.  I accused him. To get lost in a novel or a movie was the best, but when it was over, I would reawaken to the dismal reality of my miserable life. I remember one day my Mom took me on an outing to get a massage, but I was so saturated with sadness that they may as well have been massaging a brick or a deflated balloon. I obsessed over every disparity between us, magnified every grating habit, discounted everything benign or pleasant or positive, made myself a complete and utter drag to be around and then wondered why he wasn’t falling all over himself to romance me.

But I give myself grace for that time because I didn’t know how to do otherwise. I didn’t know I had the power to flip my script and kick the life of my dreams into high gear, whether or not he chose to accompany me.  But it’s true.

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When you’re deep in distress, getting out of bed can require every ounce of your willpower and might be the most difficult step you’re called upon to take.  It also might be the single most important.

Listen to this tender quote from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. “If you cannot fly then run, if you cannot run then walk, if you cannot walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”

This is most important, when you feel like moving forward the least.  Do you feel that?  I feel that one very deeply.

In order to run your little tribe, and keep sawing through those logs of unruly children, piles of laundry, little boy dribbles all over your toilet, and having your ears blistered by the six dreaded words, “Mommy can you help me wipe?”  You need to do as the late great Dr. Stephen Covey suggests, and sharpen your blessed saw!

And queen, you are that vital instrument.  You: your patience, your physical strength and endurance, your emotional health, your ability to hold a welcoming, attentive space for others to express themselves in, you are the most important tool, the most precious resource you have.  How will you care for it?

Yes, you need sleep.  But it is equally important for you to claim the time you need to cultivate an inner space that can hold onto hope again.

When you invest in a one-on-one coaching package with me, we’ll start by taking a look at your morning routine, and make some magic happen.  We’ll make sure you’re fitting in that miraculous and vital renewal time, and  I’ll record a daily meditation audio specifically for you, by name, designed to strengthen your ability to overcome the exact trials you’re struggling with, and growing and adapting every week as you do.

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REFERENCE: THE MIRACLE MORNING book by Hal Elrod

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