Be The Wolf

One of the biggest struggles people have is accepting that things are not as they would like them to be.

Constantly thinking about how they hate their boss, their job, their in-laws. Wanting things to be different than how they are.

This takes up a lot of energy, and it keeps the mind occupied and focused on what you don’t want.

To really be able to focus on and create what you do want you will need to go through neutral first. This is the place of acceptance.

Join me as I talk about acceptance share some of my own struggles in coming to that place of neutrality.

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Everyone knows if you don’t pull a weed out by the root, it will grow back.

But what about our issues? Most people I know have been working on the same stuff for years.

They use phrases like “I’m getting better at standing up for myself” OR “Im working on my boundaries.”

One thing I know for sure is that when you change at the unconscious level the change is instant and permanent.

But how do you know that you are getting to the source of the problem? What if you fix one behavior and then the problem manifests in another way?

You quit drinking, but you become a dry drunk (still exhibiting the poor behavior of being a drunk without the drink).

When I finally quit smoking (I spent 8 years trying), it was instant, easy, and I never looked back. The benefit I received from smoking was “connection.” I seemed outgoing, but always struggled internally with connection. Cigarettes gave me a comfort crutch.

When I lost my voice for ten days because of smoking, my unconscious finally realized that smoking prohibited connection if it took my voice. I never smoked another cigarette again. Easy. Instant. Permanent.

But I did start drinking more. Not a habit I needed to increase.

But, unless you pull the weed out by the root, the weed will grow back—in one form or another.

It is my honor to share this episode of Self-Sabotaging Sagas with my former client Kaddy Feast. We are going to dig deep into the life changing and profound results that come from taking pulling the weed out by the root.

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SSS-weight loss

Have you ever struggled to drop weight? Or maybe you reached your goal weight but had a hard time staying there.

Or maybe you just want to be healthier.

Does something always to throw a monkey wrench in your plans?

Maybe for you its the chocolate cake taunting you from the bakery window. Perhaps you struggle because you travel all the time for work, or it’s those dinners with friends that sabotage you.

You can break free from this cycle.

Join Lia Pinelli and myself as we discuss what really causes the struggle and how you can overcome it.

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Have you ever wondered why that person you dated for a month ghosted you?

How about why you have trouble going to a restaurant by yourself? Or maybe you wonder why you stayed in your last relationship six months too long?

The short answer is because people will do whatever it takes to avoid uncomfortable situations.

If you never push through the uncomfortable zone, you run the risk of living in a self imposed prison.

Join me as I dig deep into what keeps you in your comfort zone and why it is important to step out of it.

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There’s a reason your parents didn’t want you hanging out with certain kids. It is because we unconsciously pick up the behaviors and habits of the people we spend the most time with. 

Perhaps you have caught yourself saying that word you hate that all your friends say.

You made a conscious effort to NOT say it, yet it still came out of your mouth.

Your unconscious mind is ALWAYS learning and taking in information, even the information you consciously try to filter out.

Your brain takes in 11 million bits per second and you are only consciously aware of 40-50 of those bits.

By changing the circle of people around you will unconsciously influence your thoughts and behaviors and start to change. Couple this with a conscious drive to change your life and you are well on your way to transformation.

Join me and Matt Ode, cancer survivor, motivational speaker and coach as we talk about the people you surround yourself with and the effects it has on your life. 

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The first time I realized that the brain can change was after an eye infection created a hole in my cornea 4 mm wide.

At the worst of it, I though I would lose sight in my dominant, right eye. I feared losing the freedom of driving and I worried how it would affect my photography (I used my right eye to shoot).

Luckily the hole healed affecting my only vision minimally. 

By the time the infection healed my brain made me left eye dominant.

The first time I picked up a camera I naturally put the view finder right up to my LEFT eye. I was shocked!

Over the next few months I could feel my brain changing and rewiring. My handwriting even changed!

This experience sparked my interest in the plasticity of the brain.

Until the 1970s, neuroscientists believed that the brain was fixed through adulthood, but now we know better.

Today we know it is possible to rewire habits, behaviors, trauma.

We can even create major shifts in conditions such as Autism, Asperger’s, ADHD, and dyslexia brought on by neuro-developmental delay.

I specialize in rewiring behaviors, habits and trauma, and my guest this week, Sue Cook, specializes in neurodevelopment conditions. Join us for a conversation about changing your brain. 

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books:

Eat for your brain 2: find the right superfood symptom support

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Nutrition for Special Needs: What shall I feed my child?

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Do you really know what is keeping you from achieving your goals?

Before the pandemic, time was the biggest excuse. Then people had all the time in the world and still did not achieve their goals—making their dreams come true..

Okay, maybe you are too busy…but are you busy with the things that really matter?

Or are you letting perfectionism keep you stuck on the same thing forever?

Achieving goals is a natural confidence booster. AND it releases dopamine which feels good.

If you have been trying to accomplish the same thing for months and even years. There is something else holding you back, and it’s okay if you don’t know what it is.

That’s why there are coaches like myself and Linda Nicol to help you figure it out.

Stop for just a moment and imagine achieving that goal you’ve been putting off.

Really step into the senses of it. What do you feel, see, hear, and say to yourself.

Are you experiencing the feel-good dopamine flood through your body?

Now imagine how good it feels when you really do it—In real life.

Join me and Linda Nichols as we talk what pick apart what gets in the way of people achieving their goals and tell you what can be done about it. 

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I say celebrate your singleness!

But Genea, you say…

I am supposed to have a partner.

If I have a partner my family will get off my back.

I’m lonely and want to be with someone

It means I’m not good enough if nobody wants to be with me,

Yes, these are the stories you tell yourself, and NOT ONE of them is a good reason to get involved with the wrong person!

These reasons will cause you to settle, contort, and do all kinds of things in relationship that go against your highest self.

In single-hood we get the chance to really know ourself, the chance to step into who we are meant to me. And when we truly value ourself, then we are ready to step in and be a part of the great relationship we truly desire.

Step back, you don’t HAVE to be in partnership to be validated.

When you love yourself—TRULY, the outside validation that fills your emptiness now, won’t matter.

It is in this place of loving ourself that we hold our boundaries and put ourself first in relationship. When we do this we honor the best in ourselves, AND we honor the best in our partners.

We show them how to treat us by how we treat ourself.

This is important.

Being single is awesome. There are no rules. You are free to do what you want.

A great relationship is similar in that you still get to be fully YOU.

And if you don’t know how to be you in the first place, how will you able to maintain yourself in a relationship?

Build your internal foundation and frame first, then get yourself some equally powerful and independent arm candy.

And when you REALLY know your worth, not only is it easy to say no to the creeps, but you are way more likely to attract the kind of person you REALLY want.

I am so excited to have Shani Silver, the host of The Single Serving podcast on this episode of Self-Sabotaging Sagas. She wants to change the narrative around being single. She says, “Relationships are amazing and we deserve to have them. We just don’t deserve to be miserable in the meantime.”

Join us Tuesday , July 26th at 4pm EDT.

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The mind loves a problem, and even more than that, it loves the dopamine rush that comes from solving a problem.

Many people walk in circles in their little box while trying to solve a problem.

You can recognize these people because they constantly complain about the same things—Is that you?

They keep walking around in their box, digging themselves deeper and deeper.

We all go through times of feeling stuck in a rut. It’s frustrating and feels like you’re banging your head against the wall.

Why do some people have an easier time than others getting out of these stagnant places. What is different about them?

It comes down to IMAGINATION and action. If you have a problem, you can’t keep doing what you are doing and expect to solve it. You need to step outside of the box that created the problem.

You do this by using your imagination. Do you remember what it was like to dream up a fantasy world? Yes! Flex those muscles.

This is where most people drop the ball. It’s because they keep their thinking and imagination is boxed in by the limitations of past experiences and beliefs.

They prejudge and dismiss their ideas a stupid and impossible before they even get them out of their head.

Think outside your box!

If you could solve the problem in the box, it wouldn’t still be a problem would it?

Join me and David Everitt-Carlson as we discuss Thinking Outside the Box on Self-Sabotaging Sagas.

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Have you been through an intense negative event? Has your life never been quite the same since?

Or maybe you have one incident that keeps playing over and over in your head. Every time you think about it the emotions rise up and it’s like you’re right there. You can’t seem to escape it.

Like many others, I have suffered from trauma. Sometimes I replayed the event multiple times, and sometimes, I stuffed it down, doing everything in my power to pretend it never happened.

But in the dark of the night, or if I slowed down long enough, the replay would creep back into my mind causing me to relive the events.

As the years went by, I unconsciously contorted my actions and emotions to ensure the thoughts stayed out and the events would never happen again. Drink more, keep busy, go go go.

I became more and more controlling, less and less connected, and ultimately very unhappy.

Neurobiologists have proven that the mind and the body are 100% connected. Your experiences and your thoughts 100% affect every cell in your body. Therefore trauma affects both your body and mind.

Detaching my consciousness through alcohol and workaholism added more stress to my traumatized body.

Freedom came when I cleared the emotional effects of my past out from both my body and my mind.

Yes, freedom is possible!

Please join me and Holistic Trauma Counselor, Tamara Jefferies as we dig into The Trauma-Body Connection.

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Tamara Jefferies, MA, of Grow & Thrive Wellness is a Holistic Trauma Counselor, Transformational Coach, International Yoga Teacher, and Author who helps spiritual women heal trauma and transform their lives. In addition to her 1:1 Soul-Healing Counseling/Coaching sessions, she also expertly guides women in her Sister Sircles, online, Group Counseling 12-month program.

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