Be There in Five

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This week we have the fifth edition of Kate-lilah, Kate's [poorly named] series that answers listener voicemails, named after the iconic radio advice giver Delilah.

This episode discusses a variety of topics, namely:

-Every reality tv show she's ever liked

-Breaking up with a person you live with

-Why she's not friends with her neighbors

-How to pick a city to move to

-Dealing with an estranged family member

Among many, many other tangents, as usual!

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This week, Kate snorkels (as opposed to a deep dive) through the following topics:

Venn diagrams

Big berry picking energy

Farmer's markets in the early 2010s

The produce choices made by Instacart

Botanical Tourism

Instagram Husbands

Q[Anon] influencers

Wayfair scandal

Popular girl handwriting

90s note writing culture

Cowfe

The time God struck down on her at the Vatican

School supplies

Women's suffrage

How COVID has affected women in the workforce

How to support friends that are parents

What being a Black Belt taught me about life

A predictably cheesy ending

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Virtual Learning resources for parents/kids

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1X3APgpbl5J4O9qnwDXuJALO_hv8KVt3xzobwF1wRw5M/edit#gid=0

Atlantic article

https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2020/08/how-instagram-aesthetics-repackage-qanon/615364/

NYT article

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/03/business/economy/coronavirus-working-women.html

This week, Kate snorkels (as opposed to a deep dive) through the following topics:

Venn diagrams

Big berry picking energy

Farmer's markets in the early 2010s

The produce choices made by Instacart

Botanical Tourism

Instagram Husbands

Q[Anon] influencers

Wayfair scandal

Popular girl handwriting

90s note writing culture

Cowfe

The time God struck down on me at the Vatican

School supplies

Women's suffrage

How COVID has affected women in the workforce

How to support friends that are parents

What being a Black Belt taught me about life

A predictably cheesy ending

Support our sponsors!

Go to feals.com/BETHEREINFIVE and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping!

Go to nutrafol.com and use promo code BETHEREINFIVE and new customers will get twenty-percent off

2 free months of unlimited access to thousands of classes at Skillshare.com/BETHEREINFIVE

Virtual Learning resources for parents/kids

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1X3APgpbl5J4O9qnwDXuJALO_hv8KVt3xzobwF1wRw5M/edit#gid=0

Atlantic article

https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2020/08/how-instagram-aesthetics-repackage-qanon/615364/

NYT article

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/03/business/economy/coronavirus-working-women.html

This week, Kate takes on all different types of dress codes. After seeing a meme about how nothing brings women together quite like an unclear dress code, she was inspired to go through confusing and specific wedding/event dress codes, i.e. snappy casual, that coincidentally make her want to casually snap at the host. After going through some examples of listeners' unclear dress codes submitted on Instagram, she switches gears to discuss school dress codes and the unfair double standards upheld in their enforcement. She explores modern dress codes in different areas, discusses the implications of authority figures' commentary on adolescent women's bodies, the emphasis they imply on male education, and talks through some of the shockingly discriminatory language found in many dress codes. After that, she finishes off the episode by reading listener-submitted stories with her sister Kelly, about both school and wedding dress code mishaps. Enjoy!

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Teacher wishlists:

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References:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/if-you-can-punish-a-teenage-girl-for-spaghetti-straps-you-can-enforce-a-mask-mandate/2020/08/10/686bc20a-dafc-11ea-b205-ff838e15a9a6_story.html

https://nwlc.org/resources/dresscoded/

This week, Kate takes on dress codes. After seeing a meme about how nothing brings women together quite like an unclear dress code, she was inspired to go through confusing and specific wedding/event dress codes, i.e.  snappy casual, that coincidentally make her want to casually snap at the host. After going through some examples of listeners' unclear dress codes submitted on Instagram, she switches gears to discuss school dress codes and the unfair double standards upheld in their enforcement. She explores modern dress codes in different areas, discusses the implications of authority figures' commentary on adolescent women's bodies, and talks through some of the shockingly discriminatory language found in many dress codes. After that, she finishes off the episode by reading listener submitted stories with her sister Kelly, about both school and wedding dress code mishaps. Enjoy!

Support our sponsors!

Audible.com/bethereinfive to get a free audiobook (and read Finding Freedom before Kate podcasts about it)

Liquidiv.com promo code bethereinfive gets you 20% off

Teacher wishlists:

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/u/3/d/17UydBWl5peEVzy_7vy2qqRc3aHr5UpTlZ1NqxLF8ysM/htmlview

References:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/if-you-can-punish-a-teenage-girl-for-spaghetti-straps-you-can-enforce-a-mask-mandate/2020/08/10/686bc20a-dafc-11ea-b205-ff838e15a9a6_story.html

https://nwlc.org/resources/dresscoded/

This week, Kate deep dives into Taylor Swift's surprise 8th studio album: Folklore. This album has everything; cardigans, soothing somber melodies, indie-rock flair, clandestine meetings and stolen stares. She walks through her favorite lyrics, the standout themes, the [somewhat limited, relatively speaking] Easter Eggs we know about, among many other Taylore-related tangents. In this podforsaken mess of an episode, she also meanders through what she deems to be the broader symbolism of the concept of folklore at this point in her career, how it ties to Miss Americana, and how this album is somehow both the most and least 'her' thing all at the same time. In lieu of a part 2, this episode is extra lengthy and detailed by design for those of you that are looking for a friend to talk TS with while social distancing. The devil's in the details, but you've got a friend in me :) Enjoy!

(Taylor Swift Folklore Album Review)

Links: Reaction video/episode by episode deep dives (coming soon) and PowerPoint parties: patreon.com/bethereinfive

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Music:

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dB_TIxLjUB8

Quoted article:

https://www.vulture.com/2020/07/taylor-swift-folklore-aaron-dessner-breaks-down-every-song.html

Taylor Swift Folklore Album Review

This week, Kate deep dives into Taylor Swift's surprise 8th studio album: Folklore. This album has everything; cardigans, soothing somber melodies, indie-rock flair, clandestine meetings and stolen stares. She walks though her favorite lyrics, the standout themes, the [somewhat limited, relatively speaking] Easter Eggs we know about, among many other Taylore-related tangents. In this podforsaken mess of an episode, she also meanders through what she deems to be the broader symbolism of the concept of folklore at this point in her career, how it ties to Miss Americana, and how this album is somehow both the most and least 'her' thing to do all at the same time. In lieu of a part 2, this episode is extra lengthy and detailed by design for those of you that are looking for a friend to talk TS with while social distancing. The devil's in the details, but you've got a friend in me :) Enjoy!

Links:
Reaction video/episode by episode deep dives (coming soon) and PowerPoint parties: patreon.com/bethereinfive

Kate's instagram: instagram.com/bethereinfive

Support our sponsors!

Rothys.com/bethereinfive

2 free months of premium membership at skillshare.com/bethereinfive

Ritual.com/bethereinfive for 10% off your first three months

Music:

https://www.tiktok.com/@eeeeelah/video/6854262840275078406?source=h5_t

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNEgoZFEz6g

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dB_TIxLjUB8

Quoted article:

https://www.vulture.com/2020/07/taylor-swift-folklore-aaron-dessner-breaks-down-every-song.html

This week, Kate sits down with Aparna Shewakramani, the breakout star of Netflix's hit show Indian Matchmaking, to discuss all things reality tv, matchmaking, first dates, strategic editing, double standards, and of course, Bolivian Salt Flats. She provides really insightful context in terms of the origin of the show, the actual dialogue that happened on the dates (pre-editing), and her experience (so far) emerging as a polarizing character. Does she really hate beaches and comedy? Find out all that and more on this week's episode!

https://www.cnn.com/style/article/indian-matchmaking-netflix-intl-hnk-beauty/index.html

https://www.vulture.com/article/everything-aparna-hates-indian-matchmaking.html

https://www.vulture.com/2020/07/indian-matchmaking-dating-reality-tv-colorism.html

https://www.cnn.com/2020/07/29/entertainment/smriti-mundhra-indian-matchmaking/index.html

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This week, Kate sits down with Aparna Shewakramani, the breakout star of Netflix's hit show Indian Matchmaking, to discuss all things reality tv, matchmaking, first dates, strategic editing, double standards, and of course, Bolivian Salt Flats. She provides really insightful context in terms of the origin of the show, the actual dialogue that happened on the dates (pre-editing), and her experience (so far) emerging as a polarizing character. Does she really hate beaches and comedy? Find out all that and more on this week's episode!

https://www.cnn.com/style/article/indian-matchmaking-netflix-intl-hnk-beauty/index.html

https://www.vulture.com/article/everything-aparna-hates-indian-matchmaking.html

https://www.vulture.com/2020/07/indian-matchmaking-dating-reality-tv-colorism.html

https://www.cnn.com/2020/07/29/entertainment/smriti-mundhra-indian-matchmaking/index.html

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Kate discusses the #FreeBritney movement with Rebecca Grant, a licensed probate attorney who is a subject matter expert on conservatorships. Kate aims to further understand why Britney's situation is so unique and at times, suspicious. Additionally, she fact checks of a lot of the questions she has about the speculation, memes, and twitter threads. For example: What can and can't a conservator force her to do? Is she being forced to work? Why can't she hire her own attorney? Why would they check the dementia box for a 26-year-old woman? How is she, now 38, still in this incredibly restrictive conservatorship and deemed to be incapacitated, yet appear to work, tour, rehearse, run an empire, etc. successfully? All this and more on this 2-part Be There in Five Deep Dive!

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