How do you know if you should leave your partner or work on the relationship? When relationship conflict keeps repeating, it can be difficult to tell whether you're with the wrong person or whether childhood trauma, emotional triggers, and unresolved attachment wounds are affecting the way you connect.In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, Lavinia and Andrew discuss how childhood trauma affects adult relationships, why partners trigger each other, and how anxious and avoidant attachment styles can create a cycle of pursuing, withdrawing, defensiveness, and recurring arguments. They also explore how your parents' relationship patterns can shape your expectations of love, why having children can intensify relationship problems, and how unresolved emotional wounds may influence the way you communicate with your partner.🚨Important: Working on your own triggers does not mean accepting abuse or unsafe behaviour. Emotional and physical safety matter when deciding what to do next.00:00 How to Know If You Should Leave Your Partner03:15 Things That Intensify Relationship Conflict08:30 Considering Separation: What It Can Reveal15:30 How Childhood Wounds Affect Who You Choose as a Partner20:00 How Couples Can Break the Cycle of Relationship Conflict24:25 How Your Parents' Relationship Shaped Your Expectations31:10  Questions to Ask Before Deciding to Separate👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/becoming_untriggered_podcast/">@becoming_untriggered_podcast</a>– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: <a href="https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past">https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past</a>Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: <a href="https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching">https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching</a>Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: <a href="https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session">https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session</a>– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: <a href="https://www.laviniabrown.com/">https://www.laviniabrown.com </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert">https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert">https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert </a><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert/">https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert</a>📱 Connect with Andrew: <a href="https://www.andrewlynn.net/">https://www.andrewlynn.net</a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer">https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer </a>

How do you know if you should leave your partner or work on the relationship? When relationship conflict keeps repeating, it can be difficult to tell whether you're with the wrong person or whether childhood trauma, emotional triggers, and unresolved attachment wounds are affecting the way you connect. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, Lavinia and Andrew discuss how childhood trauma affects adult relationships, why partners trigger each other, and how anxious and avoidant attachment styles can create a cycle of pursuing, withdrawing, defensiveness, and recurring arguments. They also explore how your parents' relationship patterns can shape your expectations of love, why having children can intensify relationship problems, and how unresolved emotional wounds may influence the way you communicate with your partner. 🚨Important: Working on your own triggers does not mean accepting abuse or unsafe behaviour. Emotional and physical safety matter when deciding what to do next. 00:00 How to Know If You Should Leave Your Partner 03:15 Things That Intensify Relationship Conflict 08:30 Considering Separation: What It Can Reveal 15:30 How Childhood Wounds Affect Who You Choose as a Partner 20:00 How Couples Can Break the Cycle of Relationship Conflict 24:25 How Your Parents' Relationship Shaped Your Expectations 31:10 Questions to Ask Before Deciding to Separate 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

How do you know if you should leave your partner or work on the relationship? When relationship conflict keeps repeating, it can be difficult to tell whether you're with the wrong person or whether childhood trauma, emotional triggers, and unresolved attachment wounds are affecting the way you connect.In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, Lavinia and Andrew discuss how childhood trauma affects adult relationships, why partners trigger each other, and how anxious and avoidant attachment styles can create a cycle of pursuing, withdrawing, defensiveness, and recurring arguments. They also explore how your parents' relationship patterns can shape your expectations of love, why having children can intensify relationship problems, and how unresolved emotional wounds may influence the way you communicate with your partner.🚨Important: Working on your own triggers does not mean accepting abuse or unsafe behaviour. Emotional and physical safety matter when deciding what to do next.00:00 How to Know If You Should Leave Your Partner03:15 Things That Intensify Relationship Conflict08:30 Considering Separation: What It Can Reveal15:30 How Childhood Wounds Affect Who You Choose as a Partner20:00 How Couples Can Break the Cycle of Relationship Conflict24:25 How Your Parents' Relationship Shaped Your Expectations31:10&nbsp; Questions to Ask Before Deciding to Separate👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/becoming_untriggered_podcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer">@becoming_untriggered_podcast</a>– Resources:&nbsp;Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: <a href="https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past</a>Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: <a href="https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching</a>Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: <a href="https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session</a>–&nbsp;📱 Connect with Lavinia:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.laviniabrown.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.laviniabrown.com&nbsp;</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert&nbsp;</a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert&nbsp;</a><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert</a>📱 Connect with Andrew:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.andrewlynn.net/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.andrewlynn.net</a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer&nbsp;</a>

Should You Leave Your Partner or Work on the Relationship?

Welcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners. In each episode, you'll hear stories, practical tools, and strategies related to topics like healing your inner child, emotional regulation, overcoming childhood coping mechanisms, and so much more.
Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 years of their own relationship experience and decades of working with both mothers and fathers. Together, they reveal how unconscious childhood trauma can manifest in adulthood, especially when life gets serious and committed relationships and children come on the scene.
Join in fortnightly for practical tools, actionable advice and conversations that empower you to show up as the conscious parent and connected partner you want to be. 
Connect with Andrew at <a href="https://andrewlynn.net/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">andrewlynn.net</a> and Lavinia at <a href="https://laviniabrown.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">laviniabrown.com</a>.

Welcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners. In each episode, you'll hear stories, practical tools, and strategies related to topics like healing your inner child, emotional regulation, overcoming childhood coping mechanisms, and so much more. Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 years of their own relationship experience and decades of working with both mothers and fathers. Together, they reveal how unconscious childhood trauma can manifest in adulthood, especially when life gets serious and committed relationships and children come on the scene. Join in fortnightly for practical tools, actionable advice and conversations that empower you to show up as the conscious parent and connected partner you want to be. Connect with Andrew at andrewlynn.net and Lavinia at laviniabrown.com.

Welcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners. In each episode, you'll hear stories, practical tools, and strategies related to topics like healing your inner child, emotional regulation, overcoming childhood coping mechanisms, and so much more.
Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 years of their own relationship experience and decades of working with both mothers and fathers. Together, they reveal how unconscious childhood trauma can manifest in adulthood, especially when life gets serious and committed relationships and children come on the scene.
Join in fortnightly for practical tools, actionable advice and conversations that empower you to show up as the conscious parent and connected partner you want to be.&nbsp;
Connect with Andrew at <a href="https://andrewlynn.net/" rel="noopener noreferrer">andrewlynn.net</a> and Lavinia at <a href="https://laviniabrown.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">laviniabrown.com</a>.

Welcome to Becoming Untriggered

Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every month, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself.

Hosted by trauma-informed coaches Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown, who bring over 17 years of lived experience and decades supporting both moms and dads, this show explores how childhood wounds show up in adult life.

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Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every month, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself. Hosted by trauma-informed coaches Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown, who bring over 17 years of lived experience and decades supporting both moms and dads, this show explores how childhood wounds show up in adult life.

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