BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

By Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown | Trauma-informed Psychodynamic CoachesParenting Kids & Family

BECOMING UNTRIGGERED episodes

September 19, 2025 Are You Dealing with a Narcissist? Spot the Signs & Protect Yourself
Are you dealing with a narcissist? In this episode, we break down the key traits of narcissism, explain the difference between selfishness and narcissism, and answer whether children can truly be labeled as narcissists.
Discover how to recognize narcissistic behavior without second-guessing yourself, heal the wounds of having a narcissistic parent or partner, set strong boundaries and stop draining cycles, and build secure attachment and reclaim your self-love.
01:00 – Narcissistic Traits
05:25 – Manipulation, Illness & Gaslighting Explained
15:30 – Can You Become a Narcissist?
20:00 – Why You Attract Narcissists
22:15 – Can Children Be Narcissists?
25:30 – How to Deal with a Narcissist Parent or Partner
30:00 – Protect Your Inner Child
Whether you’ve asked “Is my partner a narcissist?” or worried “Am I a narcissist myself?”, this episode gives clarity and tools to finally stop the cycle.

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
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📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
35 min
September 05, 2025 How Repressed Emotions Cause Violence in Relationships (Generational Trauma)
What causes violence in relationships? In this episode, we explore the connection between repressed childhood emotions, generational trauma, and violence in relationships.
We’ll unpack how repressed anger from childhood shows up as rage in adult relationships, the difference between your own stuck emotions vs. “carried emotions” from parents, why trauma bonds make it so hard to leave unhealthy dynamics, and how to help your children express anger safely without passing on your own trauma.
00:00 – Violence and Anger in Relationships
02:00 – Repressed Anger From Childhood
04:00 – Repressed Emotion and Carried Emotion
12:00 – Trauma Bonds in Relationships
18:20 – Inner Child Work
22:00 – Helping Kids Express Emotions Safely
Whether you’re struggling with your own anger, in a relationship with someone who is violent, or simply want to break free from generational patterns, we give you practical tools to heal.
👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
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📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
26 min
August 22, 2025 Coping with Sibling Estrangement | Healing, Boundaries & Growth
Have you and your siblings grown apart? Do you wonder how you can repair that relationship without losing yourself? This episode unpacks the emotional complexity of sibling estrangement, including how unresolved childhood dynamics, parental favoritism, and generational trauma can shape fractured family bonds.
You'll learn practical strategies to help you process anger, grief, and confusion without needing your sibling to be “on the same page”. We talk about reconciliation, holding boundaries, and seeking emotional peace.
01:30 - Why Siblings Grow Apart
03:20 - Childhood Perception and Parental Favoritism
05:10 - Why Siblings Have Different Childhoods
07:00 - Generational Trauma & Family Roles
11:00 - How Inner Work Triggers Family Conflict
16:00 - Sibling Jealousy and Injustice
21:00 - Why Estranged Siblings Often Misplace Anger
26:00 - Boundaries as a Tool for Emotional Safety
This episode is for anyone navigating the pain of sibling fallout, whether you’ve been cut off, ghosted, or just feel emotionally distant.

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–
📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
30 min
June 20, 2025 Why is It So Hard to Meditate? How to Start When It Feels Impossible
You sit down to meditate, and instead of peace, you feel panic. Your mind races, your body buzzes, and every part of you wants to get up and do something else. If that’s you, you’re not failing at meditation—you’re likely trying to use it before your nervous system is ready. If you've ever thought “I can’t meditate,” this episode is exactly where you should start.
In this episode, we talk about why meditation often feels impossible. We unpack the real reasons you can’t “just sit still”, from trauma response and nervous system dysregulation to inner child wounds and coping mechanisms that once kept you safe. You’ll learn how to start gently, how to use sensory tools to anchor when you’re overwhelmed, and how to stop comparing your practice to someone else’s highlight reel.
Whether you’ve tried to meditate and given up, or you’re curious why it triggers you instead of calming you. You will learn how to build safety in your body first… so meditation can finally work for you, not against you.
– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–
📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
26 min
June 06, 2025 Are You Emasculating Your Man Without Realizing It?
Do you find yourself taking on the mental load of parenting and home life, and unintentionally treating your partner like a co-parenting assistant? In this episode, we unpack how emotional labor, gender roles, and break down the subtle—and not-so-subtle—ways women may be emasculating their partners while trying to manage the mental load of parenting and modern life.
We explore what it really means to emasculate your partner, what is toxic masculinity vs healthy masculinity, what women want in a man today, how childhood trauma and generational patterns influence modern relationships, and why many men feel disempowered or unseen in their role. You’ll also learn how the pressure to “do it all” as a mother can create imbalance in your dynamic, and how to ask for help from your husband without making him feel emasculated.
If you want to stop feeling like you're doing everything and start building a healthy, connected relationship, this conversation is a must-listen!
– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–
📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
27 min
May 23, 2025 Why Your Child's Defiance Triggers You (How to Break the Cycle)
Does your child’s defiance trigger something deep in you? Maybe it’s backtalk, boundary-pushing, or refusal to listen—and suddenly you feel disrespected, overwhelmed, or out of control. This episode of Becoming Untriggered explores why your child’s behavior creates such a powerful emotional response and what it reveals about your own inner wounds.
We take a trauma-informed approach to parenting triggers—like authoritarian upbringings, religious shame around obedience, and emotional neglect—to help you understand the real reason defiance hits so hard. You’ll discover how power struggles form, why your nervous system reacts like it’s under threat, and what to do instead.
If you’re ready to stop reacting from survival mode and start parenting from grounded authority, this episode offers practical, compassionate strategies. Learn how to set boundaries without control, regulate your own triggers, and create space for emotional safety and connection in your home.

– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–
📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
26 min
May 09, 2025 Can Couples Therapy Make Things Worse?
Couples therapy is often seen as the fix for relationship problems, but what if it actually makes things worse? In this episode, we unpack why traditional couples therapy or marriage counseling might not work unless deeper emotional wounds are addressed first.
We explore how unresolved attachment trauma, unmet childhood needs, and inner child work play a major role in how we show up in romantic relationships. You’ll hear how unconscious expectations, coping patterns, and childhood experiences silently sabotage even the most well-intentioned communication tools.
If you’re considering couples counseling, or feel like it hasn’t helped, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of why healing must start individually, and what needs to happen before therapy can actually work.
– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–
📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
27 min
April 25, 2025 Parenting Tips to Manage More Than One Child
Parenting more than one child is a beautiful and chaotic dance of energy, emotions, and endless learning curves. In this episode, we discuss the complex dynamics of raising multiple children, from juggling attention and managing birth order effects to uncovering unconscious triggers rooted in our own childhood experiences. With candid stories and heartfelt insights from raising our three kids, we reveal how subtle adaptations in each child can form based on how we parent them (or don't).
We explore common patterns such as the “good” vs. “bad” child dynamic, sibling rivalry, and how birth order can shape a child’s role in the family system. We also shed light on how gender roles and societal expectations unconsciously impact how parents treat their sons versus their daughters. Whether you’re a parent of two or more, or thinking about expanding your family, this episode offers empowering strategies to parent with more awareness, compassion, and flexibility.
– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–
📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
29 min
April 11, 2025 Is It Your Personality or a Trauma Response?
Have you ever wondered if the way you show up in the world is truly YOU, or if it’s a response to something you’ve been through? Many traits we consider “just who we are”, like people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional numbing, or hyper-independence, may actually be protective patterns shaped by past experiences.
In this episode, we’ll unpack how unresolved trauma can wire the nervous system and influence your behaviors, reactions, and relationships. You’ll learn how to identify common trauma responses that often go unnoticed because they’ve been part of your identity for so long.
If you’re on a journey of self-awareness, healing, or helping others do the same, this episode will help you draw the line between personality and past trauma. Tune in to uncover what’s really driving your responses, and how you can begin the process of healing and reclaiming your authentic identity.
– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:https://www.andrewlynn.net
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–
📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
24 min
March 28, 2025 Why You Pick Your Partner: The Psychology of Attraction & Love
Have you ever wondered why you’re drawn to certain people? In this episode, we uncover the psychology of attraction and the unconscious reasons behind your partner choices. From childhood experiences to hidden emotional wounds, we discuss how early attachment styles and past relationships shape who we find attractive and why those patterns sometimes lead to relationship challenges.
Attraction isn’t just about chemistry; it’s deeply influenced by trauma bonds, unmet childhood needs, and subconscious expectations. You will learn how these factors play out in romantic relationships, why certain traits that once felt comforting can later become triggering, and how to recognize patterns that no longer serve you.
Whether you’re in a relationship or reflecting on past choices, this conversation will help you gain clarity on your love life. We’ll share practical strategies for breaking unhealthy cycles, deepening emotional connections, and building conscious, fulfilling relationships.
– Resources:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–
📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
23 min

About BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

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Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every month, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself.