Being UnNormal

In this episode we welcome back Valinda Harlan to the show to talk about sexual abuse and molestation. We talk about grooming patterns, trauma, shame cycles, the long term effects of childhood abuse, and somatic responses from sexual trauma. As both Valinda and myself are survivors of abuse, we talk about the possibility of healing and connecting with others after the abuse.

Sexual abuse is unwanted sexual activity, with perpetrators using force, making threats or taking advantage of victims not able to give consent.

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In this episode we welcome back friend of the show Cory Anton to talk about anxiety disorders. We have a raw, and perhaps a little controversial conversation about the effects of coping skills with anxiety disorders, exposure response therapy, and tolerance building. Cory explains the difference between stress and anxiety disorders, how anxiety is created in our brain, and how reassurance culture plays a role into anxiety disorders.

Anxiety Disorders: people with anxiety disorders frequently have intense, excessive and persistent worry and fear about everyday situations. Often, anxiety disorders involve repeated episodes of sudden feelings of intense anxiety and fear or terror that reach a peak within minutes (panic attacks).

These feelings of anxiety and panic interfere with daily activities, are difficult to control, are out of proportion to the actual danger and can last a long time. You may avoid places or situations to prevent these feelings. Symptoms may start during childhood or the teen years and continue into adulthood.

Examples of anxiety disorders include generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder (social phobia), specific phobias and separation anxiety disorder. You can have more than one anxiety disorder.

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In this episode we welcome back Melissa Parnell to talk about Borderline Personality Disorder. A fairly unknown disorder, BPD is a personality disorder with 4 subtypes which we discuss in detail. We talk about how BPD shows up in the individual, how it affects relationships, why it's often misdiagnosed, and what treatment options are available for anyone struggling with BPD.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a condition characterized by difficulties regulating emotion. This means that people who experience BPD feel emotions intensely and for extended periods of time, and it is harder for them to return to a stable baseline after an emotionally triggering event.

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In this episode we welcome Alicia Paz, a DBT expert who talks with us about what exactly DBT is. We break down what the DBT approach looks like, how it differs from other styles of therapy, what it's used for, and the history of how DBT was created. DBT is highly effective for borderline personality disorder, but it's effectively used for various mental health symptoms regardless of diagnosis. We touch upon how DBT can help you survive the holidays so you can survive the holiday meal! Is DBT for you? Tune in and find out!

Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is a specific type of cognitive-behavioral psychotherapy developed in the late 1980s by psychologist Marsha M. Linehan to help better treat borderline personality disorder. Since its development, it has also been used for the treatment of other kinds of mental health disorders.

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In this episode we welcome Dr. Chris Goodrich who specializes in how the brain and body interact especially in terms of pain. We talk about the connection between mental health and physical pain, where pain starts in the brain, and the difference between structural damage and long term pain after the injury has healed. We break down how neuropathways for pain light up emotional centers in the brain, and how long term disorders have more roots in mental health issues that physical injury than previously understood. Is pain signals, or triggers? Tune in and find out!

Somatic symptom disorder is characterized by an extreme focus on physical symptoms — such as pain or fatigue — that causes major emotional distress and problems functioning. You may or may not have another diagnosed medical condition associated with these symptoms, but your reaction to the symptoms is not normal.

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Resources:
Curable app

Backincontrol.com - Dr David Hansom

Healing Back Pain - Dr John Sarno

Unlearn your Pain - Dr Howard Schubiner

They Can't Find Anything Wrong - Dr David Clarke

Quick Youtube Video : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gwd-wLdIHjs

In this episode we welcome Dr. Deirdre Sommerlad-Rogers, who is an expert in Criminology and in particular serial killers. We talk about what a serial killer actually is, is there a connection between mental illness and serial killers, and what the types of serial killers are. From the sensationalized media coverage, to the fact about how many killers there are among us, and some interesting facts about women killers. Is serial killing about a lack of empathy? Is there one defining factor that leads to serial killing? Tune in and find out!

A serial killer is typically a person who murders three or more people, usually in service of abnormal psychological gratification, with the murders taking place over more than a month and including a significant period of time between them. Different authorities apply different criteria when designating serial killers. For example, while most authorities set a threshold of three murders, others extend it to four or lessen it to two. The FBI defines serial killing as "a series of two or more murders, committed as separate events, usually, but not always, by one offender acting alone".

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In this episode we welcome Rene Brooks of Black Girl, Lost Keys. Rene talks to us about how long it took for her to finally get the diagnosis and treatment she needed, what cultural obstacles stood in her way, and how she fights stigma on a daily basis. We love her honesty and candor about living with ADHD, and we talk about the impact of the neurodiversity movement has had in the ADHD space.

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is one of the most common mental disorders affecting children. ADHD also affects many adults. Symptoms of ADHD include inattention (not being able to keep focus), hyperactivity (excess movement that is not fitting to the setting) and impulsivity (hasty acts that occur in the moment without thought).

An estimated 8.4 percent of children and 2.5 percent of adults have ADHD. ADHD is often first identified in school-aged children when it leads to disruption in the classroom or problems with schoolwork. It can also affect adults. It is more common among boys than girls.

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In this episode we welcome Leah Haas who specializes in attachment. We cover why attachment is important, how attachment issues show up in our adult lives, and specifically how they affect our love life. We give a brief history on attachment theory, and how childhood attachment affects us into adulthood. We talk about the different attachment styles, how they show up in our intimate relationships, affect our decision making, and why this information is important to know especially when your in the dating pool.

Attachment Theory:
The earliest research on adult attachment involved studying the association between individual differences in adult attachment and the way people think about their relationships and their memories for what their relationships with their parents are like. British psychologist John Bowlby was the first attachment theorist, describing attachment as a "lasting psychological connectedness between human beings." The Four Attachment Styles are: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized.

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 In this episode we welcome back Erin McConaghy and Meaghan Bedrossian to give us an update on the state of foster care. We talk about the HBO Documentary Foster, and the impact of trauma on our youth in the system. We discuss the challenges of placement, how the system can be a barrier at times, what the goal of foster care ultimately is, and why despite it's challenges foster care continues to be massively rewarding for the foster parent (and life changing for the child!).

Foster Care Statistics:

On any given day, there are nearly 443,000 children in foster care in the United States.

In 2017, more than 690,000 children spent time in U.S. foster care.

On average, children remain in state care for nearly two years and six percent of children in foster care have languished there for five or more years.

Despite the common perception that the majority of children in foster care are very young, the average age of kids entering care is 8.

In 2017, one third of children entering U.S. foster care were young people of color.

While most children in foster care live in family settings, a substantial minority — 11 percent — live in institutions or group homes.

In 2017, more than 69,000 children – whose mothers’ and fathers’ parental rights had been legally terminated – were waiting to be adopted.

In 2017, more than 17,000 young people aged out of foster care without permanent families. Research has shown that those who leave care without being linked to forever families have a higher likelihood than youth in the general population to experience homelessness, unemployment and incarceration as adults.

While states should work rapidly to find safe permanent homes for kids, on any given day children available for adoption have spent an average of about one and a half years waiting to be adopted since their parental rights were terminated.

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 In this episode we welcome back Kara Radecki to talk about schizophrenia. Schizophrenia is often misunderstood and stigmatized. We talk about what the real life impact to people suffering with this diagnosis looks like, the struggle of day to day life, and the impact to the families supporting a loved one with schizophrenia. We break down myths, misconceptions, what causes this illness in the first place, and treatment options available for anyone affected by this. 

Schizophrenia involves a range of problems with thinking (cognition), behavior or emotions. Signs and symptoms may vary, but usually involve delusions, hallucinations or disorganized speech, and reflect an impaired ability to function. Symptoms may include:

• Delusions. These are false beliefs that are not based in reality. For example, you think that you're being harmed or harassed; certain gestures or comments are directed at you; you have exceptional ability or fame; another person is in love with you; or a major catastrophe is about to occur. Delusions occur in most people with schizophrenia.
• Hallucinations. These usually involve seeing or hearing things that don't exist. Yet for the person with schizophrenia, they have the full force and impact of a normal experience. Hallucinations can be in any of the senses, but hearing voices is the most common hallucination.
• Disorganized thinking (speech). Disorganized thinking is inferred from disorganized speech. Effective communication can be impaired, and answers to questions may be partially or completely unrelated. Rarely, speech may include putting together meaningless words that can't be understood, sometimes known as word salad.
• Extremely disorganized or abnormal motor behavior. This may show in a number of ways, from childlike silliness to unpredictable agitation. Behavior isn't focused on a goal, so it's hard to do tasks. Behavior can include resistance to instructions, inappropriate or bizarre posture, a complete lack of response, or useless and excessive movement.
• Negative symptoms. This refers to reduced or lack of ability to function normally. For example, the person may neglect personal hygiene or appear to lack emotion (doesn't make eye contact, doesn't change facial expressions or speaks in a monotone). Also, the person may have lose interest in everyday activities, socially withdraw or lack the ability to experience pleasure.

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