Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Infidelity

Do you find it hard to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply?

On our show today, we’re going to unpack 4 keys to unlocking forgiveness. This method is simple, but it’s definitely not easy. So how do we get through this difficult process? We will share with you how this approach played out in our marriage after porn-fueled infidelity and where we turned for help.

Grab your favorite beverage and spend some time with us as we delve deeper into the topic of forgiveness.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Do you appreciate getting an apology? Do you have a hard time extending one? Do you even know what a good apology looks like?

Join us today as we cover the 8 steps to a healing apology, which is so helpful in a marriage, especially when there has been some form of betrayal.

We have experienced the power of this healing apology in our own marriage after the discovery and disclosure of pornography use that escalated into infidelity. Giving an apology the wrong way can be even more hurtful than not doing it at all. But, done correctly, it can open the door to forgiveness, healing and hope.

So, grab something to take notes with and your favorite beverage and listen in for a step-by-step process to an amazing healing apology.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily    

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Do you get angry while driving in traffic? Have you ever had or seen road rage? Are you the person that yells at everyone making stupid and even dangerous driving mistakes from inside your car with the windows up?  

I can’t say I’ve never had a burst of anger when driving, but in recent years I have made it a practice to try and give other drivers the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have an emergency, maybe their kids are distracting them... And it also helps to remind myself that I have probably done the same stupid thing before myself and that I’m not the only one with important places to go. But, this isn’t the kind of anger we’re going to talk about today.  

Anger can be a catalyst to create needed changes or to promote justice, but it can also become disastrous if not contained within some specific boundaries. Today we are going to talk about the good, the bad and the ugly aspects of anger and how to move through it so we are not trapped in this potentially destructive emotion.  

We all struggle with anger at times, but we don't have to let it rule the day. So, grab your favorite beverage and stick around as we have an honest  conversation about Emily's anger caused by Johnny's betrayal and how she learned to overcome it with 3 simple (but not easy) steps.  

We pray this blesses you,  

Johnny and Emily    

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer

Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me

Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values

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When you think of the word honesty, do you view it in black and white or on a sliding scale?   Those who see it in black and white might argue that a person either tells the truth or they don’t. Those who prefer a sliding scale approach may categorize white lies at a 1-2, lies of omission at a 4-5, but a deceptive or premeditated lie at 9-10. Honesty, in this person’s mind, is relative.  

In our show today, we’re going to talk about rigorous honesty. We were first introduced to this concept through Johnny’s 12-step program. We will unpack what this kind of honesty looks like, how to attain it and how it impacted our recovery process. We will also take a look at what God says about honesty from the scriptures.  

So get comfy and settle in for part 2 of our lively discussion on 5 ways we lie and the secret to complete honesty. And just a reminder that we’d love to answer any questions you have about our journey or yours!  

We pray this blesses you,  

Johnny and Emily    

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Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer

Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me

Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values

Episode 07. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1)

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Did you know that there is more than one way to lie?    

A lack of honesty can leave others in your life on uncertain ground. How do we overcome this deceptive practice and what is the key to complete honesty?  

Spend the next half hour with us as we talk about 5 different ways we lie to each other, how lying affects our relationships and what we can do to change it forever.  

We will also be sharing some details from our sometimes painful journey to find freedom from the lies that plagued our marriage.  

We hope this blesses you!  

Johnny and Emily    

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Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me

Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values

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Have you ever stopped to think about the significance of boundaries? What kind of feelings or emotions do you think of when you hear that term? Does it bring to mind negative connotations or a sense of being confined and restricted? Perhaps it even feels punitive or unfair. It's understandable to have these reactions, but let's take a moment to consider a different perspective. What if boundaries could actually be beneficial for all parties involved?

In today's episode, we're going to unpack the word "boundaries". We'll explore why boundaries are not only necessary but essential in our lives. We'll examine what insights and guidance we can find from a spiritual standpoint, exploring what God has to say about boundaries.

But our exploration won't stop there. We'll also share a personal story, drawing from our own experiences in marriage. When faced with the challenges of infidelity and addiction, we had to confront the need for boundaries head-on. We'll walk you through our journey of how we implemented and navigated these often misunderstood boundaries in our relationship.

So, make sure to stick around and listen in. By the end of this episode, you'll gain a deeper understanding of boundaries and their potential to bring about positive transformation in your own life and relationships.

We pray this blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer

Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me

Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values

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The decision to stay married after sexual betrayal is a very difficult one to navigate. We understand this because the effects of infidelity shook each of us to our core. If you've been listening to our show you know we are still married, but we didn’t go through this on our own. We had an incredible amount of support and guidance along the way.

In this episode we're going to open up about the personal effects that infidelity had on each of us while shedding light on the reasons behind our mutual decision to preserve our marriage, despite the pain.   We also have a list of valuable resources to share with you—ones that truly made a difference as we navigated our new reality. But the most important thing we want to leave you with is the hope of redemption and the grace, mercy, and love of our amazing God!

So grab your favorite beverage, get comfortable and get ready for a story of resilience and faith. 

We pray this episode blesses you,

Johnny and Emily  

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Centers for Relational Care (CRC) - 5 day marriage intensive

The Aftermath of Betrayal by Michelle Dr. Mays LPC, CSAT-S

Gary Smalley - Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships 

Proverbs 15:22

Numbers 6:24-26 (The Priestly Blessing)

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Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer

Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me

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Hi Friend, 

In today's episode we will be telling a quick version of our love story from how we met and got married up to the day of Johnny's confession of adultery that we call Discovery Day.

If you haven't heard our story as told by each of us from our own perspectives, you can listen to Emily's story in Episode 2 and Johnny's story in Episode 3.

We are telling our story together today to help you understand that we are ordinary people who love Jesus, but how the Enemy was able to wreak havoc in our lives. We also share the hope of redemption and the grace, mercy and love of our amazing God! 

We pray this episode blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me

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Hi Friend,

On today's episode, Johnny tells his story of how a young boy with hopes and dreams for a wonderful future ends up confessing to his wife of 31 years that he is a sex addict and an adulterer. His painful story is tragic, but also beautiful because he knows the One who makes a way when there is no way. Jesus can make something beautiful out of the ashes of our lives if we let him. 

We pray this episode blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me

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Hi Friend,

Today Emily is baring her soul to tell the story of her husband's marital infidelity fueled by pornography use. And although it was Not Her Fault in any way, she is not perfect and you will hear some of the ways she fell short in her life too. But, God is bigger than any failure, heartbreak or trauma. He is the redeemer of the lost and the comforter of the broken-hearted. 

We pray this episode blesses you!

Emily and Johnny

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