Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Infidelity

Marriage isn’t just a contract—it’s a covenant, a sacred vow before God and man.

But sexual betrayal doesn’t just break trust… it shatters the covenant itself. The foundation is cracked. The vows feel like a lie. And now, both of you are standing in the wreckage—one drowning in grief, the other paralyzed by guilt.

But here’s the truth: You can’t rebuild on broken ground. Before forgiveness, before reconciliation—before even deciding if this marriage can survive—there’s one thing that has to happen. The full, unedited truth. No more shadows. No more secrets. Because a covenant can only be restored where there’s nothing left to hide.

If you’re the betrayed partner, you’re drowning in questions—What else don’t I know? Can I ever trust again?

And if you’re the betrayer, you’re trapped in a prison of your own lies—How do I fix this? Will the truth destroy us?

Here’s the hard reality: without Full Therapeutic Disclosure, neither of you gets to move forward. The betrayed stays stuck in suspicion, and the betrayer stays stuck in shame. But there’s a way out—and it starts with one terrifying, necessary conversation.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 44. Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your Marriage Steps

Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal

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Have you ever stumbled upon a quote that just felt like it was made for you? You know, the kind that resonates so deeply with what you’re going through that it seems like a turning point in your journey?

We all encounter those special quotes that cause us to pause and reflect. While we’re not promising that your life will be changed by them, today we’re sharing with you some of our own special sayings—affectionately dubbed BBVisms!

You might even recognize a few from our show or from our coaching sessions over the last couple of years. Not only will you hear some of our (hopefully) memorable sayings; you'll learn the stories behind how we came up with each of them.

Join us for a mix of light-hearted fun and valuable insights as we share seven of our original quotes. We’d love to know if there’s one that you’ve embraced in your recovery journey!

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps

Episode 36 | Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From Pornography

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 50. Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal

Episode 90. Discovering the Man Within: Sathiya Sam on Overcoming Porn Addiction

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In the tumultuous journey of marriage, trust is the cornerstone that holds this covenant union together. But what happens when this trust is shattered by sexual betrayal? How does a betrayed wife comprehend this new reality she never saw coming?

In today’s episode, we dive deep into these questions with the insightful perspectives of Robin Wilson and Christy Bottom, authors of their newly released book, Who is God Now: Hope In God After Betrayal.

Robin experienced the trauma of discovering her husband’s infidelity and has asked the hard questions; why, how, and who are you Lord? Through this painful journey she learned to understand God’s love, trustworthiness, and healing firsthand. Her sister, Christy, walked alongside her on that healing journey, consistently pointing Robin to Jesus and later encouraging her to write.

Whether you're navigating your own journey of healing or seeking to support a loved one through theirs, in this episode you’ll hear crucial insights into the spiritual and emotional aspects of recovering from betrayal.  Robin and Christy share stories that are real, heartfelt, and unbelievably hopeful.

We’re so excited for you to hear this inspiring interview with these two precious women.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Website: RobinAndChristyWrite.org

Purchase their book: Who is God Now? Hope in God after Betrayal 

Email: [email protected]

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Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 96. The Message in the Affair: Self-Discovery After His Infidelity, with April Truitt

Episode 105. God, Where Were You When…? Questions in the Aftermath of Betrayal

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Have you ever stepped out in faith, trusting God’s call even when the road ahead looked uncertain?

Two years ago, we took that leap—surrendering our fears, our past hurts, and our plans, to follow where Jesus was leading us. And we’re here to tell you: God has been faithful. Not just in sustaining us, but in growing us—deepening our marriage, stretching our faith, and opening doors in ministry we never could’ve imagined.

This journey hasn’t been easy. It started in the wreckage of betrayal and brokenness, but God didn’t leave us there. He rebuilt. He redeemed. And now, looking back? We know that every probing question, every painful answer, every difficult moment we chose to surrender to the Lord, has brought healing to our marriage and prepared us for this journey that we call Beyond Broken Vows.

If you’re in that place of uncertainty today, wondering if stepping out is worth it? We want you to know that the hard work of recovery is definitely worth it and that God has a purpose for your pain.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

The Healing Apology – Episodes #10 & #80 (request your copy at [email protected])

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Episode 55. Our Podcast is One Year Old!!! Marriages Redeemed, Hearts Renewed

Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity

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Infidelity profoundly shakes the emotional foundation of a marriage, often leading to feelings  of confusion, mistrust, and pain. In the midst of all this chaos, it's common for couples to feel  unsure of how to find their way forward.

In this episode, we’re excited to explore how the Emotions Wheel, based on Plutchik’s theory and Willcox’s tool, can be a wonderful resource for couples facing the aftermath of betrayal. 

By using the Emotions Wheel, couples can start to identify and understand the complex storm of feelings they are experiencing and initiate meaningful conversations that pave the way for healing.

Join us on this journey toward greater clarity and deeper connection!

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Emotions Wheel

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Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity

Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity?

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When sexual betrayal shatters a marriage, the deepest wounds often come with agonizing questions—especially about God’s timing. Why did He allow the lies to continue for years? Where was He when the vows were being broken?

In this raw conversation, we tackle the three most tormenting questions betrayed wives ask God, and the surprising hope Scripture offers both the betrayed and the betrayer.

This isn’t an episode about quick fixes. It’s about finding footing when your spiritual foundation shakes. Whether you’re the wounded or the one who caused the wound, God’s redemption meets you right where you are—not to erase the past, but to rebuild you through it.

If this episode met you in your struggle, your 5-star review helps other hurting hearts find this resource.

With love,

Johnny and Emily

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Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery

Episode 104. Sifting Through the Rubble After Infidelity Explodes Your Marriage

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Being betrayed by hidden infidelity is like walking through a museum you helped build—room by room, the laughter, whispered promises, and the quiet certainty of a shared history. Every glance, every touch, every “I love you” hung like priceless art on walls you thought would stand forever.

But somewhere deep in the walls, a gas leak has been growing—invisible, silent, deadly. You walked through those halls for years, never smelling the poison seeping into the foundation. You marveled at the exhibits of your life, never knowing they were rigged to blow.

And then one day, suddenly everything explodes. No warning. Just fire and shrapnel tearing through everything you thought was sacred leaving in its wake a heap of broken beams and shattered glass. You’re on your knees in the wreckage, bleeding, choking on smoke and the sickening realization: None of it was safe.

Now you dig. You start sifting through the ash and rubble, trying to salvage anything of value from your life you thought you had. A photo frame. A charred love letter. A shard of truth. And the worst part is, as you search, you don’t even know if what you’re holding was ever real—or just part of a beautifully constructed lie.

Some of you are still standing in the smoke. Some are staring at blueprints, terrified to build again. Wherever you are—you’re not alone. Join us as we dive deeper into what it means to sift through the rubble of sexual betrayal.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery

Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal

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The discovery of sexual betrayal in your marriage can feel like a punch in the gut, leaving you reeling and unsure of what to do next.

As a betrayed wife, you are experiencing trauma. As a husband who has been found unfaithful, you are probably scared and trying to fix what you’ve broken. Neither one of you are sure what the future will look like.

But if you are listening to our podcast, you’re taking a brave step in the right direction. Our e-book is here to help you navigate this emotional roller-coaster as you set out on your healing and recovery journey.

Whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying, we've got you covered with practical tips and guidance to help you rebuild trust, foster open communication, and grow as individuals and as a couple.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

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Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 5. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal

Episode 59. Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery

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In this raw and emotional episode, we dive into the painful reality of how the phrase “I love you” can feel hollow and even triggering after sexual betrayal in marriage.

When those same words were whispered to someone outside the covenant, they lose their sacred weight—leaving the betrayed spouse questioning their truth. We explore the agony of speaking (or hearing) “I love you” when trust has been shattered, and why those words may no longer feel safe.

But there is hope. Healing is absolutely possible through God’s redemptive power and the hard, daily work of recovery. We discuss how couples can rebuild trust, not with empty words, but with actions that prove commitment over time.

And we reveal a new approach we’re testing: replacing “I love you” with “I choose you”—a deliberate declaration of fidelity, even when feelings are messy.

You’re not alone in this struggle. If “I love you” stings right now, it’s okay. Healing starts with honesty, humility, and a willingness to rebuild—one faithful choice at a time.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 64. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series)   

Episode 78. Forgiving the “Other Woman” - A Path to Peace After Sexual Betrayal Trauma

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