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Hey Dog Lover,🐾

This episode is one for the books. I got to sit down with my mentor and dear friend, Nelson Hodges, for a conversation that honestly felt like cracking open the soul of our work with dogs.

We explored one foundational (and often misunderstood) question:
👉 What is a dog?
…and why getting that right changes everything else.

This is part one of a two-part conversation, and believe me, you’ll want to listen with a pen in hand and your curiosity dialled all the way up.

Because Nelson doesn’t just talk about dogs… he helps you see them. Really see them.

In this episode, we dive into:

• Dogs can smell your thoughts ( I know this one hit me hard!)

• How a dog’s survival instincts shape their behaviour — and how our responses often miss the mark

• What it actually means to “know” a dog on their terms, not ours

  And so much more!

Expect to be challenged. Expect to be inspired. And most of all… expect to say “How interesting!” more than once. 😉

Hope you enjoy!

Tracy xoxox

🐾 Show Notes & Resources
To learn more about Nelson Hodges and his work, check out:
🌐 www.chrinstitute.com
Facebook: Canine Human Relationship Institute

Let’s Keep the Conversation Going!
We’d love to hear your takeaways from this episode — whether it’s an aha moment or a “how interesting!” shift in perspective.

Come share inside our Living Beyond Obedience Facebook group and let’s continue the conversation together. 🐕

🐾 Hey there Dog Lover,

We’re diving into Part 6 of the Peace in the Pack series — and today’s episode is all about a sneaky dynamic that shows up in a lot of multi-dog homes (especially when you’re adding new dogs into the mix):
Us vs. Them.

Dogs are deeply wired for social structure. In their world, there’s with us… and there’s not with us. And when we humans unknowingly reinforce that division — through the way we set up our homes, introduce new dogs, or even talk about “my dog vs. your dog” — it creates unnecessary conflict and tension in the pack.

In this episode, we’re unpacking:

• Why dogs are hardwired to value group cohesion
• How crates, furniture, baby gates, and guest seating can accidentally send the wrong message
• What “us vs. them” looks like in foster and blended households
• Why even you can become a high-value resource that shifts the group dynamic
• Real-life examples (including what I learned from my own pack and boarding dogs)

You’ll walk away from this episode with a clearer picture of how to structure your environment and mindset to support pro-social, pack-centered living — without accidentally drawing invisible battle lines.

I hope you enjoy this one.

Tracy
xoxo

🐾👣 Next Steps:

If you’re ready to go beyond obedience and start living with your dog intentionally, it’s time to join me in The Fearless Framework.

We’ll help you understand your dog — and yourself — in ways that lead to more confidence, connection, and peace in your home.

🐾 Join today: www.beyondobedience.ca/fearless
I can’t wait to start this journey with you.

Music Credit 🎶 Shawn Trotter @ shawntrotter.com

🐾 Hey there, Dog Lover,

We're back with Part 5 of the Peace in the Pack series — and today, we're getting into one of those deceptively simple questions that opens the door to a whole lot of deeper conversations:

Should your dog be allowed on the furniture?

My answer? Yes.
…And also maybe no. 😉

This episode isn’t about setting rules — it’s about understanding what levels mean to dogs. From who gets the couch to who sleeps on the bed, your dogs are constantly making choices based on strategy, safety, and social standing.

In this episode, we dig into:

• How elevation influences canine communication (and conflict)
• Why leadership is more about clarity than control
• The role of the den (your bed!) in pack dynamics
• How little moments — like who moves who — say a lot about the social structure
• Why some dogs show tension in elevated spaces (and what that actually means)

Plus, I’ll share a behind-the-scenes look at Irie and the occasional “toothy whispers” she shares with the rest of the pack — and what that taught me about space, status, and fairness.

I hope you enjoy this one.
See you next week for Part 6.

Tracy
xoxo

👉 Next Steps:

If you really want to understand your dog — and decode the way they move through the world — it starts with learning how to read canine conversations.

That’s exactly what we do inside The Fearless Framework — together.

🎉 Join today: www.beyondobedience.ca/fearless
I can’t wait to start this journey with you.

Music Credit 🎶 Shawn Trotter www.shawntrotter.com

🐾 Hey there, Dog Lover,

We’re continuing our Peace in the Pack series this week with a topic that hits close to home for so many multi-dog households: possession and resource conflict.

Ever said, “Ugh, my dog is so jealous!” when one dog pushes the other away for attention?

Yeah. Let’s talk about that.

In this episode, I’m diving into:

• What dogs actually value (spoiler: it’s not always food)
• Why guarding you is often the biggest source of conflict — and how our human emotions add fuel to the fire
• How possession shows up in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways
• The difference between healthy play and tension-filled control
• Why “fairness” is a human concept, not a canine one

I’ll also share one of the biggest lightbulb moments I had comparing my house pack to my kennel pack — and what it taught me about my own role in the tension I was seeing.

If you've ever dealt with growling over toys, snippy moments between dogs, or tension when one dog comes in for love, this episode is for you.

I hope you enjoy this one.
See you in the next episode.

Tracy
xoxo

👣🐾Next Steps:

If you really want to understand dog behaviour, canine conversations, and how to create clarity and peace in your pack, you need to be inside The Fearless Framework.

This is where we walk the walk.
Together.
With heart, intention, and a healthy dose of dog nerdiness. 🐾

🎉 Join today: www.beyondobedience.ca/fearless
I can’t wait to start this journey with you.

Music credit: 🎶. Shawn Trotter www.shawntrotter.com

Hey Dog Lover,

You’ve probably heard it before — or maybe even said it yourself:
“He’s just social!”
“She’s friendly!”
“They love other dogs!”

But here’s the thing: “social” isn’t always what you think it is.
And in a multi-dog home, it might actually be the source of your tension.

In this episode, we’re digging into the four types of canine sociality — asocial, antisocial, social, and pro-social — and how this spectrum plays out in real-life relationships between your dogs (and between you and your dogs, too).

We’ll talk about:

• Why “friendly” often means boundaryless

• Why some dogs bulldoze others while others withdraw

• How you might be acting social instead of pro-social with your own dog

• And what a truly pro-social pack actually looks like

This episode might change the way you see your dogs — and your role as a leader — for good.

Hope you enjoy this one. See you in the next episode!

Tracy xoxoxo

Next Steps:👣🐾
If this episode hit home — if you found yourself thinking “Oh no… my dog might not be pro-social” or “I’ve been labeling my dog ‘friendly’ when really… they’re just kind of rude,” — then here’s the truth:

You don’t just need more training tools. You need a new lens.

And that’s exactly what the Fearless Framework is here to give you.

It’s not a course about fixing your dog — it’s a 12-month coaching experience designed to help you:

• Build trust-driven leadership that actually works in a multi-dog home

• Understand your dogs at a deeper level — from personality to behavior to pack dynamics

• Stop second-guessing yourself and start leading with calm, grounded confidence

• Create a peaceful, connected life with your dogs — not just a well-managed one

Because you and your dogs deserve more than obedience.
You deserve understanding, connection, and confidence.
You deserve to live beyond obedience.

💻 Join me inside the Fearless Framework at beyondobedience.ca/fearless
Let’s build something beautiful together.

Hey Dog Lover,🐾

The truth is, a peaceful pack isn’t built by making your dogs follow the same training, the same rules, or the same boundaries.

Because every dog brings their own unique Dogonality™ to the table.

It’s easy to say “rules, boundaries, and expectations,”… but what we sometimes miss is that those rules might need to look different depending on the dog in front of us. And that’s not just okay — it’s essential.

In this episode, we’re talking about how to honour the individual dog — their play style, their processing style, their personality — while still guiding the whole crew under the shared umbrella of a pro-social pack.

This is where leadership meets relationship.
And it changes everything.

Hope you enjoy this one. See you in the next episode!

Tracy xoxoxo

Next Steps:👣🐾

🐾 Haven’t taken the Doggonality Quiz yet? Take it here — it’s the perfect first step toward clarity.
🧭 Ready to take this thing to the next level?

Want to deepen your leadership and confidence?

Join the Fearless Framework at beyondobedience.ca/fearless

🎶 Music by Shawn Trotter – shawntrotter.com

Hey Dog Lover,

We’re kicking off a brand-new podcast series today called Peace in the Pack — and if you’ve ever found yourself saying, “Ugh, this dog is driving me nuts,” then this one’s for you.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a perspective shift that might just blow your mind (in the gentlest, most supportive way possible, of course 😉).

What if the dog that looks like the “problem child” — the one barking, pacing, reacting — isn’t actually the root of the issue? What if they’re just the messenger?

I’ll tell you the story of Jamie, her anxious dog Daisy, and her sweet new rescue Homer — and how what looked like a simple case of “fix Daisy” turned out to be a much deeper pack dynamic that was quietly playing out under the surface.

We’ll talk about:

• How canine social pressure flies under the radar

• What subtle behaviors to watch for (even from the “chill” dog)

• Why reactivity is often a protest, not a personality

• And how leadership means observing the whole pack, not just the loudest member

Because peace in your home starts with seeing what’s actually going on — not just what’s barking the loudest.

Hope you enjoy this one — see you in the next one! 🐾

NEXT STEPS🐾👣

If you’re ready to stop controlling your dog and instead start building real harmony and partnership with them, then you are ready for The Fearless Framework Online Program and Community

🦴 Use coupon code BOOTCAMP to save big on The Fearless Framework — and get bonus private coaching calls during our Bootcamp Special, on now through October 19th!
👉 beyondobedience.ca/special

Special music credit to Shawn Trotter – www.shawntrotter.com

Hey Dog Lover 🐾

It’s the Monday after Bootcamp… and Thanksgiving here in Canada. 🇨🇦

So I wanted to offer something simple, grounding, and honestly—really powerful.

Because training probably takes up, what? Maybe 5–10% of your day tops?
So what’s happening in the other 95%?

That’s where your dog is learning the most about who you are—
and where your bond is really being built.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through 3 simple things you can do today (no training required!) to strengthen connection, deepen trust, and help your dog feel safe in your everyday life.

🔹 Be Quiet
If you want to talk to your dog... shut your mouth. (Yep—Nelson said it first. 😉)
We spend so much time narrating, cueing, correcting—
that we forget to actually listen.
Try this: spend 5–15 minutes moving through your world with your dog in silence.
Observe. Notice. Let the quiet speak.
Because the quiet moments are where the real communication happens.

🔹 Notice How You Move Through Space
Your presence affects your dog—every time you move, shift, or reach.
Leadership starts with noticing, not controlling.
So today, just pay attention:
How does your dog respond when you walk into a room or step closer?
No fixing. No labeling. Just awareness.

🔹 Be Curious About What Matters to Your Dog
If your dog stops to explore something—go see what it is.
Not to redirect. Not to control. Just to witness it with them.
That tiny act of curiosity says, “What matters to you, matters to me.”
And that’s where mutual relevance—and trust—grow.

You don’t need to “do” more training to build a better bond.
You need:
✨ More silence
✨ More noticing
✨ More genuine curiosity

When you change how you show up in the everyday moments, your dog will feel it—
and your relationship will grow stronger.

So… which one can you try today?

Hope you enjoy this one!

Tracy xoxox

NEXT STEPS 👣🐾

🎉 Missed Bootcamp?
You can still catch the replays and learn what calm, confident leadership really looks like to your dog.

🦴 Watch or join at: Calm Down, Dog Bootcamp

👥 Join our free community!
Come hang out with us inside Living Beyond Obedience, my private Facebook group where we talk about leadership, trust, and what it really means to be your dog’s safe place.
👉 www.facebook.com/groups/LivingBeyondObedience

🎵 Podcast music by Shawn Trotter → shawntrotter.com

Dear Dog Lover 🐾

Someone once asked me what good training looks like.
And I said — it looks like nothing at all.

Because when it’s good — when the relationship is solid — you don’t have to do much.
It’s quiet. It’s steady. It’s felt.
That’s not control.
That’s leadership.

In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on a word that’s tossed around a lot in the dog world — leadership — and looking at what it actually means to your dog.

Because here’s the thing…
Leadership doesn’t look like “being in charge.”
It looks like awareness.
It looks like calm in uncertainty.
It looks like trust you can feel.

You’ll hear stories about Gunther (of course 😉) and how real leadership isn’t loud, reactive, or over-commanding — it’s quiet consistency. It’s being the one who notices, who moves first, who says with energy alone, “I’ve got this. You don’t have to worry.”

“You don’t have to be louder than your dog.
You just have to be calmer than their fear.”

This episode is for you if:

• You’ve been trying to lead but it feels like micromanaging

• You’ve ever confused obedience with influence

• You’re ready to show up in a way your dog actually feels safe following

Because leadership isn’t positional — it’s relational.
You don’t earn it through control.
You earn it through clarity, consistency, and calm.

Hope you enjoy!

Please be sure to share! Rate! and Comment!

Tracy xoxox

NEXT STEPS 👣🐾

🎉 If you’ve been part of the Calm Down, Dog! Bootcamp this week — this is the work.
You’re already practicing what leadership looks and feels like to your dog.

And if you’re just tuning in, it’s not too late.
You can still catch the replays, join the conversations, and start showing up in a way your dog truly feels.

🦴 Save your spot at beyondobedience.ca/bootcamp

🎵 Podcast music by Shawn Trotter → shawntrotter.com

Hey friend,

I just wanted to pop in for a minute...

This isn’t a regular episode.
It’s a quiet moment to talk about why I created the Calm Down, Dog! Bootcamp… and why it matters so much to me.

You see, most people come into this work thinking it’s their dog that needs to change.
The barking, the pulling, the spinning — all the chaos that makes your shoulders tense and your breath go shallow.
And I get it.
That’s what most training is built around: fixing the dog.

But what I’ve heard, over and over again, from the people who go through Bootcamp is this:

“The biggest change wasn’t in my dog… it was in me.”

And that’s the part that gives me goosebumps every single time.

Because this work isn’t about being the problem — it’s about realizing you’ve always had the power.
When you shift — even just a little — your energy changes.
Your dog feels safer.
The chaos starts to soften.

It’s not about better obedience.
It’s about showing up with clarity and calm.
You don’t need to become someone new.
You just need to uncover the leader your dog already believes you are.

So if you’ve been studying, trying all the methods, doing all the things… and you’re still feeling frustrated or disconnected, this is your reminder:
You’re not broken.
You and your dog are just learning to breathe together again.

That’s what this Bootcamp is really about — not control, but connection.
Not training harder, but trusting deeper.

And that’s why I hope you’ll join us.

🎉 Join the Calm Down, Dog! Bootcamp — live or catch the replays!
There’s still time to come hang out with us and start building the kind of relationship that feels calm, confident, and real.

🦴 beyondobedience.ca/bootcamp

Hope to see you there

Tracy