Beyond The Glass Slipper

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Having been through a narcissistic relationship you’ve probably wondered, “Why me?”  

There’s a spiritual component to this as well as a fleshly component and they work hand-in-hand.

Contrary to what many people think, narcs don’t necessarily target people who are weak and pitiful.

In a weird sort of way, if you were targeted by a narcissist it confirms that you’re an incredible person.

You have a lot of amazing, Christ-like qualities, but many of those very qualities were weaponized against you for the narcissist's agenda of control.

Let's talk about WHY and HOW so many of your wonderful qualities were leveraged by the narcissist, along with some weaknesses narcissists can spot and exploit for their agenda.

This is a really important area for you to become savvy in.  Otherwise, you may be a sitting duck for the next narc who spots you.

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Depending on the messages you grew up with and your relational experiences with God and others, you may not have a full picture of what healthy relationships really look like.

Add to that possibly skewed foundation, being in a significant relationship with a narcissist and you have a recipe for trouble in future relationships!

When you’ve been in the ugly pit of relationships, anything even slightly better seems wonderful.

But is that enough?  

It’s not if your standard of what a healthy relationship is has been lowered.

So let’s talk about what an authentically healthy relationship looks like in real life and how to move to a more wholesome and fulfilling standard of relationships as you’re working to rebuild a beautiful life.

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We all have quite a number of falsehoods we’ve believed about ourselves, about relationships, about life, and even about God.

Sometimes these falsehoods have a fragment of truth that makes it feel believable and sometimes we’ve embraced outright lies without challenging their validity.

Today we’re going to take it to the next step and think about what’s underlying the falsehood to see why it SEEMS true and what it’s doing for us.

That’s right - sometimes we embrace outright lies because it’s working for us in some twisted way.

Let’s look at the underlying basis of 4 categories of lies we tell ourselves so we can start wrapping our heads around what’s REALLY going on here.

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Even though you’ve ended the narcissistic relationship you may still be carrying some distortions about who you really are.

Whether the narcissist in your former relationship managed to drill these distortions into your psyche, or you entered the relationship with some version of these distortions already that the narcissist exploited.

It can make a world of difference for you to question the validity of some assumptions about yourself. 

You may discover that you’ve come into agreement with distortions that are absolutely wrong and nothing but flat out lies holding you hostage without even realizing it!

Pour a cup of your favorite brew and join us as we look at 6 sneaky distortions you may have accepted as true about yourself.

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We’ve all experienced many forms of grief arising from loss;
loss of a job, of a beloved pet, of a hope or dream, loss of a loved one.

It’s generally accepted from researchers, psychologists, and cultural experiences that when we have a big loss in life we’ll walk through generally a 5 stage process before we come to grips with the loss and feel  we’re moving on.

Completely ending a long term and deeply meaningful narcissistic  relationship such as a narcissistic parent, maybe an adult sibling, adult child, best friend, a boyfriend, and especially a spouse  is a deep loss but with some significant additional twists and turns in the grieving process.

Grab a cup of tea and join us as we discuss the 5 stages of grief that are unique to narcissistic abuse survivors and how to move through the stages in a healthy way so you're free to enjoy life again.

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In our previous episode we talked about the first two big fat unhealthy mistakes, both of which have to do with another person.

The 2 detrimental mistakes we’re going to discuss today involve only what’s going on within ourselves.

The real danger zone of slipping up with these 2 big mistakes is highest  in the first year after ending a relationship with a narc, but can happen any time you have unhealed issues in your soul.

Buckle up because we're going to get real ( in love!) in this episode.

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When your heart’s broken and your identity has endured a beating from the narcissist you were connected with, it’s all too easy to willingly, but blindly, walk into these 2 traps we’re looking at today .

It doesn’t look or feel like a trap….at first.

It feels really comforting…at first.  

It feels really affirming…at first.

It feels like a reversal of all the hurt…at first.

But look out, because in no time at all it could boomerang your heart, your identity, and your life backwards into a pit that’s even harder to climb out of than it was before.

Let’s talk about why these traps show up gift-wrapped and are so very alluring.

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Denis Waitley, a well known motivational speaker for decades once said that a good life is a collection of happy moments.

In the early stages of rebuilding your life after narcissistic abuse, life feels more like a series of traumas, disappointments, failures, and hurts, rather than a collection of happy moments.

The good news is you can change all that from this point forward.

You get to design your life - bit by bit.

A beautiful life doesn’t happen accidentally.

You must be intentional about it.

Pull up a chair and join us as we discuss 3 important attributes that we all benefit from intentionally building into our lifestyle.

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After being with a narc, often it feels like everything meaningful was stripped away and you’re just trudging, just trying to get through the day.

As we step into this new year, it can be what we choose to make it.

We start not by setting goals, but by clearly choosing and articulating - to ourselves - what’s meaningful and why.

Then we write our simple Constitution Statement that we’re willing to take a stand for.

We NEED a Personal Constitution because it gives us a foundation from which we draw our goals and guides what we focus on that’s important to us.

It helps us more readily recognize when we’re drifting away from our values and shines a spotlight to recognize when someone is trying to violate what we hold dear.

You may find it helpful to download my free workbook:
Beautiful Life Constitution at https://annettechesney.com/beautiful-life-constitution

Pour yourself a cup of tea and join us today as we discuss this process and the insights we discovered.

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It’s that time of year - the lull between Christmas and the kick off of a new year!

For many people this is the time where we relax and reflect a bit. 

Sometimes we’re thinking of goals for the next year, but often, for those dealing with the fallout of narcissistic abuse, we’re just trying to catch our breath.  The thought of surging forward with shiny new goals into the new year is a bit overwhelming.

Here’s the thing though…
With all we’ve been through over the last year, it’s not helpful or even healthy to just stuff everything in a box, try to forget it and get on with the next year.

So today we’re going to talk about 5 exercises that are interesting to work through, will yield useful insights and help us find some resolution to the mental and emotional ragged loose ends flapping in the breeze.

BTW, I have a special workbook you can download for free. 
You may find it helpful to print out that workbook at:
https://annettechesney.com/year-end 

Let's dive into these exercises and what we discovered.  Hopefully it will inspire you too.

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