Beyond The Glass Slipper

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As Christians we often hear how God would have us forgive those who have offended us.  There’s truth in this and it is important.

But when it comes to the deep wounds of narcissistic abuse, trying to forgive feels impossible - even insulting!

At best we feel like a guilty failure because we just can’t do it.  At worst it stirs tremendous anger & resentment in us - even anger toward God.

We understand the struggle associated with this.  You’ll find no self-righteous judgment from us because we’ve experienced it too.  

The problem is that holding onto the righteous indignation associated with deep offenses committed against us isn’t protecting us, hurting the narcissist or bringing about justice.  

It’s holding us in bondage so we need to do something about it.

There’s another way to approach this whole subject that I think you’ll find refreshing and freeing. 

So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and let’s talk about how to feel safe giving offenses to God when justice hasn’t been served.

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As you start piecing your life back together and move beyond the initial anger stage, inevitably you hit a wall and find yourself stuck in regret, kicking yourself with the shoulda, woulda, coulda’s.

Just trying to press on with your days doesn’t fix things.

You can be free of the narcissist for years, yet still be mired in regret, anger, and unforgiveness with yourself that sabotages your future.

Pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and let’s talk about the action steps you need to practice to release regret, forgive yourself instead of kicking  yourself and move into your beautiful future.

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We’ve all heard about the 5 stages of grief, but it’s very different when it comes to grief involved with narcissistic abuse. 

Initially, there’s that sense of  shock and dissonance when we’re putting 2+2 together, followed by feeling driven to uncover the truth.  Then the outrage hits as we realize how badly we were lied to and manipulated.  So what naturally follows is depression and anxiety.

Although it’s normal to experience depression and anxiety at this stage of the journey, you really want to avoid getting stuck in that stage because it can suck all the color out of your days and control your life.

It’s no way to live.

After what you’ve been through you deserve the victory of feeling light-hearted and hopeful!

Pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and let’s talk about what’s going on in this stage and how to get to the other side of it with a renewed sense of hopeful expectation of good things to come in your life.

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We know while the narcissistic relationship was in full swing it had its claws in every aspect of your life. 

Now that it’s over you may still wrestle, occasionally or even a lot reconciling what happened and it’s casting a shadow over you and your future.

The problem is that you’re still caught up with aspects of  the past, and how you see yourself now,  which means the narc is still influencing you from afar.

As a result you’re stuck in some areas and unable to make peace with  your past so you’re free to experience authentic joy.

It’s entirely possible for you to kick the narc out of your head so you feel free, so you like who you are now and feel the world is your oyster, not in spite of what you’ve been through, but because of what you’ve been through.

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Once you’ve come to terms with the fact that you were dealing with a narcissist, that you were deliberately and knowingly gaslighted and emotionally abused, among other travesties, the normal and natural response is outrage.

As a matter of fact, I’d be worried if you weren’t outraged.

You’ll find yourself dealing with a righteous indignation and demand for justice, especially in the first year.

If you’ve got minor children with the narcissist and are dealing with prolonged legal battles you might find that outrage triggered over and over again.

It isn’t easy, but there are practical and spiritual strategies that can help you clear your head and  feel calm again, without stuffing the emotions in a box in the closet of your mind.

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Congratulations for breaking free from that narcissistic relationship!  Now what?

Like it or not, you’ve been forever changed. What kind of change (good or bad) depends on your next move.

It doesn’t matter if it’s been 10 months or 10 years since you left that narcissistic relationship.

The pain and distortions can still linger and subconsciously hold you back from being who you’re meant to be and accomplishing what you’re called to do.

You may not even realize that the issues you see within yourself are connected to what you went through in the past.

Let’s take a look at some common traits that can indicate echoes of narcissistic abuse are still holding you back.

The good news is, once you connect the dots you can do something about it.

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You may have lived for years trying to fix what you were told was wrong with you
so the relationship would be better.

You probably poured just as much effort into trying to get your loved one to see reason, to work with you to resolve the problems but nothing ever changed.

Around and around the mountain you went for what felt like an eternity yet all you got for your efforts were sleepless nights, exhaustion, loneliness, and deteriorating self-esteem.

FINALLY something shifted and the relationship was forced to end one way or another.

You may have stumbled upon the truth toward the end of the relationship, or perhaps it took months or even years to connect the dots. 

Yes, that person was a narcissist.

You didn’t want to believe it at first.  

But as the denial crumbles and the light dawns, a sense of shock and dissonance settles in.

Join us as we discuss what this is all about how you can work through it an care for your heart in the process.

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Ideally, once you’ve extracted yourself from a narcissistic relationship you never have to see or deal with that person again.

However the ideal doesn’t always match our reality.

There’s times that encountering or even communicating  with the narcissist is unavoidable  and leaves us feeling shaken and triggered for the rest of the day…or even several days.

The last thing you want to do is subject yourself to further injury or give the narcissist an opening they can leverage again!

So let’s have a conversation today about how to protect your heart and emerge from the encounter relatively unscathed.

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To truly feel whole, light-hearted and free so you can create an incredible personal and professional life moving forward after narcissistic abuse, it’s important to invest in YOU. 

Part of this investment involves allocating the time and energy you need to really detoxify your mindset and repair your heart.

So many women force themselves to pull up their bootstraps and just trudge forward because they think that’s what they need to do.

You can manage like that for a while, but you’re not really free and whole.    Continuing in that mode means it’s just a matter of time before you crash. 

Because in that mode you’re...
…you’re making do operating on 4 cylinders when you really have 8 cylinders of power meant to  build your life and make an impact

…you’re just getting by each day rather than passionately chasing your dreams

…you’re exhausted from trying to appear normal while  feeling heavy-hearted and overwhelmed rather than being light-hearted, full of laughter and enjoying some adventures.

To become the YOU you could be, and are meant to be it’s crucial to make space in your life for resting and doing the work of healing your heart and mind.

The life you’ll make for yourself on the other side of that work will be so worth it!

Let’s have a conversation today about 3 ways you can simplify your life - for now - 
to help you regain the margin and peace you need to do this healing work.

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After walking through the fires of narcissistic abuse we’re usually left feeling depleted.

Somehow the relationship morphed to the point that we were made to feel responsible for the narcissist's needs, while our needs were ignored.

Now that we’re free from that toxic relationship things are in many ways so much better.

Yet we may still be facing the pain of multiple legitimate, yet still unmet emotional needs.

This is a real danger point because unmet needs don’t just go away. 

It can feel like an ache inside that becomes louder and more demanding until it drives us like a craving.  

If we’re not careful, unmet emotional needs can lead us to make poor decisions, disrespect ourselves, and even dishonor our values. 

Your emotional needs are 100% legitimate.

Let’s talk about 5 healthy steps you can take to honor your unmet needs in wholesome ways so you feel stronger, more fulfilled, and much happier.

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