Beyond The Glass Slipper

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The movie “Groundhog Day” starring Bill Murray tells the story of a TV weatherman who found himself trapped living the same day over and over again.

No matter what he tried he’d find himself right back in that same loop repeating the day.  
In the same way, after the traumatizing, crazy-making experiences we had dealing with a narcissist,  we too can be caught in a loop.  

A loop of habitual thinking that keeps us fixated and stuck.

That loop will trap you in a negative cycle that robs you of today’s beauty and productivity, and sabotages your opportunities in the future.

So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us as we discuss why you got stuck in a loop, what looping does to you, and how to stop looping once and for all. 

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There’s something truly baffling about the radical personality  shifts of narcissists.

On one hand, they can be kind, compassionate, thoughtful, intelligent, funny, and truly helpful. 

They can be there in multiple ways when you need them and you feel so grateful for that.  On the other hand, they can be selfish, insensitive, mean, manipulative, demeaning, and even sadistic. 

For a while you felt like a Princess who had finally found her Prince.  You were so happy and felt there was a bright future ahead.

Then something shifted.

Trying to figure out what was happening felt like trying to catch a shadow.

In exasperation you confided in a friend you felt like you were dealing with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, but you never knew which one you were going to get.

What you didn’t realize was that you really were dealing with Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.

Except it was the reverse.  Mr. Hyde was his true nature.  Dr. Jekyll was who he brought out to keep you in the game with him. 

This is SO unlike the way normal people think or behave that it’s truly baffling to understand.

So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today because we’re going to unpack this baffling back and forth of the Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde phenomenon common to narcissists and help you make sense of it all.

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When we look back over what we’ve experienced at the hands of that narcissist too often we kick ourselves.

We ask ourselves - 

“How could I have been so blind?”

“Why did I trust him/her?”

“Where did it all go wrong?”

“How could I have been so foolish?”

“Why did I make excuses when the cracks in the veneer started to appear?

“Why did I hang in there so long?”

Trust me, you’re not weak or weird.  You’re not a fool.

You were targeted and taken in by a skilled charlatan who leveraged every asset against you.

You experienced a “bait and switch” situation designed to hook you then exploit you.

The question though is why you allowed yourself to keep accepting and adapting like a frog in the kettle as it’s being turned up to boil?

So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today because we’re going to unpack what happened, why it happened, & why you were blind to all the signs at the beginning.

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Once you break free from having to deal with that narcissist on a daily basis it’s such a relief!

But at the same time there’s a restlessness in your soul, an uneasiness that you can’t quite put your finger on.

No, you’re not weird.

That tangle of conflicting and irrational thoughts and emotions were planted in you on purpose.  

It was part of how the narc controlled you.

Their goal was always to control you at a soul level.

Now your job is to unpack all that, bring it into the light so it’s no longer lying in wait for the right trigger to send you spinning into self-doubt or choices that will hurt you as you move forward.

You had tactics used on you like:

• Wasted Days & Wasted Nights
• Dangling the Carrot
• You Complete Me
• I Know You Are But What Am I
• Glitch In the Matrix
• Good Girl!  Now Sit

Don’t worry.  We’re here to help you understand what's going on.

So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today as we talk about why we feel mixed up - one one hand utterly thrilled the narc is gone, 
yet confused about why your emotions still feel tangled.

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The narcissist targeted you because you truly are an amazing person. 

You have the kind of qualities that people truly admire. 

You’re kind and considerate to others. 

You’re generous, resourceful, and super sharp. 

You love the Lord and are always focused on growing in Christlikeness.

The narcissist is counting on leveraging those qualities, plus tapping the hooks they planted in you to lure you back into their control after you’ve broken free.

Why is this so important to the narcissist and how does the narc pull your strings from a distance?

What do we do when we can’t make a clean break from the narcissist for various reasons?

If you’re wrestling with this, you’re not alone. It’s important to get to the bottom of these questions.

We invite you to pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today as we talk about why cutting contact is so powerful and what to do when you can’t.

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There’s  a lot of messages we pick up from our parents, authority figures in our life - and especially from that long term narcissistic relationship.

Some messages are helpful.

Some messages distort our self-concept, our sense of worth, and the value of what we have to offer the world.

That can make all the difference between stepping into the spiritual power and authority we’ve been given in Christ so we can make a difference in this world…or whether we play small, make excuses, just go through the motions each day.

You may not realize it yet, but even the horribly negative life events you’ve experienced can be used for good.

You have far more wisdom, strength, and power than you realize.

We invite you to pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today as we discuss 6 ways to rediscover the value you have to share with others.

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It doesn't matter if it's been 10 months or 10 years since you escaped the grip of the narcissist, your heart can still be weighed down and hurting.  You may be functional now as you go about your days, but that doesn't mean you're free!

It's entirely possible that you're the walking wounded.  That's not the life God intended for you!

When you're truly free you'll feel light-hearted, you'll laugh a lot, love easily, and experience true peace as a way of life.  Days of heaviness will be the exception, not the norm.  

So pour yourself a cup of tea (or coffee), get comfy, and let’s talk about how to invite God to partner with you to heal your heart in a biblical way so you can experience true peace. 

BTW, we've changed things up a little bit for this episode.  Enjoy!  😉

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We’re all familiar with the phrase, “Fight, Flight, or Freeze”,  and likely may have personally experienced it.  But what’s really going on with this?

Our brains are naturally wired to be continually on the lookout, working in the background to protect us, picking up on things we often aren’t even consciously aware of.  That’s incredibly important and useful!

However, when we’ve been in relationship with a narcissist, by necessity our brain’s protective capacity went into overdrive…and stayed in hyper-vigilant overdrive.

Our brains are still looking for & expecting danger - whether real or imagined.

After a being with a narcissist it doesn’t take much to live triggered in a fight, flight, or freeze mode, which has a markedly negative impact on our quality of life.

So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and let’s talk about how to regain control of our brain when it’s been hijacked by fight, flight, or freeze so we can be back in the driver’s seat experiencing peace, and having fun.

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 Pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and let’s talk about what you need to know when you reach the healing and affirmation stage when working through the unique grieving process after narcissistic abuse.

You’ll know you’re moving into this stage when the novelty of  the narc being gone has worn off and you’re beyond seeing yourself as offended and victimized.

When you’re ready - hungry even to feel light-hearted and free, and realize it’s time to work on you, then you’ve entered the healing and affirmation stage.

This stage takes energy and a willingness to self-examine, but it’s also a stage of discovery and delight.  

On the other side of this stage is freedom and light-heartedness, a new sense of self, and a calm, confident strength. 

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