Big Fat Positive: Pregnancy and Parenting (BFP)

In this week’s “Today I Learned” segment, Laura explains what an en caul birth is and the centuries of strange folklore that grew around it, and Shanna digs up an 1890s doctor whose cure for period cramps involved an entirely unrelated body part. Also, Shanna attempts her first low-key Halloween in years, while Laura takes two kids who claim to love horror into two different Halloween stores. They also share this week’s BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• What an en caul birth is, and how rare they are

• The difference between an en caul birth and a caul birth

• Caul folklore around the world

• How doctors treated menstrual symptoms in the 1800s

• Cocaine in 19th-century medicine

• Freud’s closest friend and his strangest theory

• Halloween burnout and scaling back the holiday

• Taking scared kids to a Halloween store

• Letting kids pick their own costumes

• Keeping a kid-free outing a secret

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• Benandanti

• Ember days

• Strigoi

• Wilhelm Fliess

• Spirit Halloween

• Bath & Body Works

• Halloween Horror Nights

• Downtown Disney

• Forgotten Island movie

• Jumanji: Open World (2026)

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

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In this week's "Out of Context" segment, Shanna and Laura trade screenshots of text messages that need some explaining, including an emoji mix-up from an unexpected sender and a running joke about husbands who can’t see what’s right in front of them. Also, Laura finds out what it takes to get approved as a school volunteer these days, and a lottery win at school takes a real bite out of homework stress at Shanna’s house. They also share this week’s BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• What it takes to become a school volunteer now

• Live scan fingerprinting and background checks for parents

• Completing mandated reporter training

• Background checks for youth sports volunteers

• After-school enrichment lotteries

• Getting homework done before you get home

• Working with a teacher to get assignments early

• When an emoji goes wrong

• How different generations read emojis

• Why your husband can’t find the thing that’s right there

• Reading aloud in your kid’s classroom

• Taking a solo hike to feel like yourself again

• Hiking spots in Los Angeles

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Legend of Rock, Paper, Scissors by Drew Daywalt, illustrated by Adam Rex

• The Day the Crayons Quit by Drew Daywalt

• What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg

• Where the Wild Things Are by Maurice Sendak

• Bodies Are Cool by Tyler Feder

• Buffalo Fluffalo by Bess Kalb

• Strange Planet: The Sneaking, Hiding, Vibrating Creature by Nathan W. Pyle

• O’Melveny Park

• California Mandated Reporter Training

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Shanna and Laura answer listener questions about lying down with kids at bedtime, how to handle a child’s sleep anxiety, and the systems they use to keep track of every story they want to tell on the show. Shanna describes her bedtime routine now that her kids are older, Laura makes peace with the kid who lands in her bed at 2 a.m. every night, and both share the apps and docs holding this podcast together.

Kids’ ages: Shanna’s kids are 7 and 10 years old, and Laura’s kids are 5 and 7 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Lying down with kids at bedtime, and when to stop

• Co-regulation at bedtime and why some kids need it

• When a kid leaves their room over and over

• Bedtime when siblings share a room

• Separation anxiety at bedtime

• Severe sleep anxiety in kids

• When your kid gets in your bed every night

• Whether middle-of-the-night waking is fear or habit

• Parenting decisions at 2 a.m.

• Teaching kids acceptance instead of fighting sleep

• Lucid dreaming and reality checks for kids with nightmares

• How a podcast keeps track of story ideas

• Using Todoist and Airtable to organize creative work

• Using your camera roll and calendar to remember your own week

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• Todoist

• Airtable

• The Nugget

• Radiolab

• Send us a question on SpeakPipe

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• Become a Patreon member for ad-free episodes, bonus content and more.

• Follow @bfppodcast on Instagram, TikTok and Facebook, or join our Facebook community group.

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

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In this week’s “Internet Insanity” segment, Shanna breaks down the NeeDoh squishy toy craze that’s led to store fights, police involvement and a 243% spike in poison control calls, and Laura finally solves a months-long mystery about the bot-like comments appearing on the show's Spotify episodes. Also, fall activities ramp up for Shanna’s family, while Laura rides an unexpected wave of productivity around the house. They also share this week’s BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• The NeeDoh squishy toy craze, explained

• Why fidget toys took off the way they did

• How to repair a split squishy toy

• Why podcast comment sections are full of strange messages

• Volunteering for your kid’s sports team

• Getting a dimmer switch and warmer bulbs for a calmer bedtime

• When to DIY and when to hire it out

• Earning a toy with a points system

• Buying secondhand instead of new

• Getting kids to clean up by turning it into a contest

• Mosquitoes in Los Angeles and Skeeter syndrome

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• NeeDoh by Schylling

• This American Life, episode 897: “Intergenerational Space Travel”

• TaskRabbit

• Mosquito Dunks

• Gorilla Glue clear silicone sealant

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• Become a Patreon member for ad-free episodes, bonus content and more.

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

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Homework season starts and goes about as badly as Laura feared, leaving her looking for a way to get it done somewhere other than the kitchen table. Shanna's brutal mornings turn around after an unexpected discovery at urgent care. In this week's "Loose Ends" segment, Shanna and Laura revisit the stories they left dangling: whether a months-long screen time ban is still holding up, where a nine-month-overdue front tooth finally landed, and whether a head wound is going to leave a scar. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• When homework becomes a nightly fight

• Homework and ADHD: when easy work is still painful

• Why kids do homework for other adults but not their parents

• How a hidden ear infection can lower a kid's frustration threshold

• Choosing a pediatric urgent care over a general clinic

• Getting a medication-anxious kid to take ear drops

• When a permanent tooth takes nine months to come in

• Scar care and silicone scar gel for kids

• Starting over on an occupational therapy waitlist

• Talking about your child's struggles with your child in the room

• Life after a screen time ban: what the kids actually do instead

• Why movies work better than episodes for sensitive kids

• Rage cleaning as a household strategy

• Keeping a drip irrigation system alive while you travel

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• BIOCORNEUM scar gel

• How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis

• KC Davis's Struggle Care site

• Dog with a Blog

• The Comeback

• Hollywood Bowl

• The Buy Nothing Project

• Cat's Cradle toy

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

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Shanna's drop-off struggles with her youngest escalate, so she lands on an unconventional solution to improve her family's morning routines. Laura scrambles to find last-minute babysitter coverage so she can attend an all-day music festival without the kids. In this week's "Throwback" segment, Shanna confesses to a split-second decision in fifth-grade band class that hurt a friendship, and shares what she hopes for her own fifth grader, who's navigating similar terrain. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• When school drop-off meltdowns keep escalating

• Disclosing an ADHD diagnosis to your child's school

• What a 504 plan is and when to ask about one

• Why leaving 10 minutes earlier changes everything

• Sensory triggers that derail a morning

• Scrambling for childcare when plans fall through

• Talking to kids about friendship conflict and repair

• Fifth-grade identity shifts and changing friend groups

• Peer pressure and mean-girl dynamics

• Using games and novelty to replace nagging

• Podcasts kids and parents can both enjoy

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• Greeking Out from National Geographic Kids

• Wheel of Names

• Daisy Chain Fields Festival

• Doechii

• Pigeon in a Peanut

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

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Choosing between charter, magnet, public and private schools is overwhelming, and so is the trial-and-error process of finding the right ADHD medication for your kid. In this Ask-Us-Anything minisode, Shanna and Laura answer listener questions about how to narrow down school options when you don't know where to begin, and what their families' ADHD medication journeys have actually looked like, including what didn't work and why. Laura also shares an ADHD update of her own.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• How to choose a school: charter, magnet, public and private

• How to evaluate schools in your area

• School waitlists and application deadlines: when to start

• The LAUSD eChoices system and why people hire consultants for it

• Finding the right ADHD medication through trial and error

• Stimulants vs. non-stimulants for kids

• Why immediate release and extended release can work completely differently

• How to monitor whether a medication is helping or hurting your child

• Adult ADHD diagnosis: what finally prompted it

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• The ADHD Parenting Podcast - co-hosted by Mike McLeod, referenced on adults staying in charge of medication decisions

• GrowNOW ADHD - Mike McLeod's organization

• SpeakPipe - send us your questions for a future episode!

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• Become a Patreon member for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more.

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

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Shanna navigates two school drop-off meltdowns in one week and finds an unexpected way to regulate herself afterward. Laura reports on her boys' first week of school and a surprisingly successful shopping trip, and in this week's "Throwback" segment, she takes us back to the summer of 1995, when she gave herself a disastrous 4th-of-July dye job that her mom has never let her forget. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 years old and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• What to do when your kid melts down at school drop-off

• Regulating yourself after your child's big emotions

• Using singing and music to complete the stress cycle

• When a teacher goes on leave at the start of the school year

• Getting intel on your kid's new teacher

• Kindergarten buddy programs for siblings at the same school

• Helping kids who feel unsure about friendships in a new class

• Kids who love shopping in person

• Teaching kids to apply temporary tattoos themselves

• How to remove temporary tattoos

• Letting kids dye their hair bright colors

• Why "temporary" hair dye sometimes isn't

• Beating the heat with a backyard pool setup

• Solo theme park trips for parents

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• Toy Story 5

• Manic Panic hair dye

• Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski

• Intex above-ground pools

• Thermacell mosquito repellent

• Fast & Furious: Hollywood Drift at Universal Studios Hollywood

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

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In this week's "What's in Your Bag?" segment, Shanna and Laura confess the items they've somehow ended up hauling around, including one thing that survived a 102-degree drive across town. Also, Shanna preps her daughters for the first day of school and finally delivers the puberty presentation she'd been procrastinating for months, and Laura reports on the tail end of her family's Portland trip and a tiny plane Sebastian refused to leave. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 years old and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• How to spend the last week of summer break

• Creating a buffer day between summer camp and the first day of school

• How schools announce teacher assignments and why they wait until the last minute

• Making a puberty and periods presentation for your kids

• What to put in a tween puberty readiness kit

• Destigmatizing period conversations as a family

• Including younger siblings in big-kid conversations

• Aviation museums with kids: what to expect

• The Spruce Goose and Howard Hughes

• Hanging on to gift cards for way too long

• Using gum or mints to redirect a dysregulated kid

• Changing your child's sensory experience to interrupt a meltdown

• Why your purse becomes a black hole (and what accumulates in there)

• When grandparents win prizes your kids don't care about

• Teaching kids to write thank you cards

• How a small act of kindness came back around

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• Evergreen Aviation & Space Museum, McMinnville, OR

• Ice Breakers Sparkling Mints

• Universal Studios Hollywood

• Chuck E. Cheese

• Funny Instagram reel: Bag of clothes for donation in your car

• Next Level Arcade and Pinball Museum

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

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In this week's "They Said What?" segment, Shanna and Laura cover a bedtime conversation that took a shocking left turn, a sentence Laura never expected to say out loud, and an adult's comment about beauty standards that made a lasting impact. Also, Laura reports on a Portland trip derailed by wildfire smoke and saved by 300 pinball machines, and Shanna navigates her daughter's emotionally charged earring switch. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 years old and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• What to do when wildfire smoke ruins your vacation plans

• Getting kids comfortable changing their earrings

• Body image conversations with young kids

• When your five-year-old is in a sweet, grateful phase

• When your kid says something completely out of left field at bedtime

• Using OpenTable and Resi's notify feature to snag last-minute reservations

• Taking your kids to their first concert

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• Next Level Arcade and Pinball Museum, Hillsboro OR

• Fox Theater Pomona

• Gado Gado Portland

• OpenTable / Resy

• Indiana Jones soundtrack on Spotify

• Schindler's List soundtrack by John Williams

• Beach Bunny

• Vertigo by Beach Bunny

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.