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What if dating apps were built for real bodies? Real needs. Real safety.

In this episode, we sit down with Liz Gewirtz, the founder of Hips, Crips & Queers, a new dating and community platform centering queer, fat, disabled, and older folks.

Liz shares what pushed her to build something entirely different from the swipe-and-discard culture most of us know too well, and what it looks like to design a space rooted in fat liberation, disability justice, consent, and actual human connection.

We talk about:

• Why mainstream dating apps fail marginalized bodies
• Reclaiming language, identity, and desire
• Safety, scam prevention, and avoiding fetishization
• Creating community, not just matches
• Dating while fat, disabled, queer, older, neurodivergent, or all of the above
• Why representation and visibility still matter deeply
• And what it means to dare to date in a world that often tells you not to

This conversation is honest, thoughtful, funny, political, tender, and deeply human.

If you’ve ever felt invisible in dating spaces, this one is for you.

About our guest:

Liz Gewirtz is the founder of Hips, Crips & Queers, a dating and community website centering queer, fat, disabled, and older folks.

By day, she works as a Restorative Justice Facilitator. By night, she’s a fat, disabled, old, and queer activist, community builder, big-time nerd, and devoted dog rescuer.

Learn more & get involved:

You can explore and sign up for updates at:
 https://hipscripsqueers.com

Follow Hips, Crips & Queers on social media to stay up to date on the launch, events, and community spaces.

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Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

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As 2025 comes to a close, Big Sexy Chat gathers for an end-of-year roundtable conversation about what this year took, what it revealed, and what the fat community is being asked to carry forward into 2026.

Joined by Saucye West, Bruce Sturgell, and Ronald Young Jr., this conversation moves beyond headlines and buzzwords to talk honestly about autonomy, weight loss culture, respectability politics, community fatigue, and the realities of staying visible in a world that keeps asking fat people to disappear.

We talk about GLP-1 medications and the “magic wand” narrative, but more importantly, we talk about truth-telling, conditional acceptance, and what it means to keep showing up when comfort is offered only if you comply.

This episode isn’t neat. It’s reflective, sometimes heavy, sometimes hopeful, and deeply human.
Still here. Still fat. Still paying attention.

Guests

Saucye West
Plus-size model, fat fashion influencer, and activist. Saucye is the creator of the #FatAndFree movement and a long-time advocate for extended sizing, fat liberation, and unapologetic visibility, particularly for superfat and infinite fat bodies.

Bruce Sturgell
Founder of Chubstr and co-host of the Heavy Conversation podcast. Bruce has spent over a decade creating resources, fashion guidance, and media for fat men and masculine-presenting people.

Ronald Young Jr.
Award-winning audio producer, storyteller, and host of Weight For It. Ronald’s work explores fatness, culture, and storytelling, and has been recognized by Tribeca, The Podcast Academy, Vulture, Vogue, and The New York Times.

Due to a technical issue, Ronald was disconnected near the end of the episode. You can find more of his work through Weight For It and his current projects.

Topics We Cover

• Reflecting on 2025 inside the fat community
• Autonomy, neutrality, and where those conversations fall short
• GLP-1 medications and the “magic wand” narrative
• Respectability politics and conditional acceptance
• What weight loss changes and what it doesn’t
• Community fatigue, grief, and rebuilding connection
• What we’re keeping, tossing, and transforming moving into 2026

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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In this episode, we’re joined by Cam Jennings from ToyChats.com, a platform built entirely around user-generated sex toy reviews.

We talk about why ToyChats exists in the first place, how the platform actually works, and what makes a review useful versus just noise. Cam breaks down the difference between brand-driven reviews and reviews from real people, how reviewers get paid, and what they’re looking for before a review goes live.

We also dig into why ToyChats actively wants everyday people reviewing toys, not just influencers or industry insiders, and why having a wide range of bodies, experiences, and opinions makes sex toy shopping safer and more helpful for everyone.

If you’ve ever wished you could hear how a toy actually works for someone who isn’t being paid by the brand, this conversation gives a really clear look at how ToyChats is trying to fill that gap.

Want to check out ToyChats or learn more about how the platform works?
 You can find them here:

ToyChats: https://www.toychats.com/

X / Twitter: https://x.com/ToyChats

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toychats/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ToychatsOfficial

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@toychatsofficial

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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In this episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal, Merf, and Asherlee dive piston-first into the wild, fascinating, and sometimes downright hilarious world of sex machines, electricity play, and the evolving landscape of pleasure tech. From the history of 19th-century “medical devices” to modern thrusting rigs, ride-on machines, smart toys, and hyper-realistic sex dolls, the trio explores the creativity, accessibility, and kink curiosity shaping today’s sex-positive culture.

You’ll hear:
 • What early “hysteria treatments” actually looked like
 • The legacy of queer and disabled communities in sex-tech innovation
 • The truth about devices like the Sybian, Motorbunny, Cowgirl, and thrusting machines
• How smart toys, remote-controlled vibrators, e-stim, and violet wands are changing long-distance and partner play
• Accessibility wins (and fails) in sex-machine design for fat bodies, disabled bodies, and anyone with chronic pain
• Why sex dolls and AI companions are becoming more common, including their emotional + therapeutic implications
• Real talk about safety, consent, sensory limits, grounding devices, and what not to stick anywhere

This conversation is part sex-tech history lesson, part kink education, part comedy hour. Expect curiosity, honesty, and plenty of “did we just say that out loud?” moments.

Support the show

BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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This week, we’re honored to sit down with the brilliant Rawiyah Tariq; a Black, fat, disabled, and neurodivergent artist, writer, and healer whose work reclaims space for marginalized bodies and spirits through ritual, storytelling, and embodiment.

In this conversation, Rawiyah shares the wisdom behind their practice, A Sovereign Embodiment, and speaks candidly about navigating medical trauma, reclaiming pleasure through kink, and redefining beauty and power on their own terms.

Their story is one of survival, sovereignty, and softness, a reminder that liberation begins in the body.

We talk about:
✨ The spiritual and emotional layers of embodiment
✨ How medical trauma and fatphobia intersect
✨ Kink as a space of reclamation and healing
✨ The balance between ritual, magic, and practical self-care
✨ What it means to hold yourself, and others, through pain and pleasure

This episode is a tender, powerful reminder that healing isn’t linear; it’s embodied, sacred, and deeply human.


Connect with Rawiyah:
🌐 mammyisdead.com
📸 Instagram
📘 Facebook
💼 LinkedIn
🩵 Bluesky

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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Mary Lambert joins us for a powerful, intimate, and joyful conversation that bridges music, activism, and radical self-love. From her breakout with Same Love to her new anthem The Tempest, Mary shares how art becomes resistance and why fat liberation is at the heart of her work.

We dive into:

• The story and politics behind The Tempest and why every lyric matters.
• How Mary’s journey through poetry, community, and visibility shaped her fat liberation voice.
• Building the Fat Friendly Medical Provider Directory and fighting for healthcare access.
• Intimacy, desire, and why pleasure isn’t an act of charity, it’s liberation.
• The power of workshops like Everybody Is A Babe to dismantle shame and spark joy.

Mary also gets candid about sex toys (yes, “The Boss” makes an appearance), queer joy, playlists for pleasure, and how choosing authenticity has transformed her life.

✨ This episode is a reminder that liberation isn’t just personal, it’s collective, messy, sexy, and revolutionary.

Learn more about Mary at marylambertsings.com

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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What does it mean to carry the weight of representation as a fat, Black traveler on the global stage? In this episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal and Merf sit down with Jeff Jenkins, award-winning travel and food personality, speaker, podcast host, and creator of Chubby Diaries. Jeff is also the former host of Never Say Never with Jeff Jenkins on National Geographic, where he brought inclusive, joyful storytelling to audiences worldwide

We dive into:

• Jeff’s journey from personal travel diaries to global advocacy for fat travelers.
• The realities of airline seats, resort furniture, and clothing access - and the small fixes that make a world of difference.
• How representation in media and tourism changes not just experiences, but lives.
• Jeff’s philosophy on confidence, self-acceptance, and finding joy outside your comfort zone.
• What’s next: new projects, a documentary in the works, and his mission to humanize fat people worldwide.

This conversation is about more than travel; it’s about visibility, belonging, and the power of living fully in your body, wherever you are.

🔗 Connect with Jeff Jenkins:

• Website: chubbydiaries.com
  
  
• Instagram: @chubbydiaries
  
  
• Facebook: Chubby Diaries Travel
  
  
• YouTube: Chubby Diaries
  
  
• LinkedIn: Jeff Jenkins
  
  
• Pinterest: Chubby Diaries
  
  
• TikTok: @chubbydiaries
  
  

🎧 Tune in and feel the weight of representation transform into fat joy.

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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Chrystal and Merf welcome back Amazon Amanda, towering fetish icon, professional Amazon, and founder of BBW XXX Adventures, for Confessions of an Amazon: Fetishes, Fat Desire & Power.

Amanda takes us inside her world of fetish, where “no nudity, no sex, no release” still means high intensity. From lift-and-carry sessions and scissor holds to the creation of BBW XXX Adventures, she shares how she built a career that celebrates fat desire, supersized BBWs, and true body diversity in porn.

We also dive into boundaries, burnout, softness in a hypersexualized industry, and why representation matters. And just when you think it couldn’t get wilder, we drop in a Listener Mail Break featuring one of the strangest texts we’ve ever received, and Amanda’s unfiltered reaction says it all.

✨ What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Confessions from Amanda’s 20+ years as a professional Amazon
• Launching BBW XXX Adventures and spotlighting supersized BBWs
• Burnout, boundaries, and keeping space for softness
• Listener mail: when kink meets chaos
• Fetishes, fat desire, and representation in porn
• Toys, fuck machines, and sex-tech on tour

📌 Find Amanda online:

• AmazonAmanda.com
• BBWXXXAdventures.com
• Twitter: @AmazonAmanda
  & @BBWAdventures
  
  

📌 Find us online:

• Website: BigSexyChat.com
• Instagram & socials: @BigSexyChat
• Email: [email protected]
  
  

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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This week on Big Sexy Chat, we’re joined by the incomparable Sheri Winston — award-winning author, wholistic sexuality teacher, and founder of the Intimate Arts Center — for a deep, delicious, and occasionally freaky conversation that peels back layers (literally and figuratively) on pleasure, anatomy, aging, and so much more.

We’re talking foreskins, pelvic floors, prostate play, menopause, masturbation, and why spontaneous arousal is a myth worth retiring.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why foreskin matters (and what was taken from many penis-owners at birth)
• What Sheri calls the “sliding sleeve effect” and how it changes vaginal intercourse
• How to build your own erotic fire — especially after menopause
• Prostate pleasure, pelvic floor strength, and underrated erogenous zones
• How to become an erotic virtuoso at any age, with any body
• Circumcision history, hygiene myths, and medical gaslighting
• Why your genitals aren’t dirty — and your bidet might save your sex life
• Sheri’s go-to metaphors: crockpots, firewood, and penis-hand puppets (yes, really)

From anatomy to arousal, Sheri brings humor, insight, and unfiltered truth in a way only she can. Whether you’ve got a penis, play with one, or just want to understand bodies better, this episode is a must-listen.

🔗 Connect with Sheri Winston:

• 🌐 Website & free ebook: intimateartscenter.com
• 📸 Instagram: @intimateartscenter
• 🐦 X/Twitter: @SheriWinston
• 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/intimateartscenter
• 🎥 YouTube: youtube.com/user/juicygoddesssheri

📚 Featured Books:

• Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure
• Succulent SexCraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play and Practice
• Secrets of the Sex Masters (contributor)

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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In this juicy new episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal and Merf are back with updates, laughter, and deep dives into fat pleasure, power exchange, and the ways we signal our sexy truths to the world.

🎙️ Merf shares her exciting new job and consulting biz helping survivors of trauma, plus her upcoming debut as a dominatrix (meet Madam Cyn)!
💬 Chrystal talks about her recent seminar, and the joys of building body-positive merch from scratch.
🔥 Together, they explore BDSM dungeon dynamics, ethical non-monogamy signals like black rings and bandanas, and how kinky elders are still getting it on (and passing STIs).
👵 From perimenopause to progesterone, hormones to Hustler Store finds, the duo doesn’t shy away from real talk about aging, joy, and sexual freedom.
💥 They also discuss the recent viral stories of fatphobia, weight loss discourse, and why fat joy is a form of resistance.

✨ Stick around for plans to interview legends like Joan Price, Amazon Amanda, and possibly… a dominatrix roundtable?! Yes, please.

🖤 Episode keywords: BDSM, Dominatrix, Non-Monogamy, Fat Joy, Menopause, Sex Toys, Fatphobia, Signaling, Bandana Code, Black Ring, Ethical Kink, Sex Over 60, Body Liberation, Fat Liberation, Health at Every Size

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!