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Mary Lambert joins us for a powerful, intimate, and joyful conversation that bridges music, activism, and radical self-love. From her breakout with Same Love to her new anthem The Tempest, Mary shares how art becomes resistance and why fat liberation is at the heart of her work.

We dive into:

• The story and politics behind The Tempest and why every lyric matters.
• How Mary’s journey through poetry, community, and visibility shaped her fat liberation voice.
• Building the Fat Friendly Medical Provider Directory and fighting for healthcare access.
• Intimacy, desire, and why pleasure isn’t an act of charity, it’s liberation.
• The power of workshops like Everybody Is A Babe to dismantle shame and spark joy.

Mary also gets candid about sex toys (yes, “The Boss” makes an appearance), queer joy, playlists for pleasure, and how choosing authenticity has transformed her life.

✨ This episode is a reminder that liberation isn’t just personal, it’s collective, messy, sexy, and revolutionary.

Learn more about Mary at marylambertsings.com

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Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

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What does it mean to carry the weight of representation as a fat, Black traveler on the global stage? In this episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal and Merf sit down with Jeff Jenkins, award-winning travel and food personality, speaker, podcast host, and creator of Chubby Diaries. Jeff is also the former host of Never Say Never with Jeff Jenkins on National Geographic, where he brought inclusive, joyful storytelling to audiences worldwide

We dive into:

• Jeff’s journey from personal travel diaries to global advocacy for fat travelers.
• The realities of airline seats, resort furniture, and clothing access - and the small fixes that make a world of difference.
• How representation in media and tourism changes not just experiences, but lives.
• Jeff’s philosophy on confidence, self-acceptance, and finding joy outside your comfort zone.
• What’s next: new projects, a documentary in the works, and his mission to humanize fat people worldwide.

This conversation is about more than travel; it’s about visibility, belonging, and the power of living fully in your body, wherever you are.

🔗 Connect with Jeff Jenkins:

• Website: chubbydiaries.com
  
  
• Instagram: @chubbydiaries
  
  
• Facebook: Chubby Diaries Travel
  
  
• YouTube: Chubby Diaries
  
  
• LinkedIn: Jeff Jenkins
  
  
• Pinterest: Chubby Diaries
  
  
• TikTok: @chubbydiaries
  
  

🎧 Tune in and feel the weight of representation transform into fat joy.

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Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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Chrystal and Merf welcome back Amazon Amanda, towering fetish icon, professional Amazon, and founder of BBW XXX Adventures, for Confessions of an Amazon: Fetishes, Fat Desire & Power.

Amanda takes us inside her world of fetish, where “no nudity, no sex, no release” still means high intensity. From lift-and-carry sessions and scissor holds to the creation of BBW XXX Adventures, she shares how she built a career that celebrates fat desire, supersized BBWs, and true body diversity in porn.

We also dive into boundaries, burnout, softness in a hypersexualized industry, and why representation matters. And just when you think it couldn’t get wilder, we drop in a Listener Mail Break featuring one of the strangest texts we’ve ever received, and Amanda’s unfiltered reaction says it all.

✨ What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Confessions from Amanda’s 20+ years as a professional Amazon
• Launching BBW XXX Adventures and spotlighting supersized BBWs
• Burnout, boundaries, and keeping space for softness
• Listener mail: when kink meets chaos
• Fetishes, fat desire, and representation in porn
• Toys, fuck machines, and sex-tech on tour

📌 Find Amanda online:

• AmazonAmanda.com
• BBWXXXAdventures.com
• Twitter: @AmazonAmanda
  & @BBWAdventures
  
  

📌 Find us online:

• Website: BigSexyChat.com
• Instagram & socials: @BigSexyChat
• Email: [email protected]
  
  

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You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
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Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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This week on Big Sexy Chat, we’re joined by the incomparable Sheri Winston — award-winning author, wholistic sexuality teacher, and founder of the Intimate Arts Center — for a deep, delicious, and occasionally freaky conversation that peels back layers (literally and figuratively) on pleasure, anatomy, aging, and so much more.

We’re talking foreskins, pelvic floors, prostate play, menopause, masturbation, and why spontaneous arousal is a myth worth retiring.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why foreskin matters (and what was taken from many penis-owners at birth)
• What Sheri calls the “sliding sleeve effect” and how it changes vaginal intercourse
• How to build your own erotic fire — especially after menopause
• Prostate pleasure, pelvic floor strength, and underrated erogenous zones
• How to become an erotic virtuoso at any age, with any body
• Circumcision history, hygiene myths, and medical gaslighting
• Why your genitals aren’t dirty — and your bidet might save your sex life
• Sheri’s go-to metaphors: crockpots, firewood, and penis-hand puppets (yes, really)

From anatomy to arousal, Sheri brings humor, insight, and unfiltered truth in a way only she can. Whether you’ve got a penis, play with one, or just want to understand bodies better, this episode is a must-listen.

🔗 Connect with Sheri Winston:

• 🌐 Website & free ebook: intimateartscenter.com
• 📸 Instagram: @intimateartscenter
• 🐦 X/Twitter: @SheriWinston
• 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/intimateartscenter
• 🎥 YouTube: youtube.com/user/juicygoddesssheri

📚 Featured Books:

• Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure
• Succulent SexCraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play and Practice
• Secrets of the Sex Masters (contributor)

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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In this juicy new episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal and Merf are back with updates, laughter, and deep dives into fat pleasure, power exchange, and the ways we signal our sexy truths to the world.

🎙️ Merf shares her exciting new job and consulting biz helping survivors of trauma, plus her upcoming debut as a dominatrix (meet Madam Cyn)!
💬 Chrystal talks about her recent seminar, and the joys of building body-positive merch from scratch.
🔥 Together, they explore BDSM dungeon dynamics, ethical non-monogamy signals like black rings and bandanas, and how kinky elders are still getting it on (and passing STIs).
👵 From perimenopause to progesterone, hormones to Hustler Store finds, the duo doesn’t shy away from real talk about aging, joy, and sexual freedom.
💥 They also discuss the recent viral stories of fatphobia, weight loss discourse, and why fat joy is a form of resistance.

✨ Stick around for plans to interview legends like Joan Price, Amazon Amanda, and possibly… a dominatrix roundtable?! Yes, please.

🖤 Episode keywords: BDSM, Dominatrix, Non-Monogamy, Fat Joy, Menopause, Sex Toys, Fatphobia, Signaling, Bandana Code, Black Ring, Ethical Kink, Sex Over 60, Body Liberation, Fat Liberation, Health at Every Size

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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Traveling while fat? Oh, we’re going there — and we’re taking the aisle seat and the window. In this episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal and Merf are joined by the incomparable Jen McLellan: author, speaker, certified childbirth educator, and the force behind Plus Size Birth and the Plus Mommy Podcast.

Together, they dive into the joys and frustrations of navigating the world in a fat body when it comes to planes, cars, and hotel beds — with zero shame and maximum honesty. From seatbelt extenders and compression socks to airplane bathroom acrobatics, car rentals, TheraGuns, travel-friendly sex toys, and awkward TSA moments, no topic is off-limits.

There’s laughter, a little rage, a few fan recommendations (hello, perimenopause), and a whole lot of empowerment packed into this juicy ride-along.

And just when you think the episode's winding down — surprise! We've got a breaking update from Tigress Osborn, Executive Director of NAAFA, with an exclusive message for our listeners.

This one’s for the babes who refuse to shrink themselves, in size or spirit.

Guest Info:
🌐 PlusSizeBirth.com
🎧 Plus Mommy Podcast
📸 @plusmommy on Instagram
📘 Facebook

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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In this juicy, gear-loving episode, Chrystal and Merf sit down with Rin Musick—award-winning road warrior, longtime adult retail expert, and current Brand Ambassador for Sportsheets. Together, they dive into fat-positive and accessible design in the world of BDSM and sex gear, including the now-iconic Plus-Size Doggy Style Strap and the groundbreaking Pivot Collection.

This episode is overflowing with laughs, sex-nerd joy, and real talk about body diversity, kink, and pleasure innovation for every body. Rin shares how Sportsheets is reimagining what inclusive intimacy tools can look like—and how fat folks, disabled babes, and kinky cuties are finally being centered in design.

🎁 Use code BIGSEXY20 at Sportsheets.com for 20% off your order!

Topics Covered:

• The story behind the Plus-Size Doggy Style Strap (and why it’s a game-changer)
• The Pivot Collection: positioning support for fat, disabled, aging, or tired bodies
• Designing sex gear for real bodies (no airbrushing here!)
• Why fat liberation and kink often go hand-in-hand
• Addressing ableism and sizeism in the adult industry
• Tips for finding inclusive play parties and navigating kink communities safely
• A few too-relatable tales of accidental anal, clapping bellies, and creative strap-on techniques

Featured Product Highlights:

• Plus-Size Doggy Style Strap
• Pivot Positioning Partner
• Convertible Toy Mount
• Deluxe Door Jam Sex Sling
• Saffron Strap-On Harness Collection
• Velvet Noir Nipple Suction Toys

Guest Links:
🌐 Website: Sportsheets.com
📸 Instagram: @sportsheets
📘 Facebook: Sportsheets International
📺 YouTube: Sportsheets Official

Listener Question:
Megan asked about finding non-fetishizing fat-friendly play parties. The hosts share tips for exploring local kink scenes, finding community via FetLife and Facebook groups, and understanding the culture of ethical non-monogamy and munches.

Don’t forget:
Fat joy is resistance—and we’re here for all the hot, affirming, body-inclusive pleasure you can find.

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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Chrystal’s out, which means Merf and Asherlee are left unsupervised—and naturally, chaos ensues. But beneath the laughter, we get real. We talk about fat liberation, therapy fails, the touch-deprivation epidemic, and how cuddle therapy can be healing AF. Plus, Asherlee opens up about launching a fat-friendly medical provider directory in the Pacific Northwest, her journey into cuddle therapy, and her newest adventure: relationship coaching. Spoiler alert: it’s all about connection. Also… pulverized clits? You just gotta listen.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Fat liberation in healthcare spaces
• How cuddle therapy became a calling
• The ethics and boundaries of professional platonic touch
• Creating a fat-positive medical provider directory
• Asherlee’s path to relationship coaching
• The wild new version of the magic wand
• Why touch, intimacy, and connection are revolutionary

Hosts:
🎤 Merf (co-host)
🎤 Asherlee (co-host and chaos bringer)

Links Mentioned:
🔗 River Rose Cuddle Cottage 

🔗 Chrystal's New Side Hustle

📧 Email us: [email protected]

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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Chrystal and Merf welcome the incomparable Marie Denee, founder of The Curvy Fashionista, for a real-talk episode packed with fashion, fire, and fat joy. Marie shares her journey from launching a blog in 2008 to becoming one of the most respected voices in plus-size media. We dive into fashion industry pitfalls, the power of representation (yes, including steamy werewolf smut), and how Marie’s pushing boundaries with her growing digital empire. This one is full of laughs, inspiration, and a whole lot of truth. Plus, find out which sex toy brand has Marie feeling fancy. 💁‍♀️✨

Guest Info:
Marie Denee is the creator of The Curvy Fashionista, a trailblazing digital publication dedicated to plus-size fashion, lifestyle, and culture. Featured in Essence, Glamour, The Wall Street Journal, and more, Marie is a force in the world of fashion and empowerment.

Follow Marie:

• Instagram: @thecurvyfashionista
• Twitter/X: @TCFStyle
• Facebook: The Curvy Fashionista

Connect with Big Sexy Chat:

• Website: BigSexyChat.com
• Socials: @BigSexyChat
• Email: [email protected]

Support the show

BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

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Chrystal and Merf are back with a bold and juicy new episode diving into Fat Con 2025, kink exploration, and radical fat liberation.

💥 Merf shares her journey into kink—including rope classes made for fat bodies, becoming a pleasure Dom, and creating a power exchange dynamic with her husband.
 🔥 Chrystal dishes on Fat Con highlights, from powerful rope performances and fat-positive representation to surprise celebrity run-ins and fat joy in full bloom.
 🎤 Merf also recounts a powerful, impromptu fat liberation speech she gave to a room full of doctors—and the ripple effect it created.

🎬 Plus: Oscars chat, Lizzo discourse, Kendrick Lamar’s halftime brilliance, the rise of diet culture (again), and why representation still matters—everywhere.

Also in this episode:

• Fat Lab rope space in Oakland
• Madam Helix & Otter Viking
• New Big Sexy Merch up to size 8X
• Healing through kink and aftercare
• The politics of bodies, power, and pleasure

💌 Email us: [email protected]
 📲 Follow us on socials: @BigSexyChat
 👕 Shop merch and support the show: bigsexychat.com

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BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].

You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod

Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)

Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.

Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!