It's day 3 of Your Next Step Challenge…

…and it's all about putting a tangible plan together!

Today you'll be considering 4 specific steps to take that will help you take action with confidence and clarity.  When you take the time to do these 4 things, you'll set yourself up for success!

So, grab something to take notes with and let's find out how you can Chart Your Course forward!

You'll Discover:

• The dangers of a "winging it" mentality
• The 4 Steps that will help you chart an actionable course forward
• How to set a specific and attainable goal for yourself

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It's day 2 of Your Next Step Challenge!  

Yesterday we kicked off the challenge with step 1 — 'Find Your Focus'.   Now that you've taken that step to select one area of blended family life that you'd like to focus on…that area where you most need to grow and development — it's time to take the next step!

Today's challenge is to 'Choose Your Path'!  You'll identify your most effective learning style and then consider how you can make this season of development a priority.

We know how crazy busy family life can be.  It can feel overwhelming — and that's why we're making it simple for you to begin a new process of development and growth.

So, to keep you moving forward, today's step well help you choose the best path — one that's realistic, inspiring and leads to something new in your blended family!

Plus, we've got a free downloadable cheat sheet to help you take this step.  Just CLICK HERE to get your copy.

You'll Discover:

• Identifying your most effective learning style
• The importance of making space for what matters most 
• Day 2 Challenge:  Choose Your Path
• Helpful resources that offer valuable information, tips and guidance

Resources from this Episode:

• Download your copy of the Choose Your Path cheat sheet
• Episode 52:  Overcoming Discouragement (Part 2)
• Want to schedule a Free Blended Family Coaching session?  CLICK HERE

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You've probably got great intentions for your blended family.  You want to gain understanding and discover new skills that will help you "do things right" 

But chances are, when you realize how much there is to learn you might get overwhelmed — especially when you hit those inevitable bumps in the road that create setbacks and leave you feeling disappointed and discouraged.

And all that overwhelm, disappointment and discouragement robs you of something… 

…it robs you of your hope.

 We know what it's like to feel hopeless in our marriage and family life.  We also know what it takes to gain our hope back — it's all about taking one little intentional step at a time.  

That's what the next several days here on the podcast are going to be about — reclaiming your hope!

So, in this episode we're kicking off your NEXT STEPS CHALLENGE! 

We're going to help you overcome discouragement, take real action and move your family forward!

Whether you've been struggling for a while or even if things are going relatively well (but you want to step it up a bit) — this challenge is for you! 

In this challenge, we'll be walking alongside you with simple and doable steps.  These steps will help get you started so that you can move beyond your current challenge — and we'll even be taking the challenge along with you! 

To get started, listen in and discover the first step of the challenge (it's super simple).  Then, stay tuned over the next several days if you've got the courage to meet the challenge and do something new in your blended family… 

…we know you do and we're excited to join you!

You'll Discover:

• How to turn insight into action so that you can experience real change in your blended family
• Specific attitudes that'll help you make progress and reach your goals
• How to 'Find Your Focus' using our 5 Focus Framework:  
  1. Bonding
  2. Understanding Kid's Perspectives
  3. Marriage / Partnership
  4. Parenting and Discipline
  5. Co-Parenting with an Ex

Resources from this Episode:

• Episodes 51:  Overcoming Discouragement (Part 1)
• Episode 2:  The 5-Focus Framework that Simplifies Blended Family Life 

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We all start out with high hopes, big dreams and some expectations about what our blended family life will be like — and they seem very reasonable….

…until everyone's living under the same roof!

Once our families merge, we begin to realize just how difficult (and different) things are.  That's when disappointment sets in leaving us vulnerable to getting stuck in discouragement.

In this episode, we'll explore some unhealthy ways most of us tend to cope with disappointment.  Then we'll share a simple skill to help you steer clear from the trap of discouragement. 

You'll love hearing from our clients Dan & Renee who started out with awesome expectations that seemed reasonable — but as they experienced just the opposite of what they'd hoped for, they became discouraged.

But Dan & Renee didn't stay stuck!  They were able to replace their unrealistic narratives and limiting beliefs with more realistic expectations by managing their mindsets.  

As a result,  they've experienced more clarity, confidence and connection — and more peace in their home too. 

We're certain you'll connect with their story and discover some positive, new approaches to overcoming those times when you're feeling stuck in discouragement too.

On a different note…do you know someone who's discouraged in their dating life? Then you'll have an extra bonus when you discover that Renee can help them out…

Renee Suzanne is a coach who helps women find true love by teaching them to date effectively.  She's been featured in The Huffington Post, Glamour, and Tiny Buddha.  Her  books, Beloved — How to go from Relationship Challenged to Relationship Ready and Ten Things You Can do to Upgrade Your Love Life are available on Amazon.  She also has over 200 inspiring videos on her YouTube channel.  If you have a friend that could use Renee's help, check out: http://www.reneesuzannecoaching.com/

Okay…you don't want to miss this episode where you'll discover: 

• How Dan & Renee learned to readjust their expectations and develop healthy mindsets
• The unhealthy and unproductive ways we tend to cope with disappointment
• Tips for managing your mindset and releasing unrealistic expectations
• How you can join us in Your Next Step CHALLENGE

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 50:  How to Openly Communicate What You Really Want
• Episode 14:  3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your "Perfectionistic" Ideals and Disappointments
• Get $100 off coaching, just use the coupon code EPISODE50 at check out when you click here to register — this offer expires on October 1st, 2020 

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It takes a lot of energy and effort to make a blended family work…

…and when we don't see the results we want, we can get stuck in discouragement.   

In this episode we'll be talking with our clients Jake and Whitney who have experienced their fair share of disappointment and discouragement. 

Jake and Whitney describe feeling "Hopeless, Defeated and Angry"…but they didn't allow themselves to get stuck there.  They've consistently devoted themselves to their development — both individually and as a couple.  Their hard work and intentional investment has made all the difference in their marriage and blended family! 

You'll laugh, you'll cry and you'll relate to Jake and Whitney's story of struggle.  Plus, you'll discover ways that you can thrive by following their examples!   

Not only will Jake and Whitney encourage you in this episode, but they also might be able to help you take a next step in life…you see, they are a life coaching team who will equip you to live steadfast, through freedom, so you can impact your world.  If that sounds good to you, then check out how you might partner with them at https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/

Alright…grab some headphones and listen in to discover powerful strategies for stepfamily success and how you can move beyond discouragement to experience big wins too. 

You'll Discover:

• One Couple's story - from feeling "Hopeless, Defeated and Angry" to experiencing big wins in their blended family 
• Why continuous development - both individually and as a couple - is critical to stepfamily success
• How to reach your family's 'Desired Destinations' 

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 51:  Overcoming Discouragement (Part 1)
• Want to connect with Jake & Whitney to see how they might help you achieve the healthy lifestyle goals you're looking for?  Just click this link:  Steadfast Life Coaching
• Get $100 off our communication coaching (Relate Strong), just use the coupon code EPISODE50 at check out when you click here to register — but don't wait, this offer expires on October 1st, 2020

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It's common for blended family couples to get stuck in discouragement when they've experienced challenging setbacks and feel like they've failed over and over. 

We've been there and we'll share the most difficult season of our marriage — when we were both so discouraged that we almost called it quits!  Thankfully, we learned how to break free from discouragement — and you can too. 

Listen in to this first episode in a 3-part series and discover a simple, yet effective communication tool that'll help you learn from painful setbacks so that you can keep moving forward together… 

…and not get stuck in discouragement!

We want to encourage you and pass on what we've learned about moving beyond  discouragement and growing more connection as a couple.

You'll Discover:

• Our season of discouragement that almost ended our marriage
• How couples get stuck in cycles of discouragement
• A new mindset around setbacks and failure
• A practical communication tool for new insight and growth
• How to use setbacks as learning opportunities

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 21:  What is the Stranded Stranger & Trapped Teammate Experience?
• Episode 50:  How to Openly Communicate What you Really Want
• Get $100 off communication coaching, just use the coupon code EPISODE50 at check out when you click here to register — but don't wait, this offer expires on October 1st, 2020 

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One of the biggest challenges we've faced as a couple has been learning how to openly communicate — especially when we don't agree.

Mike tends to raise his voice, criticize and make demands.  I tend to disconnect  and hold my tongue even when there's something I really should be communicating.   

We spent years stuck in painful cycles of conflict, misunderstanding and confusion.  Thankfully, healthy communication is a skill we have intentionally developed — and it's made a HUGE difference in our ability to resolve conflict and deeply connect.

In this week's episode we'll uncover the four common styles of communication and help you develop the skill of clear, honest and more assertive communication so you can speak your truth, truly be heard and connect more with your spouse. 

We also have a special gift for you that we'll share about in this — our 50th — episode!  Some couples will take the tips in this episode and make meaningful progress…but others might need some support in exactly how to break free from painful cycles of unresolved conflict and disconnection.  If that's you, we can help! 

You probably want to feel connected to your partner — even when there's conflict.  We can coach you how to develop effective communication -  and to celebrate our 50th episode, we're going to knock $100 off as a gift to you!   

All you need to do is use the coupon code EPISODE50 at checkout when you click this link to register.  But don't wait because this offer only lasts until October 1st, 2020. 

You'll Discover:

• The four primary styles of communication (we're always using at least one)
• The best way to honestly communicate and create more connection
• Common roadblocks to effective communication and practical ways to overcome them
• 10 tips to becoming more assertive, speak your truth and be heard

Resources from this Episode:

• Nick Wignall's Article:  Assertiveness:  A step by step guide to becoming more assertive
• BLOG:  How to Move Beyond Painful Guilt and Regret
• Episode 35:  Are You Controlling Conflict or is it Controlling You?
• Episode 27:  How to Set Clear Boundaries and Safeguard Relationships
• Get $100 off communication coaching - use the coupon code EPISODE50 at check out when you click here to register — offer expires on October 1st, 2020 

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The question we're often asked is this:  Should my highest priority be my marriage or my kids? 

If you're a bio-parent, you might be concerned about making sure that your kids are feeling secure and cared for — they've always been your priority and maybe you're wondering why that should change.

And if you're a step-parent, you probably entered into marriage thinking that you'd be at the top of your spouse's priority list and that you'd have a say in all the family's decisions.

This is exactly where we started out in our marriage and it didn't take long for both of us to experience frustration, confusion and even anger! 

Whenever I had to choose between what Mike wanted and what my daughter Annika wanted — it felt like I could never win.  Either Mike was going to feel like an outsider, or Annika was going to feel rejected.

But I discovered that choosing between them wasn't actually a choice I had to make…we found a different approach! 

This is a big topic that's always complicated and sometimes controversial.  In this episode we'll uncover the realities around why 'priority issues' are so tough for blended families.  

We'll also share how you can work as a united team to position your marriage as the foundation of your home while making sure the kids are getting everything they need to thrive.

You'll Discover:

• How 'Relational Imbalance' impacts blended family priorities
• Two opposite approaches to prioritizing that lead to disconnection and pain
• Two big realities that blended family couples need to be aware of
• How to work as a team to rebalance relationships, elevate your marriage and maintain stability for the kids

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 24 — What if You Could Relieve the Trapped Teammate Pressure?
• Blog Article:  How to Move Beyond Painful Guilt and Regret
• Blog Article:  Parent-Child Allegiances
• Want to check out Ron Deal's article?  Click here:  Placing Your Spouse in the Front Seat of Your Heart

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Do you ever wonder what it might be like for your kids — moving back and forth between two homes?

Whether your kids are moving between two allies or between two "countries at war", there's likely to be some tension.

Reducing that tension is really up to the adults…and that starts with you.

In this episode, we've got a very special guest who knows what it's like to move back and forth between mom and dad's house — because that was a big part of her story.

Now, she's drawing on that experience and understanding — combined with her professional training — to help others work through their own hurts and hang-ups.

You won't want to miss this episode with our friend, Liza Gold!

Liza Gold is a psychotherapist with a private practice in New York City. She earned her graduate degree from Columbia University. Over the past six years, Liza gained clinical experience and pursued rigorous post-graduate training in various clinical modalities including Psychodynamic, Cognitive-Behavioral, and Dialectical-Behavioral therapy.  Finally, Liza is in the process of writing a clinical textbook.

We'll chat with Liza a little about her early life experience and then we'll draw on her professional knowledge to help parents and step-parents consider some important questions that might lead to better cooperation across the households - and less stress for your kids.

We hope you enjoy this conversation with Liza!

You'll Discover:

• What it might be like for kids when there's tension between their two homes
• How kids feel when they're stuck in a Loyalty Bind
• Important questions that bio-parents can consider to help them create more cooperation with the other home
• Important questions for a step-parent to consider how they're supporting their step-kids 

Resources from this Episode:

• Want to connect with Liza? Click this link to find out how:  https://www.goldtherapynyc.com/
• Here are some related episodes: 
  • Episode 29:  What is a Loyalty Bind and What Can You Do About It? 
  • Episode 44:  Why Does My Husband's Ex Think I'm the Enemy? 
  • Episode 45:  How to Cooperate More with Your Spouse's Uncooperative Ex 

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It's uncomfortable for any stepparent to admit they don't like their own step-child. But faking, avoiding or trying to grit your way through doesn't seem to help much.

Mike has fessed up over the years about the times he struggled to connect with my daughter Annika. Their personalities are very different and he didn't always agree with my approach to parenting — which really meant that he disliked her behavior.

That sometimes lead to frustration and irritation and he didn't really enjoy being around her that much.  When those moments hit, he just didn't like her!

There can be many reasons why a stepparent might feel frustrated with their step-child. Especially if that child is struggling themselves.  Kids can seem to be overly needy, manipulative or even destructive at times and that's tough for stepparents to handle.

And while this might seem like one more situation you don't have any control over as a stepparent — there are some positive and productive things you CAN do regardless of how your spouse and their children behave.

In this episode, discover how Mike adjusted his perspective and gained more empathy and understanding…and experience more fun with Annika. 

You'll Discover:

• Mike's personal struggle with negative thoughts and emotions around Annika (Kim's daughter)
• A new perspective about your stepchild's 'personhood' vs. their 'position'
• How to build more empathy for a stepchild that's negatively impacting your life and causing frustration
• 3 strategies that helped Mike to move beyond his dislike to create more connection with Annika

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 44 — Why Does My Husband's Ex Think I'm the Enemy?
• Episode 26 — Are You Stuck In A "Competition" With Your Step-Kids?
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