The purity of curiosity leads us into the realm of possibility and connection. With curiosity comes an inherent humility and a willingness to change our perspectives. Unfortunately, much of our curiosity is stifled at a young age by pressure to get it right rather than being encouraged to make mistakes. This plays right into the hands of the fearful ego by making assumptions and creating labels for everyone and everything in our lives. Thus, further stifling pure curiosity.

Doing curiosity vs. being curious

We’re trained to shut down curiosity

We think we know more than we actually do

We use labels to feel safe

Being aware of my ego

Practicing open-mindedness and open-heartedness

Curiosity is limited by how open your heart is

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Suffering generally has a disempowering tone. In the middle of disappointment or displeasure, doubt and other disempowering thoughts tend to appear more often. It does not feel good when we are in the middle of suffering and pain. So, we try to avoid it with a myriad of coping mechanisms. Obviously, we are just perpetuating the suffering and the coping mechanisms. However, we can shift our relationship to suffering. This requires extremely deep clarity of what lights us up and is worth suffering for.

Pattern of suffering

If there’s an end goal, suffering is important

Shifting relationship to suffering

The clarity to ask for support

Being aware of the choice

We’re in a “feel-good” time

Instinct towards coping mechanisms

Unpacking suffering from childhood

Suffering that comes with shifting dreams

What are you willing to suffer for?

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O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

Digging into my 93-year-old dad’s communication style

Being triggered by his tone of voice is tied to my root fears

The gap between my and my son’s communication styles

Allowing the space for discomfort

We can be the generational change

Leaning into what’s uncomfortable

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When was the last time you reinvented yourself? And what drove that reinvention? What area(s) in your life did you reinvent? Reinvention is far more than a change. It is a transformation. We often consider a reinvention only when our usual strategies and tactics stop working. It is a reactionary, almost desperate, attempt to salvage something. Our decision to reinvent is usually a delayed choice, while our intuition immediately signals when it is time. So, we probably do not reinvent ourselves often enough. Reinvention presents the opportunity for us to realign our lives holistically and express ourselves in ways we currently do not. To squeeze as much juice out of life as possible, it would be wise to foster an empowering and inspirational relationship with reinvention.

Need vs. want of reinvention

Reinvention as an opportunity to express yourself differently

Purpose with the doing vs. the being

Change vs. transformation

Opportunity to reinvent doesn’t stop

The dynamic dance of vision and dreaming

Using vision and dreams to win each day

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Many of us want clarity before making a choice that will require time, energy, money, and other resources. We want the straightest, most efficient path to a goal. But what is clarity? Evidence to support a logical or practical conclusion? Assurance that we are making the right choice? An intuitive sense of alignment? An attempt to avoid wasting resources? It is a combination of things. But how do we know we are choosing the straightest, most efficient path to a goal? We do not know. We gain more clarity only after we choose and collect more information. We never actually have the clarity we seek because the information we collect is never complete. Also, our biased perception of the world taints our decision-making process. So, the clarity we seek is actually faux, not what we truly want.

More clarity of what you don’t want

Fake clarity wrapped up in lived experience, opinions, and context

Awareness of boundaries after the event

Reactionary behavior isn’t clarity

Reflecting on a future choice can lead to being more unclear

Clarity of commitments over clarity of a choice

Fear of the winding road and being wrong

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Expectations are natural and unavoidable. They also often lead to disappointment because outcomes are not 100% controllable. Our expectations reveal a lot about ourselves. It is beneficial to understand what drives our expectations and to communicate them clearly and vulnerably. Otherwise, unmet expectations can create much resentment within, and resentment powerfully impacts our behavior.

A lot of times, expectations are internal

What’s driving us to want something in the first place?

Zero expectations?

Taking ourselves out of the present

It’s unrealistic to be 100% unattached

A growth mindset will always find a win

Unmet expectations can lead to resentment

Shoulds and obligations get weird

Keep refining the ability to communicate

Why is this expectation important to me?

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There will never be two people who share the same perspective. It is impossible. They may share similar perspectives, but never the same. With this understanding, truth is subjective as well. We perpetuate conflict when we do not understand the distinction between “my truth” and “the truth”. Clinging to “my truth” and expressing it as “the truth” is a common issue today, especially online.

Truth is subjective

Sugar-coated truth

Truth vs belief

Having curiosity with why you think something is true

My truth vs. the truth

Reality is subjective

People making bold statements to get reactions

Seeking understanding as the goal

Fear of being wrong

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O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

The black hole of current events and information

Frustration with the lying, deception, and lack of accountability of world leaders

Seeing the mirror of world leaders

3 months into reinventing my health journey

Breakthrough in patience

Noticing my crazy sugar trap

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We learned to see the world through the lens of competition at an early age. Our parents and most other adults around us reinforced this perspective. Competition is a story created by our fear-driven ego to ensure its survival. Ego says, “We must compete because resources are scarce. If we don’t compete, we’ll ultimately die.” This story is a trap that most of us have bought into, which is ok. But what matters most is awareness of this trap and the extent to which we are allowing the energy of competition to pull us away from our hearts.

Society is based on competition

Disempowering relationship to competition

Collaboration over competition

There’s a lot of fear with competition, normally

At what point does being competitive become harmful?

If I defeat you, the world will be a better place

Ego and competitiveness are closely aligned

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The more intentional we become, the more we enhance our lives. The key to intention is self-awareness and being honest about the tricks our egos play on us. We must be sensitive to our feelings as indicators to pay more attention. We all have aspects of our lives that we’d like to improve, yet we engage in avoidance or denial instead. What are our autopilot behaviors? How are they working for us? What patterns are we noticing that reveal where we need to make changes? Whether we are being intentional or not, we are making a choice that’s conscious or subconscious. Living intentionally is an act of responsibility.

Deciphering automatic behavior from being intentional

Checking in with your habits

Give ourselves space to get real

Continuously consider the best version of you

Boredom is a big indicator

The best version of ourselves is tricky

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