What’s your story? How do you feel when you share it with others? What are the pivotal moments in your life and why? Living purposefully involves deeply embracing your past, being grateful for it, and seeing how it all shapes the current and future versions of you. The way you piece together your story is critical to how it unfolds in the future. And the meaning we give to all of our experiences is our choice. The more we reflect on our lives, the more awareness we have. The more awareness we have, the more choices we can see.

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Our regrets reveal the way we see the world. Regrets are a personal judgment of our decision-making. If left unresolved, the source of our regrets can take a toll on our well-being through emotional disempowerment. However, if we identify and take action on the source of our regrets, we have an opportunity to heal our wounds at the source. What’s something you will regret if you do not take action on it in the near future?

Learning from our “negative experiences”

Breaking up a relationship because of discomfort vs. pure misalignment

Self-misalignment

Living more consciously

Having a high level of consciousness creates more clarity

Doing something about the things we really want

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O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu share their thought processes and struggles when triggered by people and events in their lives.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink

How much do I intervene vs. let go?

Choosing to not stifle my dad’s spirit

Prioritizing my wife despite kids and daily distractions

Don’t redline your relationship until it’s too late

Scheduling a weekly short conversation with your spouse as a support structure

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Fear is a foundational driver of shutting down curiosity. It is natural for our human minds to inquire about the unknown. Why am I feeling this way? Why are they reacting that way? Such basic questions often lead to some form of action, such as asking the person one more deep question. We tend to stop engaging when things get uncomfortable. Others also attempt to stop our engagement because they are uncomfortable. Censorship of speech is a prime example. At what point do you stop acting on your curiosity?

Shutting down inspiration

Being genuinely engaged and curious about others’ lives

It’s always interesting when someone isn’t willing to go into depth

Something’s dying when we don’t allow the curiosity to flow

Are you ebbing and flowing with the person you’re in conversation with?

How often are we being curious with ourself?

Is your curiosity coming from genuine inspiration or fear?

What are we projecting onto the situation?

Why is it worth it to stay curious in the moment?

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The money game is built on a foundational belief in scarcity, a zero-sum game. Disempowerment is a natural byproduct of this game, whether the player has a lot of money or a little, because a scarcity mindset leaks into all areas of life. The money game is compelling and unavoidable, fortunately or unfortunately. How much control does money have over you? What does it feel like? What’s your relationship to it?

Blocking endless possibility

The zero-sum game is exhausting

We can’t print money, so then what?

Gratitude doesn’t grow on trees

Compounding scarcity

Don’t waste food

We don’t need to reinforce scarcity

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Most of us have multiple examples in our lives of when we “talked the talk” but did not “walk the walk”. This exhibits hypocrisy, lack of integrity, and a deep internal conflict. For those who value modeling and leading by example, closing the gap of our internal conflict is a confronting and beautiful journey. How do you want to be witnessed in this life? What are the core values that drive you towards your higher self? As we heal our inner conflict, our interaction with the external world follows suit. Less hypocrisy, more integrity, more alignment everywhere. That’s a pretty powerful way to live!

Being in integrity with doing what you say

The common “We should do it” talk

You can’t get what people have unless you’ve done what they’ve done

How do I want to be witnessed in this life?

Working on being more honest and transparent

The struggle of making healthier food choices

Where are you choosing from?

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O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu share their thought processes and struggles when triggered by people and events in their lives.

General tendency to jump into advice-giving mode - 1:58 Tatsu

I used to believe that giving advice was my value - 4:11 Tatsu

Tendency to overschedule organized sports for the kids - 8:09 Jeff

Overidentifying with organized sports - 16:20 Jeff

Our alone time really enhances our self-awareness and lives - 12:01 Tatsu

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There are many positives and negatives to following the status quo. To some extent, we all rock the boat. However, are we rocking the boat too much or not enough? Most of us probably don’t rock the boat enough. This is a deeply personal journey that requires listening to our intuition and having the courage to act. Without the curiosity to question everything and seek alignment in all areas of our lives, we will settle for a life that does not meet our highest potential.

The Japanese conformist cultural upbringing

Challenging the status quo

Understand where our desire to rock the boat comes from

Negatives to rocking the boat

The stakes are high

The depth of relationships is revealed

Positives to rocking the boat

Living from your truth

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The purity of curiosity leads us into the realm of possibility and connection. With curiosity comes an inherent humility and a willingness to change our perspectives. Unfortunately, much of our curiosity is stifled at a young age by pressure to get it right rather than being encouraged to make mistakes. This plays right into the hands of the fearful ego by making assumptions and creating labels for everyone and everything in our lives. Thus, further stifling pure curiosity.

Doing curiosity vs. being curious

We’re trained to shut down curiosity

We think we know more than we actually do

We use labels to feel safe

Being aware of my ego

Practicing open-mindedness and open-heartedness

Curiosity is limited by how open your heart is

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Suffering generally has a disempowering tone. In the middle of disappointment or displeasure, doubt and other disempowering thoughts tend to appear more often. It does not feel good when we are in the middle of suffering and pain. So, we try to avoid it with a myriad of coping mechanisms. Obviously, we are just perpetuating the suffering and the coping mechanisms. However, we can shift our relationship to suffering. This requires extremely deep clarity of what lights us up and is worth suffering for.

Pattern of suffering

If there’s an end goal, suffering is important

Shifting relationship to suffering

The clarity to ask for support

Being aware of the choice

We’re in a “feel-good” time

Instinct towards coping mechanisms

Unpacking suffering from childhood

Suffering that comes with shifting dreams

What are you willing to suffer for?

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