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Button Downs And Basketball Shorts
By Jeff Miller & Tatsu FushimiSociety & CultureReligion & SpiritualityEducationSelf-ImprovementSpiritualityRelationships
Button Downs And Basketball Shorts episodes
- Ep 197: O.F.G. November
O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu share their thought processes and struggles when triggered by people and events in their lives.
My relationship to being sick
Leaning into the annoying
How much is perceived control actually control at all?
Noticing dad’s fear projected onto my mom
The lead up to the blow up
Processing my own judgments toward my parents
My dad’s lack of emotional availability is an ongoing trigger
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
25 min - Ep 196: Uncertainty Is A Good Thing
What’s your relationship with uncertainty? How does it make you feel? What’s your initial reaction whenever something doesn’t go as expected? How much of your daily life do you operate with a sense of certainty? Many of us have been conditioned to believe that uncertainty will lead to failure, suffering, pain, etc. Therefore, we must have a plan for everything and control most of it. This conditioning is primarily driven by fear and ignores the impact on our ability to embrace possibility, trust, and faith.
Fear and uncertainty
Too much predictability leading to complacency
Realizing that most variables are out of our control
It’s pretty challenging to guarantee most outcomes
Wanting certainty is an attempt to create safety and security
Uncertainty is a gateway to possibility
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
27 min - Ep 195: Ambition Is Deceiving
Why are you ambitious or not ambitious? What drives your ambition? How strong is it? On the surface, ambition is generally considered a positive and attractive trait. However, it can also be an automatic way to overcompensate for disempowering beliefs about lack or not enoughness. Practicing a focus on constant personal growth rather than outcomes can lead us deeper towards revealing our disempowering beliefs.
Strength of desire distinguishes the idea of ambition from actual ambition
Ambitious vs. content
Surface-level success is deceiving
Ambition about the process, not the results
Becoming beastmode
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
25 min - Ep 194: Hustle Culture
What’s your relationship to the terms hustle and hustle culture? The glorified messaging of hustle culture may be misleading you towards depletion and exhaustion. Without well-being, balance, fulfillment, and alignment as foundational priorities, working hard just for the sake of a material goal or achievement is short-sighted. Work ethic is important. Effort is important. But is it worth the expense of your well-being?
Using hustle to start the engine
Just working harder is the dumbest thing in the world
A positive side of hustle infers extra effort
Hustle culture doesn’t prioritize well-being
Hustle culture in corporate America
Balance
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
28 min - Ep 193: O.F.G. October
O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu share their thought processes and struggles when triggered by people and events in their lives.
Being inconvenienced and assuming my daughter knows time management by now
Overreacting prematurely
Automatic layers of disempowerment and judgment
Noticing my anger and frustration with mom’s prediabetic condition
Regulating my nervous system in the moment
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
19 min - Ep 192: Synchronicities
What’s your relationship to synchronicities? How often do you notice them? What wisdom are you extracting from each one? If synchronicities are part of your belief system, it is up to you to notice and apply personal meaning to them. This requires an open and curious mind. Synchronicities may be guiding you to grow in ways that your logical mind cannot fully understand in the moment.
Synchronicity defined
Becoming aware of synchronicities
Choosing a foundational belief
Obvious signs and a sense of flow
Synchronicity and deja vu
Shutting down awareness and curiosity
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
26 min - Ep 191: Motivation vs. Contentment
What’s the driving force for your motivation? What’s your relationship to contentment? And what’s the relationship between motivation and contentment for you? Without deep and honest reflection, we will default to our automatic ways of being, which are generally driven by fear. As we know, a life generally driven by fear impacts health and relationships in an unsustainable way.
What’s the driving force of motivation?
I want to be motivated by love and inspiration
Being intentional with motivational tactics
Can I be at peace while striving, growing, and wanting different things?
Where is the line between truly being content and wanting to grow?
If we just focus on results, we’ll never be content
Going deeper with contentment of life purpose
Battle between desire and realistic expectations
Going deeper within vs. tactically looking outward for motivation
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
29 min - Ep 190: Self-Worth Is A Journey Into The Heart
Self-worth and self-esteem are not interchangeable. Many people are unaware of the distinction, which causes a lot of confusion and misunderstanding internally and with others. Much of Western society fosters an attachment to self-esteem rather than cultivates a strong foundation of self-worth. With constant advertising, marketing, and propaganda everywhere, we are at a major disadvantage in cultivating true self-worth. Cultivating self-worth is a lifelong journey for those willing and courageous enough to explore the depths of the heart.
Self-worth vs. self-esteem
What’s actually driving your chase for more?
Advertising and marketing target insecurities and lack
Western culture teaches your self-worth is your bank account
The ego’s constant adaptation
Shifting towards deeper self-worth
Self-worth is a journey deep into your heart
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
28 min - Ep 189: O.F.G. September
O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu share their thought processes and struggles when triggered by people and events in their lives.
Noticing a familiar energetic pull back towards consistent reading
Self-judgment from “falling off” a good habit
Moving with the flow of life strengthened faith in self
Watching my 8-year-old son get blind sided for the first time in football
Responding vs. reacting
Initial thought and feeling when son got blind sided
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
23 min - Ep 188: Chasing Security Is Counterintuitive
Why do we chase the idea of security? Where does the belief in a lack of security come from? Are we addressing the root consciously or the symptoms unconsciously? In our need for security, we dance the fine line between control and responsibility. Oftentimes, we try to over-control and mask it as responsibility. Whether the security we want is financial, health-related, or in relationships, ultimately, we want peace of mind. And peace of mind begins and ends with full acceptance of who we are.
Is security a facade we are chasing?
We’re all chasing peace of mind
Reinforcing the belief that I’m not secure
People are so used to using fear as the fuel
We think that control creates security
Being secure with who you are and how you operate
The fear of not being financially secure is easily exploited
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CONNECT WITH JEFF:
Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/
IG: @jeffmillercoaching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
CONNECT WITH TATSU:
Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/
IG: @tatsuyafushimi
FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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About Button Downs And Basketball Shorts
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Bucking the fear based narrative, Jeff and Tatsu explore topics in a fun and unique way in service of personal growth.