O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu share their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives. 

EPISODE SUMMARY

Attachment to my Japanese identity

Feeling blamed for something I’m not

Triggered by son’s emotional reaction

My needs not being met

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What’s your relationship with grace? Do you embody it or do you use it tactically? Grace provides flexibility within the rigid structure of personal standards, like oil to a squeaky gear. Grace is beautiful, powerful, and necessary when expressed in its purity. It is also something that requires a great deal of self-awareness, intention, and practice.

EPISODE SUMMARY

The battle of grace and judgment

Giving grace in traffic

Grace with being ghosted or multiple rescheduling

Judgment of self being harsher than that of others

Expectation of reciprocation of grace?

Giving grace to others to deepen grace within ourselves

Grace isn’t in opposition to having conversations or giving reflections

Grace and standards

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What’s your relationship to apologizing? Is it an empowered relationship from the heart or a disempowered one from the ego? Apologizing tends to imply admitting wrongdoing, which is typically disempowering. In a society that punishes mistakes, our incentive is to avoid apologizing. As a result, less ownership, responsibility, and transparency. Furthermore, we all have personal traumas and disempowering beliefs and behaviors that impact our relationship to being apologetic and unapologetic. But how would our lives be different if we created an empowered heart-centered relationship to apologies?

EPISODE SUMMARY

Cultural apologizing when you’re not “wrong” to keep harmony

Learning that apologies meant nothing

Unapologetic puppetry

Pride and ego getting in our way

“I’m sorry,” admitting wrong?

Apologizing from empowered ownership

Feedback is crucial for our growth

Openness to change

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What’s your relationship to adventure? How do you describe adventure? Adventure is a mindset, not just an act. An adventurous mindset keeps us open to seeing ourselves and the world in a new way. As a result, we have more opportunities to grow than we otherwise wouldn’t. Even in the mundane routines of daily life, how would our experience of life shift if we practiced a more adventurous mindset? It would be transformative.

The adventurous mindset

Adventure as access to getting out of your comfort zone

Tapping into the emotional side as an adventure

Mindset of adventure with money

Mindset of adventure with time

Noticing what we’re comfortable and uncomfortable with

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O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

Triggered by mosquitoes

Disempowered by disrespect and being unheard

Being able to see the patterns

Triggered by my son

Taking up space and being loud and annoying

Parents have their favorite child

Acting annoying vs the narrative of being inherently annoying

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What’s your relationship to rituals vs. habits? What rituals are part of your life? What would be the impact on your life if you shifted one typical habit into a ritual? There is a profound opportunity for personal transformation when you show up with more intention, devotion, reverence, and commitment.

Perception towards habits vs. rituals

Hesitation people have with rituals vs. habits

Judgment of the people vs. the ritual itself

Long-term habits becoming traditions, then rituals

Working out as a ritual

Reading the Bible and going to church as a ritual

A ritual has to be tied to a larger commitment

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Shame is typically a muddy, uncomfortable combination of feelings. Relationships to food, money, time, and sexuality are breeding grounds for shame. What are you ashamed of? What’s your relationship to shame? How would you describe it? And what’s driving those feelings? We tend to avoid or hide from our shame. Yet, ironically, our shame is an access point to unlocking our true potential. 

The icky feeling of shame

We feel guilty to punish or rationalize

Choosing from a disempowered place

Disempowered relationship to money

Being curious about shame

We’ve inherited a lot of our relationship to things

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What’s your relationship to books? What books do you read and why? How much of what you read is integrated into your life? Books can be a powerful catalyst to transform our lives when we apply what we learn and embody the knowledge and wisdom. 

Shifting relationship to books

Reading goals vs. integration of wisdom

Experiencing what you read

The trap of getting through books quickly

Seeing the common wisdom from different perspectives

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O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives. 

Where do we find opportunities for growth?

Noticing our reactionary behavior coming from survival mechanism

Core beliefs driving egoic reaction vs. infinite love and compassion

Throwing the cap on the dirt in frustration

What am I actually angry about?

Mud smeared on my shoes

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Noticing and owning our breakdowns creates opportunities for us to experience breakthroughs. Breakthroughs are profound. They shift our fundamental way of being and impact all areas of our lives consciously and subconsciously. However, many people are overly fixated on the win, goal, achievement, or finish line rather than the breakthrough. This is an energetically unsustainable way to live that leads to burnout. It also often leaves us feeling disconnected from ourselves and others. 

What is a breakdown and a breakthrough?

Welcoming and acknowledging breakdowns

Breakdown in communication

Unacknowledged breakdowns

Making up excuses and stories

Breakthroughs are about who you become from the breakdown

Noticing the gap and characteristics that you’re lacking in how you show up

Problem/solution approach isn’t appropriate for most aspects of our lives

Opportunities for breakthroughs are everywhere

Any time something happens is an opportunity to reflect

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