Casual Swinger - A Sex Positive, Swinging Lifestyle Podcast

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January 19The Great Divide - Can You Grow Apart In The Lifestyle?
Join hosts Mickey and Mallory as they kick off Season 7 with a deep dive into one of the most challenging aspects of lifestyle relationships: when partners have different play styles, needs, and desires. In this candid episode, they explore "The Great Divide" - what happens when couples grow in different directions within the lifestyle, and how to navigate these differences without letting them destroy your relationship.
Topics Covered:
Understanding why couples grow apart (lifestyle and vanilla)
The difference between DTF and connection-based play styles
Navigating polyamory vs. swinging dynamics within one relationship
Solo travel and independent play in committed relationships
Finding four-way connections when you have different needs
Communication strategies for bridging lifestyle divides
Why keeping score destroys relationships
The importance of "pebbling" and giving each other flowers
Plus: Whiskey of the Month returns with Wild Turkey Rare Breed - the bourbon that changed barrel-proof whiskey forever!
Upcoming Events Mentioned:
Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism II (March 14-21, 2026)
Groove Cruise 2027
Cap d'Agde, France adventure
This podcast contains adult content and is intended for mature audiences. The Casual Swinger is a variety show covering lifestyle topics, travel, events, and real talk about non-monogamy.
Show Notes:
[00:00] - Introduction & Season 7 Reboot
New music, new episode art, fresh start
Why Season 6 didn't go as planned
Getting back to their roots
[03:30] - Recent Adventures
X Club Toronto: New Year's Eve & Jake's birthday celebration
Mickey's DJing journey ("the new midlife crisis")
Mallory's solo trip to Be Better at Being Bad (Naughty Gym's event)
The transformative power of solo travel in the lifestyle
[15:00] - Upcoming Events
Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism II (March 14-21, 2026) - casualswingerweek.com
Cate's Miami event (Memorial Day weekend)
Cate's Scottsdale event (October, Mickey's birthday)
Groove Cruise 2026 & 2027
Cap d'Agde, France
Toronto X Club return
[20:00] - THE GREAT DIVIDE: Main Topic
What is The Great Divide?
How people grow apart in relationships (55% of divorces over 50 are due to "irreconcilable differences")
The lifestyle version: when play styles, desires, and needs diverge
Why this isn't about divorce - it's about navigation
Common Lifestyle Divides:
DTF vs. connection-based players
Polyamory-aligned vs. swinging-focused partners
Different levels of sexual adventurousness
Kink/fetish compatibility issues
The "real unicorn": finding genuine four-way connections
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Backfilling:
✅ Good: Replacing flaky vanilla friends with lifestyle friends who value your time
✅ Good: Choosing workouts and self-care over passive activities
❌ Bad: Seeking physical touch from lifestyle friends because you don't get it at home
❌ Bad: Complaining about your partner to others for validation
❌ Bad: Using drugs, alcohol, or attention-seeking to fill emotional voids
How to Navigate The Divide:
Find mutual ground
Focus on what you agree on, not just differences
Don't keep score
Quid pro quo thinking destroys relationships
Practice "pebbling"
Give each other flowers and little wins to stay connected
Communicate honestly
Even when it's uncomfortable
Allow for parallel roads
You don't always need to be on the same path, just alongside each other
Take time and space
Sometimes you need to pause and process before continuing the conversation
Seek outside resources
Therapy, podcasts, books, community support
Key Insights:
"Do I need to follow you there, or can I be on a parallel road alongside you?"
The hardest person to say "no" to is someone you care about
If you're keeping score, you're already at a deficit
Solo experiences can strengthen your primary relationship
Different doesn't mean doomed - it means you need to communicate more
[55:00] - Clarification on "DTF"
Addressing feedback from previous episode
DTF isn't disparaging - it's just a different play style
Some people have more "gates" to go through before feeling sexy/safe
Neither approach is better or worse
[60:00] - Whiskey of the Month: Wild Turkey Rare Breed
The History:
Rippy Distillery origins (1869)
Survived Prohibition through medicinal whiskey license
The hunting trip that named Wild Turkey (1940)
Jimmy Russell's legacy (Master Distiller since 1967)
Why Rare Breed Changed Everything:
First mass-produced barrel-proof bourbon (1991)
Released during bourbon's "dark ages" when everyone was watering down whiskey
No water added, no chill filtration, no compromises
Paved the way for today's barrel-proof category
Tasting Notes:
High rye content = spicy
Deep char (Level 4)
Long, warm finish with "Kentucky hug"
Intentionally unpolished
Not for bourbon beginners
Jimmy Russell's Philosophy: "We don't make it for people who don't like bourbon."
[70:00] - Wrap-Up & How to Connect
Find The Casual Swinger Podcast:
Website: casualswinger.com
Email: [email protected]
Instagram, YouTube, X, TikTok: @casualswinger
Community: connectcasual.com (FREE for Casual Swinger Week attendees!)
Casual Swinger Week Details:
March 14-21, 2026 at Hedonism II
Limited rooms remaining
Book at: casualswingerweek.com
Includes 1-year free access to Connect Casual community ($50/person value)
#SwingersLifestyle #LifestylePodcast #EthicalNonMonogamy #PolyamoryVsSwinging #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesTherapy #OpenRelationship #HedonismII #WhiskeyReview #WildTurkey #BarrelProofBourbon #LifestyleTravel #SwingersOver40 #CommunicationInRelationships #SoloTravel #XClubToronto #GrooveCruise
1 hr 11 min
October 20, 2025A Racoon Named Desire - Mickey & Mallory's Romantic Wildlife Expedition
Welcome to another wild ride with Mallory and Mickey on the Casual Swinger Podcast! In this episode, "A Raccoon Named Desire," your favorite hosts take you on their first-ever trip to Desire Riviera Maya, sharing honest, hilarious, and insightful stories from their lifestyle vacation in Mexico.
Episode Highlights:
Desire Riviera Maya Review: Get the inside scoop on the newly renovated resort, from the stunning Eden building to the not-so-stunning beach. Mallory and Mickey break down the vibe, amenities, and what makes Desire unique compared to their beloved Hedonism II in Jamaica.
Lifestyle Travel Tips: Hear about the differences between resort stays, hotel takeovers, and house parties. The duo discusses how Desire caters to both newbies and seasoned swingers, and why it might be the perfect fit for your next adventure.
Wildlife Encounters: You won’t want to miss the infamous raccoon story that inspired this episode’s title! Find out how a cheeky raccoon (and some other local critters) made their mark on the trip—literally.
Community & Events: Learn about upcoming events like Casual Swinger Week (March 14–21, 2026), how to join the Connect Casual community, and why staying connected year-round is so important.
Real Talk: Honest reflections on swinging, making connections, and why sometimes you just need a vacation from your vacation.
Key Takeaways:
Desire RM offers a more relaxed, boutique experience compared to the high-energy, week-long party at Hedo.
The resort is ideal for couples new to the lifestyle, with approachable staff, beautiful grounds, and a variety of room options.
Not everything goes as planned—sometimes, the most memorable moments involve wildlife and waffles!
Community is everything: connect with like-minded friends before, during, and after your trip.
Links & Resources:
Book your spot for Casual Swinger Week: casualweek.com
Join the Connect Casual community: connectcasual.com
Follow Casual Swinger on social: Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube
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Tune in for laughs, real talk, and all the sexy, silly, and surprising moments that make the lifestyle unforgettable. You’ve been listening to Casual Swinger!
1 hr 20 min
September 03, 2025One Size Fits All?
One Size Fits All?
Navigating Lifestyle Events, House Parties, Clubs & Takeovers – with Wanderlust Swinger's own Cate!
Description: Welcome to Season 6, Episode 5 of the Casual Swinger Podcast! In this candid and entertaining episode, hosts Mickey and Mallory are joined by the ever-popular Wanderlust Cate for a deep dive into the world of lifestyle events. Whether you’re a seasoned swinger or new to the scene, this episode is packed with real talk, hilarious stories, and practical advice on navigating everything from meet & greets and house parties to clubs, hotel takeovers, and full-blown resort events.
We break down the pros and cons of each event type, discuss the importance of setting expectations, and share personal experiences—both the wild and the awkward. Learn how to find the right event for your vibe, what red flags to watch for, and how to make the most of your lifestyle journey. Plus, get the inside scoop on Casual Swinger Week, Libertine Events, and how to connect with the community year-round.
Keywords: Swinger podcast, lifestyle events, house parties, swingers clubs, hotel takeovers, resort takeovers, Wanderlust Cate, Casual Swinger Week, Libertine Events, lifestyle community, swinging advice, adult podcast, open relationships, event etiquette, lifestyle travel

Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Intro & Warnings: Mickey and Mallory welcome listeners and introduce special guest Wanderlust Cate.
[03:00] House Party Recap: Behind-the-scenes of their epic three-day house party, including hilarious mishaps and lessons learned.
[10:00] Community & Connection: The value of year-round lifestyle communities like Casual Connect and Libertine Connect.
[15:00] Booking Casual Swinger Week: Updates, booking tips, and why it’s not sold out!
[20:00] Meet & Greets: What to expect, etiquette, and how to spot red flags.
[30:00] House Parties: The difference between social and DTF (down to fun) parties, setting boundaries, and the importance of clear communication.
[40:00] Swingers Clubs: Club culture in the US vs. Europe, pros and cons, and how to find your fit.
[55:00] Hotel & Resort Takeovers: Investment, expectations, and how to choose the right event for you.
[1:10:00] Age, Vibe & Finding Your People: Why “average age” questions matter, and how to connect with like-minded folks.
[1:20:00] Final Thoughts & Resources: How to research events, ask the right questions, and set yourself up for success.
Special Guest:
Wanderlust Cate – Host of Wanderlust Swingers Podcast and founder of Libertine Events. Find her at wanderlustswingers.com and libertineevents.com.
Resources & Links:
Casual Swinger Community: casualswinger.com
Casual Swinger Week: casualswingerweek.com
Libertine Events: libertineevents.com
Connect with Us: Instagram, YouTube, X (Twitter), SLS, SDC, Kasidie
Contact:
Email: [email protected]
Support the Show:
Join the Casual Connect community for exclusive events and resources.
Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!
1 hr 33 min
August 01, 2025 Adults Only - The AVS Legislation You Should Care About!
Podcast Title:
Casual Swinger Season 6 Episode 4 – Adults Only: The AVS Legislation You Should Care About
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Join hosts Mallory and Mickey Gordon for a candid, entertaining, and insightful episode of the Casual Swinger Podcast! In this adults-only show, the duo dives deep into the controversial Age Verification Service (AVS) legislation sweeping across the United States and beyond. Discover how these new laws impact not just the adult industry, but your personal freedoms, privacy, and access to online content.
With over 18 years in the lifestyle community, Mallory and Mickey blend humor, real-life stories, and expert commentary to break down what AVS means for content creators, sex workers, and everyday adults. Plus, get the latest updates on Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism II, hilarious dating misadventures, and the much-anticipated Whiskey of the Month!
Whether you’re a lifestyle veteran, sex-positive advocate, or just curious about the latest in adult legislation, this episode is packed with must-know information, laughs, and resources to keep you informed and empowered.
Keywords:
AVS legislation, age verification, adult content laws, lifestyle podcast, sex-positive, privacy, online freedom, content creators, sex work, Hedonism II, Casual Swinger Week, whiskey of the month, podcast show notes, adult industry news
Show Notes:
00:00 – Intro & Disclaimer
Mallory and Mickey welcome listeners, share a quick disclaimer, and set the tone for an adults-only, fun, and informative episode.
03:00 – Life Updates & Dating in the Lifestyle
The hosts catch up on recent adventures, the challenges of dating as busy event hosts, and the realities of chemistry and connection in the lifestyle.
12:00 – Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism II
Announcing the next Casual Swinger Week in Jamaica! Details on dates, booking, and what makes this event unique.
20:00 – Main Topic: AVS Legislation Explained
Deep dive into Age Verification Service laws, how they’re affecting the adult industry, content creators, and your access to online content.
What is AVS?
Which states are affected?
The impact on privacy, free speech, and sex work
International implications (UK, EU, etc.)
40:00 – The Real-World Impact
Discussion on VPN usage, piracy, and how restrictive laws often backfire.
Parallels to Prohibition and the War on Drugs
The rise of non-compliant and pirated sites
55:00 – Sex Education, Parenting, and Personal Responsibility
Why open conversations and device-level controls matter more than legislation.
Tips for parents
The importance of sex-positive education
1:10:00 – Whiskey of the Month
Spotlight on Evan Williams Single Barrel bourbon: tasting notes, history, and why it’s a favorite.
1:20:00 – Resources & How to Get Involved
Links and organizations mentioned:
Free Speech Coalition: https://freespeechcoalition.com/
Age Verification Policy: https://ageverificationpolicy.org/
Contact your representatives
1:25:00 – Connect with Casual Swinger
Website: casualswinger.com
Email: [email protected]
Social: Instagram, YouTube, X (Twitter), SDC, SLS, Cassidy
Event info: casualswingerweek.com
Support the Show:
If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share with your friends! For questions, feedback, or to join us at Hedonism II, reach out via email or social media.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
Free Speech Coalition
Age Verification Policy
Hedonism II
The Hot Wife Next Door Podcast
Disclaimer:
This podcast is for entertainment and informational purposes only. The hosts are not licensed professionals. Listener discretion is advised.
1 hr 3 min
June 14, 2025 Hotwife Homerun - Casual vs Curated
In this episode of Casual Swinger, Mickey and Mallory Gordon are joined by Cate Wanderlust Swingers for an exciting and candid discussion.

Broadcasting from Toronto, the trio dives into an impromptu encounter in Cancun, exploring themes around the spontaneity versus the structured approach in the hot wife lifestyle. They share amusing anecdotes, insights on the dynamics of E&M (ethically non-monogamous) relationships, and how a spontaneous adventure reignited confidence and passion. They also navigate topics like safety, vetting processes, performance anxiety, and the evolving rules of swinging.

With humor and raw honesty, the conversation offers both entertainment and thought-provoking content for listeners looking to understand or relate to the hot wife and swinging experiences.

www.casualswingerweek.com
www.wanderlustswingers.com
www.thexclub.net
www.hedonism.com
www.libertineevents.com

56 min
June 02, 2025 Striking Out - It's Not Just For Boys
In this episode of Casual Swinger, hosts Mallory and Mickey reconnect with listeners from their mobile studio, the 'Rolling Couch.' This episode is filled with comedy and candid recounting of frequently thwarted encounters while out of town.

The discussion starts with a chaotic attempt to record the previous episode at an airport bar surrounded by kids. They delve into the challenges faced organizing hotwifing dates and dealing with flakey and untrustworthy candidates. Mallory highlights her personal struggles with the intricate process in the post-breakup environment while Mickey shares valuable tips on identifying and avoiding red flags in lifestyle dating.

Infused with plenty of humor and honesty, they reflect on balancing rejection, expectations, and the complex emotions involved. Listen in for a blend of fun tales from the field and real insight into navigating the lifestyle's singles scene.

Links

Casual Swinger Week
Libertine Events
The X Club
1 hr 3 min
May 13, 2025 Breaking Up Is Hard To Do - Casual Swinger 2.0
Well, it's been a while!

Casual Swinger took a MUCH longer than intended hiatus, and even WE didn't exactly know why. We dig into some of the reasons why we spent 9 months off the air & talk about some of our challenges with a REALLY tough subject...breaking up.

Not with each other! With "our couple," and all of the emotional challenges that came along with it.

Hear all about it and more during our road trip down to Miami for Libertine Events Garden of Hedon!

Hedonism II
Casual Swinger Week
Libertine Events
DarkMatter69 - BDSM Gear
1 hr 2 min
July 19, 2024 SE05E07 - Hurricane Hedo - Onsite w/ Hedonism II GM David Graham post Hurricane Beryl
Weathering the Storm: Insights and Resilience at Hedonism 2
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In this engaging episode of Casual Swinger, hosts Mallory and Mickey recount their recent adventures, focusing on their time at Casual Swinger Week and PCAP events. They delve into the aftermath of Hurricane Beryl at Hedonism 2 in Jamaica, sharing stories of the remarkable resilience of the locals and the relentless efforts of the resort staff to rebuild. The episode also features an in-depth interview with David Graham, the general manager, who discusses hurricane preparations and recovery efforts.
Additionally, significant renovations at the resort, the economic impact of inflation, upcoming events like Halloween, and a GoFundMe campaign to support affected employees are highlighted, underscoring the dedicated community spirit of Hedonism 2.
00:00 Welcome Back to Casual Swinger
01:26 Life Updates and Travel Adventures
02:05 Recap of Casual Swinger Week
04:39 PCAP and Playroom Highlights
07:56 Hurricane Hedo Experience
17:15 Community Resilience in Jamaica
31:53 Interview with Hedo's General Manager
39:48 Upcoming Plans and Promises
40:28 Casual Swinger Week and Contact Info
41:40 Introduction to David Graham
42:25 Hurricane Experience at Hedonism 2
43:55 Staff Resilience and Recovery Efforts
52:30 Future Plans for Hedonism 2 54:53 Group Experiences at Hedonism 2
56:43 Management Approach and Staff Interaction 01:00:33 Renovations and Economic Challenges
01:04:26 Holiday Celebrations and Special Events
01:15:43 Support for Hedonism 2 Staff
01:18:26 Casual Swinger Week and Final Thoughts

Casual Swinger Week
Casual Toys
Hedonism II
IOS Connections
Fluffernutters
Rachal's Rebels

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1 hr 22 min
March 24, 2024 The Unicorn Swap - Is it the SECRET to adding a third to your bedroom?
People find themselves entering a consensually non-monogamous relationship (aka "The swinging lifestyle") in SO many different ways and for different reasons. One thing is almost universal though, at some point...the boys want a threesome.

Finding a single, willing girl who wants nothing more than to join a married (or attached) couple simply for their pleasure is SO rare she might as well be a mythical creature...aka, a "Unicorn."

In tonight's Casual Swinger we break down a way that everyone can get what they want, and no Unicorns were harmed in the creation of this episode!

Also, more on Podcast-A-Palooza, Revive Parties, Casual Swinger Week, and of course...WHISKEY of the MONTH!

Links:

Casual Toys
Casual Swinger Week
Vedo Toys
Wicked Sensual Care
Uberlube
XR Brands/Creature Cocks
Coochy Shave Cream
NS Novelties
Podcast-A-Palooza
Hedonism II
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1 hr 25 min
March 01, 2024 Blurred Lines - The Land Between Swinging & Polyamory
The swinging lifestyle is fraught with pitfalls and challenges for the strongest of relationships, but one of the biggest challenges (and fears) couples face is the emotional connection that can occur as these relationships deepen. We were joined by Scott & April from Naughty Gym to wade into these dangerous waters for relationships and some of the specific challenges they present...if it's not "lifestyle," and it's not "Poly..." what is it?

Links

Casual Toys
Naughty Gym
Be Better @ Being Bad Week
Casual Swinger Week
Hedonism II Resort
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1 hr 30 min

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Follow the sexy misadventures of Mickey & Mallory, a casual lifestyle couple who are trying hard to be the family next door while being consensually non-monogamous. From sex toys to the latest…