Queue up the theme from Star Trek, okay actually best to hold off on that since a copyright law or two would be sidestepped if a theremin was playing that tune here. Since there is no need to get lawyers involved, let’s chat about another kind of exploring in space that happens in the D/S lifestyle. In this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper, sub, as well as dom space, are on the menu so  please join the conversation about these sensations as well as staying  safer should one experience them.

Life comes at us all in unique ways and routinely does not follow the plan we have for it. It has an amazing way of doing what we least expect when it is least expected. One of the things I expect from myself is that I can think of a topic for a podcast episode however life colluded with my brain to leave me without ideas I was excited about, so I decided to try something unexpected for myself. I went unscripted. With no notes and no practice, I just sat down and started talking about a few lifestyle thoughts that have been swirling in my mind and these are lifestyle loneliness, supporting, and believing.

Welcome to this exciting episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper. Rarely do my podcast episodes have a topic that might arouse some passionate feelings but this one might do a little of that. This I believe is a good thing because there are a zillion and one paths to enjoy life while there are a few wrong ones too. 

However, talking about our favorite Little Rascals, while it may involve some strong opinions, no one is incorrect.

So I want to invite you to join me as I share why Alfalfa makes me chuckle, why some who adore Alfalfa can be a bit of a red flag, especially for narcissism, and how we may agree in principle but still disagree over labeling.

Ever have one of those days where after work you are hungry, do not feel like cooking, and on the commute home are running through some of your favorite restaurant's menus in your mind trying to decide which one to stop at for dinner? 

I was having one of those days and not only was I thinking about food but my latest podcast. My thoughts went from what to order to how we create a menu of what we will do, might do, or will not do in the lifestyle as well as how to do it safely. So join me on this episode where we will chat about creating your menu and how to bring it to life.

As I was percolating on a podcast idea, the Winnie-the-Pooh quote popped into my brain, “I sometimes wonder if it’s true. That who is what and what is who.” While my head is not stuck in a honey jar, thankfully, Mr. Pooh’s words caused me to think about the well-meaning, yet misguided information floating around that may confuse someone newer to the lifestyle. Join me on this episode for a case study of well-intended but unsound advice along with how to avoid the pitfalls of guidance that misses the mark.

Dating is never fun and is often a convoluted mess and when the lifestyle gets “shaken, not stirred” into the dating pool things become a convoluted hot mess.

In this episode, I chat about how when we are single and kinky we can date ourselves which will help us grow which in turn will help us be even more attractive or an even better ‘catch’ for our next prospective partner.

If Only I Had A TARDIS Or Time Machine but since fate has kept me from acquiring a means for time travel, (although I hear Stewie Griffin has one available, does anyone have his contact info?) thinking back to some of the questions I had when I was starting my lifestyle journey is a best a touch muddy. So I did what I think is the next best thing by reaching out for help to discover some of the questions that people who are newer to the lifestyle have rather than relying on my murky memory. I am so glad I did. There were so many great questions, things I had forgotten about or never thought to ask. Join me on this episode as I answer questions from those who are less experienced in their lifestyle journeys.

With Mother’s Day fast approaching, my thoughts went to my Mom and some of her little words of wisdom. One of those phrases kept bubbling up again and again inside my mind coupled with a question I was asked about how to make real, quality connections/friendships within this lifestyle. These thoughts percolated up in my mind until they brewed up this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper. Happy Mother's Day and I hope a bit of my Mom's wisdom can help others as they build and grow connections and friendships within D/S.

Sometimes when we look back at the start of a journey in life, it would have been helpful if our current self was able to travel back in time to impart the wisdom that we learned as we explored that path forward. Because of this, I wanted to chat about a few of the amazing lessons I have learned in my journey in D/S with the hope that the things I would share with my younger self at the beginning of my journey will help others on their explorations.

If you are in or around the lifestyle, there are constantly people reminding others to be safe, make good choices, and bad things can happen to good people. So many of these well-meaning bits of advice on keeping safe can almost feel like a lecture and who has not heard a few of these things and thought “It can't happen to me” or “I’m too smart to have something bad happen”. No matter how we phrased it to ourselves, we all have found our unique reasons to set aside safer choices to pursue something we wanted. Now, this might not have happened with lifestyle-related pursuits but I am confident all of us have made a poor choice but somehow made it through the misadventure fine. So rather than share safety lessons like a professor lecturing to a class, I want to take a few minutes and share my experience. I still do not fully understand why it happened to me, but it did, so please join me on this trip back in time to learn from my experience.