Christians Who Date

By Andrea Alley, Kalli Christofferson, and Lauren BourniqueSociety & Culture Relationships

Christians Who Date episodes

November 26, 2024 Killing Comparison
What do you do when all your friends are getting married? Or finding relationships? Or moving into the next stage of life while you’re still single?

Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share real life examples of feeling behind or less than and what they do to kick comparison in the face.
53 min
November 19, 2024 How to Impress the Ladies
Guys, this one’s for you. What are the ladies impressed by? How can you get to know someone if you’re interested? What are some tips for the first date? How about all the other dates?

Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through what guys have done in the pre-dating and early dating stages that has really impressed them.
1 hr 11 min
November 12, 2024 From Dating Anxiety to Happy Marriage (with Patrick and Katie Hern)
As Christians, we're famous for putting a lot of pressure on dating. It makes sense, because we have a high value for marriage, but at the same time, it can hurt the dating stage when we feel like we need to figure things out ASAP.
This week, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren sit down with Kalli's sister and brother-in-law, Katie and Patrick Hern as they share their dating story and the perspective they have now, 7 years into marriage.
If you can relate to Katie's story at all, the Connected and Committed Podcast is a great resource for walking through dating anxiety: https://open.spotify.com/show/7wjLwhd4X5g9dlG3w2YLYk?si=dce2f3d6a6f749ce
1 hr 52 min
November 05, 2024 Relationship Readiness, First Dates, and Dealbreakers
Is there a way to know if you’re ready to be in a relationship? What questions do you ask on a first date? What makes a dealbreaker vs. something you work through?
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea tackle some of your top dating questions on the podcast this week.
44 min
October 29, 2024 Should Women Make the First Move?
Should women ask guys on dates? What about breaking the ice? Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren pull from their own experiences to talk about what they've seen work and not work in the dating world.
55 min
October 22, 2024How Far Is Too Far?
It's the question that always gets asked at youth group... how far is too far? When it comes to physical boundaries, where is the line?
This week, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren get very honest about how they've navigated this part of a relationship and answer questions like:
Is the church controlling people with all of this talk on physical boundaries?

Is God controlling people by making all of these "rules" around sex?

How do you talk to someone you're in a relationship with about physical boundaries?

What happens when you mess up?
⁠Intimacy Ladder ⁠podcast with Jason Vallotton.
1 hr 11 min
October 15, 2024Should We Move in Together?
Statistically, it's more common than ever to live with your partner, whether you plan on getting married or not.
If you're NOT living together, what are you even doing? Following some antiquated set of rules? Overpaying for rent? Possibly even putting yourself in danger by not truly scoping things out before you tie the knot?
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea get a little controversial this week by sharing some counter-cultural ideas on a topic that most of America agrees on - cuz they're edgy like that.

Sources:
Pew Research Center's Key findings on marriage and cohabitation in the U.S.

National Survey from the University of Denver, published by the Institute of Family Studies: What's The Plan? Cohabitation, Engagement, and Divorce

Rabbi's name that Andrea couldn't pronounce: Lubavitcher Rebbe
49 min
October 08, 2024 Freedom from Porn (with Tim & Naomi Specht)
Can you get free from porn ? How does porn affect your dating relationship? What are the practicals for breaking this cycle if you're stuck?
This week, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down with their friends from California who are currently youth pastors in Austin, Texas: Tim and Naomi Specht.
Tim shares honestly about his own struggle with porn and how watching a TedTalk led to a revelation of truth that ultimately set him free.
Note: This episode covers some topics that are for a more mature audience (unlike our other episodes which are normally okay for little ears listening in).
Resources: The Great Porn Experiment TedTalk
The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller
Reach out to Tim: [email protected]

1 hr 22 min
October 01, 2024How Following Jesus Shapes the Way We Date
What does culture say? What does Jesus say? What does it mean to date as a Christian?

Andrea, Kalli, and Lauren talk through:
How dating has looked different for them because of their faith

How they've approached the topic of faith with the people they've dated

If they had it to do over again, would they follow the boundaries God outlines in the Bible?
Recommended Reading: Loveology by John Mark Comer
57 min
September 24, 2024 What to Look For in a Relationship (Green, Yellow, & Red Flags)
What should you look for in someone to date? What are the green flags? What are the red flags? What do you do with a yellow flag? Are orange flags a thing?
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea dive into all of these questions and more in this episode.
P.S. Kalli is saying the word "flag," even though it sounds totally different. She's from Montana.
1 hr