Christians Who Date

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman has sold 20 million copies around the world.

Millions of people have taken the Enneagram personality test (although Christians have been questioning its origins in the last couple of years).

In what could be their most controversial episode yet, the Christians Who Date weigh in on these two personality frameworks.

Are they helpful in dating? Do they oversimplify things? Have we used them so much now that they're a cliché? Listen to find out!

To dig into these resources yourself:

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

The Enneagram Institute

What does it actually look like to date with intentionality?

In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down with Kerry and Dane Earl as they drop all kinds of wisdom and practical tips on how to date well.

They cover things like:

• How to create safety as a man in dating (lol, don't worry, Dane took this one)
• Why letting your friends set you up can work (if you do it right)
• How to separate non-negotiables from preferences
• The art of asking good questions
• Why it's just as important to self reflect as it is to assess the other person
• The importance of staying true to yourself, even when it might cost you the relationship

Whether you’re dating or thinking about dating, this conversation will give you some practical tips you can start applying THIS WEEK!

Are there ways we over-spiritualize dating? How do we bring God into the process in a healthy way?

Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share their fails when it comes to over-spiritualizing dating and talk about what they do now instead.

Is wanting things to unfold “organically” holding you back?

Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea chat through the tension between letting things be organic and dating with intentionality.

Do women make too big of a deal out of height? How much does it actually matter?

Does love at first sight happen? Is it legit?

Is splitting the check ever the move?

Is movie taste a deal-breaker?

Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren jump into some hot takes on all the questions above. Let us know what you think in the comments.

How much do you communicate when you’re first starting to date? What about when things are getting more serious?

Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through things like:

- All-day texting

- The “Good Morning” Text

- Defining the relationship

- Communication fails

What are the markers of a fun date? Bungee jumping? Helicopter rides? Fancy outfits?

Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea break down some of the most fun dates they've ever been on and why they were fun.

Feel free to steal any of these date ideas for yourself.

Shout out to The Adventure Challenge.

If you've said "yes" to being a bridesmaid (or groomsman) 17 times, and there is not a man or woman on the horizon for you to date, this one's for you. 
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea get real about what it's like to be the last one single in your friend group. 

They talk through questions like: 

• How do you navigate moments when being single feels so in-your-face? 

• If you keep getting invited to be a bridesmaid or attend yet another wedding, should you still go?

• How do you balance holding hope with staying surrendered?

If you've ever felt alone in the waiting, you’re not. May this leave you with hope and encouragement that the best is yet to come. 

Whether you're single, dating, or somewhere in between, this conversation is all about owning your life—right now.

Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea unpack what it looks like to stop looking for someone else to give you the life you want and start building it right now.

The ladies talk through:

- Taking ownership of your finances, future, and friendships

- Shifting from “someday when I’m in a relationship” to “what can I do right now?”

- Recognizing when you’re putting too much pressure on dating to fix things

This is your reminder that your life doesn’t begin when you meet someone—it’s already happening.

Go out and live it up (in a healthy, whole way 😉🥳).

"There are no good options out there. They're all taken."

From the mountains of Montana, to the streets of LA, to the taco trucks of Austin, people everywhere are saying their city is the worst city to date in.

BUT IS IT REALLY TRUE?!

Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down to unpack why it's tempting to agree with this idea, but also challenge it with some cold, hard facts and fun stories about meeting good guys out in the wild.

If you’re wondering where all the good people are... this one's for you.