Christians Who Date

We sit down for our 50TH episode and chat through:

• Our favorite moments from the first 50 episodes
• The episodes that surprised us in how people responded
• Our funniest behind-the-scenes moments
• What we talk about pre- and post- recording
• How our dating experiences have changed since starting the show
• How do we hope this podcast shapes the dating conversations happening in the church five years from now

Dating has a way of shining a spotlight on our insecurities. And while compliments feel good in the moment, they can be fleeting if we haven't rooted our worth in something steady.

In this episode, we’re talking about the insecurities that creep into every stage of dating, why they can feel so overwhelming, and how to keep them from running the show. You’ll walk away with practical encouragement for naming your insecurities, handling them with honesty, and leaning into the only source of security that never runs out.

It's easy to feel like marriage is the goal, especially in the church. In reality, marriage is just one way Jesus helps us reach the ultimate goal, which is looking more like Him.

In this episode, we sat down with Namaan and Delcie Mian to unpack their 4-year journey from friends to dating to marriage.

We talked through:

- Holding God’s guidance about dating with open hands

- Making a choice when there isn’t a clear “yes” from heaven

- Navigating dating anxiety

- Why marriage isn’t the finish line

How far is too far? What counts as crossing a line? Where should we draw physical boundaries in dating?

If you’ve ever asked those questions (or heard them a thousand times in youth group), you’re not alone. But maybe there’s a better question:

What’s your goal and how are you going to get there?

In this episode, we’re talking about how physical boundaries aren’t about following a bunch of rules or dating with fear, but they’re about building trust and laying a solid foundation for a strong, connected marriage.

We’re bringing Abram Goff on the podcast to share some practical wisdom on what it actually looks like to pursue physical integrity in a relationship and why it goes way beyond just “not having sex before marriage.”

We talk about:

- Long distance dating

- Why “how far is too far?” might be the wrong question

- How building trust starts way before the wedding day

Grab your copy of Abram’s book How Far Is Too Far?: physicalboundaries.com

In this episode, we’re talking about popular dating advice we've all seen floating around out there. 
We share our honest, unfiltered thoughts on: 
- Will you really find love when you stop looking for it?
- Should you play "hard to get"?
- Do opposites attract? 
- Should it be you and your bf/gf against the world? 

Let us know which takes you agree (or disagree) with! 

Let’s talk about The List. This is the mental (or literal) checklist of things we want in the person we marry. In this episode, we’re unpacking our old lists and asking questions like:

- What are the most unrealistic or ridiculous things we’ve had on our lists?

- What happens when someone checks every box… but still isn’t the one?

- What does our list say about what we value or fear?

- Now that we’re dating in our 30s, what would we tell young people about making a list?

Whether you have 3 non-negotiables or a full-on spreadsheet, this one’s for you.

For centuries, philosophers and theologians have been wrestling with the question: “If there’s a good God, why do people suffer?” Or the classic: “Why do bad things happen to good people?”

We’re not here to tie this episode up with a pretty bow. We’re sitting in the tension of believing in a good God and experiencing grief.

We talk about what it’s like to walk through grief, how to be there for people who are hurting (without saying all the wrong things), and why comfort doesn’t always come in answers.

Whether you’re in a hard season or walking alongside someone who is, we hope this conversation makes you feel a little less alone.

A lot of us have a picture in our heads of what a relationship should look like.

In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk about the difference between healthy standards and unrealistic expectations, and how to know if your “ideal” is actually keeping you from seeing the good thing (or good person) right in front of you.

If you’ve ever said, “It just didn’t feel right,” or “I’ll know it when I see it,” this one’s for you.

What does it mean for us to wait on God? What happens when we’ve been waiting a long time for our dreams for marriage and a family?

In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share openly and honestly about seasons of waiting on God for dreams - whether that be a relationship, finances, or other desires of their heart.

They share how they’ve handled “waiting fatigue” when you feel like you’ve been waiting a really long time and your hope is deferred.

May this episode bring you hope in the midst of whatever you’re waiting for today.

What makes a good marriage?

In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk about 9 real-life (not celebrity) power couples that have given them vision for what they want in a marriage.

They cover things like:

• Why marriage isn't the end goal

• Inviting kids into the fullness of your life

• Being intentional about growth

• The difference between “what can I get from this?” to “what can I give?”

Whether you're single, dating, or married, may this episode leave you with some practical takeaways and long-term vision.