🚔 Law enforcement wellness starts with YOU — federal officer & speaker Michael Laidler shares how to thrive beyond the badge.

Episode Summary: This episode features Michael Laidler, a federal law enforcement officer, speaker, and author of Greatness Beyond the Badge. Michael shares his journey from a 19-year-old police officer to a national speaker, highlighting lessons from failures, leadership, and balancing law enforcement identity with personal growth. He explains the three pillars of his book — knowing yourself, reducing dissonance, and building a path to greatness through intentional growth and time management. His story emphasizes resilience, redefining success, and creating a healthy balance for officers and their families.

Hosted by Cyndi Doyle, LPC-S, retired police spouse, author of Hold the Line, and founder of Code4Couples®, the podcast brings real conversations and strategies for law enforcement officers, spouses, and first responder families.

📖 Grab your copy of Hold the Line: Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship → https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

🎤 Book Cyndi Doyle for speaking or training → https://code4couples.com/training/

00:00 Intro & guest welcome 02:30 Michael Laidler's law enforcement journey 07:00 From Toastmasters to professional speaking 10:00 The role of failure in resilience 15:00 Knowing yourself & the selfie mirror method 21:00 Reducing dissonance & work-life balance 28:00 The 24-hour formula for growth 37:00 Failure and law enforcement culture 43:00 Where to connect with Michael Laidler

Law enforcement families face isolation and identity loss when the badge comes off. In this episode, Stephanie Erb shares how peer support and community can change everything.

Episode Summary: This episode features Stephanie Erb, a medically retired officer, dispatcher, and current civilian police staff member who also runs one of the largest law enforcement spouse support groups on Facebook. You'll hear:

Her story of medical retirement and identity loss

Why law enforcement families often feel abandoned by departments

How spouses and families can build connection and support

Practical ways to strengthen law enforcement family life and community

Hosted by Cyndi Doyle, founder of Code4Couples®, licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, and author of Hold the Line.

📘 Grab your copy of Hold the Line: Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship → https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

🎤 Book Cyndi for speaking & training → https://code4couples.com/training/

00:00 Intro & welcome 01:30 Stephanie's background in law enforcement & dispatch 04:00 Medical retirement & identity loss 08:00 The need for true support in police culture 12:00 Peer support & community connection 20:00 How families and departments can do better 32:00 Building online and in-person spouse support 36:00 Stephanie's LEO Wives Club community 38:00 Final thoughts & wrap-up

Struggling with healthy eating during shift work? Dietitian tips for police families.

Episode Summary In this episode of Code4Couples, Cyndi sits down with Raina Beugelink, a registered dietitian and police spouse, to talk about the real-life challenges of nutrition for first responders. They explore how hypervigilance, disrupted circadian rhythms, and fatigue impact digestion and food choices. Raina shares simple, practical ways to prep meals, time eating to support better sleep and energy, and work as a couple to protect long-term health. If you've ever struggled with fueling your body while managing the demands of law enforcement life, this conversation is packed with strategies you can use right away.

Hosted by Cyndi Doyle, LPC-S, founder of Code4Couples®, licensed professional counselor, author of Hold the Line, and proud police spouse.

📖 Grab Cyndi's book Hold the Line → https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

🎤 Book Cyndi for training and speaking → https://code4couples.com/training/

Guest Links 🌐 Learn more from Raina Beugelink → https://shiftworknutrition.com/

00:00 – Intro & why nutrition matters for officers 02:00 – Common traps of eating on shift work 07:00 – Hypervigilance and digestion explained 14:00 – Shift work as "jet lag" for first responders 21:00 – Smart meal prep strategies for busy families 28:00 – Cold lunches vs. hot meals on the road 32:00 – Night shift eating & circadian rhythm tips 36:00 – Rethinking caffeine and energy drinks 42:00 – Raina's resources and The Shift Fix program 45:00 – Closing thoughts & how to connect

🚔 Law enforcement spouse support starts with mindset. In this episode, discover how stoic philosophy can help police wives, husbands, and first responder families stay resilient through the challenges of the job.

Episode Summary: In this episode of the Code4Couples® Podcast, Cyndi sits down with former federal law enforcement officer Christopher Healey to explore how stoic philosophy and intentional mindset shifts can transform the way officers and first responder couples navigate stress, trauma, and relationships. Healey shares his journey from archeologist to federal agent, his lessons learned through personal adversity, and how he applies ancient wisdom to modern policing and family life. Together, they discuss practical ways officers can cultivate resilience, stay grounded after critical incidents, and protect their home life from the weight of the job.

Hosted by Cyndi Doyle, licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, author of Hold the Line, and founder of Code4Couples®, this podcast is dedicated to strengthening law enforcement marriages and first responder families.

Primary CTA 📖 Grab Cyndi's book Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship → https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

Secondary CTA 🎤 Book Cyndi for training or speaking → https://code4couples.com/training/

Christopher Healey's Books: 📘 Explore all books by Christopher Healey → https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B001HP4HZQ/allbooks

📗 Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man → https://www.amazon.com/Indispensable-Tactical-Plan-Modern-Man-ebook/dp/B0B6PKTLL6

00:00 – Welcome & introduction 02:30 – Christopher Healey's journey from archeology to law enforcement 09:00 – How stoicism shapes a resilient police mindset 16:00 – Applying ancient wisdom to modern policing & family life 26:00 – Daily habits for first responder mental health 36:00 – Protecting marriage & home life from the job 46:00 – Christopher's upcoming book & retreats 48:00 – Final advice for first responder couples

This episode features Catherine Boyle, known as Lt's Daughter on Instagram, who shares her perspective growing up as the child of a police officer. She explains how her dad's intentional parenting, boundaries, and focus on family shaped her childhood and adult resilience. Catherine now helps first responders build stronger family connections through events, online communities, and social content. Together, we explore how law enforcement families can thrive despite the pressures of the job.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: ✔️ The family routines and rituals that gave Catherine a strong sense of safety growing up ✔️ How intentionality and boundaries protect law enforcement families from burnout ✔️ Why community matters for first responder spouses and children ✔️ Tips for officers and spouses to create connection at home ✔️ How Catherine is now helping first responders and families through events and resources

I'm Cyndi Doyle, founder of Code4Couples®, licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, and author of Hold the Line. I help law enforcement officers, spouses, and families strengthen their relationships and protect what matters most.

📌 FREE RESOURCE 📖 Grab my book Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship → https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

🎤 BOOK ME TO SPEAK Looking for training or a keynote for your department or event? → https://code4couples.com/training/Follow Catherine (Lt's Daughter) on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/theltsdaughter/?hl=en&utm_source=chatgpt.com

00:00 – Welcome + Introduction to Catherine (Lt's Daughter) 02:00 – Growing up with a police officer dad 07:00 – Family rituals that built connection 12:00 – How officers can show up emotionally for kids and spouses 16:00 – The "choir practice" challenge & healthier outlets 23:00 – Boundaries, compartmentalization, and resilience 30:00 – Advice for families raising kids in today's climate 37:00 – Catherine's current projects and events 41:00 – Final words of encouragement

He thought he was bulletproof… until a heart attack changed everything. 💔 #LawEnforcementMarriage In this deeply personal episode, Cyndi and her husband Bobby share the story of his sudden heart attack — a "widow maker" that nearly took his life — and how it became a turning point in their marriage and mental health. They open up about the physical and emotional recovery, how trauma affected both of them, and what it took for Bobby to ask for help and begin healing through therapy and cardiac rehab. Together, they discuss the myth of being "bulletproof," the vulnerability first responders often avoid, and how seeking help restored not only health but connection.

💡 What You'll Learn:

The hidden health risks and heart attack statistics for law enforcement officers

How trauma and emotional shutdown can damage first responder relationships

The truth about asking for help — and why vulnerability is strength

How Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) and counseling supported recovery

How couples can rebuild trust and connection after crisis

Cyndi Doyle is a licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, and founder of Code4Couples®. She helps first responder couples protect their relationships, build emotional safety, and stay connected through the challenges of the job.

👉 Grab Cyndi's book "Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship" https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

🎤 Book Cyndi to Speak or Train 💼 https://code4couples.com/training/

00:00 – Intro: The day everything changed 04:00 – The heart attack and the 911 call 10:00 – Facing mortality and trauma recovery 18:00 – When "bulletproof" breaks down 25:00 – Choosing therapy and rebuilding connection 33:00 – Healing together as a couple 39:00 – Final reflections and message to first responders

In this episode, Cyndi sits down with Dr. Laurie Watson, certified sex therapist, to talk openly about the challenges law enforcement couples face with intimacy and connection. They dive into the pursue–withdraw cycle, how emotional "armoring up" impacts relationships, and the ways trauma and stress from the job interfere with a healthy sex life.

What You'll Learn:

Why police marriages often struggle with intimacy

How the pursue–withdraw cycle damages connection

The impact of trauma, stress, and emotional "armoring up" on sex and marriage

Tips for rebuilding trust, intimacy, and desire in law enforcement relationships

How to break negative cycles and start talking about sex without shame

Cyndi Doyle, founder of Code4Couples®, is a licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, and author of Hold the Line. She's joined by Dr. Laurie Watson, licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist, and co-host of the Foreplay Radio podcast.

📌 Free Resource 📖 Grab your copy of Hold the Line: Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship → https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

🎤 Book Cyndi to Speak Want Cyndi to train your department or speak at your event? → https://code4couples.com/training/

00:00 – Intro & guest welcome 02:30 – What is the pursue–withdraw cycle? 08:00 – Law enforcement culture & intimacy struggles 15:00 – Hormones, desire, and differences in couples 22:00 – Trauma, PTSD, and emotional armoring 30:00 – Breaking cycles & rebuilding intimacy 40:00 – Practical tips for police couples 43:00 – Where to find Dr. Laurie Watson

This episode dives into the concept of moral injury—a psychological and spiritual wound that happens when law enforcement officers or first responders feel they've gone against their moral code. Cyndi and guest Lisa Dway, a clinician and police spouse, explain how moral injury differs from burnout and PTSD, and why it often shows up in officers after critical incidents, omissions, or departmental conflicts.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

How moral injury shows up in law enforcement officers and first responder families

The difference between moral injury, burnout, and PTSD

Real stories of officers experiencing moral injury after shootings, omissions, or departmental conflicts

Warning signs for spouses and families to recognize

Practical steps to support healing through validation, safe conversations, and self-compassion

I'm Cyndi Doyle, licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, author of Hold the Line, and host of the Code4Couples® Podcast. My mission is to help law enforcement officers and their spouses build stronger, healthier relationships while navigating the unique challenges of first responder life.

Free Resource: Grab my book Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship → https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

Speaking & Training: Want Cyndi to speak or train your department? → https://code4couples.com/training/

00:00 Intro + Guest Introduction 02:00 What is Moral Injury? 05:00 Real-world examples from officers and spouses 09:00 Moral injury vs. PTSD and burnout 13:00 Warning signs spouses and partners can spot 19:00 How to support an officer experiencing moral injury 23:00 Healing through self-compassion and forgiveness 27:00 Final thoughts + resources

John, a retired police chief, and his wife Trisha share their journey through alcoholism, resilience, and relationship growth. From the stigma of seeking help to the hard realities of sobriety, they open up about the challenges that tested their marriage and the tools that helped them heal. Together, they highlight the importance of communication, self-awareness, and leaning on community support. Their story offers hope and practical takeaways for law enforcement spouses and first responder families navigating similar struggles.

What you'll hear in this episode:

John's path from officer wellness advocate to facing his own alcoholism

Trisha's perspective as a spouse and life coach navigating sobriety in marriage

The role of community, peer support, and Al-Anon in recovery

How communication and vulnerability transformed their relationship

Lessons for first responder couples about resilience and post-traumatic growth

Cyndi Doyle, founder of Code4Couples®, is a licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, and author of Hold the Line. She equips law enforcement couples with the tools to protect their relationship while protecting and serving their communities.

📌 Get Cyndi's book "Hold the Line" → https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

🎤 Book Cyndi for training & speaking → https://code4couples.com/training/

🌐 Connect with John → https://www.deepbluecompass.com/

00:00 Intro 01:00 John & Trisha's background 04:00 Alcoholism, denial, and the turning point 10:00 Spousal perspective: enabling vs. supporting 16:00 Sobriety, Al-Anon, and recovery tools 25:00 Emotional armor and vulnerability 33:00 Communication shifts that strengthened their marriage 37:00 John's TEDx talk: breaking stigma in law enforcement 42:00 Final advice for law enforcement couples

Compartmentalization helps first responders and law enforcement spouses survive tough moments — but what happens when it starts hurting your marriage? In this episode, discover how to balance emotional survival with real connection.

Short Episode Summary: This episode dives into the topic of compartmentalization with guest Rose Caros, a licensed marriage and family therapist. Together, Rose and Cyndi explore how compartmentalization is both a survival skill and a challenge for law enforcement officers, spouses, and first responders. They discuss how unchecked compartmentalization can affect emotional connection, intimacy, and family life, and share strategies to gradually "flex the emotional muscle" for healthier relationships.

You'll learn:

Why compartmentalization is necessary in police and first responder life

The unintended fallout when it shows up at home

How it impacts intimacy and emotional connection in marriage

Practical ways to reconnect with your spouse and family

Hosted by Cyndi Doyle, LPC-S, NCC, CCISM — licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, and author of Hold the Line. Cyndi helps first responder couples protect their relationships and strengthen connection.

📖 Get Hold the Line: Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship → https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook/dp/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews

🎤 Book Cyndi for training & workshops → https://code4couples.com/training/

00:00 Intro + Guest introduction 02:30 What is compartmentalization? 06:00 Why first responders rely on it 10:00 When compartmentalization becomes harmful 15:00 Emotional connection & intimacy struggles 22:00 Strategies to "flex the emotional muscle" 30:00 How spouses can support healthy connection 40:00 Final takeaways & resources