Compass of Emotions

Today I´d like to share with you what I usually experience during this time of the year. For starters, I like the decorations, the lights, the markets, the Christmas carols, the shop windows and the Christmas movies. On the other hand, I have to admit that by mid-December, I start to feel a lot of pressure. Is it only me or are there many people who feel uneasy about the Holidays?

Last Thursday was Thanksgiving in some parts of the world. I must say I’ve started to ask myself how many times we pause to say thank you during the year. We rarely do it, right?

We stubbornly focus on what we don't want and what we don't have, but we seldom devote our energy to what we do like and what we already enjoy. Mind you, if we lose what we take for granted, we do notice it, a lot!

It’s important to train ourselves to be grateful.

Last week we had an introduction to the fixed and growth mindsets.

Today I’m going to show you my story with both and how adopting one or the other has helped me or harmed me. I want to own my truth and be unapologetically me just in case you feel the only one with your frame of mind.

Today we’re going to talk about mindset or “mental frames”.

Adopting one mindset or the other can be a catalyst for opportunity and fulfilment or for withdrawal and fear.

Let me ask you a few questions:

At school, did you feel that your intelligence was okish but you weren't outstanding like the best students?

Did you feel that you were very good at academic subjects but that you weren’t born for sports?

In your life nowadays, do you obsess when somebody criticizes you, your behavior, or what you’ve accomplished?

If you see that someone like you is suddenly doing very well, do you secretly feel jealous or envious?

I hope that the first part of this blog / podcast helped you understand yourself better. The 6 Human Needs developed by Tony Robbins aren’t simple wishes and desires but deep rooted needs that serve as the basis for our behavior and choices.

Today we are going to delve into the rest of the 6 human needs. These are:

4. Love / connection

5. Growth

6. Contribution

Tony Robbins has dedicated his life to studying human behavior, and he concluded that regardless of our origin and culture, we all have 6 needs in common. The topic is both simple and profound, that’s why I’d rather talk about it over the course of two weeks.

Today we will focus on Certainty, Variety and Recognition.

More often than not, I hear the phrases “I'm exhausted”, “I can’t go on like this anymore”, “I'm overwhelmed”. It is the new normal, stress is the real pandemic. We find it so difficult to relax, to find 10’ to meditate or 30’ to do something that nurtures our soul. I can’t help comparing our experience with a pressure cooker. I hope that we can start noticing that. Learn more about Reactive and Responsive brain as well as 12 practices that will help you take a break.

The pandemic has urged many people to reinvent themselves. There are others who already had a burning desire to start a new career path but who pushed it down for fear of the unknown. There’s something frightening and paralyzing when, after careful analysis of every aspect of the new venture, inaction persists.

Fear of failing, fear of not meeting deadlines, fear of making a transition, fear of uncertainty, among many other reasons. What happens when we feel a waterfall of stress running down our body? Let’s do this multi-layered meditation that will help you calm down physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

A friend told me “I'm afraid that all this is happening to me because I’m vibrating at a low frequency”. We both share the conviction that when one is well, doors open... However, what happens when we’re struck by a crisis? Are we supposed to repress our fear, anguish, or anger because otherwise the Universe will punish us? Do we really have to think positively all the time?