In this episode, I am addressing the word control. Ugh, this word control ruled my life for years. I strived for control and perfection, so it is the default I go to on a regular basis. This is also a position that I hear so many of my clients drop into. This can be even further compounded when life feels chaotic, challenging or a lot of things happen outside of our control. It is a simple solution but definitely not always easy.

In today’s episode we discuss:

1) Control is an illusion, it is not real. It is a response that we use to feel “safe or at ease in our lives”. It is the habit or practice of feeling like you can manage what is in front of us as well as it tends to be a response to trauma or chaos and the need to predict the next thing that could go wrong.

2) Control requires a ton of energy, and this is energy that could be used in actionable ways on a daily basis to move yourself forward in your own life. Be aware of the energy you are exerting and is it being used in the best possible way, because that is a limited resource that we can’t get back.

3) Awareness is key. As soon as I feel myself falling back into old patterns I call myself out and say stop, this is not the way. The only person I can control is myself, that is it. My actions, reactions, choices etc. When I can't shift it myself I reach out and ask for support from others, especially people in my life who aren't afraid of calling me on my own BS.

4) Shifting the idea of control came from embodying my own choices in my own life, hence the name of this podcast.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.