Welcome to the podcast. I'm your host, Tracy Goodwin. And I'm so glad to have you with me today as always. Thank you so much for your shares and your downloads and for being a subscriber. I love being on this voice journey with you, and I've got a great episode for you today. Today, we're going to talk about controlling the outcome and your voice.

As I do every year, I took August off and I normally take August off because I have for the last 12 years been involved in a program for youth. I'm not doing that program anymore, but this August I moved across the country in a pandemic. 

I’m glad to back!  I've got some super exciting episodes for you coming up and some incredible interviews with amazing people that you are going to love hearing from.

Now very quickly, I want to let you know, I have two more groups this year. I'm about to do my second to last small group coaching program and then I'll run it one more time in October. So do not miss out. If you want to jump on now at the current price, make sure you go over to captivatetheroom.com. Look under the work with me tab and/or email me Tracy, [email protected].

I've got a lot of great things going on, a lot of cool changes and happenings, and I'm excited to share it with you. It's been a challenging year. I know for so many of you and I believe that 2021, we're almost there and it's going to be different. So, let's talk about controlling the outcome, and the reason that I picked this topic is that it is so prevalent in my coaching program. When I work with people in solo sessions about all the noise in their head, and there are a lot of different versions of noise that we could talk about. But one of the biggest problems that I see people struggle with without even realizing it is trying to control the outcome. You cannot control the outcome.

What you can control is the conversation. And that's truly where the power is. And when I put people in that place and teach them how to control the conversation, not only is it very powerful, but it's so much fun and not in a manipulative, horrible kind of way, but in a ‘controlling the experience’ kind of way. What kind of journey do you want to take me on? That is what is in your control. Which of my senses do you want to touch? Which emotions do you want to connect with me on?

That's what I mean by controlling the conversation. And you do have the ability to do that when you know how to use your voice to do it. But what people do every day, nonstop is try to control the outcome. Now, what does this mean? Control what you think of me. Control how you're perceiving me. Control what I get and sometimes it's simply an outcome-driven and I'm a problem solver, and I'm going to drive to the outcome and solve your problem because I'm going to control the outcome by solving your problem.

But here's the thing, and you have to embody this. You cannot leave this theory. You cannot control me.

I use this example and you've probably heard me give you this example before. I would love for you to like me. I would love for everybody to like me. I would love for everybody to think I was a great voice coach. But at the end of the day, I have no control over what you think of me. I have no control over whether you like me and I don't even go to that place of the outcome. All the time my clients ask me, “how do you, do it?” And it's, it's quite simple. I have it absolutely, 100% trained myself to not go to the outcome and if I go there, I immediately get back to the now.

I have people that I work with that are problem solvers, that are outcome-driven, they are people pleasers. I've got people that I've worked with over the years that will sit and spend a Sunday trying to figure out every single solitary question that might be asked of them and how they will answer it, that's trying to control the outcome. I don't go there.

Now, that's not to say I don't prepare because I always prepare. I've got a little list of bullet points,