Couch Time with Amy Wine

How do abandonment issues in childhood affect your marriage? Do you tend to hold back from giving your marriage everything you've got? Maybe one of you is guilty of throwing out the “d” word one too many times. 

In this episode, I am joined by Stephanie Fryer who is a student of the SPARK Re-Ignite beta course. Stephanie and her husband have been married for 26 years and have four children.  As with any marriage, they have had their share of ups and downs.  Things were at a tipping point earlier this year, when out of the blue, her husband called and told her he would agree to go to marriage therapy.  Stephanie admits she was shocked, but jumped at the chance!  The same day she came across the SPARK course and immediately signed up.  

I am excited for Stephanie to share more about her experience with the course.  She admits that while her husband did not take the course with her, she has seen many positive shifts happen while going through the course herself.  

In today’s episode we dive into love languages, dealing with opposite personalities, and the challenge of not falling back into old habits.  We will also uncover the truth behind trust issues that hold some people back from being able to give their marriage 100%. 

On Today’s Episode, You’ll Discover:

• The length of your marriage does not determine its success
• The power of changing your habits
• The effect of “always” and “never” statements in your marriage 
• One person’s decision to change can ultimately benefit both spouses 
• How to use the current gift of time to strengthen your relationship
• How to get through trust and jealousy issues in your relationships
• The importance of relieving the guilt you have over not trusting 100% in your relationships

Full show notes available at www.amywine.com/32

We have LOTS of resources available for you right now, so be sure to email us at [email protected], jump on our email list, or follow us on social media. 

SPARK: Re-Ignite Your Marriage will be relaunching next month so make sure to jump on the waitlist at https://amywine.com/sparkmarriagecourse

Don’t forget to join us live every Tuesday & Thursday from 12:00-12:30 CST on the Amy Wine Counseling Center Facebook page for Coffee With a Counselor. 

We are also launching our finance workshop for couples >>

What do you do when you feel that your marriage isn't going to last? How do you learn to communicate again when you've only had years of either silence or arguments? How much does your upbringing affect how you interact with your spouse?

In this episode, let's hear the answers from someone who's been lost with those questions and is now making gradual marriage transformations. Laura Hall is from the Spark Re-Ignite Beta Online Course, and she's here to share her experiences from before and after the course in her marriage.

When you married the love of your life, you thought that having a loving and upbuilding conversation would come naturally — far from it! If we're not equipped to deal with stress, tragic experiences, and repressed emotions, junk piles up, and we fail to see the other side.

Listen in as Laura and I unravel THE reason behind the communication challenge in her marriage. She finally puts a name on what she has been dealing with for many years, because let's be honest, you can't change what you can't acknowledge, right? 

Full show notes available at www.amywine.com/31

We have LOTS of resources available for you right now, so be sure to email us at [email protected], jump on our email list, or follow us on social media. 

SPARK: Re-Ignite Your Marriage will be relaunching next month so make sure to jump on the waitlist at https://amywine.com/sparkmarriagecourse

Don’t forget to join us live every Tuesday & Thursday from 12:00-12:30 CST on the Amy Wine Counseling Center Facebook page for Coffee With a Counselor. 

We are also launching our finance workshop for couples >> Money and Marriage.  This workshop will help you and your spouse quit fighting about your finances and start talking about them!  Now is the perfect time to get on the same page and take forward action to set yourself up for financial success.

Connect with me on Facebook or Instagram and reach out!

How do you forgive, let go and rebuild trust after your spouse's affair? What can you do if your marriage has become like roommates stuck together? How do you achieve calm when your life is in chaos?

These are tough questions that need straight answers.

For today's episode, I have a special guest from the Spark Re-ignite Course, Jena Flores.  This is my chance to get to know her a little bit more. We'll dive deep into how her marriage has evolved since she started the course four months ago.

Jena jumped in the course by herself wanting to initiate change in her marriage. She talks about her shift from feeling hopeless and lost to knowing that she's not alone. She also shares with us the changes she personally had to make in order to communicate better and more calmly. She is blown away at how the changes are affecting her husband and her marriage and I couldn’t be happier! 

We also discuss her husband's past infidelity and I reveal one factor that makes forgiveness and letting go SOOO difficult. This episode is raw and real and you aren’t going to want to miss the breakthroughs we have at the end of our conversation.

Full show notes available at www.amywine.com/30

We have LOTS of resources available for you right now so be sure to email us at [email protected], jump on our email list or follow us on social media. 

SPARK: Re-Ignite Your Marriage will be relaunching next month so make sure to jump on the waitlist at https://amywine.com/sparkmarriagecourse

Don’t forget to join us live every Tuesday & Thursday from 12:00-12:30 CST on the Amy Wine Counseling Center Facebook page for Coffee With a Counselor. 

We are also launching our finance workshop for couples>> Money and Marriage.  This workshop will help you and your spouse quit fighting about your finances and start talking about them!  This is the perfect time to get on the same page and take forward action to set yourself up for financial success.

Connect with me on Facebook or Instagram and reach out!

How are things going with your marriage and family since you’ve been in quarantine?  Have you gotten into a good flow or do things still feel chaotic? I wanted to bring Jon back on the podcast for this special episode and I know many of you will be excited because you have been asking for him!  

The good news is that he is back and we are chatting about how we are learning to co-exist with four pets and three kids, all while working from home TOGETHER. 

Today we are in uncharted territory.  This is a time that most of us have never experienced.  In 1918, people had to deal with the Spanish Flu, but that was a time when technology didn't exist.  People weren’t constantly surrounded by the negativity and stress that can come from being constantly “on”.  As much as you can try, it’s hard to avoid the news, text messages, emails and social media posts. It’s coming from everywhere right now! 

Today’s episode will be a real, raw, and unscripted episode where we are sharing our own experiences, mistakes and talking about what works and what doesn't.  We will be sharing tips and tricks on finding a new norm and how to create structure for every member of your family. 

Full show notes available at www.amywine.com/29

We have LOTS of resources available for you right now so be sure to email us at [email protected], jump on our email list or follow us on social media. 

Don’t forget to join us live every Tuesday & Thursday from 12:00-12:30 CST on the Amy Wine Counseling Center Facebook page for Coffee With a Counselor. 

SPARK: Re-Ignite Your Marriage will be relaunching in May so make sure to jump on the waitlist!

Stay tuned for our finance workshop for couples>> Money and Marriage.  This workshop will help you and your spouse quit fighting about your finances and start talking about them!  This is the perfect time to get on the same page and take forward action to set yourself up for financial success.

Connect with me on Facebook or Instagram and reach out!

I know from experience that parenting is hard, especially in times of high stress, but people are coming together more now than they ever have before.  

Taking a step back from rushing to school, work, and activities leaves us with time to communicate and spend time together as a family.  Ask yourself what you can be doing right now to make the best of your current situation. 

I know it’s tough when all of your kids are at home fighting with each other and whining about everything.  But hear me out, you can take this time to step up your game and make the best of the time you have with your family. 

Join me in this episode as we talk about quick wins and realistic steps you can take to make your home a little less crazy and start to enjoy some things even in the midst of broken routines and uncertainties. 

Full show notes available at www.amywine.com/28

We have LOTS of resources available for you right now so be sure to email us, jump on our email list and follow us on social media. 

Email me at [email protected] I love hearing from you guys and want to know how I can help!  What resources would be of assistance to you right now? 

Also, don’t forget to join us live every Tuesday & Thursday from 12:00-12:30 CST on the Amy Wine Counseling Center Facebook page for Coffee With a Counselor. 

Connect with me on Facebook or Instagram and reach out!

In our last episode, we talked about the circle of control that helps us stay positive during this period of crisis. This time, let's dive deep into one area that many people cringe just thinking about: Finances!

If you're like me, you may hate numbers and budgeting, but it's high time you do some diligence to better weather the storm we're in. Make sure to tune in to today’s episode because I will be talking about your financial priorities which is something you can control.

I know times are crazy right now, but please please reach out to me at [email protected].  I love hearing from you guys and want to know how I can help!

Also, don’t forget to join us live every Tuesday & Thursday from 12:00-12:30 CST on the Amy Wine Counseling Center Facebook page for Coffee With a Counselor. 

Connect with me on Facebook or Instagram and reach out! 

Full show notes available at www.amywine.com/27

These times are tough. It doesn't matter when it is going to end or what the government is going to do about it. Let's focus on YOU and HOW you are dealing with it.  Where are you struggling right now? What is something you can do to turn your mindset around and make things better during a time when things are hard?  

In this episode, let's talk about your personal emotional well-being during this crisis. Discover what practical adjustments you can make, the mindset shifts you can focus on and how these changes can have an impact on your marriage and family.  

Come join us every Tuesday & Thursday from 12:00-12:30 CST on the Amy Wine Counseling Center Facebook page for Coffee With a Counselor. 

Connect with me on Facebook or Instagram and reach out! I love to hear from you! 

Full show notes are available at www.amywine.com/26

These times are tough. It doesn't matter when it is going to end or what the government is going to do about it. Let's focus on YOU and HOW you are dealing with it.  Where are you struggling right now? What is something you can do to turn your mindset around and make things better during a time when things are hard?  

In this episode, let's talk about your personal emotional well-being during this crisis. Discover what practical adjustments you can make, the mindset shifts you can focus on and how these changes can have an impact on your marriage and family.  

Come join us every Tuesday & Thursday from 12:00-12:30 CST on the Amy Wine Counseling Center Facebook page for Coffee With a Counselor. 

Connect with me on Facebook or Instagram and reach out! I love to hear from you! 

Full show notes are available at www.amywine.com/26

Freedom and love are the foundation of a good marriage. But why do some seek to control their spouses? How do they do that? And if you're the controlling spouse, can you still break free, or set boundaries, from this damaging habit?

In today's episode, we are going to talk again about boundaries, but this time we're going to talk about one segment of boundaries in your marriage: control. Learn the dark truth behind controlling spouses, the four ways people do it, and how couples get into the cycle of emotions that separate them further away from each other every time.

Full show notes available at amywine.com/25

In football, going out-of-bounds means not making a score or losing a game. But if you're going out-of-bounds in your marriage, that means total tragedy!

In this episode, let's discuss seven of the most common problems married couples encounter because they fail to set boundaries. Discover how negative patterns of behavior, communication, and mindset can ultimately destroy your marriage if you don't take action now. Learn why boundaries are not meant to stifle you but to create healthy, even necessary limitations on how you speak and treat your spouse when times get tough.

Full show notes available at amywine.com/24