Create Your Fate

"You can honor who you were without letting that version of yourself dictate who you become." -- Meg

In this episode:

• Why feeling behind in life is often rooted in comparison and societal expectations
• The difference between fitting in and finding genuine fulfillment
• How questioning your beliefs and changing your mind can lead to greater self-discovery
• Why releasing attachment to your plans opens you up to possibilities you never imagined

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I'm turning 40, and my life looks absolutely nothing like I thought it would 20 years ago. In this special birthday episode of Create Your Fate, I'm sharing the biggest turning points of my life, from losing someone I loved and navigating divorce to deconstructing my religious beliefs, exploring my identity, and building a career I never imagined for myself. Through it all, I've learned that just because your life doesn't look the way you thought it would doesn't mean you're behind.

We're talking about the pressure to follow society's timelines, the difference between having a vision and being attached to an outcome, and why you're allowed to outgrow the dreams your younger self once had. If you've ever felt like you're falling behind, compared your life to someone else's, or questioned whether you're on the right path, this episode is your reminder that your fate is not fixed. It is created. And sometimes the most fulfilling life is the one you never saw coming.

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"Your body isn't something you have to fight, fix, or constantly calm down. It's something you can learn to understand and work with." — Meg Ellis

In this episode:

• Why your sympathetic nervous system is essential and nervous system regulation isn't about always being calm
• Why mindset work alone may not change your emotional reactions, and how body awareness can help
• What trauma release actually means and why somatic healing isn't only for trauma recovery
• How somatic movement and the Body • Brain • Behavior approach can support everyday personal growth

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Somatic healing is everywhere lately. From nervous system regulation and fight-or-flight responses to trauma release and body-based healing, there's no shortage of advice about what we should be doing with our bodies. But how much of it is actually true?

On today's episode, I'm setting the record straight by debunking five of the biggest myths about somatic healing. We'll explore why your sympathetic nervous system isn't the enemy, why being calm all the time isn't the goal, and why understanding your emotional patterns doesn't automatically mean you can change them. I'm also clearing up common misconceptions about trauma release and explaining why somatic practices can benefit anyone, not just people recovering from trauma.

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"You cannot create from a place of being exhausted." — Shania Khan

In this episode:

• What Rich Grandma Energy really means and why it's time to retire the hustle mentality
• How constant busyness, burnout, and survival mode keep us stuck in cycles of stress and exhaustion
• Why doing less creates more room for creativity, opportunity, and personal fulfillment
• How to reclaim your time, set boundaries, and give yourself permission to live life on your own terms

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What if the secret to creating a more luxurious, fulfilling life wasn't doing MORE, but actually doing LESS? What if slowing down, clearing your calendar, and giving yourself permission to enjoy your life were the very things standing between you and everything you've been working so hard to achieve?

In this episode of Create Your Fate, I'm joined by Shania Khan, luxury life architect, bestselling author of Rich Grandma Energy, and creator of Soft 60, for a conversation that challenges everything we've been taught about productivity, success, and what it means to live a good life. We're talking about the death of the girlboss, why we've become addicted to being busy, how our nervous systems adapt to constant chaos, and why something as simple as sitting down to enjoy your morning coffee might be the first step toward changing your entire life.

From protecting your free time to rediscovering playfulness, trusting your intuition, and learning to feel comfortable doing absolutely nothing, Shania reminds us that luxury isn't just about money. It's about having the freedom to live your life on your own terms.

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“Your brain is constantly looking for evidence of what you already believe.” -- Meg

In this episode:

• Why personal growth starts with understanding yourself rather than constantly trying to fix yourself
• How your nervous system develops automatic physical responses through learned experiences
• How your brain's beliefs, biases, and mental patterns influence the way you interpret the world
• How the Enneagram reveals the motivations behind your behavior and helps you recognize patterns you can change

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What if the things you've spent years trying to fix about yourself aren't actually flaws, but patterns you've learned along the way? From overthinking and people pleasing to perfectionism and defensiveness, so much of what we think, feel, and do happens automatically. And the more we try to fix ourselves without understanding why these patterns exist, the more frustrated we become.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the science behind our learned patterns and introducing my Body • Brain • Behavior Method, a science-backed, soul-rooted approach to personal growth. We'll explore how your nervous system learns to react before you're consciously aware of it, how your brain reinforces existing beliefs, and how the Enneagram can help you understand the motivations behind your behavior. Plus, I'm sharing three simple ways to start recognizing your patterns so you can respond with greater awareness and intention.

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"You end up with what you put up with.” — Dr. Rick Diamond

In this episode:

• How your “should story” develops from the expectations, roles, and beliefs you've inherited—and how to recognize when it's running your life
• Why we choose familiar discomfort over unfamiliar possibilities, even when we know something isn't right
• How your inner “gatekeepers” use fear and past experiences to keep you safe, but can also keep you stuck in old patterns
• How to reconnect with your “heart story,” start trusting your inner wisdom, and create a life that feels authentically yours

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What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you actually want isn't something wrong with you, but a story you've been telling yourself about who you're supposed to be?

This week, I'm welcoming back Dr. Rick Diamond, story healer, teacher, and author of There Is Nothing Wrong With You: A Guide to Story Healing. We're diving into the invisible rules, expectations, and roles we've inherited throughout our lives—and how those stories can keep us stuck in familiar patterns, even when we know something isn't right.

From the fear of leaving what's familiar to the inner voices that try to keep us safe, Rick and I explore what it really means to stop living according to your “should story” and start listening to your “heart story.” We get personal about the stories we've carried, the discomfort of changing them, and why creating a life that feels authentically yours begins with telling yourself the truth.

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"Pain is what’s happening. Suffering is the fight with the fact that it’s happening." -- Meg

In this episode:

• The important difference between pain and suffering—and how we often unknowingly add a second layer of suffering to painful experiences.
• How the gap between what is and what we think should be can keep us fighting against circumstances we cannot change.
• Why acceptance is not approval, passivity, or giving up—and how you can accept what’s happening while still wanting something different.
• How to practice acceptance when a painful situation is still happening, identify what is actually within your control, and decide what you want to do next.

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There’s an idea rooted in Buddhist philosophy that says pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. At first, that can sound almost dismissive—especially when you’re in the middle of something that genuinely hurts. But the distinction isn’t about pretending painful things aren’t painful. It’s about recognizing what happens when we add resistance to the pain we’re already experiencing.

In this episode, Meg shares a Buddhist teaching that recently helped her look at a difficult season in her own life differently. She breaks down the gap between what is and what we believe should be, why the word “should” can be a clue that we’re adding suffering to our pain, and how acceptance can help us respond to reality without approving of it, giving up, or pretending everything is okay.

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“The freedom isn’t getting everybody to understand you and see you the way you want them to see you. The freedom is realizing you don’t have to—and you’re still lovable.” -- Meg

In this episode:

• Why your body can brace for rejection or conflict before your conscious mind has caught up
• How old beliefs about who you are can fuel defensiveness, perfectionism, and the need for approval
• What it means to stop trying to be a “10” and allow yourself to show up as an imperfect, human “5”
• How letting go of the need to be right can create more accountability, connection, and freedom in your relationships

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Have you ever noticed how quickly your body braces when someone is disappointed in you? Before you’ve even had time to think, you’re preparing for the conflict, the rejection, or the possibility that someone might see you differently. Your brain may know you’re safe, but your body remembers the old pattern—and suddenly you’re explaining, defending, or trying to prove that you’re still a good person.

In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when you stop trying to prove you’re a “10” and allow yourself to be a human instead. Because you can get things wrong, disappoint people, make mistakes, and even be misunderstood without losing your worth or your lovability. When you stop bracing against the possibility of being imperfect, you create space to take accountability, let go of the need to be right, and experience what it feels like to be loved without having to prove you deserve it.

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“Your brain might have decided that you’re done with the feeling, but your body may still be in the middle of its response.” -- Meg

In this episode:

• What happens in your body when you suppress an emotion
• Suppression vs. repression vs. healthy expression
• How unprocessed stress can affect the body over time
• Why feeling an emotion is different from feeding it

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You say you’re fine. You move on. You find the silver lining. But does that mean you actually processed what you were feeling—or did you just get really good at pushing it down?

In this episode, Meg explores what actually happens in your body when you don’t allow yourself to fully feel an emotion, including why your mind can decide you’re “over it” while your body may still be responding. She shares her own realization that being a positive person sometimes became a way of avoiding uncomfortable feelings, and why learning to feel them—not feed them—completely changed the way she understands emotional health.

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“You don’t change your life by fixing yourself. You change your life by finally understanding yourself.” — Meg

In this episode:

• Why your repeated behaviors usually aren’t random, and what your patterns may be helping you avoid, protect, or receive
• Why mindset and behavior work were transformative for me—but still left a missing piece
• The difference between intellectually understanding an experience and actually allowing yourself to process it
• How Body • Brain • Behavior work together to help you understand yourself, make conscious choices, and create your fate

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For the 250th episode of Create Your Fate, I’m taking you back to a version of me I barely recognize anymore: unhappy in my marriage, counting down the hours at a job I hated, carrying years of unprocessed grief, and living mostly on autopilot without realizing how much of my life was being driven by thoughts, patterns, and emotions I didn’t understand.

My life looks very different today, but the biggest change wasn’t getting divorced, changing careers, moving, or starting a business. It was learning how to understand myself. In this episode, I’m breaking down the three things that changed everything for me—Brain, Behavior, and Body—and how understanding each one can give you more awareness, agency, and choice in your own life.

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“Self-trust isn’t knowing you’re going to get it right. It’s knowing that if you get it wrong, you trust yourself to handle what happens next.” — Meg

In this episode:

• How to recognize when you’re seeking information versus seeking permission
• How your body, thoughts, and behavioral patterns each give you different information
• A simple check-in for making decisions with more self-trust
• How to learn from experts without giving away your authority

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There has never been more information telling us how to live our lives—and somehow, it’s become harder to hear ourselves.

Between social media experts, personal development, endless advice, courses, certifications, podcasts, and the pressure to constantly improve ourselves, it’s easy to believe that someone else must have the answer we’re missing. But what happens when learning more becomes another way of avoiding trusting what we already know?

In this episode, I’m sharing a recent moment when I almost signed up for yet another course before realizing I didn’t actually need more information—I was looking for permission. We’ll talk about why we outsource our decisions, why self-trust can feel so uncomfortable, and how understanding your body, brain, and behavior can help you come back to the person who knows you better than anyone else: you.

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