Are you holding onto a version of yourself that you think SHOULD exist? Or maybe even holding onto a LIFE that you think should exist? But something just feels….off? Learning to LET GO of the idea of what things should be and allowing your life to be is the only way your life will actually happen!

Today’s podcast is all about learning to let go and be more present. My guest today is Melanie Griffith. She is a Master Instructor at Soul Cycle Master who is also in charge of the overall brand experience and mama bear to all! Melanie was diagnosed with cancer not once but twice, and through her healing discovered more about herself. She learned how to allow herself to be loved, to be more accepting of others, and learned the most important lesson of all – to be present! Fortunately for us, she shares her secrets to being more present and how to let go to truly live the life that is for you.

Please join Melanie Griffith and me on this insightful episode of Create Your Fate.

"It’s allowing everybody in my life to fill up the space that is authentically them, and I’m just going to fill up the space that is me." ~ Melanie Griffith

In This Episode:

• Where and how to start on your journey on focusing on you to make your life better
• Neuroscience brain training - it’s a real thing!
• Letting go of what you think life should be and learning to let love in 

#jayshetty #expectgoodthings #authenticallyyou #melaniegriffith #cancersurvivor #bepresent #clarity 

Resources:

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Connect with Guest: 

• Visit Melanie’s Instagram Page 

Connect with Meg Ellis:

• Website – https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast
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Are you living your best Lucky Girl Syndrome life? This TikTok trend took off like a wild fire and today I take a deeper look into how just saying “I’m so lucky” can actually bring you more positive things in your life. Lucky Girl Syndrome isn’t new - it’s better known as Law of Attraction. After listening to this episode, you will walk away with tips to implement immediately so you can start living your best Lucky Girl Syndrome life too.  

"Even though I don’t have it yet, I’m going to act like I do." ~ Meg

In This Episode:

• What is Lucky Girl Syndrome?
• Law of Attraction explained
• How to live the Lucky Girl Syndrome way
• Visualizing and then getting what you want in life
• Manifesting who you are not what you want! 

#tonyrobbins #expectgoodthings #luckygirlsydrome #lawofattraction #spokenword #manifesting #power  

Resources:

• Take your FREE Enneagram test

Connect with Meg Ellis:

• Website – https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast
• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/letscreateyourfate/?hl=en

Is your first thought a negative one? Think about it. When you start off your day do you think in terms of positivity and gratefulness or do you immediately go for the negative. Today, I want to talk to you about how you can change your thoughts from negative to positive and start living a more positive life. When you think positive, your life becomes more positive. You will walk away with four easy steps on how to retain your brain into positive thinking. 

You won’t want to miss this unforgettable episode of Create Your Fate.

"You’re going to get the life that you identify with" ~ Meg

In This Episode:

• Choose Again Method
• 4 Easy Steps to Retrain Your Brain into Positive Thinking
• Changing Negative Thoughts into Positive Thoughts
• Uncondition Yourself from Learned Behaviors

#gabbybernstein #expectgoodthings #gratitude #personaldevelopment #changeyourbeliefs #chooseagain 

Resources:

• Take your FREE Enneagram test

Connect with Meg Ellis:

• Website – https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast

• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/letscreateyourfate/?hl=en

Is being a control freak holding you back?

Check out part 3 of this 3-part series with our favorite resident guest, Lacey Mitchell! She is a business owner, entrepreneur, and self-proclaimed control freak. Join us in exploring control in a fun and lighthearted episode of Create Your Fate.

"Control is a false safety net." ~ Lacey Mitchell

In This Episode:

• How control leads to avoiding
• Why avoiding things causing the opposite of what you are initially trying to achieve
• Life hacks for overcoming self-sabotage

#gabbybernstein #controlfreak #lettinggo  #howtobepresent  #lifecoachtips #adaptability #expectgoodthings 

Resources:

• Take your FREE Enneagram test

Connect with Lacey Mitchell: 

• Visit https://www.instagram.com/sugarmamashimmer/
• Visit https://sugarmamashimmer.com/

Connect with Meg Ellis:

• Website – https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast
• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/letscreateyourfate/?hl=en

Why is it so hard to let go of control!? In this second part of our three part series on control, Lacey and I dive into the sneakier side of control, the ways that the need for control can pop up, and how to tackle those instances in the moment all while leveling up your life! 

Lacey – a recurring guest on the Create Your Fate podcast – is a business owner, entrepreneur, and recovering control freak. Join us in exploring more about control and how to allow your life to happen in this episode of Create Your Fate.

"Allowing things to happen how they are supposed to" ~ Lacey Mitchell 

In This Episode:

• Being okay with not being able to control the future 
• Meditating through your need to control 
• Empowering yourself by empowering others 
• Leveling up your life by allowing life to happen 

#tonyrobbins  #levelup  #lettinggo   #losecontrol   #allowyourself  #adaptability 

#expectgoodthings 

Resources:

• Take your FREE Enneagram test

Connect with Lacey Mitchell: 

• Visit https://www.instagram.com/sugarmamashimmer/
• Visit https://sugarmamashimmer.com/

Connect with Meg Ellis:

• Website – https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast
• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/letscreateyourfate/?hl=en

Are you a control freak? Here are 6 sure signs that you just might be!

What does it say about you and what can you do to relinquish some of that control? In this 3 part series, Lacey and I take a deep dive into why control is actually harming you and how you can reframe your thoughts on control in many facets of your life.

Figuring out what you are best at, staying in your own “genius zone,” and allowing other people to thrive in theirs can enhance your work, relationships, and overall well-being.

Efficiency doesn’t always come from within. Sometimes you can learn a better way of doing something just by relinquishing your need to control and allowing someone else to shine. Your past experiences can really impact the need for control through compliments or fear.

Lacey – a recurring guest on the Create Your Fate podcast – is a business owner, entrepreneur, and self-proclaimed control freak. Join us in exploring control in a fun and lighthearted episode of Create Your Fate.

"Control is a false safety net." ~ Lacey Mitchell

In This Episode:

• Are you ruining your life by trying to control it?
• Stop bringing the past in your present and future!
• Identifying and staying in your Genius Zone.
• 6 signs you might be a control freak…and what to do about it.

#gabbybernstein #controlfreak #lettinggo  #howtobepresent  #lifecoachtips #adaptability #expectgoodthings 

Resources:

• Take your FREE Enneagram test

Connect with Lacey Mitchell: 

• Visit https://www.instagram.com/sugarmamashimmer/
• Visit https://sugarmamashimmer.com/

Connect with Meg Ellis:

• Website – https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast
• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/letscreateyourfate/?hl=en

Slow down and look at the direction your life is headed. Is this where you want to go?

I’m resharing this episode with you because too many times we forget that we have the power to just CHANGE OUR MINDS. We overthink it, we overcomplicate it but it’s literally as simple as realizing you're walking in the wrong direction and turning around.

We lock ourselves into our decisions and we think we’re too far gone for change but I’m here to tell you, that’s just not true. “I changed my mind”, is a powerful, life-changing tool that you need to add to your arsenal TODAY.

In this Episode

-Questions that will help you figure out if you’re headed in the right direction

-Overcoming the need for external validations

-A challenge to help you get over the fear of changing your mind

-Embrace the uncertainty

And much more!

Connect with Meg Ellis:

Website – https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/letscreateyourfate/?hl=en

Do you struggle with "I'll be happy when" syndrome? The belief that you only can attain happiness “when” you do something specific or reach a certain "level" of achievement? I have good news: You can be happy NOW! You don't have to wait! Today, I review 3 ways to starting being happy....and it begins RIGHT NOW.

Connect with Meg Ellis:

– Website - https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast

– Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/letscreateyourfate/?hl=en

Ever feel like you don’t belong? That people are going to find out that you have no idea what you’re doing? That they will discover the real truth about you?

Yep – Imposter Syndrome is real and everyone’s got it – according to SoulCycle’s CEO, Evelyn Webster. Even she does!

We ALL question our qualifications, we think we need to know all the answers, we think we can’t make mistakes, and we look around only to find everyone else seems to have it more together than we do.

Well, this episode, no matter what level of leadership you’re in, is for you.

Evelyn joins me to share her humbling experience of shifting career industries from media to boutique fitness and surviving a global pandemic when no one had the ‘right’ answers.

What do you do when you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing? Saddle up to find out.

“I believe quite firmly that we learn more in life from the mistakes that we make than often what we learn from the successes.”

- Evelyn Webster



In This Episode: (Tips for Managers in this one!)

– What to do when you don’t know all of the answers

– Finding a job that you absolutely love

– Why being new at something is an incredible advantage

– How to unlock creativity and innovation in your team

Connect with Evelyn Webster: 

– LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/evelyn-webster-83b029a

Connect with Meg Ellis:

– Website - https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast

– Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/letscreateyourfate/?hl=en

Alanna is back to wrap up the Body Image Trilogy on Create Your Fate with me, Meg Ellis. We chat about BMI (Body Mass Index) and question how we've been fed an 'ideal body type' by the patriarchy. We also joke about what we were fed as kids growing up in the 90s (enough with the ham loaf!), and we look at the outdated food pyramid to see how our idea of healthy food has changed over the years.

We are also here to say that it's okay to get filler or botox or have plastic surgery – who is anyone else to judge? We just want to have the conversation and remind all of you women out there that it's worth questioning some of the norms that have been perpetuated by mainstream media, as well as the things that are normalized nowadays on social media.

Emotional maturity starts with realizing that nothing outside of yourself is going to solve your problems. The people we should be looking up to are those that have learned to love themselves and take care of themselves. We can all work towards doing that more, and it's so worth taking those small, brave steps. I hope you have as much fun listening in on my and Alanna's conversation; I know we had a great laugh, and so I hope you learn a thing or two too! 

Please check out Part One and then Part Two of this trilogy on body image. I promise that you’ll get a lot out of those episodes too!

"If someone tried to tell me that croissants are healthy, I'm not gonna fight 'em." ~ Meg Ellis

In This Episode:

– How BMI was created to find the average size of men in the 1800s

– Climbing the Food Pyramid - and tearing it down

– The 'joys' of growing up eating bad food

– The side effects of 'quick and easy' diet pills - do your research!

– Why do we ‘crash diet’ and get plastic surgery?

– Having emotional maturity when it comes to making a big decision about your body

– Understanding the law of attraction

– Checking in with yourself regularly: how does this make me feel?

– Learning to love yourself every step of the way



Connect with Alanna Dybus: 

– Instagram - alanna (@akdybus) - https://www.instagram.com/akdybus/

Connect with Meg Ellis:

– Website - https://www.phoenix8consulting.com/podcast

– Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/letscreateyourfate/?hl=en