Curious and Curiouser Podcast

In this episode, Tracey & Cayly are talking about how they've been personally affected by the COVID-19 situation & what they're doing to move through these circumstances. Cayly talks about making the difficult the decision to close her clinic & Tracey talks about moving to a virtual model for all client sessions.

To work with Tracey in an online capacity, please visit her website www.traceybiebel.com. Cayly is also offering virtual sessions, both for herbal consultations and for breathwork. Please contact her either through her website www.organicacupuncturepdx.com or by email at [email protected] to inquire about details or to schedule.

In today's episode, Tracey and Cayly are catching y'all up on what they've been doing over the past 9ish months and talking all about how doing less, simplifying their lives, and prioritizing ease has been a game changer for them both.

Well, we're here! Our 100th and final episode. Tracey and I thought it was only fitting to spend some time talking about goodbyes and transitions as we say farewell to this project after two years of making it. In this conversation, we talk about relationships, identity, scarcity, and a concept Brene Brown calls "foreboding joy." We hope you enjoy this discussion.

Topics discussed include:

• Our feelings about saying goodbye to the podcast
• Staying in relationships too long because you're afraid to say goodbye
• Preventative medicine for relationship health
• Issues in relationships never come out of nowhere
• Transitions in relationships and saying goodbye to previous incarnations of the same relationship
• Missing the younger versions of your kids as they age and not wanting your kids to grow up
• Our reluctance to let go of peak experiences (i.e. foreboding joy)
• Scarcity mindset about joy
• We can't live in a state of elation all the time
• How old we are vs. how old we FEEL
• Saying goodbye to old identities
• Inside/outside congruency
• We are capable of feeling multiple feelings at the same time
• The power of changing one thing
• And more!

Thank you so much for joining us over the past two years. Tracey and I have absolutely loved making this podcast and we are going to miss connecting with all of you every week. To keep updated on what we've got going on next, including in person workshops here in Portland, please follow me on Instagram (@caylyc.acu) and sign up to receive my newsletter by going here. We hope to meet some of you face to face in the coming months.

Remember that the podcast will live on in iTunes indefinitely, so please continue to refer your friends and loved ones to episodes of the show you think they might enjoy. If you'd like to work with either Tracey or myself individually, please visit Tracey at Practical Parenting PDX or me at Organic Acupuncture PDX.

Thanks again for all the support. We couldn't have made it this far without all our loyal listeners supporting us.

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Resources:

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Stasia Savasuk and Style School

Well, friends, we've only got two episodes of the podcast left, including this one. Whaaaat? I know. It's coming fast. For this week's conversation, Tracey and decided it would be fun to revisit some popular topics from past episodes to offer new insights and advice where possible. We're talking relationships, building intentional community, navigating through conflict in intimate partnerships, and social decluttering. We hope you enjoy this discussion!

Specific topics include:

• Being intentional about who you surround yourself with
• Emotions are contagious & the importance of being boundaried
• Social decluttering and what happens when you can't declutter someone completely
• Social decluttering and resentment
• Cayly's experience of being socially decluttered recently
• Allowing relationships to evolve
• Anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment
• Misalignment in friendships
• Unrealistic expectations in relationships and being honest with yourself and each other
• Emotional pain and physical pain register in the brain in the same way
• Can we change our attachment styles and become more secure?
• Tracey's and my experiences of shifting toward security in our relationships
• Three possible outcomes for relationships
• Comfort and safety are not the same thing
• The power of awareness to change our patterns
• We will always get triggered
• How meditation helps us see ourselves more clearly
• Allowing things to be true instead of resisting them
• Letting your identity be fluid and ever-evolving
• Giving your partner room to change and evolve
• Female friendship in your 30s and 40s can be hard
• Cultivating community in adulthood
• On feeling like an outsider
• Leaving the door open in friendship
• The power of group healing and workshops
• And more!

As always, reviews and 5-star ratings are greatly appreciated. Please head over to iTunes to leave one today if you haven't yet. It only takes a few minutes and does a lot to help us reach a wider audience with the show! Even though we're approaching our last episode, these conversations will live on, so sharing the podcast is still highly encouraged! Thank you!

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Resources:

Episode 4 on Social Decluttering

Episode 3 on Motherhood

Episode 10 on Relationships & Attachment Styles

Episode 23 on Dating and Social Decluttering

Episode 38 on Socially Decluttering Family

Episode 70 on Closure

Episode 90 in Marie Kondo

Episode 98 on Emotional Fragility

Piquing Our Curiosity:

Yellow Scope, a toy company making "fun science kits that take girls seriously." Find them online here and on Instagram here.

Another reminder that the podcast only has one more episode left! So if you have any topics or questions you'd like us to address before we sign off for good, DM me on Instagram @caylyc.acu or email us at our joint email account:  [email protected]. We'd love to hear from you!

Finally, one more request for you to please head over to iTunes and leave us a 5-star rating and/or review if you're enjoying the podcast. We may be discontinuing new episodes, but we still want the podcast to live on! Please note that you have to search for Curious & Curiouser in iTunes in order to leave a review — even if you're already subscribed. Thanks so much for the support and for taking this annoying extra step to rate us. We really appreciate it!

This week, Tracey and I are talking all about emotional fragility, normalizing uncomfortable feelings, tools for navigating difficult emotions, and asking the question:  Can you cure anxiety?

Specific topics discussed include:

• Why do we treat humans like we're emotionally fragile?
• Even babies are not emotionally fragile
• Why we're like cockroaches
• Why anxious is just a feeling state and how it's beneficial
• Anxiety is not an illness
• Relationship between emotional fragility and anxiety
• Why just wanting the feelings to go away is not actually helpful
• Helping kids navigate anxiety, around bedtime, etc.
• Internal vs. external resources
• Giving kids tools AND validating their feelings
• All feelings are okay, not all behaviors are helpful
• How Cayly's parents responded when she started self-harming
• Tracey's experience of being anxious during childhood
• Limits and empathy are both necessary
• Sleep training for infants and children
• The importance of sleep for emotional regulation and confidence building
• Wants vs. needs
• Assuming positive intent and not taking things personally
• Emotional fragility and ego
• Safe spaces and trigger warnings
• Are we, as a society, cultivating emotional fragility?
• Bullying and social power in childhood
• Benefits of intentionally seeking discomfort
• Safety vs. comfort
• Being a highly sensitive person and the importance of boundaries/emotional armor
• Why we shouldn't label our children
• And more!

As always, reviews and 5-star ratings are greatly appreciated. Please head over to iTunes to leave one today if you haven't yet. It only takes a few minutes and does a lot to help us reach a wider audience with the show! Even though we're approaching our last episode, these conversations will live on, so sharing the podcast is still highly encouraged! Thank you!

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Resources:

New childhood anxiety treatment focuses on the parents on Yale News Daily

Our Planet on Netlfix

At 71, She's Never Felt Pain or Anxiety. Now Scientists Know Why

Still Life with Woodpecker by Tom Robbins

Running on Empty by Jonice Webb

Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth, MD

Why We Sleep:  Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker

Episode 87 about anxiety

Piquing Our Curiosity:

Amaree + Reese Jewelry.

Remember, the podcast only has two more episodes left! So if you have any topics or questions you'd like us to address before we sign off for good, DM me on Instagram @caylyc.acu or email us at our joint email account:  [email protected]. We'd love to hear from you!

Finally, one more request for you to please head over to iTunes and leave us a 5-star rating and/or review if you're enjoying the podcast. We may be discontinuing new episodes, but we still want the podcast to live on! Please note that you have to search for Curious & Curiouser in iTunes in order to leave a review — even if you're already subscribed. Thanks so much for the support and for taking this annoying extra step to rate us. We really appreciate it!

As the podcast winds to a close, Tracey and I wanted to take some time to discuss our reasons for starting the podcast, what it's brought into our lives (hint:  not fame or fortune), and why we're choosing to discontinue making it. We also talk about why you should just do the thing already, why personal projects are still worthwhile even if nobody knows about them, and why we should all ask ourselves more often:  Why am I doing this?

Specific topics include:

• Why we started the podcast
• How do we define success?
• How do we determine if something is worthwhile to pursue, especially creatively?
• The barrier to entry is not as big as we think it is
• Epiphanies we've had on the podcast
• How doing the podcast has positively impacted our businesses
• Why listening to my own voice has been healing for me
• Self-judgment and the inner critic
• How we hold ourselves back from doing what we want to do
• You're not for everybody
• How putting a lot of personal information out there has benefited our businesses
• Building confidence by trying things out
• On seeing yourself as a leader
• It's still valuable if it's not a giant commercial success
• It's not always about money or prestige or exposure
• Personal projects kept private are still worthwhile
• Protecting privacy
• Social media and small business
• Why Tracey has taken a step back from social media
• Tracey and my new writing projects and how we are both getting in our own ways
• Would we recommend starting a podcast?
• Are you doing the thing to impress other people or because you actually want to do the thing?
• Why are we discontinuing the podcast?
• If you resent the thing, it might be time to move on
• And more!

As always, reviews and 5-star ratings are greatly appreciated. Please head over to iTunes to leave one today if you haven't yet. It only takes a few minutes and does a lot to help us reach a wider audience with the show! Don't forget, if you'd like to support the podcast by making a donation, you can do so through Paypal here. Thank you!

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Resources:

Episode 16 about confidence

My Instagram post about being unapologetic yourself

Tracey's fannypack post on Instagram

pedX in Portland OR

Episode 90 about Marie Kondo

Episode 94 about process over outcome

The World Before Your Feet documentary

Piquing Our Curiosity:

Curious Comedy Theater

Kickstand Comedy Theater

Remember, the podcast only has three more episodes left! So if you have any topics or questions you'd like us to address before we sign off for good, DM me on Instagram @caylyc.acu or email us at our joint email account:  [email protected]. We'd love to hear from you!

Finally, one more request for you to please head over to iTunes and leave us a 5-star rating and/or review if you're enjoying the podcast. We may be discontinuing new episodes, but we still want the podcast to live on! Please note that you have to search for Curious & Curiouser in iTunes in order to leave a review — even if you're already subscribed. Thanks so much for the support and for taking this annoying extra step to rate us. We really appreciate it!

On this week's episode of the podcast, Tracey and I are asking:  Why do we insist on ignoring the elephant in the room? We're talking about all the different kinds of elephants we pretend not to see — in our relationships, in our health, in our work, etc — and how ignoring the elephants negatively impacts our lives.

Specific topics discussed include:

• Different kinds of elephants we ignore
• Why we're afraid that acknowledging an elephant might be the end of a relationship
• How ignoring elephants feeds resentment
• Our need to feel safe
• Change is inevitable
• Talking about the elephant is a form of self care
• Projections and why we're terrible at guessing what someone else is feeling
• How we make up stories about what other people are thinking/feeling
• Our brains fill in gaps
• How this applies to friendships
• Ignoring the elephants about our physical health
• We can compensate for ignored elephants for a long time. Until we can't
• Procrastination and elephants
• How acknowledging the elephant builds self-trust
• How shame plays into this
• If you keep secrets about yourself in a relationship, you'll never feel secure
• Acknowledging the elephant will require us to change
• When my elephant was how much I was drinking
• Why sleep, nutrition, hydration, movement are essential to emotional health/intelligence
• The elephants feed on our ignorance
• Dealing with the elephant now is a gift we give to our future selves
• Curiosity is key
• How ignoring the elephant is a habit
• And more!

As always, reviews and 5-star ratings are greatly appreciated. Please head over to iTunes to leave one today if you haven't yet. It only takes a few minutes and does a lot to help us reach a wider audience with the show! Don't forget, if you'd like to support the podcast by making a donation, you can do so through Paypal here. Thank you!

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Piquing Our Curiosity:

Unladylike Podcast

Resources:

When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron

How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett

Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker

Rising Strong by Brene Brown

Talk To Me Like I'm Someone You Love by Nancy Dreyfus

Unladlylike Podcast Ep.24:  How to Be Girl Friends

Remember, the podcast only has four more episodes left! So if you have any topics or questions you'd like us to address before we sign off for good, DM me on Instagram @caylyc.acu or email us at our joint email account:  [email protected]. We'd love to hear from you!

Finally, one more request for you to please head over to iTunes and leave us a 5-star rating and/or review if you're enjoying the podcast. We may be discontinuing new episodes, but we still want the podcast to live on! Please note that you have to search for Curious & Curiouser in iTunes in order to leave a review — even if you're already subscribed. Thanks so much for the support and for taking this annoying extra step to rate us. We really appreciate it!

On this week's episode of the podcast, Tracey and I are talking all about routine, being boring, & the idea of re-parenting yourself in adulthood. The question around which this discussion revolves is:  Does "boring" routine actually give you more space to be interesting and creative? This is the topic

Specific topics discussed include:

• Why Tracey and I both love routine
• Why we resist routine
• How routine frees up brain space
• Routine as a way to re-parent yourself
• Maslow's hierarchy of needs
• Learning safety, predictability, and trust in the first three years of life
• We all have gaps from our childhood
• Routine build self-trust
• Not keeping commitments to yourself and self betrayal
• We can get addicted to chaos
• Creating new habits and routines gets easier the more you do it
• Distinguishing between intuition and resistance
• Decision fatigue and how routine mitigates against this
• Discipline equals freedom but not rigidity
• And more!

As always, reviews and 5-star ratings are greatly appreciated. Please head over to iTunes to leave one today if you haven't yet. It only takes a few minutes and does a lot to help us reach a wider audience with the show! Don't forget, if you'd like to support the podcast by making a donation, you can do so through Paypal here. Thank you!

Resources:

Cayly's instagram post about routine

John Bowlby and attachment theory

Dr. Nicole LePera, the holistic psychologist on Instagram

The Self Betrayal Cycle

Remember, if you have any topics or questions you'd like us to address in a future episode, comment here or email us at our joint email account:  [email protected]. We'd love to hear from you!

Finally, one more request for you to please head over to iTunes and leave us a 5-star rating and/or review if you're enjoying the podcast. Please note that you have to search for Curious & Curiouser in iTunes in order to leave a review — even if you're already subscribed. Thanks so much for the support and for taking this annoying extra step to rate us. We really appreciate it!

The truth about transformation? It is super unsexy. Tracey and Cayly are talking all about why this is true and asking the following question:  How do you buy into the process of change when the outcome isn't guaranteed?

Specific topics discussed include:

• There is no formula for healing
• Letting go of a specific expectation/outcome
• Meditation isn't a magic bullet
• True change happens in small habits done consistently over time
• We will always get triggered
• Committing to healing requires faith
• Relationships are about processes, too
• Focus on feeling states instead of tangible things
• Changing our relationships with our mothers
• Better vs. different
• Satisfaction is in the pursuit of the goal
• We're terrible at predicting what will make us happy in the future
• Joy in suffering
• Investment without attachment
• How pain can be useful
• How do you know when it's time to make a change
• Healing our relationships with our bodies
• Transformation is about intentionally changing patterns
• 90% of what we do in a day is automatic
• How do you know you've changed?
• Why it can be helpful to track certain things to gather evidence of change
• Specific tools Tracey and Cayly have used to change their lives
• And more!

As always, reviews and 5-star ratings are greatly appreciated. Please head over to iTunes to leave one today if you haven't yet. It only takes a few minutes and does a lot to help us reach a wider audience with the show! Don't forget, if you'd like to support the podcast by making a donation, you can do so through Paypal here. Thank you!

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Resources:

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Episode 91 on people pleasing

Stumbling on Happiness by Dan Gilbert

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Piquing Our Curiosity:

Stasia's Style School. Find Stasia on Instagram here or visit her website here. I also highly recommend checking out her TEDx talk.

Remember, if you have any topics or questions you'd like us to address in a future episode, comment here or email us at our joint email account:  [email protected]. We'd love to hear from you!

Finally, one more request for you to please head over to iTunes and leave us a 5-star rating and/or review if you're enjoying the podcast. Please note that you have to search for Curious & Curiouser in iTunes in order to leave a review — even if you're already subscribed. Thanks so much for the support and for taking this annoying extra step to rate us. We really appreciate it!

This week's question is:  How do you know when you're holding something that's not yours to hold? Tracey and I talk about how you can inadvertently take on the emotions of others, how to recognize when you've done so, why it's not actually helpful to feel your loved ones feelings with them, and what to do instead.

Specific topics discussed include:

• How we can absorb other people's emotions and pain without even realizing it
• Emotions are highly contagious
• Our brains as problem solvers
• How boundaries are harder to hold when we get tired, sick, etc.
• How to recognize when you've picked up something that's not yours to hold
• Why it isn't helpful to take on your partner's, kids', or friends' emotions
• The double edged sword of being simultaneously a very capable and highly sensitive person
• Why not taking on other people's shit takes discipline
• Holding space and what that actually means
• The observer effect and the power of being witnessed in our pain
• Why we shouldn't rescue our kids or partners
• How taking on someone else's pain can limit the evolution of a relationship
• Identifying how our bodies manifest the shit we pick up from others
• How to discharge the stuff that's not ours
• The benefits of visualization
• How breathwork can help you release emotions and how it works to do so
• Dismantling outdated stories and updating your identity
• How thought and body patterns are like slinkys
• And more!

As always, reviews and 5-star ratings are greatly appreciated. Please head over to iTunes to leave one today if you haven't yet. It only takes a few minutes and does a lot to help us reach a wider audience with the show! Don't forget, if you'd like to support the podcast by making a donation, you can do so through Paypal here. Thank you!

Subscribe:  iTunes

Resources:

Episode 92 on Healing and Magic

Episode 91 on Boundaries

Episode on the stories we tell ourselves

Mindsight by Dan Siegel

Breathwork with David Elliot and Erin Telford

Episode 90 on Marie Kondo and identity crises

Boundaries by Adelyn Birch

Piquing Our Curiosity:

The Dropout, a podcast about Elizabeth Holmes and the Theranos fraud case.

Remember, if you have any topics or questions you'd like us to address in a future episode, comment here or email us at our joint email account:  [email protected]. We'd love to hear from you!

Finally, one more request for you to please head over to iTunes and leave us a 5-star rating and/or review if you're enjoying the podcast. Please note that you have to search for Curious & Curiouser in iTunes in order to leave a review — even if you're already subscribed. Thanks so much for the support and for taking this annoying extra step to rate us. We really appreciate it!