Nothing is a hot-button topic quite like a couple looking to date the same person. A lot of people have only one piece of advice, "Don't," often served with heaping portions of shame and ridicule. Yet, year after year, established couples seek to find a shared partner, and many folks also seek relationships with established couples. Is there something to this? In this episode, Libby offers some thoughts on why you might want to date as a couple (or date a couple) and some helpful ideas on how to do this well.

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Dating as a Couple

Grounded in reality and untamed honesty, Libby Sinback tackles the hard questions about how to create and maintain authentic, loving and healthy nonmonogamous relationships.

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History

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Relationships

If you're struggling and need help with your relationships, where should you turn? Libby shares her advice on how to find good help.
Meta analyses of studies that show that therapeutic alliance matters more than therapeutic modality for positive outcomes in therapy: https://psycnet.apa.org/PsycARTICLES/journal/pst/55/4 APA article explaining: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/11/ce-corner-relationships

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How to Get Help

What is compersion? Can you cultivate compersion in yourself and in your relationships? Libby invites Marie Thouin, PhD to discuss her research and book on this important and sometimes misunderstood topic in polyamory.
Marie's book! https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781538183939/What-Is-Compersion-Understanding-Positive-Empathy-in-Consensually-Non-Monogamous-Relationships 
Marie's Compersion Resources: https://www.whatiscompersion.com/ 
Marie's Coaching Website: https://www.loveinsight-dating.com/ 
Marie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love_insight_dating/

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Nerding out on Compersion with Marie Thouin

Libby is joined by Genevieve King of Chill Polyamory to discuss individualism, community care, and ways you can shift your mindset to ecological thinking within polyamorous (or not!) relationship structures.
Genevieve's Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/chillpolyamory 
Genevieve on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3PUizxdp_vj2A5fUdBgzgw 
Genevieve's website: https://www.chillpolyamory.com/

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Community Care with Genevieve of Chill Polyamory

Libby invites Courtney Brame of Something Positive for Positive People to discuss herpes, stigma, and sexual health.

Something Positive for Positive People: https://www.spfpp.org/ 
SPFPP Podcast: https://www.spfpp.org/podcast Herpes Stigma Virtual Conference in May: https://www.spfpp.org/offerings/p/conferences 
Courtney's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtneybrame_/

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Sexual Health When You're Positive with Courtney Brame

Libby discusses the distinction between offers and requests in relating and how important it can be to make sure you're saying what you actually mean.


Kai Cheng Thom's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaichengthom/?hl=en Spectrum of Consent: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1kvYW4eSVKRuwUt5Mc-DnCyNVzvA036f8/view?usp=sharing 
Marcia Baczynski on Desire Smuggling: https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/desire-smuggler/ 
27 Alternatives to "Is this Okay?": https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/27-alternatives-to-asking-is-this-okay/

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Dating as a Couple

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