In this episode, I dive into the essential life skills every toddler should learn to thrive. Beyond colors and counting, I focus on the core values and practices that help build resilient, empathetic, and capable little humans. Drawing on more than 25 years of working with families, I share my perspective on what it really takes to foster emotional intelligence, teach delayed gratification, build community awareness, and nurture self-sufficiency in young children.

In this episode, I cover 15 foundational skills, from learning how to ask for help, clean up after themselves, and regulate big emotions, to understanding body safety and appreciating the wisdom of elders. I reflect on my own upbringing and professional experience, offering practical examples and heartfelt stories that highlight how simple daily routines can lead to lifelong strengths.

If you're raising a toddler or supporting someone who is, this episode is full of real talk and actionable tips for nurturing the next generation. Share this episode with someone who could use a little inspiration, and let me know which skills you're currently working on at home.

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

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key topics • Teaching toddlers to ask for help • Importance of patience and waiting • Life skills for independence (dishes, laundry) • Naming and regulating feelings • Teaching body safety and boundaries • Modeling respectful greetings and sharing space • Fostering friendships and community values • Encouraging boredom and imagination

Chapters 00:00 The Importance of Emotional Skills in Toddlers 06:17 Teaching Patience and Delayed Gratification 11:55 Fostering Independence and Life Skills 14:41 Understanding and Naming Emotions 19:11 The Art of Apologizing and Accountability 22:03 Social Skills: Greetings and Sharing Space 25:42 Building Friendships and Community 27:33 Body Literacy and Safety 30:48 Teaching Communication and Intentional Movement 32:41 Respecting Elders and Intergenerational Learning 35:31 Embracing Boredom and Imagination

In this episode, I'm joined by Alexandra Evans, an associate clinical counselor and certified doula, to talk about postpartum rage and the emotional realities of life after birth that many parents struggle with silently. Together, we explore how postpartum rage can show up differently from everyday stress or exhaustion, why these feelings are often misunderstood, and the impact that unmet needs, shame, and outside pressures can have on mental health during postpartum life.

You'll also hear practical advice on using dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and other actionable techniques to regulate emotions, improve communication, and build self-compassion. The conversation explores the realities of seeking help, especially for moms who may feel hesitant due to stigma or systemic bias, while emphasizing the importance of supportive networks both inside and outside the home.

If you or someone you love is finding postpartum life more difficult than expected, this episode offers validation, practical tips, and hope. Stay tuned for our upcoming milestone episode, and don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, or send in your own questions to keep these important conversations going!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Alexandra Evans Website: https://www.roseandradiancedoula.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexandralevans/

key topics

• Postpartum rage and its signs
• The role of basic needs in emotional regulation
• Using DBT techniques for postpartum mental health
• Impact of social media on postpartum mental health
• Importance of seeking professional support

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Postpartum Mood Disorders

02:48 Defining Postpartum Rage

05:17 The Role of Shame in Maternal Rage

06:49 DBT Techniques for Managing Rage

10:17 Media Influence on Postpartum Expectations

12:32 Navigating Social Media During Postpartum

16:00 Overcoming Hesitation to Seek Help

17:25 Finding the Right Provider

18:25 Understanding Postpartum Rage

19:34 The Accumulation of Unmet Needs

21:47 DBT vs. CBT: Different Approaches

23:33 Recognizing Signs of Deeper Issues

25:11 Communicating Needs Effectively

28:51 Seeking Help and Support

31:48 Personal Influences and Experiences

34:41 Normalizing Parenting Experiences

In this special 100th episode of Dear Doula, I sit down with my husband, Michael Chappie, to reflect on our unique parenting journey as a multicultural couple raising children across different continents. We open up about how our diverse upbringings shaped our views on discipline, independence, and family culture, and share the major turning points that helped us create a home filled with resilience, adaptability, and self-reliance. From moving with a newborn and toddlers to Asia, to finding balance between ambition, marriage, and parenting, we dive deep into what truly matters for us as parents and partners.

We also talk candidly about the challenges of blending traditions, overcoming generational patterns, and navigating the cultural complexities our biracial children face. Along the way, we highlight how prioritizing emotional regulation, open communication, and modeling healthy relationships have shaped our kids into kind, independent individuals. Above all, we celebrate the laughter, joy, and strong sense of family that grounds us, no matter where in the world we are.

If you're looking for honest conversations and real-life insights into building a family on your own terms, you won't want to miss this milestone episode. Listen now, subscribe to Dear Doula, and share with someone who's on their own parenting adventure!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

key topics

• Celebrating the 100th episode of Dear Doula
• Parenting as a couple with different cultural backgrounds
• Moving away from strict discipline and physical punishment
• Building a unique family culture across countries
• Raising independent, resilient, and adaptable children
• Balancing ambition, marriage, and parenting
• The importance of emotional regulation in children
• Teaching kids through example, affection, and conflict resolution
• Navigating race, identity, and freedom as a multicultural family
• The role of family closeness, community, and chosen family
• What mothers and fathers can learn from each other
• Creating a happy, spontaneous, and globally minded family

Chapters

05:25 Balancing parenting expectations

06:54 Meeting Kate and parenting doubts

12:18 Adjusting to non-traditional family life

13:51 Moving to Asia with kids

17:17 Taking a break from work

20:04 Reflections on childhood stability

23:16 Joining a new family culture

26:51 Raising kids in France

31:46 Parenting through teenage independence

34:25 Encouraging genuine self-expression

37:13 Teaching love through example

41:58 Parenting reflections on patience

44:38 Understanding and forgiving parents

47:58 Challenges of early parenthood

49:33 Raising kids in multiple cultures

In this episode of Dear Doula, I talk about how parenting can feel lonely today and why having a "village" of support matters more than ever. I share personal stories about raising my children in Los Angeles without family nearby, and how friendships and community became an important part of my parenting journey.

I also give simple ideas for building your own support system, through local meetups, parent groups, classes, or online communities. Sometimes, meaningful friendships start just by reaching out and being open to connection.

If you're feeling overwhelmed as a parent, you're not alone. Don't be afraid to ask for help, join a group, or create your own community. And after listening, take a moment to thank someone who's part of your village, or make the first step toward building one.

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

key topics

• Building a support village for parents
• Historical and cultural differences in parenting support
• Impact of social media on support networks
• Strategies for creating in-person and online communities
• The role of friends, family, and community in parenting

Chapters

00:32 The Importance of Building Your Village

07:24 Navigating Modern Parenting Challenges

12:05 Finding Your Community

18:11 Creating Connections and Support

21:23 The Power of Acknowledging Your Village

In this episode, I dive into the often emotional and sometimes divisive topic of feeding your baby: breastfeeding, formula, or a mix of both. Drawing from years of experience as a lactation consultant and doula, I break down the real facts about breast milk, the benefits of colostrum, and the realities many parents face when making feeding choices. My goal is to release the guilt many parents feel and empower you to make the best decision for your family's unique needs.

I cover everything from the science of supply and demand with breastfeeding, ways to introduce bottles, and how to select safe, high-quality formula if you need or want to supplement. I share practical advice for working parents, those struggling with milk supply, and anyone feeling overwhelmed by the options. I also share my honest take on feeding campaigns, like "Fed is Best," and why transparent, fact-based support matters most.

If you have questions about feeding your baby or want more support around breastfeeding or formula choices, I encourage you to reach out! I love hearing from you and supporting you on your parenting journey.

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Key points:

1. Breastfeeding vs. formula: societal pressures and guilt
2. Benefits of breast milk and colostrum
3. Feeding spectrum: exclusive, combo, or formula
4. Working and breastfeeding: pumping, milk storage
5. Supply and demand: milk production basics
6. Formula choices and preparation safety

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Feeding Choices

02:49 The Benefits of Breastfeeding

06:04 Navigating Formula Feeding

08:49 Combining Breastfeeding and Formula

12:12 Understanding Formula Options

14:55 The Fed is Best Controversy

18:59 Conclusion and Resources

In this episode, I talk about what it's really like to travel with babies, toddlers, and kids. Based on my own experience traveling with my three children, I share simple, practical tips. From choosing the right gear to handling airports and messy nap schedules.

Whether you're flying abroad or going on a road trip, I cover what actually works, what doesn't, and how to keep your sanity along the way.

You'll hear advice on packing smart, staying flexible with sleep, dealing with picky eaters, and managing jet lag. I also share why travel can help kids become more adaptable and curious, and how some of the best family moments come from things not going to plan.

If you have your own tips or questions about traveling with little ones, I'd love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out and share your experience. And if you enjoyed the episode, don't forget to leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Happy travels!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Talking Points:

• The fear vs. the reality of traveling with a baby
• What to pack (and what you don't actually need)
• Flying with an infant: ear pressure, feeding on the plane, TSA, and nap strategy
• Road trips: timing drives around sleep, safe rest stops, and sanity savers
• Managing sleep disruption in a new environment
• Traveling across time zones with a baby
• How to enjoy the trip instead of just surviving it

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Traveling with Kids

02:21 Essential Gear for Traveling with Young Children

06:01 Creating a Comfortable Sleep Environment

10:10 Managing Food and Snacks on the Go

15:15 Navigating Travel Logistics and TSA

18:28 Adapting to Time Zones and Jet Lag

22:32 Embracing the Adventure of Family Travel

Resources

• Doona: https://www.doona.com/
• Stokke YOYO: https://www.stokke.com/en-gr/category/prams/yoyo-strollers-pushchairs

In this episode I open up about the real challenges and emotions that come with navigating postpartum life, especially when returning to work. Drawing from my own experiences as a mom and doula, I share the ups and downs of juggling career ambitions, shifting family dynamics, and the intense feelings that arise when stepping back into the workplace after having a baby.

I offer practical tips on easing the transition back to work, such as building a milk stash for nursing mothers, gradually returning to your job, and the importance of maintaining open conversations with your partner about changing priorities and expectations. I also highlight the significance of self-care, leaning on your support village, and prioritizing meaningful time with yourself, your children, and your partner to sustain family wellness.

If you're heading back to work, thinking about it, or supporting someone who is, I hope this episode reassures you that there's a wide range of "normal" feelings and experiences. Your journey is valid, and you're never alone!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Key takeaways

1. Postpartum expectations and realities
2. Returning to work after childbirth
3. Emotional struggles and identity shifts
4. Balancing career and motherhood
5. Importance of building a support village
6. Navigating parental leave and partner roles
7. Self-care and maintaining relationships

Chapters

(03:13) First Day Back at Work

(5:07) Decision to Leave Job

(6:04) Advice for New Parents

(10:17) Work-Life Balance

(18:09) Building a Village

In this episode, I'm joined by integrative nutrition expert Jodi to talk about what women over 35 should think about when it comes to conception, pregnancy, and postpartum health. We go through the basics of nutrition, how to avoid common endocrine disruptors, and what actually matters so you don't get overwhelmed by too much information.

We also talk about testing your nutrient levels, simple supplement choices, and how to make sense of all the wellness advice you see online. We touch on important topics like choline, vegan diets during pregnancy, and why testing both before and after pregnancy can help you feel stronger and more supported.

This episode is full of practical advice and real-life insights to help you feel more confident in your choices, whether you're planning a family or already in the postpartum phase.

Resources Mentioned

http://drbrewerpregnancydiet.com/

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Jody Graves

Website:

https://michiganfamilydoulas.com/

https://michiganfamilynannies.com/

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodi-graves/

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/jodi_graves_official/

Key takeaways

• Nutrition for women over 35
• Endocrine disruptors and chemical exposure
• The importance of nutrient testing
• Vegan/vegetarian diets during pregnancy
• Postpartum depletion and recovery
• Hormonal changes after childbirth
• Practical tips for better nutrition

Timestamps

00:01:17 - 00:02:58 What is Integrative Nutrition?

00:02:59 - 00:05:27 The Changing Nutritional Needs of Women Over 35

00:05:27 - 00:06:33 Endocrine Disruptors and Personal Care Products

00:06:34 - 00:09:23 Nutrition and Supplementation for Conception & Pregnancy

00:09:23 - 00:11:20 The Role of Lab Testing and Self-Advocacy

00:11:20 - 00:15:56 Veganism, Pregnancy, and Nutritional Challenges

00:15:56 - 00:19:21 Postnatal Depletion and Importance of Baseline Testing

00:19:22 - 00:22:21 Postpartum Recovery: Thyroid, Hormones & Testing

00:22:21 - 00:24:13 Supplement Basics for Women 35+

00:24:14 - 00:27:23 Working with an Integrative Nutritionist: Process & Testing

In this episode, I dive into the three biggest mistakes new parents make around sleep, how to avoid them. With over two decades of experience as a doula, I've seen it all when it comes to sleep struggles during the early days of parenting. I break down the misconceptions about newborn sleep, why nutrition is essential for building strong sleep foundations, and how expectations impact your rest as a family

I also share practical tips on fostering your baby's ability to self-soothe, setting gentle routines, and why tracking feedings and sleep habits can be a game-changer. You'll hear why flexibility with routines beats being overly rigid, how to spot patterns (including the dreaded witching hour), and the power of dream feeds for more restful nights. With gentle advice and encouragement, I want you to feel empowered on your parenting journey.

If you're struggling with sleep or looking to give your baby (and yourself!) the best start, this episode is packed full of insights and real-world strategies. I'd love to hear your thoughts and questions. Reach out by email or on Instagram, and don't forget to subscribe and leave a review so more families can find these tips and find ease in early parenting!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Resources & Products Mentioned

Code for Ergopouch: BRANDI

Baby Connect https://en.babyconnect.com/sqh

Hatch https://www.hatch.co/?srsltid=AfmBOoolj-OXZ9x5uyYJO_pUOYqW7Mdc1osMHUhJ4sEg36uzCOWS1eAb

Key takeaways:

1. Nutrition's impact on newborn sleep quality
2. Overcoming sleep myths and negative mindsets
3. Sleep crutches versus independent sleep skills
4. Importance of creating sleep routines
5. Tracking logs to identify baby patterns
6. Dream feeds for longer sleep stretches
7. Balancing flexibility with structured schedules

Timestamps:

00:01:09 – 00:03:05 The Reality and Mindset of Newborn Sleep

00:03:05 – 00:07:06 The Importance of Good Nutrition and Weight Gain

00:09:10 – 00:10:36 Feeding Schedules and How They Impact Sleep

00:10:36 – 00:15:05 Encouraging Independent Sleep Skills

00:18:47 – 00:20:03 Strategies to Address Common Sleep Disruptions

00:20:03 – 00:24:47 The Three Solutions for Better Newborn Sleep

In this episode of Dear Doula, I break down the realities of finding quality postpartum and childcare in the US, including what you can expect to pay and what industry standards look like. I guide you through the differences between postpartum doulas, newborn care specialists, and nannies. I share my insights from years in the industry, offering tips on how to find caregivers that truly fit your family's needs.

I also talk about the evolving landscape of domestic work, including compensation ranges, work agreements, retainers, and new trends like rotational positions. You will learn why offering benefits is important, how to navigate payroll, and where to search for reliable caregivers, whether you're using an agency, online sites, or asking for word-of-mouth referrals.

If you're a parent hoping to find the right support or a caregiver curious about career possibilities, this episode is for you. Don't forget to subscribe, share your questions, and tune in for next week's episode, where I'll tackle all your questions about sleep and baby travel!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Key takeaways

1. Postpartum and newborn care options explained
2. Pricing and rates for childcare services
3. Differences between doulas and newborn care specialists
4. Industry standards for nannies and caregivers
5. Importance of contracts and retainers
6. Hiring methods: agencies vs. DIY approaches
7. Worker rights: pay, PTO, and benefits

Timestamps:

00:00 Navigating Childcare Options

09:56 Understanding Postpartum Care

19:55 The Evolving Role of Nannies

30:03 Finding the Right Caregiver