In this episode of Dear Doula, I switch things up and dive into what it means to prepare our older kids for college. As a mom of three with a 19-year-old in college and two younger kids, I know firsthand that the journey through higher education can be overwhelming, especially with mounting costs and endless choices. That's why I invited Lizette Paredes, a college admissions expert, to guide us through finding the best "fit" for our teens, far beyond just chasing name-brand schools.

Together, we explore the myths around merit scholarships, the importance of having early and honest financial conversations, and why understanding your child's unique strengths and interests leads to the best educational outcomes. We dig deep into the advantages of public universities, the benefits of community college, and why every student's journey deserves to be individualized, focusing on their happiness and future success, not just prestige.

If you're a parent with college somewhere on the horizon, this one's for you! Listen in for practical tips, surprising options, and empowering advice to help both you and your teen navigate this exciting chapter.

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Sources mentioned: https://www.reading.com

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Connect with Lizette Paredes

Website: https://empoweredaccess.com/

key topics

• The importance of fit in college selection
• Early planning and self-discovery for students
• Understanding financial aid and scholarship opportunities
• The changing landscape of student loans and debt
• The value of community colleges and transfer pathways
• How to build a balanced college list
• The role of intrinsic motivation in college success
• Career exploration and self-assessment for students

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to College Prep and Guest Lizette Paredes

02:21 The importance of supporting development beyond high school

04:38 Factors to consider when choosing colleges: fit, cost, size

05:35 The significance of financial fit and early conversations

07:24 Understanding the changing student loan landscape

10:47 Myth busting about merit scholarships at top universities

12:25 The value of exploring lesser-known colleges and transfer options

15:30 Career and interest assessments for students

18:29 Helping students discover their passions and fit

21:17 The importance of maximizing opportunities in high school

22:50 Strategies for middle-class families to afford college

25:07 The role of community colleges and transfer pathways

30:37 Building a balanced college list and managing expectations

34:18 The value of college experiences and adulting lessons

38:23 Common struggles students face in college applications

39:51 The importance of early self-discovery and exploration

45:13 Examples of diverse career paths and hidden opportunities

50:47 The benefits of early career counseling and exploration

57:16 Advice for parents: supporting growth without high stakes

58:45 Guidance for students: exploring interests and authenticity

In this episode of Dear Doula, I sat down with bodywork expert Ken Moench to dive into the often-overlooked impact of birth and pre-birth positioning on babies' comfort, development, and wellbeing. We shared our experiences working with families, highlighting that frequent fussiness, crying, and feeding challenges in infants might not just be "normal," but could be signs of physical discomfort that gentle bodywork can address.

Ken Moench explained the principles behind his Mensch Method Bodywork, sharing heartwarming stories from his own practice that showcase the transformational effects of bodywork for infants, helping improve sleep, reduce crying, and even support breastfeeding. We also explored how a parent's health and even ancestral diet can influence a baby's wellbeing.

If you're curious about supporting your baby's optimal development, this is a must-listen episode!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Connect with Ken:

Website: https://moenchmethodbodywork.com/

Book: https://everybabyhurts.com/

Key takeaways

• Pre-birth postural deficits and their impact on health
• Ken Moench's personal journey and prayer for wisdom
• Techniques for releasing tension in babies and adults
• The importance of early intervention in health
• The connection between birth, posture, and development
• How body work improves sleep, feeding, and mobility in babies
• The role of nutrition and lifestyle in holistic health
• The potential for body work to unlock human potential

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Ken Moench's background

01:49 Ken's journey into body work and spiritual inspiration

04:58 The significance of pre-birth posture and its effects

10:00 How body work releases tension in babies

14:59 Case studies: from fetal position to relaxed baby

19:59 Impact of birth trauma and early postural deficits

25:04 Techniques for releasing hip flexors and neck tension

29:55 The importance of early intervention and practical tips

35:01 The connection between posture, health, and potential

39:50 How body work benefits pregnant women and families

44:59 Resources, book recommendations, and training opportunities

50:00 Ken's vision for global impact and future research

Nearly 1 in 4 U.S. infants is missing a keystone species of gut bacteria entirely — including many breastfed, vaginally delivered babies long assumed to have the 'gold standard' microbiome. This episode pulls back the curtain on the infant gut microbiome, one of the most important and least understood frontiers in pediatric health.

Today, I sit down with Stephanie Culler, a scientist and expert in gut health, to dive deep into the fascinating world of the microbiome and its impact on early childhood development. We discuss how a baby's gut health starts even before birth, the critical role of the microbiome in immune development, and why the rise in C-sections and antibiotic use may be linked to the alarming increase in childhood conditions like eczema, allergies, and asthma.

Stephanie shares insights from her groundbreaking research, emphasizing how most modern babies are missing key gut bacteria that are essential for long-term health. We cover what parents can do to help set up a healthy gut for their children, including the importance of probiotics, prebiotics, diet diversity, and practical tips for boosting your family's microbiome in today's fast-paced world.

Curious about whether you can undo any "mistakes" and help your child thrive? This episode will give you hope, real tips, and encouragement. Tune in, and don't forget to share the episode with other parents, leave a review, and let me know what you want to hear next. Your feedback helps more families get the support and knowledge they need!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Connect with Stephanie

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/persephone.bio
• Website: https://persephone.bio/

key topics

• Impact of birth methods on microbiome
• Role of nutrition and prebiotics in gut health
• Importance of probiotics for infants and children
• Long-term health effects of early microbiome development
• Practical steps for supporting gut health in children

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Nutrition and Mental Health

01:25 The Importance of Gut Health from Pregnancy

03:14 C-Section Births and Microbiome Inoculation

05:32 Postpartum Care for Gut Health

07:12 Probiotics and Prebiotics for Infants

09:30 Nutritional Needs for Children

10:36 Impact of Antibiotics on Child Development

12:46 Reversing Poor Dietary Choices

14:03 Long-term Health and the Microbiome

15:12 Understanding the Microbiome

15:43 Foods That Harm the Microbiome

17:00 Aha Moments in Microbiome Research

19:11 The Rise of Eczema and Allergies

20:33 Modern Life and Its Impact on Health

23:56 Practical Tips for Parents

25:23 Innovative Products for Gut Health

Nearly 40% of babies who enter the NICU are full-term — meaning the NICU is never as far from any parent's birth story as they think.

In this episode of Dear Doula, I sit down with NICU nurse and doula Mary Farrelly to talk about how medical professionals and doulas can work together to better support families with babies in the NICU. We discuss the emotional challenges parents often face, including fear, grief, stress, and the feeling of being completely unprepared for what they're going through.

Mary shares her experience as a nurse, doula, and educator, and explains why families need support that goes beyond medical care, both during their NICU stay and after they return home. Together, we explore simple, practical ways doulas, healthcare providers, and communities can build stronger support systems, have more honest conversations, and help families feel seen, heard, and supported.

Whether you're going through the NICU journey yourself, supporting someone who is, or simply want to learn how to better care for new families, this episode offers valuable insights and practical takeaways. If you enjoyed the conversation, be sure to subscribe, share your thoughts, and check out the resources we mention. Your questions and feedback could help someone else on a similar journey.

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Connect with Mary Farrelly

https://www.thenicutranslator.com/

key topics

• The role of doulas in NICU support
• Bridging medical and support systems
• Importance of prenatal NICU education
• Supporting mental health postpartum
• Creating a holistic family care approach
• Building community and support networks
• Addressing grief, guilt, and shame in NICU families
• Training and certification for NICU doulas
• Supporting family autonomy and decision-making
• Long-term impact of NICU experiences

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to NICU Experiences and Doulas

03:01 Bridging the Gap: NICU Nurses and Doulas

05:58 The Importance of Pre-NICU Conversations

09:00 Understanding Grief and Trauma in NICU Families

11:57 Building a Supportive Village for NICU Families

14:56 Creating Awareness and Reducing Stigma Around NICU Experiences

18:01 Navigating the Modern Village

19:17 The Importance of Education in Parenting

21:14 Breaking Down Barriers in Healthcare

22:48 The Role of NICU Doulas

29:07 Empowering NICU Families

32:08 Finding Joy in the NICU Experience

We hand our kids screens almost without thinking. But what if that everyday habit is affecting their brain health for years to come?

In this episode, we explore the growing concern around digital dementia, a term used to describe the impact that too much screen time can have on a child's developing brain. Studies suggest that spending more than 2 to 3 hours a day on screens may affect memory, attention, and learning, and could even increase the risk of cognitive decline later in life.

In this episode, I am joined by Danielle Riley, a nurse with more than 20 years of clinical experience and the founder of Concierge Clinicians of Houston. Together, we break down what the research really says, why childhood brain development matters so much, and the simple, practical steps parents can take to help their children build healthier habits in today's digital world.

Tune in to hear inspiring stories, simple strategies, and uplifting advice you can put into practice today. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share your thoughts with us. Let's build a healthier digital future together!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Connect with Danielle Riley

Website https://conciergecliniciansofhouston.com/

Key topics:

• Digital dementia and device overuse

• Preventive parenting and screen boundaries

• Intergenerational impacts of technology

• Old-school habits for brain health

• Social interaction and family routines

• Memory exercises and lifestyle changes

• Reversibility and hope for digital dementia

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Digital Dementia

02:08 Understanding Digital Dementia

04:59 Preventing Digital Dementia in Children

10:31 Strategies for Adults to Combat Digital Dementia

19:37 The Importance of Eye Contact and Engagement

28:07 Reversibility of Digital Dementia and Final Thoughts

In this episode, I dive into the essential life skills every toddler should learn to thrive. Beyond colors and counting, I focus on the core values and practices that help build resilient, empathetic, and capable little humans. Drawing on more than 25 years of working with families, I share my perspective on what it really takes to foster emotional intelligence, teach delayed gratification, build community awareness, and nurture self-sufficiency in young children.

In this episode, I cover 15 foundational skills, from learning how to ask for help, clean up after themselves, and regulate big emotions, to understanding body safety and appreciating the wisdom of elders. I reflect on my own upbringing and professional experience, offering practical examples and heartfelt stories that highlight how simple daily routines can lead to lifelong strengths.

If you're raising a toddler or supporting someone who is, this episode is full of real talk and actionable tips for nurturing the next generation. Share this episode with someone who could use a little inspiration, and let me know which skills you're currently working on at home.

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

key topics • Teaching toddlers to ask for help • Importance of patience and waiting • Life skills for independence (dishes, laundry) • Naming and regulating feelings • Teaching body safety and boundaries • Modeling respectful greetings and sharing space • Fostering friendships and community values • Encouraging boredom and imagination

Chapters 00:00 The Importance of Emotional Skills in Toddlers 06:17 Teaching Patience and Delayed Gratification 11:55 Fostering Independence and Life Skills 14:41 Understanding and Naming Emotions 19:11 The Art of Apologizing and Accountability 22:03 Social Skills: Greetings and Sharing Space 25:42 Building Friendships and Community 27:33 Body Literacy and Safety 30:48 Teaching Communication and Intentional Movement 32:41 Respecting Elders and Intergenerational Learning 35:31 Embracing Boredom and Imagination

In this episode, I'm joined by Alexandra Evans, an associate clinical counselor and certified doula, to talk about postpartum rage and the emotional realities of life after birth that many parents struggle with silently. Together, we explore how postpartum rage can show up differently from everyday stress or exhaustion, why these feelings are often misunderstood, and the impact that unmet needs, shame, and outside pressures can have on mental health during postpartum life.

You'll also hear practical advice on using dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and other actionable techniques to regulate emotions, improve communication, and build self-compassion. The conversation explores the realities of seeking help, especially for moms who may feel hesitant due to stigma or systemic bias, while emphasizing the importance of supportive networks both inside and outside the home.

If you or someone you love is finding postpartum life more difficult than expected, this episode offers validation, practical tips, and hope. Stay tuned for our upcoming milestone episode, and don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, or send in your own questions to keep these important conversations going!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Alexandra Evans Website: https://www.roseandradiancedoula.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexandralevans/

key topics

• Postpartum rage and its signs
• The role of basic needs in emotional regulation
• Using DBT techniques for postpartum mental health
• Impact of social media on postpartum mental health
• Importance of seeking professional support

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Postpartum Mood Disorders

02:48 Defining Postpartum Rage

05:17 The Role of Shame in Maternal Rage

06:49 DBT Techniques for Managing Rage

10:17 Media Influence on Postpartum Expectations

12:32 Navigating Social Media During Postpartum

16:00 Overcoming Hesitation to Seek Help

17:25 Finding the Right Provider

18:25 Understanding Postpartum Rage

19:34 The Accumulation of Unmet Needs

21:47 DBT vs. CBT: Different Approaches

23:33 Recognizing Signs of Deeper Issues

25:11 Communicating Needs Effectively

28:51 Seeking Help and Support

31:48 Personal Influences and Experiences

34:41 Normalizing Parenting Experiences

In this special 100th episode of Dear Doula, I sit down with my husband, Michael Chappie, to reflect on our unique parenting journey as a multicultural couple raising children across different continents. We open up about how our diverse upbringings shaped our views on discipline, independence, and family culture, and share the major turning points that helped us create a home filled with resilience, adaptability, and self-reliance. From moving with a newborn and toddlers to Asia, to finding balance between ambition, marriage, and parenting, we dive deep into what truly matters for us as parents and partners.

We also talk candidly about the challenges of blending traditions, overcoming generational patterns, and navigating the cultural complexities our biracial children face. Along the way, we highlight how prioritizing emotional regulation, open communication, and modeling healthy relationships have shaped our kids into kind, independent individuals. Above all, we celebrate the laughter, joy, and strong sense of family that grounds us, no matter where in the world we are.

If you're looking for honest conversations and real-life insights into building a family on your own terms, you won't want to miss this milestone episode. Listen now, subscribe to Dear Doula, and share with someone who's on their own parenting adventure!

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

key topics

• Celebrating the 100th episode of Dear Doula
• Parenting as a couple with different cultural backgrounds
• Moving away from strict discipline and physical punishment
• Building a unique family culture across countries
• Raising independent, resilient, and adaptable children
• Balancing ambition, marriage, and parenting
• The importance of emotional regulation in children
• Teaching kids through example, affection, and conflict resolution
• Navigating race, identity, and freedom as a multicultural family
• The role of family closeness, community, and chosen family
• What mothers and fathers can learn from each other
• Creating a happy, spontaneous, and globally minded family

Chapters

05:25 Balancing parenting expectations

06:54 Meeting Kate and parenting doubts

12:18 Adjusting to non-traditional family life

13:51 Moving to Asia with kids

17:17 Taking a break from work

20:04 Reflections on childhood stability

23:16 Joining a new family culture

26:51 Raising kids in France

31:46 Parenting through teenage independence

34:25 Encouraging genuine self-expression

37:13 Teaching love through example

41:58 Parenting reflections on patience

44:38 Understanding and forgiving parents

47:58 Challenges of early parenthood

49:33 Raising kids in multiple cultures

In this episode of Dear Doula, I talk about how parenting can feel lonely today and why having a "village" of support matters more than ever. I share personal stories about raising my children in Los Angeles without family nearby, and how friendships and community became an important part of my parenting journey.

I also give simple ideas for building your own support system, through local meetups, parent groups, classes, or online communities. Sometimes, meaningful friendships start just by reaching out and being open to connection.

If you're feeling overwhelmed as a parent, you're not alone. Don't be afraid to ask for help, join a group, or create your own community. And after listening, take a moment to thank someone who's part of your village, or make the first step toward building one.

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

key topics

• Building a support village for parents
• Historical and cultural differences in parenting support
• Impact of social media on support networks
• Strategies for creating in-person and online communities
• The role of friends, family, and community in parenting

Chapters

00:32 The Importance of Building Your Village

07:24 Navigating Modern Parenting Challenges

12:05 Finding Your Community

18:11 Creating Connections and Support

21:23 The Power of Acknowledging Your Village

In this episode, I dive into the often emotional and sometimes divisive topic of feeding your baby: breastfeeding, formula, or a mix of both. Drawing from years of experience as a lactation consultant and doula, I break down the real facts about breast milk, the benefits of colostrum, and the realities many parents face when making feeding choices. My goal is to release the guilt many parents feel and empower you to make the best decision for your family's unique needs.

I cover everything from the science of supply and demand with breastfeeding, ways to introduce bottles, and how to select safe, high-quality formula if you need or want to supplement. I share practical advice for working parents, those struggling with milk supply, and anyone feeling overwhelmed by the options. I also share my honest take on feeding campaigns, like "Fed is Best," and why transparent, fact-based support matters most.

If you have questions about feeding your baby or want more support around breastfeeding or formula choices, I encourage you to reach out! I love hearing from you and supporting you on your parenting journey.

If you want personalized support, you can learn more about my services here: https://www.thecradlecompany.com

Connect with Me • Follow me on Instagram: @brandij_ordan_official • Podcast Instagram: @deardoulapodcast • Questions or topic ideas: [email protected]

Key points:

1. Breastfeeding vs. formula: societal pressures and guilt
2. Benefits of breast milk and colostrum
3. Feeding spectrum: exclusive, combo, or formula
4. Working and breastfeeding: pumping, milk storage
5. Supply and demand: milk production basics
6. Formula choices and preparation safety

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Feeding Choices

02:49 The Benefits of Breastfeeding

06:04 Navigating Formula Feeding

08:49 Combining Breastfeeding and Formula

12:12 Understanding Formula Options

14:55 The Fed is Best Controversy

18:59 Conclusion and Resources