It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Emily, who has found herself in a platonic friendship with her ex for whom she still harbors romantic feelings. His ED also played a part in their relationship and breakup. Should she believe there's a future for them? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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0:00 - Welcome To Caller Rosemary!

47:55 - Shandy Debrief

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Ask and you shall receive! For literal YEARS you've been asking "where are they now?" when it comes to our Shandies' quandaries, and today's the day we find out! This episode includes all updates that have not already been shared on Instagram Reels, and in typical Shandy fashion, updated commentary and analogies. Come join us in the living room where we're on the edge of our seats!

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0:00 - Introduction

3:03 - Episode 6: Caller Gabby - https://youtu.be/j19BAzjMGZ8

7:21 - Episode 28: Q2, From Danielle - https://youtu.be/z75XlTPG9XI

10:44 - Episode 28: Q3, From Cassandra - https://youtu.be/z75XlTPG9XI

14:11 - Episode 45: Q3, From Urszula - https://youtu.be/JeX3_ZPUQfM

22:56 - Episode 57: Caller Dayna - https://youtu.be/77fO41yQO6Q

30:15 - Episode 114: Caller Anna - https://youtu.be/EIuFdyyB2dc

35:01 - Episode 130: Caller Kelsey - https://youtu.be/eFFakWC0zgU

41:06 - Episode 133: Q2, From Anonymous - https://youtu.be/H8ul2qEWrOQ

56:18 - Episode 137: Q3, From Tina - https://youtu.be/ANzS4y7vTGI

1:00:54 - Episode 146: Q2, From P - https://youtu.be/ygmeFYPyYMk

1:09:04 - Episode 154: Q4, From An Embarrassed Shandy - https://youtu.be/qyYKy-XiJ1A

1:12:57 - Episode 158: Caller Hanna - https://youtu.be/f5zKwVHMvLw

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Due to an unexpected change in Sharleen's singing schedule, today's episode contains two Dear Shandy firsts: 1) we're recording remotely, and 2) we're breaking down our personal "greatest hits" Q&As of 2022! We recap and air our favorite Q&As of the year and explain why they stood out to us (and whether or not we'd answer differently). This will be our last episode of 2022 and we'll be taking a 2 week break, so we'll see you back here on Jan 12! THANK YOU, Shandies, for another great year of kindness, analogies, weirdness, specificity, and laughs. We adore you and hope you have the happiest of holidays! xoxo

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0:00 - Intro

2:55 - Ep 133, Q2 - Anonymous

18:57 - Ep 125, Q5 - from S

38:51 - Ep 137, Q3 - from Tina

53:04 - Ep 154, Q4 - from An Embarrassed Shandy

1:07:44 - Ep 170, Q3 - from H

1:41:26 - Ep 146, Q3 - from C

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How much should you consider an ex's feelings when dating within the same circles? Is the opposite of hate truly indifference, and if so, does my partner "hating" his ex mean he isn't over her? And one Shandy requests that Shandy "snaps her out of" her 1.5 situationship—will they oblige? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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0:00 - Q1: I Have A Crush On My Tour Guide—Should I Make A Move?

7:20 - Q2: My Guy Feels Hatred For His Ex—Will He Ever Get Over Her?

21:04 - Q3: How Much Should I Consider My Ex’s Feelings When Considering Dating In His Circle?

33:22 - Q4: My Normally Gentle Boyfriend Showed A Flare Of Anger Towards Me—Is This A Red Flag?

53:31 - Q5: The Guy I’ve Been Seeing For 1.5 Years Won’t Commit—Snap Me Out Of It?

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Rosemary who has been with her partner for 2.5 years. The two always thought they might be open to non-monogamy one day, but she's suddenly faced with the reality of that idea and isn't sure what to do. Should she lay down the law and wait for circumstances to be just right, or is there never a "just right" circumstance and should she take the plunge? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Rosemary!

52:17 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! When timing doesn't feel like your friend, should you send a "If you're single in the future" message? Is it wrong to be turned off that your boyfriend lives with his mom? If your partner's dying to dance with you but you're uncomfortable on the dance floor, who's got to give? And don't pretend it hasn't happened to you: when you send the wrong text to the wrong person... 😱 Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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0:00 - Q1: Is It Ever A Good Idea To Send A “If You’re Single In The Future” Message?

8:39 - Q2: This Guy Keeps Ghosting, Then Explaining—Am I Being Too Forgiving?

23:18 - Q3: I Dislike That My Boyfriend Still Lives With His Mother—Am I Being Judgy?

35:58 - Q4: I Accidentally Sent A Venting Text To The Person I Was Venting About—Help!

1:01:10 - Q5: My Boyfriend Loves To Dance But I Do NOT—Help!

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Today's Hot Topic is one that has been a loooong time coming. We're joined by bestselling author, professor, and psychologist Dr. Marisa G Franco. Having written "Platonic: How The Science Of Attachment Can Help You Make—And Keep—Friends", Marisa is particularly well equipped to help us tackle the complicated world of platonic friendships. If you struggle when it comes to friendships, or you'd like more friends but don't know how to get started, or feel like you're doing all the work in your friendships, OR perhaps you'd like to end a toxic friendship.... let's just say this conversation is for you.

More Marisa:

Book: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and—Keep Friends

Instagram: DrMarisaGFranco

Website: www.DrMarisaGFranco.com (take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend!)

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Marisa G Franco!

1:25 - What Inspired Her To Write A Book On Platonic Friendship

3:15 - Biggest Thing She Learned About Herself In Writing “Platonic”

7:25 - The Most Surprising Fact About Platonic Relationships

9:48 - Attachment Styles

12:35 - How To Make New Friends

24:55 - Is She An Introvert Or Extrovert?

26:01 - How To Maintain Long Distance Friendships

27:24 - Does Our Easy Access Culture Affect Our Friendships?

31:18 - What If It Feels Like You’re Doing All The Work?

35:02 - Vice Versa

36:49 - When You’re The Connector But End Up Feeling Left Out

40:45 - Can You Be Friends With Someone You’re Attracted To?

45:22 - The Proper Way To End A Toxic Friendship

49:29 - Is It Ever OK To Power Fade A Friendship?

52:23 - How To Maintain Friendships When Your Lives Are Heading In Different Directions

55:25 - Script For How To Turn An Acquaintance Into A Friend

56:06 - How To Deal With A Friend Who Constantly Copies You

58:38 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 16, aka the finale part 2!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:28 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 16

3:27 - Reunion

23:45 - Tyler & Brittany

29:32 - Michael & Danielle

34:57 - Johnny & Victoria

1:03:40 - Brandon & Serene

1:09:27 - Credits

1:10:02 - Andy’s A-Game

1:10:40 - Shandy Word Watch

1:11:56 - Who We Would Go For

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 15, aka the finale part 1!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:32 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 15

2:22 - Episode 15 Kick Off

3:36 - Evening

6:03 - Rose Ceremony

15:40 - The Next Day

37:33 - The Final Couples

41:32 - Overnight Dates

46:19 - Credits

46:36 - Andy’s A-Game

48:24 - Shandy Word Watch

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Ben Zorn (The Bachelorette Season 11, Bachelor In Paradise Season 4) and his lovely wife Stacy Santilena. To say Shandy enjoyed getting to know these two is a massive understatement (in the words of Sharleen afterwards: "I want to be friends with them.")

Today Ben and Stacy join Shandy to share how they went from "just friends" to married with a baby, how they overcame a very relatable early hurdle, Stacy's journey from believing she didn't want kids to wholeheartedly loving their son Logan, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, an unprecedented Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that will BLOW YOU AWAY. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Ben & Stacey!

0:46 - How They Met

7:32 - First Impressions

19:24 - How They Began Dating (After Friendship)

30:18 - Stacey’s Thoughts On Ben On The Show

32:00 - How They Complement Each Other

33:31 - Early Hurdle

40:04 - How They Fight

44:21 - How Parenthood Has Changed Their Relationship

54:16 - Relationship Beliefs That Have Changed

1:02:15 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game

1:21:21 - Shandy Debrief

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