It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Ben Zorn (The Bachelorette Season 11, Bachelor In Paradise Season 4) and his lovely wife Stacy Santilena. To say Shandy enjoyed getting to know these two is a massive understatement (in the words of Sharleen afterwards: "I want to be friends with them.")

Today Ben and Stacy join Shandy to share how they went from "just friends" to married with a baby, how they overcame a very relatable early hurdle, Stacy's journey from believing she didn't want kids to wholeheartedly loving their son Logan, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, an unprecedented Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that will BLOW YOU AWAY. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Ben & Stacey!

0:46 - How They Met

7:32 - First Impressions

19:24 - How They Began Dating (After Friendship)

30:18 - Stacey’s Thoughts On Ben On The Show

32:00 - How They Complement Each Other

33:31 - Early Hurdle

40:04 - How They Fight

44:21 - How Parenthood Has Changed Their Relationship

54:16 - Relationship Beliefs That Have Changed

1:02:15 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game

1:21:21 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 13 & 14!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:46 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 13 & 14

0:54 - Word Watch Disclaimer

1:30 - Episode 13 Kick Off

4:44 - Baltimore

9:33 - Back On The Beach

14:20 - Evening

15:07 - Mara’s Date With Justin

15:29 - Back On The Beach

28:10 - The Next Day

36:53 - Ency’s Date With Andrew

37:45 - Back On The Beach

38:58 - Credits

39:05 - Episode 14 Kick Off

43:50 - Evening

45:40 - The Mic Room

55:22 - Tyler’s Date With Brittany

57:14 - The Next Day

1:01:08 - Sadie Hawkins Dance

1:16:09 - Credits

1:16:38 - Andy’s A-Game

1:18:24 - Shandy Word Watch

1:20:29 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it wrong to vent to others about your partner? Is it worth revisiting things with an old flame? And a sticky "Am I The Asshole?" question! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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0:00 - Q1: Is It Wrong To Vent To Others About My Partner?

14:21 - Q2: I Ran Into An Old Flame And There Was Chemistry—Worth Revisiting?

24:58 - Q3: Am I The Asshole?

33:42 - Q4: I Know She’s Not The One But Logistics Are Complicated—Should I End It?

40:35 - Q5: My Partner And I Can’t Agree On TV—Who Should Give?

48:13 - Q6: I Want To Rename My 6-Year Old Cat—Yay Or Nay?

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 12!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:52 - Episode 12 Kick Off/Evening

6:51 - The Next Day

13:33 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

26:07 - Rose Ceremony

34:52 - The Next Day

37:19 - Michael’s Date With Danielle

44:01 - Back At The Beach

52:04 - Eliza Heads To Baltimore

53:39 - Credits

53:50 - Andy’s A-Game

54:46 - Shandy Word Watch

56:05 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Elizabeth who has quite the complicated high school sweetheart story that ended in her breaking the guy's heart. Fast forward to 5+ years later and he's still on her mind—but is she on his? And if so, is it worth closing the distance and potentially becoming the "other woman" to pursue, or are some things better left in the past? Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Elizabeth!

48:00 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 10 and 11!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:59 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 10 & 11

1:56 - Episode 10 Kick Off

3:50 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

8:33 - Rose Ceremony

9:39 - The Next Day

10:43 - Victoria’s Date With Johnny

12:55 - Justin

24:06 - Shandy Roleplay

33:30 - Justin’s Date With Eliza

35:32 - Credits

36:46 - Episode 11 Kick Off

36:54 - Hayden

43:20 - The Next Day

43:56 - Hayden’s Date With Kate

46:36 - Back On The Beach

54:22 - Joey And Justin

55:35 - Double Date

59:44 - Aaron & Genevieve

1:13:12 - Credits

1:14:49 - Shandy Word Watch

1:16:53 - Who We Would Go For

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Today's Hot Topic theme addresses the relationship you have with yourself—your deepest desires, your beliefs, and what might be getting in the way of your own goals and happiness. Our guest, Roxie Nafousi, wrote THE book on manifesting and has been hailed “the manifesting queen” by Forbes and “the face of manifesting” by The Times. While the idea of manifesting might seem surprising for longtime Shandies, we were truly blown away by the ideas and perspectives Roxie shared in this delightful conversation. If you've ever felt your dreams were too lofty or have struggled with fear and imposter syndrome, trust us, this episode's for you.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Roxie Nafousi!

1:13 - What Motivated Her To Write A Book About Manifesting

4:52 - What Is Manifesting And How Is It Scientific?

8:31 - What Are The Top Misconceptions About Manifesting?

11:22 - Is The Term “Manifesting” Overused?

12:53 - How Should One Get Started?

19:38 - Sharleen’s Q: What If You Don’t Even Know What You Want?

25:33 - Andy’s Q: What About Misdirected Talent?

30:59 - Are There Certain Areas Of Life That Are “Easier” To Manifest?

33:40 - How Does She Reconcile Manifesting And The Adage “You’ll Find It When You Stop Looking”?

37:59 - Thoughts On Realism, Entitlement, And Toxic Positivity

44:28 - What About True Skeptics?

45:56 - Tips For Recovering When What You Manifested Didn’t Come To Be?

51:31 - How Do You Know What You *Think* You Want Will Actually Make You Happy?

54:00 - If There’s One Takeaway She Wishes The Shandies Would Have From This Conversation, What Would It Be?

56:09 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 8 and 9!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:12 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 8 & 9

1:42 - Episode 8 Kick Off

8:03 - The Next Day

11:48 - Andy’s Question For The Shandies

27:38 - Kate’s Date With Logan

34:13 - Victoria’s Date With Alex

40:40 - Brittany And Tyler

45:22 - Shanae

46:32 - Credits

46:54 - Episode 9 Kick Off

50:23 - Genevieve Returns To The Beach

51:49 - Shanae And Logan

1:00:47 - Kate Versus Shanae

1:02:49 - Jill And Jacob

1:06:50 - Brittany

1:07:35 - Serene And Brandon

1:08:14 - Victoria And Johnny

1:19:13 - Evening

1:22:10 - Credits

1:22:19 - Andy’s A-Game

1:22:46 - Shandy Word Watch

1:24:24 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! What should you do if you've always dreamed of living elsewhere but your partner has no interest in moving? If your baby name is stolen by someone close to you, is it cause for confrontation? And is refusing to put down the toilet seat a simple act of laziness or a sign of something more? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

0:00 - Q1: I’m Secretly Dating My Brother’s Friend After He Explicitly Told Me Not To—How Should I Proceed?

7:52 - Q2: I've Long Dreamed Of Moving But My Partner Has No Interest—Help!

21:25 - Q3: My Brother-In-Law Used Our Baby Name For His Dog—Should I Just Get Over It? 

51:59 - Q4: My Husband’s Vocal Fry Drives Me Up The Wall—Should I Mention It?

1:02:04 - Q5: My New Guy Actively Refuses To Put Down The Toilet Seat—Should I Be Concerned? 

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 6 and 7!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:47 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 6 & 7

1:48 - Episode 6 Kick Off

2:23 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

27:23 - Danielle

29:47 - Rose Ceremony

31:46 - The Next Day

32:03 - Danielle’s Date With Michael

41:49 - Jesse Addresses The Group

52:20 - Credits

53:17 - Episode 7 Kick Off

54:29 - Evening

1:02:48 - Jesse Addresses The OG Ladies

1:05:53 - The Next Day

1:07:20 - Shanae’s Date With Tyler

1:16:22 - Sarah’s Date With Logan

1:17:42 - Evening

1:19:49 - The Next Day

1:20:37 - Rodney’s Date With Eliza

1:25:34 - Credits

1:26:05 - Andy’s A-Game

1:26:39 - Shandy Word Watch

1:28:39 - Who We Would Go For

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